Find your dream job without ever looking at your resume | Laura Berman Fortgang | TEDxBocaRaton

  • Published on May 7, 2015
  • Laura has put in tens of thousands of hours over twenty years to help people make career transitions and improve their lives. Through her coaching company, books, corporate and civic speeches and her media appearances on such shows as The Oprah Winfrey show, CBS This Morning, GMA, The Today show and more, Laura has reached millions of people and showed them how to figure out what to do with their lives without ever looking at their resume.
    Laura Berman Fortgang is the author of Now What? 90 Days to a New Life Direction and a pioneer in the personal coaching field. Her five books in total are published in thirteen languages, have graced bestseller lists and one, The Little Book on Meaning, was up for a Books for a Better Life Award alongside the Dalai Lama and Pema Chodron.
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at

Comments • 798

  • Daytona 911
    Daytona 911 2 days ago +1

    just threw up after quitting my job this morning, I need help

  • 3 days ago

    Resumes are important

  • Jennifer Klopman
    Jennifer Klopman 7 days ago


  • Patricia
    Patricia 10 days ago

    Thank you so much for your talk!!!

  • nieceypiecey100
    nieceypiecey100 15 days ago

    Love, love, love!!!! ❤️

  • LOVE Never Fails
    LOVE Never Fails 19 days ago +1


  • Lawrence Wraith
    Lawrence Wraith 22 days ago

    why not start a governance company that hires women over 50 W50....for their knowlegde....and focuses on women

  • cinna bon
    cinna bon 23 days ago

    "you do know what you wanna do in life but you're just so afraid to say that so you must do something then"
    that hit me hard ops

  • Zakaria Bougrinat
    Zakaria Bougrinat 27 days ago

    I've never regretted for submitting to this channel , thanks A lot

  • carolina urrea
    carolina urrea Month ago

    amazing talk :) thanks

  • Alma Maldonado
    Alma Maldonado Month ago

    It is so encouraging and fits right where my life is now.

  • Killsocialmedia
    Killsocialmedia Month ago

    Work is a mindfuck. The idea you have to work most of your life to appease debt collectors is nuts. We live to die. Working for others should not be the center of your life

  • George Andrews
    George Andrews Month ago

    My dream job is a salaried position paying 80K per year where I come in for five minutes each month to pick up my check...

  • Jason Gentile
    Jason Gentile Month ago

    I had my dream job for over 20 years serving our Nation as a Soldier. I am now trying to find that next job.

  • Austin France
    Austin France Month ago +1

    How does any of that help me make more than minimum wage with a useless degree

  • MesRevesEnRose
    MesRevesEnRose Month ago

    I watched this talk months ago, saved it, rewatched it now and I'm still moved by it. It's such a simple concept but forces you to rethink yourself and your career in a much more productive and realistic way. For example as a kid, I wanted to be a human rights lawyer-fashion designer-psychologist LOL, and I now am gearing my career towards fintech consultancy in the fashion industry. It always bothered me that I could never reconcile all my radically different dreams and my radically different actual career trajectory... I was like why am I so random and complicated? 😂 Your talk made me realize my yolk is threading that line between being an advocate, a consultant and an innovator. For so long I struggled because I wanted to be a lawyer but not actually be a lawyer lol. I thought I failed for never following up on my dream to be a human rights lawyer-fashion designer-psycjologist LOL. But now I realize it was never the actual jobs that were the dream. It was just the idea of using my expertise to consult others and bringing about innovative solutions. Now I can stop being so narrow-minded and think less in terms of job names to see whether I'm accomplishing my goals and I can use my newly discovered yolk to guide me in future choices. I have watched a lot of talks about finding purpose but nothing reasonated with me or was as directly applicable as this one. 😊

  • Omran Javan
    Omran Javan 2 months ago


  • Sean B
    Sean B 2 months ago

    What if I want to be a wizard?

  • elomari taher
    elomari taher 2 months ago

    Great Video! Sorry for chiming in, I would appreciate your initial thoughts. Have you thought about - Chiveard Discovering Potential Framework (Sure I saw it on Google)? It is a smashing one off guide for finding your true calling and achieving success minus the normal expense. Ive heard some incredible things about it and my m8 at very last got astronomical results with it.

  • Diane B
    Diane B 2 months ago

    Thank you.

  • Gayathri Raghunandan
    Gayathri Raghunandan 2 months ago

    Excellent message,Thank you.

  • samax amen
    samax amen 2 months ago +12

    "Career satisfaction doesn't come from what you do. It comes from who you get to be while you're doing it..."

  • 667Gullin
    667Gullin 3 months ago +1

    I do not want to do anything anymore. Isn't 41 years of work enough? How can I do nothing. So many bosses are able to achieve this and even earn money for it. Why can't I?

    • Fortgang for Assembly
      Fortgang for Assembly 2 months ago

      I wish I could say. I don't have enough info to comment. 41 years is a long time. Shake it up, take some chances, change the game so you can stay engaged.

  • Curious One
    Curious One 3 months ago +1

    The biggest lie in America is that you are "free" and able to make "choices." When an individual must take on some kind of debt -- whether for education, healthcare, housing, etc. at various stages of his or her life -- that is not a situation of true choice made from a position of freedom.

  • Mariam Ibrahim
    Mariam Ibrahim 3 months ago

    Wow! THANK YOU!

  • Ramesh I
    Ramesh I 3 months ago

    Thank you Laura, for your fine talk. I could relate to a lot of it, as I have been through that journey too. I too believe that a Resume is just a primer to one's competence and doesn't quite reveal the person in his/her entirety. The "who you get to be" part comes through only over an interview or face-to-face chat. Also, many highly competent people don't bother with a sparkling Resume, hoping they can ace the interview and get the job. As you say, one needs to acquire more skills throughout one's career, even if some of it may not make it to the Resume (after all it's just 2 pages, usually). I wish educational institutions also taught how to prepare a good Resume, which is after all one's personal marketing tool for any job.

  • Lolop Callulu
    Lolop Callulu 3 months ago +1

    I’m 14 years old and this honestly brought me to tears... I’ve always been super creative (singing, dancing, drawing, knitting, interested in coding, photography, loved projects and learning, wondered about people and why they do what they do, always loved history and grammar and different languages and culture, always wanted to travel the world) and I love making people feel like they matter, putting smiles of people’s faces and helping people and showing them care and bettering them as a whole... please help me find careers... I’m desperate and I’m watching this late at night because by tomorrow I have to have picked my classes for sophomore year which will basically shape the rest of my high school experience which shapes my college experience which shapes my life... thank you and good night... God bless you all and your situations... seriously though please help me, I’m really desperate and emotionally exhausted...

    • Fortgang for Assembly
      Fortgang for Assembly 2 months ago

      I hope you are excited about the classes you chose. I know there seems to be so much pressure to know at 14 what you want to do with the rest of your life, but you do not. Do/study what you enjoy right now. What matters most are all those wonderful things you listed above which have nothing to do with what job you'll ultimately perform. Take those things you listed above and list all the careers you could fit those qualities into. It will be many so realize that career satisfaction does not come from 'what' you do but rather from 'who' your job allows you to be. Choose areas of study/career that allow you to "make people feel they matter, putting smiles on their faces, etc."
      Good luck

  • ponz znop
    ponz znop 3 months ago

    Who you get to be is the Real You.. wow great talk

  • Aware -n- Connected
    Aware -n- Connected 3 months ago

    Excellent! Awesome video. This is so helpful to everyone.

  • Deb Wetmore
    Deb Wetmore 3 months ago

    I'd like to find information that applies to trauma victims ... we who didn't have the opportunity to dream - day to day survival was everything.

  • Sapovne
    Sapovne 3 months ago +2

    Wow, so many unexpected insights for someone who “knows it all”. I never thought of my vows...among others. Thank you! 🙏🏼🙏🏼✨💫✨👋🏻😊

  • Le Balm
    Le Balm 4 months ago

    I needed to hear this today. Thank you Laura

  • Heather Elzinga
    Heather Elzinga 4 months ago

    I’m 50 and want to be a professional ballet dancer. My passion is dancing. Someone tell me how to make it happen 😉

  • Zita Kinder
    Zita Kinder 4 months ago


  • Silvana Triches
    Silvana Triches 4 months ago

    Mix and match your best abilities and you find yourself and the jobs for you good lack

  • Win2LinConvert
    Win2LinConvert 4 months ago

    Simply... Inspiring!

  • karthi balasubramanian
    karthi balasubramanian 4 months ago

    I need the email I'd of this lady I need help frm her

  • Stay Honey
    Stay Honey 4 months ago

    What about people who have a dream but keep changing and theyre over 30’s? So now it’s like you have to choose something.

    • Stay Honey
      Stay Honey 2 months ago

      Fortgang for Assembly I hope so. I’m so lost

    • Fortgang for Assembly
      Fortgang for Assembly 2 months ago +1

      find the common theme/through line through all the things you've tried. There is a sense to it. It may reveal the next step

  • degas cochin
    degas cochin 4 months ago

    I'm looking for a career change after my 21 years of on and off logistics to cuisine and fashion industry

  • Valérie De Roeck
    Valérie De Roeck 4 months ago

    This is so on point, i needed to hear that!

  • Todd Zickel
    Todd Zickel 4 months ago

    Love this! Next interview, I'm going to be bold & share, this job position is my Yolk and will allow me to be who I'm meant to be which will grow your business. More profits, satisfied customers or guests, higher team morale... Hire me so I can be who I was created to be... Awesome!

  • Sol Raat KaBa
    Sol Raat KaBa 4 months ago

    I dont mean to be negative or bring up race, but white people have these choices and opportunities to do this and live for their dreams. I've seen it in the workplace myself.

    • Fortgang for Assembly
      Fortgang for Assembly 2 months ago

      I have no doubt that you have evidence that this is true. It doesn't mean you give up.

  • Christophe Valiant
    Christophe Valiant 4 months ago +1

    Tears of joy after 9 years of confusion. I always wanted to be a philosopher as professional artist as a child and have my own museum . I went to the university and picked the medical field, then accounting, then I changed my mind a million times... I love to inspire people and teach them wisdoms and lessons that I learned from my life, in my painting. Any comments?

    • Fortgang for Assembly
      Fortgang for Assembly 2 months ago

      You're a natural teacher, expressed through art. Find more ways to do that.

  • Arakquin H
    Arakquin H 4 months ago +1

    wow this is incredible

  • thisisbob1001
    thisisbob1001 4 months ago

    Looks like a good vid.

  • jenp27
    jenp27 4 months ago +3

    this may sound counterproductive and perhaps someone will shed some insight into this, but I am sincerely repellant to the whole idea of talking about how great I am just to get employment... I get why it has to be done, but I always end up feeling like a bottle of shampoo instead of a person... I am not shampoo... where is the dignity in the job application process? what are some ways to overcome this feeling?

  • Karmamel K
    Karmamel K 4 months ago

    So many helpful truths spoken here! Thank you!
    Ms. Laura Berman Fortgang, will you please make a part two to address the people you described at 7:34? Again, thank you very much for this talk!

  • Jamal Khan
    Jamal Khan 4 months ago

    Ms. Laura, it was the 1st time I heard u. You really impressed me with ur speech. Doing a certain type of job and what you're, what ur inner person's talent, capabilities are, are two different things. You put it up in a beautiful way. I really liked the egg and yolk example, though. Impressive!

    MAXX JOI MEDIA 4 months ago

    This is incredible, thank you! Social and societal restrictions are devastating to both dreams and dreamers and I'm stoked to see your wisdom shine through. Many thanks!

  • zuza gal
    zuza gal 4 months ago

    I don't believe that guy who left Poland 'alone, on a boat, at 17 years old, just to get to NYC'...
    Well, hundret of km, seriously? 😕

  • Gabriella - Emma and Oscar

    This was spectacular! The story about Karen hit the nail on the head.... never have I thought about my life and the challenges Im facing today in that perspective. The speech was life-changing, thank you

  • Sylwester Poszytek
    Sylwester Poszytek 4 months ago

    thank you for that, i ve been waiting for that simple words so many yrs...

  • Julie Dvořáková
    Julie Dvořáková 5 months ago

    I have exactly the same experience :-)... So great! Thanx for this video!

  • Sharon J
    Sharon J 5 months ago

    beautiful. thank you.

  • Katherine Gordon
    Katherine Gordon 5 months ago

    I’m new in a position that I’m only partially committed too. I love connecting with the people. I really enjoy that part, everything else is a drag. I work 12 1/2 hr days, 10 days in a row. The intensity wears me down, plus I have to fly out to the different assignments and leave my pets, home and life behind. And even when I do get to work in town my life is on hold bc of the hrs. Yet I love connecting with the ppl, educating, sharing, giving... that is what I enjoy! What else can I do for decent pay and help ppl? The million dollar question 😊

  • your brother
    your brother 5 months ago

    EGGx Talks

  • TheTherapyBooth
    TheTherapyBooth 5 months ago

    Loved this talk! Much appreciation.

  • Kim Campos
    Kim Campos 5 months ago

    I chose to get my master's degree on something that first was a reaction to a previous coworker and second was based on my qualifications on my resume. Thank you for this reminder. It's comforting and makes me more hopeful about where I'm going.

  • you tube
    you tube 5 months ago

    ted talks can be so boooorrrrrriiiiiiing

  • informal inquiry
    informal inquiry 5 months ago

    Thank you that is very helpful! I appreciate the way you tied those ideas together and synthesized the different jobs and how they connect. Thank you!

  • Rachel Sturm
    Rachel Sturm 5 months ago

    "I don't believe anyone who tells me they don't know what they want to do. I believe they do know. They are just too afraid to speak it because they they have to do something about it." This resonated with me so much.

  • WeLive2inspire
    WeLive2inspire 5 months ago

    I personally haven’t find something really interesting in this sorry

  • Sheree Caves
    Sheree Caves 5 months ago

    Ms. Laura thank you so much for your awesome talk !! You are quite a motivator !! Very exciting !! All the high schools and colleges need to hear you speak about this !!! I believe it would be a great game changer for all !! God bless you and yours and your great work !! Sincerely Sheree Caves. 💒💒💒💒🌹🌹🌹🌹😇😇😇😇😇

  • PowerHour
    PowerHour 5 months ago

    I missed the meaning here.

  • Cissana Mukhametshyna
    Cissana Mukhametshyna 5 months ago

    I am 54 and once I counted how many lives I managed to live by now. 9! Or so.
    And I still want a change, another major change! I am insatiable with that. Now, more than ever I want to be a stargazer and a swimmer with dolphins. And I have no idea what kind of career that might be....Who will I be i the course of this career? I will be a better worshiper, I guess.Thank you, Laura, for the reminder to strive to be who you were meant to be.

  • Darktrooper98 1
    Darktrooper98 1 5 months ago

    I’m currently 16, and I’m fairly sure this talk helps but I’m also very confused. I’m not kidding when I say that I even confused myself writing this comment. Every job I’ve seen myself doing could be summed up in the following:
    -A scientist
    -An engineer
    -A medical professional (minus surgery)
    -A writer (fringe thoughts)
    -A teacher (also fringe thoughts)
    I don’t know what to make of this...

    • Fortgang for Assembly
      Fortgang for Assembly 2 months ago

      You seem to like to understand how things work and solve mysteries. As long as those qualities are present, you'll find satisfaction in work. Choose the lifestyle you want next and that will narrow the choices as to what to study. Good luck

  • neda aziz
    neda aziz 5 months ago +1

    I have got my bachelors degree in business administration because I was out of high school and didn’t wanted to wait to find out what I want to do, because I had no idea.. and I still have no idea what I truly want to do. I have my bachelors degree, and I have pressure from family to choose something, pick something, this or that.. do this do that. I’m just lost now. And it’s depressing, I get anxiety attacks whenever I think about what my “passion is” and what should “I do” I don’t know and I have no idea. I’m so so so lost. Any tips or help from anyone would be greatly appreciated.

  • Patricia Salem
    Patricia Salem 5 months ago

    I can find fulfillment 100 different ways. None of them put food on the table or can make a career without some sort of start-up capital. I'm the Polish uncle: happiness is not worrying about money. I feel like Charlie Brown with the football thinking I can actually make money doing anything I enjoy.

  • Arin Caveney
    Arin Caveney 5 months ago

    I have been in such a funk lately because I am graduating college in may and I have no clue what I am doing with my life. This talk was so encouraging!

  • Carlene Panda
    Carlene Panda 5 months ago

    wow this is where i live

  • Andy G
    Andy G 5 months ago

    You’re lucky to have a job that pays you enough to survive nowadays.

  • SoulHome
    SoulHome 5 months ago


  • Jamie Lange
    Jamie Lange 5 months ago

    5:28 Some people genuinely don't know what they want to do, one of the common reasons being that they haven't explored enough, seen or heard of the different things that they can do. Their world is small (at that moment) and they need to seek variation in life.
    I've been there for small periods of time. For me it always passes though, especially if I seek that variation in life that I need.

  • Driver Werner
    Driver Werner 5 months ago

    So I guess they didn't need a resume then? Haha,lol

  • TheOneanjel
    TheOneanjel 5 months ago

    these are like Toastmasters, I'm starting to think, where the speaker is not necessarily going to say something important so much as just get to practice reiterating other people's dilemmas.

  • Magdalena Wojtowicz
    Magdalena Wojtowicz 5 months ago

    Beautiful! Thank you!

  • poussière d'étoile *
    poussière d'étoile * 5 months ago

    Amazing ! ! ! 🔥

  • Madison Russell
    Madison Russell 6 months ago

    Yes! Yes!!! Thank you!!!!!

  • Mohamed The Rebel
    Mohamed The Rebel 6 months ago

    Everyone have to follow his/her hobby or talent , our desire our dream our passion , it is from soul from unlimited power from God , dont take your aim or dream or job from schools or university or famous poeple on career but from Your inside from soul from God , poeple are same dont know too much if right or wrong , suitable or not , follow your soul your heart yourself firstly will succeed someday whatever but continue only.

  • Sawyer
    Sawyer 6 months ago +1

    ''and the beauty is, who you get to the real you."


  • Swankster
    Swankster 6 months ago +6

    I'm 51 and S T I L L don't know what I want to do. I've felt lost my whole life. All I really want in this life (and there's not much to go) is to be H A P P Y ! ! ! !

  • Wendy Steinberg
    Wendy Steinberg 6 months ago

    Love the video wish she could help me

  • pauline juma
    pauline juma 6 months ago

    Am in this situation at this moment

  • A R
    A R 6 months ago

    Laura Berman Fortgang is a genius. Thank you for your wisdom.

  • Md Rasel
    Md Rasel 6 months ago

    Great video content! Apologies for chiming in, I would love your opinion. Have you considered - Chiveard Discovering Potential Framework (google it)? It is a great one of a kind product for finding your true calling and achieving success minus the hard work. Ive heard some incredible things about it and my m8 after many years got amazing success with it.

  • Lam ise
    Lam ise 6 months ago

    Not helpful at all and wasted 11 minutes out of my life. She doesn't have a solution or answer to people without "dreams"? Her advice is let's ignore those people and let's focus on people who already know what they want. So how is this inspiring or helpful?! 🤔 🤨 🙄

  • Renan Quarterback 7
    Renan Quarterback 7 6 months ago


  • Slimme Sjaan
    Slimme Sjaan 6 months ago

    Excellent speech, lovely speaker :)

  • Tyler S
    Tyler S 6 months ago

    LOL you reel me in with the whole traumatic childhood thing then say "Don't worry there is a solution....for another time" Thanks...smh disliked the video for that one

  • Kyra Hughes
    Kyra Hughes 6 months ago

    no why didn't she say anything about the people who'd never had dreams in the first place :(

  • SweetMacaroons
    SweetMacaroons 6 months ago

    Opened my eyes about something.... just made me click something!!

  • Lita Davis
    Lita Davis 6 months ago

    If we can all do what we have talent, desire, and passion and get paid for it. Get paid very well for it. Instead we are forced into a labor market of angry bosses and political bs. The wealthy seem to worship idolatry money music womanizer public speech. Yet we struggle spend a lifetime working in mediocre. Be grand. Be greatness. Be you no matter where u are in life. Don't waste your talent keep on pushing 🌍🌋🍹🥊🏸🥇🥈🥉🎆🎄

  • MasterFeiFongWong
    MasterFeiFongWong 6 months ago +2

    We shouldn't be fighting for more jobs :D We should be fighting for freedom from jobs. We should utilize technologies to automate all the necessities of life :D Automated farms and automated house building capabilities, automated mining to get all the necessary elements we need to build what we need and want to build. Advanced 3D Printers capable of building everything we want and need. We should be living in abundance free from 9-5 illogical mind numbing routines that a computer can do. This world needs to change we need to change and in doing so make ourselves more free and better because of it. :D

  • Indira Kuruganti
    Indira Kuruganti 7 months ago

    Awesome talk! Thanks for sharing.

  • Joanne Giovanniello
    Joanne Giovanniello 7 months ago

    I too am searching for my ah-hah moment. I currently work for a huge corporation, who just notified about 250 of us, that they are closing our office and we will be out of a job. I am really looking to find who I really am and change my career to what will really make me happy (and be able to make a livable wage). I think a lot of us probably feel this way. What a great video!

  • Jim Mone
    Jim Mone 7 months ago +4

    As a firefighter/medic for over 16 years in a small city, I can honestly say, I hate it, and its killing me. I love your video and agree with all you said. Being a divorced dad with a teenage son in a small city limits me a bit, but videos like this keep me going I hope to one day have that aha moment.

  • travelandtash Tasha
    travelandtash Tasha 7 months ago +7

    Doing a job that allows you to be the real you. I love it.

  • mar jn
    mar jn 7 months ago +1

    what's my motivation for coming to work, living, and seeing someone at their best and helping them get there.….list, then turn that list into your next job😁

  • charu anand
    charu anand 7 months ago +2

    very beautiful speech

  • Julie Jay
    Julie Jay 7 months ago +1

    Awesome talk! Wish I had watched this when I was a teenager!

    • Laura Berman Fortgang
      Laura Berman Fortgang 6 months ago

      Me too! I feel strongly that we guide our youth incorrectly on how to choose their path. I hope you'll share the video with those that may need to hear it. All best to you.