Happiness is all in your mind: Gen Kelsang Nyema at TEDxGreenville 2014

  • Published on Jun 15, 2014
  • Simple, profound truths are the realm of this Buddhist nun. Her message? The gift of happiness truly lies within our own hearts and minds. Gen Kelsang Nyema, exuding a peacefulness that immediately connects with the audience, starts by asking three questions: Are you having a good day? Why? Tomorrow, would you rather have a good day or a bad day? She teaches that we cannot put our happiness at the whim of other people and of circumstances. If we want to be happy, we have to "stop outsourcing our happiness to other people" and cultivate a source of inner peace. What happens next is quite astounding. The whole crowd of 350+ people proceeds to meditate with Nyema. There's a little squirming at first, but as she leads the audience through a calm citation of how to rest the mind, audience members feel a collective relaxation flow into the room and through the people. Fascinating! Refreshing.
    This talk was part of TEDxGreenville UNZIPPED, held April 11, 2014, at the Kroc Center in Greenville, South Carolina. For more information about Gen Nyema and her co-presenters, please visit tedxgreenville.com/2014presenters
    In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group. These local, self-organized events are branded TEDx, where x = independently organized TED event. The TED Conference provides general guidance for the TEDx program, but individual TEDx events are self-organized.* (*Subject to certain rules and regulations)

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  • Candicealicia Christ
    Candicealicia Christ 5 hours ago

    Love her voice 😍 brings peace and healing to my soul

  • Richie Kock
    Richie Kock Day ago

    this inner peace looks boring AF

  • Vinny Gordon
    Vinny Gordon Day ago

    Most people spend their whole lives ,without ever stopping once to be happy.

  • Janis Moher
    Janis Moher 2 days ago

    She's lovely.

  • Tejendra singh Tanwar

    Bhagavad Gita :)

  • John homes
    John homes 2 days ago

    I already know it's in our minds I have been a happy person all my life

  • 何金琳
    何金琳 2 days ago

    one point ------ each action of human being will secrete dopamine that sent to our brain via our nerve . then the brain will record the happy experience . when we need that happy again , we do the same physical action.

  • Dilly H
    Dilly H 3 days ago

    *Note to the production crew* - fix your shutter speed and stabalize your footage on the CU. You've done a disservice to the speaker.

  • sally soucie
    sally soucie 3 days ago

    Beautiful spirit n a beautiful teacher so simple radiant n calm love the way to mediate....within
    ...peacefulness soothing..thank u I need more inner peace n happiness inner spiritual happiness more toward within grateful lesson

  • clover zelderz
    clover zelderz 4 days ago +1

    Can this person just come and read me a book every night ?

  • FrostXVX
    FrostXVX 4 days ago

    She is showing the facts. The moment we become to real pious Buddhists we practice to pray, Chant, Meditate and very calm in peace to live in world if you are nonbelievers start to practice Real Buddhism will guide you to escape from all of your troubles, stresses, furious, and ect..

  • General Waste
    General Waste 5 days ago

    I find it hard to be happy living without my ex who left me. I miss her so much. I'm much calmer than I was but I just miss her.

  • max
    max 5 days ago

    Unhappiness, pain and other discomforrs are ones off many natural states of mind and body that gived us for reasons.
    I'd rather feel everything, accept it with courage like human than trying to hack my mind (like common drug addict, but using illusions instead) just so my meat body and animal brain feels "gooody and happy".
    Wiping out colors from palette saying that happiness is good because I WANT is so greedy.
    I admit, as a human you need to realize consept she saying. But feel happy every day... No, thank you

  • Cacao Scotti
    Cacao Scotti 6 days ago

    Im fkt.

  • Seebzoo
    Seebzoo 6 days ago +2

    you can feel the joy and calmness from her vibe.

  • argyris alyfantis
    argyris alyfantis 6 days ago

    happiness is found in the happiness you cause to others. all rest is bullcrap

  • Mattika Phuetphian
    Mattika Phuetphian 7 days ago

    Thank you so much,I listen to this video everyday for positive mind.

  • Rifat Salehdin
    Rifat Salehdin 7 days ago


  • Izobel Birn
    Izobel Birn 8 days ago

    Absolutly beautiful. Brings me so much peace and calmness. Your voice and present is amazing

  • Hussein Rushdy
    Hussein Rushdy 9 days ago


  • R. R.
    R. R. 10 days ago

    Every time I watch Buddhist monks and nuns talk I can't avoid thinking they are like the water and us, ordinary citizens living an ordinary western-like lifestyle, are like the oil. We are so different in the way we live our daily lives that it is impossible to image each group living the way the other group do. I could not imagine a well known and ambitious businessman such as, for example Elon Musk, living and acting in his everyday life in an almost slow-motion like this nun does. I could neither imagine a Buddhist monk doing business all day and leading a team of executives in Wall Street... For us living a conventional western style life a paused, slow, calm way of being everyday is practically impossible to follow all day long. Yes, we can benefit from meditating for moments, perhaps hours in a day, but our daily lives demand a faster paced, faster motion way of being. We, the oil ones, try to learn from the water ones. We dream of being like them and living in peace, silence and calm. And so we go on trying meditation and perhaps adopting certain habits of them, and so we apparently manage to blend some of that water in our oil. But sooner or later we find ourselves back in our everyday reality and living our lives the way our material world demands... Water and oil separate and things go back to normal without us ever adopting 100% so much peace, paused, calm and serenity... So you could not expect to ever be water and live like water unless you abandon everything and decide to be 100% water.

  • Princesa Mercúrio
    Princesa Mercúrio 13 days ago

    Introversion and anxiety has always made me feel miserable, but I will not let It win for I will triumph!

  • Cameron Ahola
    Cameron Ahola 13 days ago +1

    The book she's referring to is called Modern Buddhism: The Path of Compassion and Wisdom.

    EMILY TAN 14 days ago +1

    Although this speaker has the best intentions, her message is overly simplistic and she entirely misses a basic tenet of Buddhism, which is that: LIFE IS SUFFERING. Instead of trying to be "happy" all the time, we should instead be embracing the whole RANGE of human emotion. LOVE is the actualization of aliveness in that it involves the whole spectrum of human emotion. This includes happiness, joy and gratification, but it also includes sadness, loss, fear and anger. Such is the infinitude of LOVE. LOVE encompasses the entire RANGE of human emotion. "Happy" is merely one aspect of aliveness. We should instead strive to understand what LOVE truly is.

  • Dora The Explora
    Dora The Explora 16 days ago

    Calm yourself and slow your heart then focus on breathing in and out

  • aydın arslan
    aydın arslan 17 days ago

    I have examined all the meditation techniques only one of them in the real sense of the application of the application is very enjoyable automatically mind your mind as time goes on and more quiet mind points, and the mind itself, adding this silence and intelligence is the name of this technique transcendental meditation

  • KatszKatsz Qkatsz
    KatszKatsz Qkatsz 17 days ago

    we cant find happiness because of evolution, if you think you are happy that means you are crazy

  • Brandon Sutherland
    Brandon Sutherland 18 days ago

    I bet I could ruin her day

  • Balkan Artists
    Balkan Artists 22 days ago

    i have practised this example to calm my mind and as it worked i thought "oh god my head is empty". so its really fantastic being free of tormenting thoughts...

  • Ali Kumru
    Ali Kumru 24 days ago +1

    She looks miserable....

  • Olivias Flowers
    Olivias Flowers 24 days ago

    Very nice the meditation was fantastic.

  • Brian O'Sullivan
    Brian O'Sullivan 25 days ago

    when your mind has been in serious turmoil for years, this makes things a little difficult

  • Mattika Phuetphian
    Mattika Phuetphian 26 days ago

    Thank you so much for this video.

  • Living Life
    Living Life 26 days ago


  • Black Swan Rider
    Black Swan Rider 28 days ago

    Wonderful to see a student of Geshe-la get over 5.1m views!

  • mugdha kanungo 2000

    I am finding some beautiful thoughts out there in the comment section... brilliant thoughts over life...I hope we can together help those people who are suffering ❤️

  • I love myself
    I love myself Month ago

    I start to practice listening el and el is really good choice for beginners. She speaks slowly and the content of this video is also meaningful

  • Mariam Awada
    Mariam Awada Month ago

    it has been 100 years but we finally found the last airbender

  • Alejandra Lozano
    Alejandra Lozano Month ago

    Just LOVED it!!!!

  • V
    V Month ago +2

    This is my favorite video in the whole youtube world

  • Gaia S
    Gaia S Month ago

    Not really, Happiness is not as simple as that shaved yoga lady. it depends on a lot of things, quality of your friendships, quality of your connection with your community, quality of connections to family, your ability to progress in your dreams and ambitions, your physical health the list goes on all of which are external etc. You can sit in a corner for 70 years meditating, I guarantee your mind will turn on itself without the above. Peace.

  • R O
    R O Month ago +1

    why is everyone obsessed with being happy? there are far greater things available to us.

  • tired
    tired Month ago +1

    If you are meditating to strive for some goal, to attain something, to "better yourself", you are not meditating. Meditation, like dance or music, is done for its own sake. What Nyema says is certainly helpful but just know that it is not meditation. Attempting to focus or converge your thoughts on one particular thing is just thinking. Meditation, on the other hand, is being an observer of your own thoughts and feelings. Just to watch and listen to what is going on around you, to let your mind ripple out into silence. Calmness is a result of experiencing reality without the ego, without thought.

  • madeinjosh
    madeinjosh Month ago +4

    SHE IS AMAZING!! I felt that bright ray of light in my whole body right before she said i will :) i started cracking up because i just realized i feel so dark inside

    ZHIPENG LIANG Month ago +1

    No offence, she doesn't look happy..

  • Rakscha
    Rakscha Month ago

    I knew it. I knew it that I was breathing in bright light before she said it.

  • Vũ Sang
    Vũ Sang Month ago

    Happiness and unhappiness are the states of mind and therefore, their real causes can not be found outside the mind.
    So, if we have a peaceful state of mind, we will be happy regardless of people and circumstances.
    If our mind is unpeaceful or agitated then even we have very good circumstances, we will find it impossible to be happy.

  • loli tr 001 way
    loli tr 001 way Month ago

    I have a good day 🌷♥️😊🙋‍♀️

  • Firefly 17
    Firefly 17 Month ago +1


  • Goon Hoong Tatt
    Goon Hoong Tatt Month ago

    So much profound thoughts here.

  • Howie Boi
    Howie Boi Month ago

    I really want to have a good day.

  • blerk
    blerk Month ago

    listening to this is such a good way to start the day. it is pretty amazing she is calm enough to sit while giving her ted talk. Love it.

  • Ramaraksha
    Ramaraksha Month ago +1

    Such ideas appeal to the old, the weak - all they want is peace & quiet
    Terrible advice for the young, the dreamer - there is value in pain & suffering

    • Ramaraksha
      Ramaraksha Month ago +1

      @C Peterston As we get older - our energy levels go down - our best days are behind us - now our ideas change - we want life to be easier, less stressful - a nice walk with our dog, read a good book, enjoy good music, some nice food
      But when we were young our ideas were different - we want to conquer the world! Our dreams are full of what we want to become - walk the moon, be a great scientist, win gold medals - all come with stress, pain & suffering - but we accept that

      Most religions cater to the weak, the old it seems - Heaven a place full of joy and happiness - they never mention doing any kind of work - how does one support oneself? Everything is free and there is nothing to do - just lie about in peace in your rocking chair
      Christians and Muslims constantly talk about meeting our dead loved ones in Heaven - not one asks about the living loved ones - how are they getting along without us? Are they suffering without us?
      Uncomfortable questions are not encouraged - just drink the kool-aid of Heaven and shut up
      No wonder Marx said - Religion (he meant Heaven) was the opium of the people

    • C Peterston
      C Peterston Month ago +1

      I agree that a person can choose to assign value to any state of mind at any given time. I choose not to pass judgement as to what state is best for anyone but myself.

  • 10000subscibers_without_a single_video_Challenge

    Are you searching happiness😌

  • apoorva sahu
    apoorva sahu Month ago +1

    Please come to india and I wanna attend this live.

  • Diane Halsey
    Diane Halsey Month ago


  • Zerrin Balçık
    Zerrin Balçık Month ago

    Acılarımı geride bırakıp herşeyden uzak bir manastıra çekilip rahibe olarak yaşasaydım ben de mutlu olurdum

  • Susanne Dencker
    Susanne Dencker Month ago

    This Ted Talk is så calm, clear, profond and felt ... it is making me fall awake as Jon Kabat-Zinn puts it - thanks ever so much

  • Io Maalo
    Io Maalo Month ago

    Thank you

  • gamze kaayalı
    gamze kaayalı Month ago

    Ruhum daraldiiiiii yavasssssssliktannnnnn böööö