Happiness is all in your mind: Gen Kelsang Nyema at TEDxGreenville 2014

  • Опубликовано: 15 июн 2014
  • Simple, profound truths are the realm of this Buddhist nun. Her message? The gift of happiness truly lies within our own hearts and minds. Gen Kelsang Nyema, exuding a peacefulness that immediately connects with the audience, starts by asking three questions: Are you having a good day? Why? Tomorrow, would you rather have a good day or a bad day? She teaches that we cannot put our happiness at the whim of other people and of circumstances. If we want to be happy, we have to "stop outsourcing our happiness to other people" and cultivate a source of inner peace. What happens next is quite astounding. The whole crowd of 350+ people proceeds to meditate with Nyema. There's a little squirming at first, but as she leads the audience through a calm citation of how to rest the mind, audience members feel a collective relaxation flow into the room and through the people. Fascinating! Refreshing.
    This talk was part of TEDxGreenville UNZIPPED, held April 11, 2014, at the Kroc Center in Greenville, South Carolina. For more information about Gen Nyema and her co-presenters, please visit tedxgreenville.com/2014presenters
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Комментарии • 2 580

  • ariefboed
    ariefboed День назад

    Thank you.

  • Dwi Oktrisna
    Dwi Oktrisna 6 дней назад

    Her voice makes my mind so calm, comfort and stable.

  • Jab Hutt
    Jab Hutt 7 дней назад

    I love how some people manage to just KNOW....like I know and that's that. World does get much simpler then.

  • Larry Primeau
    Larry Primeau 7 дней назад

    no need for shaving the head or changing one's costume.

  • ilk d
    ilk d 10 дней назад

    Yes.Make peace with yourself, and be happy everyday. Love yourself. Universe takes care of everything.
    God runs the world, not we.

  • Yap KY
    Yap KY 11 дней назад

    The Ancient One !

  • Frances Dumaliang
    Frances Dumaliang 12 дней назад

    You’re not ill...the world is; our world is fallen and we oftentimes can’t stop the wrongdoings of others.
    Meditation is a wonderful tool BUT our physical world is ALSO full of wonders and magic - and there’s nothing wrong in tapping happiness from it...we have EYES after all so let’s not squander the magic of the sight of beauty. The key here, as most of us already know, is that it’s not permanent - that is the reality of our world; and we can cultivate the wisdom of knowing this,...then life will be good.
    Life is about good and bad afterall,...BUT knowing this, we should use all our senses to make us happy in this very short life on Earth - strive to make it your best. And as long as you’re not hurting anyone, commit to be different and special...and CREATE your happiness and share it with the world. Life is not about being passive - it’s about being proactive and mentally as well as physically being able to manifest your world in the way you deem it beautiful.
    We are all physical creatures and our physical world and all that is created from it is for all of us to enjoy. Ignore and avoid those people, situations, and things that do not promote the growth of your SOUL...and instead CONNECT with people, situations, and things that FEED AND NOURISH YOUR SOUL even if it’s not APPROVED BY OTHERS. THERE IS NOT ONLY ONE SUPREME WAY TO TAP INTO PEACE AND HAPPINESS - OUR WORLD IS TOO SPECIAL AND TOO BEAUTIFUL TO DISMISS IT...AND SINCE WE ALL DON’T REALLY KNOW WHAT HAPPENS TO US AFTER DEATH...THEN THE OTHER KEY TO KNOW IS...LIFE IS SHORT.

  • kana sricharoenchai
    kana sricharoenchai 14 дней назад

    This changed my life

  • Raj Gavini
    Raj Gavini 16 дней назад

    1. Need to stop outsourcing our happiness.
    2. Actively cultivate a source of peace and happiness from inside.
    3. Happiness and unhappiness are both states of mind, therefore, their real cause can't be found outside the mind.
    It is not what happens to us but how we react to it that creates happiness and unhappiness.

  • Indira Liyana Arachchi Liyana Arachchi

    Please translate to sinhala .

  • UnitedPebbles
    UnitedPebbles 21 день назад

    So she wear the mask? Or separate herself from her environment? She is half blind, deft, insensitive, dull to the touch, disregard everything. Numbness. How those Buddhist on roof like to do to me!?

  • UnitedPebbles
    UnitedPebbles 21 день назад

    But it is a feeling from receiving environmental cues? Or we could just pretend like her?

  • Arvind Agrawal
    Arvind Agrawal 22 дня назад

    In our busy routine we have been forgetting ourselves..we haven't have time for ourselves I really don't know why this is happening.....

  • mahsa yeganeh
    mahsa yeganeh 23 дня назад

    I think being happy and calm is all from within. But I don’t believe you should follow and be obsessed with something, shaving your head and wearing certain cloths to represent calmness or true happiness. I don’t believe in following a religion or a belief will get you true happiness. Be happy be humble but don’t be a sheep

  • Kuldeep Kumar
    Kuldeep Kumar 24 дня назад


    FLORIN PIELEANU 29 дней назад +8

    Why would 2,5 k people give a thumb down to this video? when this nice person tries to help you live a better life...geez

  • Mucize Ürünler
    Mucize Ürünler 29 дней назад


  • Techno Traverse
    Techno Traverse 29 дней назад

    Happiness? As in slaughtering Muslims in Myanmar?

    • Teep009
      Teep009 25 дней назад

      And you honestly believe those people are true Buddhists !!! so ISIS = true Muslims and child molesters = true Christians!!??

  • jigme tenzin
    jigme tenzin 29 дней назад

    It will be hard to digest if our minds are already biased.

  • Praveen Kuri
    Praveen Kuri Месяц назад

    I wish everyone to be happier and cool wtvr the action be on opposite just perceive it in good way stay peace # god bless you all☺️

  • Manuel Podlecki
    Manuel Podlecki Месяц назад

    just great. Thank you

  • R. H.F.
    R. H.F. Месяц назад

    this doesn't mean we should be complacent. when there are perpetual material conditions that limit the quality of life of the majority of the earth's population, action does need to be taken regardless of where happiness comes from.

  • Julia
    Julia Месяц назад

    It’s natural and okay to feel unhappy ✨

  • Sangeethimmaiah CHENANDA
    Sangeethimmaiah CHENANDA Месяц назад

    Loved her discourse ❤

  • seydi Balde
    seydi Balde Месяц назад

    OMG I am so thankful for this lecture, I needed to hear this today

  • Nosy Rosie
    Nosy Rosie Месяц назад

    Don't forget to eat food.

  • Monira Yusuf
    Monira Yusuf Месяц назад

    *She's* *Sad* 😢😢😢

  • Agi Banhidi
    Agi Banhidi Месяц назад

    Very informative video, thank you:)

  • Iena Mariena
    Iena Mariena Месяц назад

    I want to have a good day..in every day daily

  • Zahid H Khan
    Zahid H Khan Месяц назад

    Thankl You.

  • blackcat138
    blackcat138 Месяц назад

    She's happy and calm because she has no worries like job, cancerous colleagues, or children.

  • נעמי מקינו
    נעמי מקינו Месяц назад

    I would explain it totally different.

    RNB WRC Месяц назад

    I cannot be you like you with ball head....and no material desire yet be happy....well I'm not the buddha!!

    RNB WRC Месяц назад

    Good day comes when you have good bank balance!!

  • Amro Aquinas
    Amro Aquinas Месяц назад +16

    taking care of my mother (90 years old) gives me happiness ..

    • Star Sister
      Star Sister 9 дней назад +2

      Your mom is blessed to have you❤️

    • Ging Tuballa
      Ging Tuballa 13 дней назад +1

      @ Amro Aquinas, That's a real happiness!

    • Brian Le
      Brian Le 20 дней назад +1

      That is wonderful, wish you good health always!

    • Teep009
      Teep009 25 дней назад +1


      FLORIN PIELEANU 29 дней назад +1

      Awesome, dude!

    TENZIN NORDON Месяц назад

    So let's see how elusive our balloon blown mind!!

  • Mehmet Özkan
    Mehmet Özkan Месяц назад

    Mutluluklar isteyen kur an okuyup kendimizi geliştirelim kardeşim mutluluk bilinçlenmededir

    INDO CHICO Месяц назад

    If we try to get our happines from inside of our self or internal reason,i guarante its only a try to manipulate, coz wisdom of internal source never ever fill our soul's needs.

  • Coco, My Heart
    Coco, My Heart Месяц назад +3

    I relate 100%. Outsourcing my happiness allllllllll the time. To be happy with myself for myself would be WORTH LIVING LIFE

  • Kabir Kashmiry
    Kabir Kashmiry Месяц назад +1

    just an amazing way of speaking this lady has i get each n every word she spke all she said is just reality exactly happiness is a state of mind n all we live happy if we eradicate all negative thougts from our mind but now a days we all r busy in leg pulling n trying to let down our collegues and friends as well we hv lack of peace n happiness due to ownself n blaming others for our unhappinessed

  • Victoria_riya
    Victoria_riya Месяц назад

    Honestly, in this speed up world shedule any waiting drive us crazy... We talk so fast and just by listening to this is like therapy

  • mary Loveland
    mary Loveland Месяц назад

    I love tedx talks

  • kenzoic
    kenzoic Месяц назад

    Watching this video give me peacefulness.

  • Nathaniel Damarelos
    Nathaniel Damarelos Месяц назад

    It’s the Ancient One

  • Lau Vicko
    Lau Vicko Месяц назад

    How can we help people with mental illness???

  • Fatima Fneich
    Fatima Fneich Месяц назад

    this show is very poor and meaningless , old ideas ..

  • Bill Milne
    Bill Milne Месяц назад

    The movement she belongs to is actually a cult (New Kadampa Tradition). Look it up.

  • bLaCk KiD
    bLaCk KiD Месяц назад +1

    Gerginliği değil üfleyerek burnumdan çıkarmak osurarak sıçsam bile geçmiyo kardeşim biz sizingibi öyle şekilci değiliz heran fetöden tutuklanma balyozdan yargılanma korkumuz var bizim ag

  • Melania Iordache
    Melania Iordache Месяц назад


  • bond robinson
    bond robinson Месяц назад

    what if I am having a bad day because of internal things

  • Henry Tran
    Henry Tran Месяц назад

    Im bored of her talking what she 's been learning the lesson of the Buddhist .This is so different from the Vietnamese Monks told to explain something to people before i had to hear.But she gave people around her having the relaxing in another religion .

  • Jelani Boulding
    Jelani Boulding Месяц назад

    I would like to know what school of Tibetan Buddhism she practices.

  • Frank Rodriguez
    Frank Rodriguez Месяц назад


  • Adrian Turner
    Adrian Turner Месяц назад

    Just proves to me that different people have different views, thought processes and minds.

  • Sonam Drema
    Sonam Drema Месяц назад

    I’m having a good day♥️

  • Nikki Elley
    Nikki Elley Месяц назад

    I'm sorry I didn't get a phone number

  • The third eye
    The third eye Месяц назад

    Your hunger, the need to sleep are also ALL in your mind 🤔

  • Giorgio Ferrari
    Giorgio Ferrari 2 месяца назад

    Thank you for this

  • MoeZaw Htat
    MoeZaw Htat 2 месяца назад

    Calm! if i hear a sweet music behind the speech it will make me more deeply peaceful in my entire sleep.

  • Gabby S
    Gabby S 2 месяца назад


  • mostmasterful
    mostmasterful 2 месяца назад


  • How to Save a Billion
    How to Save a Billion 2 месяца назад +1

    The problem about this and leaving things to meditation, or jesus , or god, is that we don't hold people accountable for their actions. It lacks accountability. Justice requires action. Negative emotions is a good thing! It helps us shift the hands of justice on those who deserve its wrath.

  • Buddhism The Secrets To Live Simply
    Buddhism The Secrets To Live Simply 2 месяца назад

    I love to watching this video, anyone? because I get peace and happiness from inside our my mind by meditating.

  • Nikhil Tiwari
    Nikhil Tiwari 2 месяца назад

    Let's have a GOOD day today.....

  • Marija Neshkoska
    Marija Neshkoska 2 месяца назад

    Happiness is not in external factors or reasons.................................this lady is lovely

  • Broken soffa
    Broken soffa 2 месяца назад

    Can't help but feeling quite strongly that she would be a great teacher to young kids

  • Dia Therese
    Dia Therese 2 месяца назад


  • entyce66
    entyce66 2 месяца назад +2

    how can happiness be a state of mind when what goes on in your life is going wrong we are human we can’t stop the mind from feeling bad when things go wrong sometimes life things happen not by choice but by circumstance..try working in a prison where everyone is complaining and fighting and miserable claiming their innocence she’d be carefully cursing in her mind life is hard and when hard times hit it’s difficult to keep a positive attitude

    • Ras Bahadur Ghale
      Ras Bahadur Ghale Месяц назад +1

      if someone is bothering u so much but u don't react to his action but just observe him,surely he will be powerless .and he bother u anymore and u will become more peaceful .it's just u how u react to the obstacles.

  • Dron Panchal
    Dron Panchal 2 месяца назад

    This may be the best thing I have seen so far

  • Sasha Reaper
    Sasha Reaper 2 месяца назад

    What if by doing this you only feel numb

    • Sasha Reaper
      Sasha Reaper 2 месяца назад

      +Gowtham sure feels like forever

    • Gowtham
      Gowtham 2 месяца назад

      Physical activity could be the key. But nothing lasts forever.

  • Xmandre Guitar
    Xmandre Guitar 2 месяца назад

    this can make the life of people,thanks for the good message

  • 西尾サムス
    西尾サムス 2 месяца назад

    Very gentle thank you

  • Abdulali Qurwshi
    Abdulali Qurwshi 2 месяца назад

    Buddhism gret relejan

  • Vaibhav Singh
    Vaibhav Singh 2 месяца назад

    Anything you do it never helps when depression hits.

  • Wolkify
    Wolkify 2 месяца назад +1

    i had to watch this on 1.5x speed...

    • Gowtham
      Gowtham 2 месяца назад

      You are end oriented.

  • Cookie Monster
    Cookie Monster 3 месяца назад +2

    what if i am undecided about whether it's a good or a bad day?

  • SpaceMuffin
    SpaceMuffin 3 месяца назад

    consciousness creates reality

  • Avit Minj
    Avit Minj 3 месяца назад

    Thku so much

  • magdelima
    magdelima 3 месяца назад +2

    I've been telling this "real happiness is not just when everything is going our way......it's the capability of being happy even when things are not the way we want..." ....but it's hard to convince my brain too!

  • T
    T 3 месяца назад

    Why does everyone who claims to have mastered happiness, look so miserable themselves? The eyes don't lie.

  • 00 00
    00 00 3 месяца назад

    Good advice for after a break up. No need to be miserable because someone is trying make you miserable.

  • Mud Skipper
    Mud Skipper 3 месяца назад

    It is not other's job to make me happy or their fault if I am not
    I like that
    I could take that one phrase and Meditate on it

  • Jmm W
    Jmm W 3 месяца назад

    Clear, simple and straightforward. Thank you 🙏.

  • Hạnh Nguyễn
    Hạnh Nguyễn 3 месяца назад

    I almost never blaming others for my unhappiness, but I constantly blame myself instead. When bad things happen, I always think that it's my fault and I am the one who have problem. And I think the constant self-criticism is eating me alive, I start thinking that I'm having some kind of depression now. I think I never deserve to be happy and I would never be enough, sometimes, I think I should die. If I still breathe just for one second, I would be a burden to the world... I just don't know how to stop these thinking, I can not even concentrate to the meditation for 3 minutes....

  • Cameron Toon
    Cameron Toon 3 месяца назад +1

    He mentioned Stan Lee :’( rip Nov 12 2018

    • Cameron Toon
      Cameron Toon 3 месяца назад

      Was a 5 min add, I forgot what I was watching lol

  • Abhija chatterjee
    Abhija chatterjee 3 месяца назад

    I love this lady😍😍😍😭😭😭

  • CnTES CO.,LTD.
    CnTES CO.,LTD. 3 месяца назад

    Dr strange..

  • Amir Jamili
    Amir Jamili 3 месяца назад

    Sometimes even looking at some people gives us a tranquility and the message that i found in this Talk was the relaxant face of this master.

  • Primal ZA
    Primal ZA 3 месяца назад

    Someone throw a bottle at her

  • Shiella Mae Ganancial
    Shiella Mae Ganancial 3 месяца назад

    good that I came into this video

  • Aleksandar Antonijevic
    Aleksandar Antonijevic 3 месяца назад

    how 2 stop looking outside for happiness? become free of shackles of the world and stop rebirth?

  • Kelzang Choden
    Kelzang Choden 3 месяца назад

    one of the best talks...i'd like to listen to her on the topic of meditation. She truly is at so much peace.

  • Cheryl Cribb
    Cheryl Cribb 3 месяца назад


  • Alicia
    Alicia 3 месяца назад

    So nobody will comment on her choice of clothes. OK

  • roy
    roy 3 месяца назад

    Amazing LADY ... Thank You

  • aikenbcd
    aikenbcd 3 месяца назад

    Ok but sorry this is just not true. Humans are the result of millions of years of evolution. The brain has been programmed to reward behaviour that has survival value with dopamine and to punish behaviour that lacks survival value. Now we can train our brain to wait for the next dopamine delivery and be patient etc. Guess this is what Buddhists are mostly doing. And yes it may help to stay happy for a while. But on the long term our brain will desire dopamine again. I think people that are hardcore buddhists like that have their reasons. I.e. have had a difficult biography or stuff that has maybe affected their way of thinking but for a healthy normal person this doesn't work. Happiness comes partly from the outside and partly from the inside (i.e. way to look at things) but it is not entirely coming from the inside.

  • ann rhmn
    ann rhmn 3 месяца назад

    I thought she is the master from Dr.Strange

    SPREAD LOVE 3 месяца назад

    where can i find more of this.......exactly this....who is traching her....what practice is this.....help im interested

  • Katlego phaladi
    Katlego phaladi 3 месяца назад

    She is very calm I cant even imagine her running. great video

  • Avinash Kashid
    Avinash Kashid 3 месяца назад

    I never asked this kind of simple questions to me. PEACE !!!