Find your dream job without ever looking at your resume | Laura Berman Fortgang | TEDxBocaRaton

  • Опубликовано: 7 май 2015
  • Laura has put in tens of thousands of hours over twenty years to help people make career transitions and improve their lives. Through her coaching company, books, corporate and civic speeches and her media appearances on such shows as The Oprah Winfrey show, CBS This Morning, GMA, The Today show and more, Laura has reached millions of people and showed them how to figure out what to do with their lives without ever looking at their resume.
    Laura Berman Fortgang is the author of Now What? 90 Days to a New Life Direction and a pioneer in the personal coaching field. Her five books in total are published in thirteen languages, have graced bestseller lists and one, The Little Book on Meaning, was up for a Books for a Better Life Award alongside the Dalai Lama and Pema Chodron.
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at

Комментарии • 807

  • Todd Zickel
    Todd Zickel День назад

    Love this! Next interview, I'm going to be bold & share, this job position is my Yolk and will allow me to be who I'm meant to be which will grow your business. More profits, satisfied customers or guests, higher team morale... Hire me so I can be who I was created to be... Awesome!

  • Sol KaBa
    Sol KaBa День назад

    I dont mean to be negative or bring up race, but white people have these choices and opportunities to do this and live for their dreams. I've seen it in the workplace myself.

  • Christophe Valiant
    Christophe Valiant 2 дня назад +1

    Tears of joy after 9 years of confusion. I always wanted to be a philosopher as professional artist as a child and have my own museum . I went to the university and picked the medical field, then accounting, then I changed my mind a million times... I love to inspire people and teach them wisdoms and lessons that I learned from my life, in my painting. Any comments?

  • Arakquin H
    Arakquin H 3 дня назад +1

    wow this is incredible

  • thisisbob1001
    thisisbob1001 5 дней назад

    Looks like a good vid.

  • jenp27
    jenp27 9 дней назад +1

    this may sound counterproductive and perhaps someone will shed some insight into this, but I am sincerely repellant to the whole idea of talking about how great I am just to get employment... I get why it has to be done, but I always end up feeling like a bottle of shampoo instead of a person... I am not shampoo... where is the dignity in the job application process? what are some ways to overcome this feeling?

  • Karmamel K
    Karmamel K 10 дней назад

    So many helpful truths spoken here! Thank you!
    Ms. Laura Berman Fortgang, will you please make a part two to address the people you described at 7:34? Again, thank you very much for this talk!

  • Jamal Khan
    Jamal Khan 12 дней назад

    Ms. Laura, it was the 1st time I heard u. You really impressed me with ur speech. Doing a certain type of job and what you're, what ur inner person's talent, capabilities are, are two different things. You put it up in a beautiful way. I really liked the egg and yolk example, though. Impressive!

    MAXX JOI MEDIA 12 дней назад

    This is incredible, thank you! Social and societal restrictions are devastating to both dreams and dreamers and I'm stoked to see your wisdom shine through. Many thanks!

  • zuza gal
    zuza gal 14 дней назад

    I don't believe that guy who left Poland 'alone, on a boat, at 17 years old, just to get to NYC'...
    Well, hundret of km, seriously? 😕

  • Gabriella - Emma and Oscar
    Gabriella - Emma and Oscar 16 дней назад

    This was spectacular! The story about Karen hit the nail on the head.... never have I thought about my life and the challenges Im facing today in that perspective. The speech was life-changing, thank you

  • Sylwester Poszytek
    Sylwester Poszytek 18 дней назад

    thank you for that, i ve been waiting for that simple words so many yrs...

  • Julie Dvořáková
    Julie Dvořáková 19 дней назад

    I have exactly the same experience :-)... So great! Thanx for this video!

  • Sharon J
    Sharon J 20 дней назад

    beautiful. thank you.

  • Katherine Gordon
    Katherine Gordon 20 дней назад

    I’m new in a position that I’m only partially committed too. I love connecting with the people. I really enjoy that part, everything else is a drag. I work 12 1/2 hr days, 10 days in a row. The intensity wears me down, plus I have to fly out to the different assignments and leave my pets, home and life behind. And even when I do get to work in town my life is on hold bc of the hrs. Yet I love connecting with the ppl, educating, sharing, giving... that is what I enjoy! What else can I do for decent pay and help ppl? The million dollar question 😊

  • your brother
    your brother 20 дней назад

    EGGx Talks

  • TheTherapyBooth
    TheTherapyBooth 24 дня назад

    Loved this talk! Much appreciation.

  • Kim Campos
    Kim Campos 26 дней назад

    I chose to get my master's degree on something that first was a reaction to a previous coworker and second was based on my qualifications on my resume. Thank you for this reminder. It's comforting and makes me more hopeful about where I'm going.

  • you tube
    you tube 28 дней назад

    ted talks can be so boooorrrrrriiiiiiing

  • informal inquiry
    informal inquiry Месяц назад

    Thank you that is very helpful! I appreciate the way you tied those ideas together and synthesized the different jobs and how they connect. Thank you!

  • Rachel Sturm
    Rachel Sturm Месяц назад

    "I don't believe anyone who tells me they don't know what they want to do. I believe they do know. They are just too afraid to speak it because they they have to do something about it." This resonated with me so much.

  • tzivopoulos TZIVOPOULOS
    tzivopoulos TZIVOPOULOS Месяц назад

    I personally haven’t find something really interesting in this sorry

  • Sheree Caves
    Sheree Caves Месяц назад

    Ms. Laura thank you so much for your awesome talk !! You are quite a motivator !! Very exciting !! All the high schools and colleges need to hear you speak about this !!! I believe it would be a great game changer for all !! God bless you and yours and your great work !! Sincerely Sheree Caves. 💒💒💒💒🌹🌹🌹🌹😇😇😇😇😇

  • PowerHour
    PowerHour Месяц назад

    I missed the meaning here.

  • Cissana Mukhametshyna
    Cissana Mukhametshyna Месяц назад

    I am 54 and once I counted how many lives I managed to live by now. 9! Or so.
    And I still want a change, another major change! I am insatiable with that. Now, more than ever I want to be a stargazer and a swimmer with dolphins. And I have no idea what kind of career that might be....Who will I be i the course of this career? I will be a better worshiper, I guess.Thank you, Laura, for the reminder to strive to be who you were meant to be.

  • Darktrooper98 1
    Darktrooper98 1 Месяц назад

    I’m currently 16, and I’m fairly sure this talk helps but I’m also very confused. I’m not kidding when I say that I even confused myself writing this comment. Every job I’ve seen myself doing could be summed up in the following:
    -A scientist
    -An engineer
    -A medical professional (minus surgery)
    -A writer (fringe thoughts)
    -A teacher (also fringe thoughts)
    I don’t know what to make of this...

  • neda aziz
    neda aziz Месяц назад +1

    I have got my bachelors degree in business administration because I was out of high school and didn’t wanted to wait to find out what I want to do, because I had no idea.. and I still have no idea what I truly want to do. I have my bachelors degree, and I have pressure from family to choose something, pick something, this or that.. do this do that. I’m just lost now. And it’s depressing, I get anxiety attacks whenever I think about what my “passion is” and what should “I do” I don’t know and I have no idea. I’m so so so lost. Any tips or help from anyone would be greatly appreciated.

  • Patricia Salem
    Patricia Salem Месяц назад

    I can find fulfillment 100 different ways. None of them put food on the table or can make a career without some sort of start-up capital. I'm the Polish uncle: happiness is not worrying about money. I feel like Charlie Brown with the football thinking I can actually make money doing anything I enjoy.

  • Arin Caveney
    Arin Caveney Месяц назад

    I have been in such a funk lately because I am graduating college in may and I have no clue what I am doing with my life. This talk was so encouraging!

  • Carlene Panda
    Carlene Panda Месяц назад

    wow this is where i live

  • Andy G
    Andy G Месяц назад

    You’re lucky to have a job that pays you enough to survive nowadays.

  • SoulHome
    SoulHome Месяц назад


  • Jamie Lange
    Jamie Lange Месяц назад

    5:28 Some people genuinely don't know what they want to do, one of the common reasons being that they haven't explored enough, seen or heard of the different things that they can do. Their world is small (at that moment) and they need to seek variation in life.
    I've been there for small periods of time. For me it always passes though, especially if I seek that variation in life that I need.

  • Driver Werner
    Driver Werner Месяц назад

    So I guess they didn't need a resume then? Haha,lol

  • TheOneanjel
    TheOneanjel Месяц назад

    these are like Toastmasters, I'm starting to think, where the speaker is not necessarily going to say something important so much as just get to practice reiterating other people's dilemmas.

  • Magdalena Wojtowicz
    Magdalena Wojtowicz Месяц назад

    Beautiful! Thank you!

  • ASMR étoile
    ASMR étoile Месяц назад

    Amazing ! ! ! 🔥

  • Madison Russell
    Madison Russell Месяц назад

    Yes! Yes!!! Thank you!!!!!

  • Mohamed The Rebel
    Mohamed The Rebel Месяц назад

    Everyone have to follow his/her hobby or talent , our desire our dream our passion , it is from soul from unlimited power from God , dont take your aim or dream or job from schools or university or famous poeple on career but from Your inside from soul from God , poeple are same dont know too much if right or wrong , suitable or not , follow your soul your heart yourself firstly will succeed someday whatever but continue only.

  • Adam Dean Sawyer
    Adam Dean Sawyer Месяц назад

    ''and the beauty is, who you get to the real you."


  • Swankster
    Swankster Месяц назад +1

    I'm 51 and S T I L L don't know what I want to do. I've felt lost my whole life. All I really want in this life (and there's not much to go) is to be H A P P Y ! ! ! !

  • Wendy Steinberg
    Wendy Steinberg Месяц назад

    Love the video wish she could help me

  • pauline juma
    pauline juma Месяц назад

    Am in this situation at this moment

  • A R
    A R Месяц назад

    Laura Berman Fortgang is a genius. Thank you for your wisdom.

  • Md Rasel
    Md Rasel Месяц назад

    Great video content! Apologies for chiming in, I would love your opinion. Have you considered - Chiveard Discovering Potential Framework (google it)? It is a great one of a kind product for finding your true calling and achieving success minus the hard work. Ive heard some incredible things about it and my m8 after many years got amazing success with it.

  • Lam ise
    Lam ise Месяц назад

    Not helpful at all and wasted 11 minutes out of my life. She doesn't have a solution or answer to people without "dreams"? Her advice is let's ignore those people and let's focus on people who already know what they want. So how is this inspiring or helpful?! 🤔 🤨 🙄

  • Renan Quarterback 7
    Renan Quarterback 7 2 месяца назад


  • Slimme Sjaan
    Slimme Sjaan 2 месяца назад

    Excellent speech, lovely speaker :)

  • Tyler S
    Tyler S 2 месяца назад

    LOL you reel me in with the whole traumatic childhood thing then say "Don't worry there is a solution....for another time" Thanks...smh disliked the video for that one

  • Kyra Hughes
    Kyra Hughes 2 месяца назад

    no why didn't she say anything about the people who'd never had dreams in the first place :(

  • SweetMacaroons
    SweetMacaroons 2 месяца назад

    Opened my eyes about something.... just made me click something!!

  • Lita Davis
    Lita Davis 2 месяца назад

    If we can all do what we have talent, desire, and passion and get paid for it. Get paid very well for it. Instead we are forced into a labor market of angry bosses and political bs. The wealthy seem to worship idolatry money music womanizer public speech. Yet we struggle spend a lifetime working in mediocre. Be grand. Be greatness. Be you no matter where u are in life. Don't waste your talent keep on pushing 🌍🌋🍹🥊🏸🥇🥈🥉🎆🎄

  • MasterFeiFongWong
    MasterFeiFongWong 2 месяца назад +2

    We shouldn't be fighting for more jobs :D We should be fighting for freedom from jobs. We should utilize technologies to automate all the necessities of life :D Automated farms and automated house building capabilities, automated mining to get all the necessary elements we need to build what we need and want to build. Advanced 3D Printers capable of building everything we want and need. We should be living in abundance free from 9-5 illogical mind numbing routines that a computer can do. This world needs to change we need to change and in doing so make ourselves more free and better because of it. :D

  • Indira Kuruganti
    Indira Kuruganti 2 месяца назад

    Awesome talk! Thanks for sharing.

  • Joanne Giovanniello
    Joanne Giovanniello 2 месяца назад

    I too am searching for my ah-hah moment. I currently work for a huge corporation, who just notified about 250 of us, that they are closing our office and we will be out of a job. I am really looking to find who I really am and change my career to what will really make me happy (and be able to make a livable wage). I think a lot of us probably feel this way. What a great video!

  • Jim Mone
    Jim Mone 2 месяца назад +3

    As a firefighter/medic for over 16 years in a small city, I can honestly say, I hate it, and its killing me. I love your video and agree with all you said. Being a divorced dad with a teenage son in a small city limits me a bit, but videos like this keep me going I hope to one day have that aha moment.

  • travelandtash Tasha
    travelandtash Tasha 2 месяца назад +6

    Doing a job that allows you to be the real you. I love it.

  • mar jn
    mar jn 2 месяца назад +1

    what's my motivation for coming to work, living, and seeing someone at their best and helping them get there.….list, then turn that list into your next job😁

  • charu anand
    charu anand 2 месяца назад +2

    very beautiful speech

  • Julie Jay
    Julie Jay 2 месяца назад +1

    Awesome talk! Wish I had watched this when I was a teenager!

    • Laura Berman Fortgang
      Laura Berman Fortgang 2 месяца назад

      Me too! I feel strongly that we guide our youth incorrectly on how to choose their path. I hope you'll share the video with those that may need to hear it. All best to you.

  • danieldjz
    danieldjz 2 месяца назад

    I honestly got very little out of this talk.

  • Damian Hinch
    Damian Hinch 2 месяца назад

    The problem with this is that we would have almost none of the jobs we have to do. From truck drivers to waiters to accountants. And the way things are set up, we can't just do away with them all.

    • Laura Berman Fortgang
      Laura Berman Fortgang 2 месяца назад

      Not true. Making those jobs more attractive is what would result and there can also still be a lot of meaning for people in those jobs if they have the right perspective and had these jobs out of choice, not because there was nothing else for them.

  • nana flipper
    nana flipper 3 месяца назад

    👍👍👍👏👏👏standing ovation from me! You've answered my lifetime mind boggling question. Many thanks

  • Greg Pitts
    Greg Pitts 3 месяца назад

    I love my job. I’m an art gallery owner. Ive won numerous awards and created over 700 paintings. From the inner city and was in the United States Army as a chef. My gift is being the most diverse self taught artist in the world.

  • Mashari Menawer
    Mashari Menawer 3 месяца назад

    The formula for finding your dream job without ever looking at your resume is: "something from the past whether it has come true or not, re-examine for its true significance, married with your skill set of today = a satisfying new chapter in your life story " Laura Berman

  • Emily Booth
    Emily Booth 3 месяца назад

    Very very good presentation..thank you so much Xx Worked in kids homes 7 years got too stressed now I'm a I feel a real failure tbh th I have a degree too in Textiles pretty useless degree but a personal achievement

    • Laura Berman Fortgang
      Laura Berman Fortgang 2 месяца назад

      Failure? Thank goodness for you! What part of textiles still calls to you? Can you create something new from that?

  • Travis H.
    Travis H. 3 месяца назад

    Interesting perspective....

  • XxShadowvalkyriexX
    XxShadowvalkyriexX 3 месяца назад

    I love how her cardigan is brilliantly flowing in the breeze on the stage hahaha

  • Bonnie at Badass & Magic
    Bonnie at Badass & Magic 3 месяца назад

    This is truly brilliant. Totally resonates and I've now got the answer I'd been asking about my niche market when it comes to my coaching business 🌟

  • Roxy VonSkellington
    Roxy VonSkellington 3 месяца назад +2


  • Lily Mango
    Lily Mango 3 месяца назад

    Wow this lady’s dream job is talking about how to get your dream job

    • Laura Berman Fortgang
      Laura Berman Fortgang 2 месяца назад

      It turned out that way. Never could've predicted. Just followed the crumbs put in front of me and turned my pain of failing at my dream and my pain of having a father who hated his job into service to others.

  • Species710
    Species710 3 месяца назад

    Tell the supervisors and managers that everyone is valuable. Uniqueness doesn't guarantee keeping a job if the boss has distaste for one's gender, looks, or personality even though none of these affect job performance.

  • HoszHosz
    HoszHosz 3 месяца назад

    What is it I'm looking at somebody and a thought comes to my mind: this person is Polish and then she says her grandpa was. Happened to me a lot of times, even with saying that somebody is from my city.

  • John Austin
    John Austin 3 месяца назад

    I am turned off by the phrase First Generation American. I probably do not understand what that means, but I do not believe in social phrases which are fallible.

    • Laura Berman Fortgang
      Laura Berman Fortgang 2 месяца назад

      It means that my father's parents were not born here. They were immigrants. Which makes my father first generation American for his family and that makes me second generation.

  • Mark Fahey
    Mark Fahey 4 месяца назад

    The only thing that tops the brilliance of your message is your authenticity, love it.

  • J B
    J B 4 месяца назад +7

    I would recommend that anybody who doesn't know what they want to do, should first find what interests them. Try going on Udemy or RU-clip and start a random course. It can be anything whereby you could earn money e.g. painting, coding, writing, finance, marketing etc. Then try it for a week. If you don't like it, find something new and start another course. If you do like it, keep learning and practicing. The reason we don't know what we want to do is because we haven't explored enough.

    • Ingrid LiveLife
      Ingrid LiveLife 4 месяца назад

      J B Exactly what I am starting to do. Wanting and needing a change at 45 and have that paralysis of getting going and liking many things and worried about ageism.. but you make a good point

  • C Jasz
    C Jasz 4 месяца назад

    When you start working for somebody , find out you beforehand who is the person who signs your paycheque.If you think of becoming a salesman. choose carefully who do you work for.
    I have invested lots of time working for individuals mainly Chinese and East Indians, who DID NOT want to pay decent wages,
    This was in Toronto Canada.
    I do not hate nobody - but this is the truth..

  • Liora Sitelman
    Liora Sitelman 4 месяца назад

    I know exactly what I want to do but need someone to hire me to do it. Everything in its own time...

  • Deborah D
    Deborah D 4 месяца назад

    Wonderful and very helpful! Thank you!

  • J J J
    J J J 4 месяца назад


  • Wayne Gatfield
    Wayne Gatfield 4 месяца назад

    All the Ted talks are really glorified extended commercials. No more likely to succeed than a product off a supermarket shelf but some one buys into it until they realise its just another false promise.

    • Laura Berman Fortgang
      Laura Berman Fortgang 2 месяца назад

      Wow. Being a skeptic is a tough life choice. I wish you more joy than that. I haven't lasted 25 years in my field without delivering results.

  • zoya javeed
    zoya javeed 4 месяца назад

    Thanks for the eye opener :)

  • indranil chatterjee
    indranil chatterjee 4 месяца назад

    I need some information regarding my professional career it not going anywhere after work so many year not happy with work wise for last few years

  • Leah Wald
    Leah Wald 4 месяца назад

    I wish I heard this advice 20 years ago

  • Moua Xiong
    Moua Xiong 4 месяца назад

    It’s truly hard. Your resume does matter to some measure. I was denied multiple times because my resume doesn’t match up with the experience they were looking for. Although I would not have apply if I have nothing to show for it.
    I know what I would like to do, not exactly my dream job-but I wasn’t given a chance. I keep looking at my resume because employer are looking at my resume.
    And even if I am satisfied with my job, it doesn’t pay my living expenses. Reality hurts.

  • Annette Grigsby
    Annette Grigsby 4 месяца назад +1

    wow.... I need more about those kids who don't dream...I had to put the video on pause while I gathered myself....That is me....I am 45 have had over 50 jobs ( worked really hard at all of them), just finished my BS and immediatley enrolled in a MS program, and I am still not sure I am on the right path.....

    • Annette Grigsby
      Annette Grigsby 4 месяца назад

      I doing 2018 "what color is your parachute" workbook....

    • Annette Grigsby
      Annette Grigsby 4 месяца назад

      Hi Currently I/O Psychology but the more self reflection I make, not loving data or research, I am not bad at it it's just a chore....

    • Ingrid LiveLife
      Ingrid LiveLife 4 месяца назад

      Annette Grigsby I am also 45 and trying to figure out a sustainable living. What is your masters in? Considering that myself

  • quickview3
    quickview3 4 месяца назад

    Most inspirational, directing & encouraging! Thank you!

  • Taliah Review
    Taliah Review 4 месяца назад

    Laura never said what to do about the kids who couldn’t conjure up a dream

  • music at work
    music at work 4 месяца назад

    Last time I felt this good was when I was trapped in overthinking and I stumbled upon meditation.
    Too good. Thank you!

  • Theodore Vegh
    Theodore Vegh 4 месяца назад +1

    Try to use your life to achieve goals that ring your bell and make you really happy! Jobs and careers make those things possible! What are your favorite things to do, talk about, read about, watch, listen to, observe, work on, think about? What makes your heart happy? What pays really well? What are your really good at? Do it! Read " What Color Is Your Parachute?" by Richard N. Bolles to get "career and job" ideas to pursue! Also read the "Occupation Outlook Handbook" by the US Dept of Labor to see salary information for each job or career!

    • Ingrid LiveLife
      Ingrid LiveLife 4 месяца назад

      Theodore Vegh Thank you for the recommendation. Will be reading it. What is your advice to someone who must start a new career at age 45 after being away from work for years due to family reasons ? Have some skills and can get more - but lack of formal work is the issue

  • Михаил Потапыч
    Михаил Потапыч 5 месяцев назад

    interesting video. I think it helped me with the definition of future work

  • Tyler
    Tyler 5 месяцев назад

    7:45-8:17 that is me. Please point me in the direction to solve this.

  • Jennifer Garcia
    Jennifer Garcia 5 месяцев назад

    I’m 26 years old and never went to college, it never bothered me before but now I am wondering if it’s something I missed out on. I’ve had 3 different jobs in the past 7 years and I haven’t been able to find what I want in life. Every job has been so different. I’m in school now but I’m scared because I don’t know what to major in. I feel so lost and depressed. I honestly hat school but I am pushing myself because I feel like it’s the next logical step.

    • Ingrid LiveLife
      Ingrid LiveLife 4 месяца назад

      Jennifer Garcia I changed majors a bit because I was very directionless and always have been. What I know now at age 45 is that anything related to computers, sales, math or business will serve you well. Population is growing with the Millenials and they are all about the digital age ..

  • 100s of Kiny
    100s of Kiny 5 месяцев назад

    Formula: Something from the past whether it has come true or not+ Re-examine it's true significance+ Married with your skill set of today= A better chapter.

  • anna s
    anna s 5 месяцев назад

    Wow! Love it 😍

  • ĸaιne
    ĸaιne 5 месяцев назад +1

    It’s not from what you do but who you get to be. There’s more satisfaction in becoming someone rather than receiving a pay check. “I stopped a certain mammal from going extinct” “I made 30 grand in a trade deal” I know which ones more impactful for me.

  • Iuliana Dragomir
    Iuliana Dragomir 5 месяцев назад

    Absolutely true and amazing!

  • M LBF
    M LBF 5 месяцев назад +5

    After looking for employment for over 6 months, I don't care WHAT I do. I'm perfectly capable of doing many things if given a chance. Just want to take care of my kids and help people.

    • Laura Berman Fortgang
      Laura Berman Fortgang 2 месяца назад

      It's not pretty out there in the job market and it's hard not to get discouraged. Think of who you can ask to introduce you to others. It's hard to ask but it's more effective than just sending out resumes. All ways have to happen at the same time. Don't give up.

  • Reef
    Reef 5 месяцев назад

    yess! i don't know what i really want ! and i think she is right, at my childhood i was in fear to be punished from my mom maybe this is why I don't have a big dream but i will work to find it i wish i can get a good job and travel the world i don't know if this a dream ?!

  • Heidi A. Thomson Life Coach
    Heidi A. Thomson Life Coach 5 месяцев назад

    Love this!