Increase your self-awareness with one simple fix | Tasha Eurich | TEDxMileHigh

  • Опубликовано: 19 дек 2017
  • Self-awareness has countless proven benefits -- stronger relationships, higher performance, more effective leadership. Sounds pretty great, right? Here’s the bad news: 95% of people think that they’re self-aware, but only 10-15% actually are! Luckily, Tasha Eurich has a simple solution that will instantly improve your self-awareness. As a third-generation entrepreneur, Dr. Tasha Eurich was born with a passion for business, pairing her scientific savvy in human behavior with a practical approach to solving business challenges. As an organizational psychologist, she’s helped thousands of leaders improve their effectiveness, from Fortune 500 executives to early-stage entrepreneurs. Her new book, Insight, reveals the findings of her three-year research program on self-awareness, which she calls the meta-skill of the 21st century. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at

Комментарии • 581

  • Uriel Haro
    Uriel Haro День назад

    Muy completa la información( introspection,emotional intel,self análisis,) muy bien por la oratoria muy profesional nada aburrida 🧐

  • Exodia
    Exodia 2 дня назад +2

    Question. How does she know they weren’t self awareness.
    I didn’t watch the full videos just because the question pop up. Someone let me know if the answer is in the video.

  • rebecca lankford
    rebecca lankford 2 дня назад

    Define the problem then problem solve

  • Jared Kushner
    Jared Kushner 5 дней назад

    Her red dress and her hard nipples were too distracting.

  • Renee Herwin
    Renee Herwin 6 дней назад

    In summation,... asking "WHY am I here?" won't get you anywhere, unless you also ask "WHAT am I going to do about it?"

  • Ty McLeod
    Ty McLeod 6 дней назад

    This isn’t introspection though, this is simply changing your mentality to focus on solutions not problems.
    You can watch yourself interact / observe your physicality / pay attention to your emotions and their triggers and they will certainly inform your behavioral patterns.
    I have worked myself out (still do, it is a tough life long process) and that is why most people don’t do it. They are too busy being bombarded with external stimulus that they neglect the effort required to listen to themselves

  • The420beni.
    The420beni. 8 дней назад

    Im self aware that you said self awareness half a dozen times, kinda clouded your point .

  • Bill Carson
    Bill Carson 13 дней назад

    Tell ya what, you smoke pot a few times and you'll get unwanted introspection !

  • Guus van der Werf
    Guus van der Werf 20 дней назад

    I wonder. When our ancestors found out that their food like mammoths moved away in the winter. Did they ask what or why? It is not too difficult to ask what. But will it make you wiser? She is not talking about introspection. She is talking about moving away from the problem.

  • Hamid Haddouda
    Hamid Haddouda 26 дней назад

    thank you

  • Silo Milo
    Silo Milo Месяц назад

    that red dress tho looks dope

  • Samuel Thayer
    Samuel Thayer Месяц назад

    Telling me what NOT to ask? no thank you, I'll ask "why" even if I end up on Mars, get out of my head pls, tyvm bye now

  • Kali Cosmos
    Kali Cosmos Месяц назад

    Just wrong

  • Kizito Onyeagusi
    Kizito Onyeagusi Месяц назад

    "Weed" the self awareness plant, everyone needs to take weed at least once In their lifetime

  • Lorena Stone
    Lorena Stone Месяц назад

    Thank you for sharing this info. You made a difference in how I think about myself, and my interactions with others. Its a way of getting control of life when you feel you have no control, especially when you are always thinking that things are going wrong. I question it all the time. In my opinion, it was the right length of time to express what others go through and how we see the world in the same manner. It gave me a fresh start at finding ways to find a better way to deal with my day to day problems. Say "What not Why" Thanks again:)

  • Anuj Majumdar
    Anuj Majumdar Месяц назад

    But why ? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • KV 8
    KV 8 Месяц назад

    This thing was personally so important to me. I've had this habit of questioning why since my childhood and I've kept a journal too. Much thanks for the insight.

  • Himanshu Mankoti
    Himanshu Mankoti Месяц назад

    She has very aesthetic intelligence and a very charming mind.

  • Shammi Dubey
    Shammi Dubey Месяц назад

    I think balance of Why and What is necessary

  • Alex Fjallstrom
    Alex Fjallstrom Месяц назад +1

    They probably did have a hard time finding subjects. I bet the independent self reliant introverts with no friends who are self actualized ask why all the time, lol

  • Brian Jefferson
    Brian Jefferson Месяц назад

    The question 'Why?' confirms a circumstance whereas the question 'What?' conveys initiative. In more detail, 'What' seems to infer an object. Tangible material. 'Why' seems to reference a concept. Abstract. Intangible. I surmise human beings would be able to solve problems involving physical matter more easily than problems involving abstract ideas because physical matter seems more easy to conceptualize. We have all kinds of ways to move, change, and analyze physical matter and physical concepts: concepts with a tangible form. I can understand how it would be comparably less easy to analyze something intangible in which case what we're dealing with is less apparent. I would think by using the term 'what' instead of 'why' we're positioning ourselves in a more advantageous way to actually do something about an event instead of being rendered less actionable in a mere abstractions related to it. That is, by asking 'what' instead of 'why' we're changing the context underlying our understanding of the event from 'I'm focusing on the fact this happened to me in the past' to 'I'm focusing on actions I can take in the present for the future.'
    I feel the most self-aware in problem situations. I start thinking about what I did and how those actions contributed to what happened then I can address my own accountability to my responsibility in events before ever considering the actions of anyone else. When I place the focus on what needs to be solved as a function of myself, not only are those healthier boundaries than blaming others or wanting to change anyone, doing so empowers me to make my life what I want it to be without any unmet expectations about aspects of life I can't change.
    The most honest and self-aware person I can think of is probably Gordon Ramsay since many 'Kitchen Nightmares' episodes reveal major denial in those restaurateurs. He never shared their distortions about what was happening which caused harm to their business' profitability. The people who didn't take feedback from the analysis of their restaurants daily operations as personal criticism, were able to set their ego aside, and were willing to adapt made themselves successful by their healthy self-aware approach to the importance of their part in the success of the consultation.

  • Jorge Zavala
    Jorge Zavala Месяц назад

    i feel like im in the middle point where i think im self aware but i know im not yet... 3 months ago i started meditating after i broke up with my girlfriend, and started to changed my life and at this point im developing self awarenes even more every day, but i started not to trust the meditation center where i go like a month ago, i feel like they are trying to turn me into one of their adepts..... i been trying to find more information about self awareness or what i can do to keep developing my self awareness... 3 months ago i can say that i had 10% of self awareness i couldn't recognize my emotions, control my emotions, i struggled with anxienty attacks and other things... today i've improved so much and i started to see the world entirely different.. today i confirmed that my thoughs are false and i been living in my head all this time, so i've gained control of my life at this point but still im struggling to change some behaviors... please, could someone that can recommend me a type of meditation or books about self awareness.

  • EggsEggsEggsLasagna
    EggsEggsEggsLasagna Месяц назад +1

    "Or you kill yourself"
    *audience laugh*

  • Lee Hempfling
    Lee Hempfling Месяц назад

    self awareness is not what it says.. it is what it emerges from

  • Jo Montanee
    Jo Montanee Месяц назад

    1) When I was in 20's I was so consumed about WHAT. At 30's and driving towards higher career success I was consumed by HOW. How to accomplish this, how to solve that etc. Now I'm in the middle age and I think Nietzsche and Dr. Victor Frankel are right about WHY. WHY is the big question that leads to big self-understanding and self-meaning. If you are too busy fixing what without knowing why you will never find the truth about yourself.
    2) I for one love to read Amazon book reviews before I make any purchase. There are so many detailed reviews that help me understand that book more to decide I must have it. Some reviews even make me cry because they are so profound and sentimental. If writers are courageous enough, if you believe in your work enough and if you have guts, you should read them.
    With these 2 observations I may have doubt on the speaker's wisdom. Not knowledge, not intelligence but wisdom.

  • Rodwell Tambade
    Rodwell Tambade Месяц назад +2

    Just jump to 11.30 youll thank me later

  • Rodwell Tambade
    Rodwell Tambade Месяц назад

    Some of us need those short videos i mean data is expensive😂

  • ryan magiera
    ryan magiera Месяц назад

    I agree its not an easy world, and life is hard... so, 1) doing a ted talk is an utterly brave and challenging thing! Go her! 2) But I don't want to hear her tell me to stop asking why- because how beautiful of a question this is, and one that we as a society should constantly be asking so that we use the search as a way to make a more meaningful function of humanity... just like in The Alchemist, our greatest obstacles present themselves in front of us, just before we experience our personal legend... but 3) I definitely think it is powerful to ask "what?" in order to move forward with problems and struggles, while still chasing the Why.

  • Keven Silva
    Keven Silva Месяц назад

    It would be of some interesting value to follow a healthy discussion between Tasha Eurich and Teal Swan! Science fact basis and Alchemy spiritual basis

  • Scott Will
    Scott Will Месяц назад

    What is wrong with why?Why is what great. Lol

  • MamaBethsWorld
    MamaBethsWorld Месяц назад

    Fane is a m attention white

  • Nadia Povta
    Nadia Povta Месяц назад

    I wanna be a unicorn! 🦄🦄🦄🦄🦄🦄

  • Ebony
    Ebony Месяц назад

    Great lecture. Cute dress!!! Would like to know where you bought it if you don't mind sharing. Thx

  • Kaleigh Carter
    Kaleigh Carter Месяц назад +3

    Everyone is so negative in these comments. I feel like you all missed the point. Spend time doing something that will benefit u instead of saying pessimistic things! (Constructive criticism is different though) happy new year 🎈

  • zain
    zain Месяц назад

    Her anecdote about her book in the end shows how humble and resilient of a person she is. Hats off to her. She seems like a genuinely fun and caring person.

  • Pare G
    Pare G Месяц назад

    Best TED ever to improve myself and my self-talk, thank you very much how to find a way to eliminate negative thoughts and increase positive and efficient thoughts

  • Dalien Rivera
    Dalien Rivera Месяц назад

    thanks, today I ask my self before the vid. what I need to be better and feel better in the world. then my brain was thinking new stuff then I started to think of distraction and I notice that my brain was solving the problem and wanted to find excuses or not the truth. weird but conscious

  • manav gaddam
    manav gaddam Месяц назад

    hey tasha ! I guess you've stopped looking into comments after your experience with the reviews.
    But this video answered for me where I went wrong the whole time, over a span of 2 years.
    I'm a math guy, so as much as asking why is absolutely essential in my profession, knowing where to stop is equally important to sustain and maintain my sanity.
    Probably when there is a certain kind of personal/emotional phase I'm going through, then it makes sense to ask what more than why. To sort of deal with it.
    But for any kind of impersonal investigation, (especially of scientific or mathematical nature) asking why kind of makes us question its origins, or creates a desire to see beyond the layers, but the way we reach there is again by supplementing that why, with a series of whats, that help us move in that direction.
    Anyways, Thanks a ton !

  • sagun suryavanshi
    sagun suryavanshi Месяц назад

    It looks like they and their unicorns have confused self awareness with self improvement....
    Almost saying don't think bout problems (what we assume is the way to self awareness) instead think of self improvement

  • 0
    0 Месяц назад

    "Find your WHY"

  • Aileen Zimmermann
    Aileen Zimmermann Месяц назад

    Awesome! I think I haven't met one person who would be completely aware of themselves without one mistake - including myself. So the percentage makes sense... Trying to be self aware and reflected can be frustrating and depressing though

  • Kaustubh jumle
    Kaustubh jumle 2 месяца назад

    very nice 😊👍

  • Michael Hoffman
    Michael Hoffman 2 месяца назад

    To those who believe that Tasha took too long to get to the point, I have an experiment for you. Ask a couple of people to start viewing the video at 11:34 and ask a couple of others to watch it in its entirety. Then ask all four to rate the impact this video had on them on a scale of 1-5 with 5 being the highest.

  • magdelima
    magdelima 2 месяца назад

    instead of asking why this is happening to me ask what is this teaching me!

  • mr six
    mr six 2 месяца назад

    Why did everyone laugh about suicide at the beginning of the video

  • MaxMisterC
    MaxMisterC 2 месяца назад

    Teachers are taught to analyse everything they do & improve lessons iterationally...
    It's destructive; and I think that it's leading to high levels of mental illness, among those in the teaching profession.

  • Katherine M Speed
    Katherine M Speed 2 месяца назад

    TL;DL ask what instead of why; "what can I do?" instead of "why did this happen to me"; Very stoic in philosophy in my opinion.

  • Fiyin Adeyera
    Fiyin Adeyera 2 месяца назад +1

    I disagree. I think all TED speakers now need to include LIVE references when they mention "Researchers". Anyone else wonders WHY she is wearing RED to deliver a TED speech on self-awareness?

  • troublekick
    troublekick 2 месяца назад

    I just love your dress! So vibrant and thoughtful you wore the same color as Ted 😘

  • Martin Wippler
    Martin Wippler 2 месяца назад

    Way to long to get to the point

  • triptych lights
    triptych lights 2 месяца назад

    For 3% of the world population introspection is used in a healthie and amazing way. Do not dismiss this.

  • triptych lights
    triptych lights 2 месяца назад

    She is promoting 'what if' extroverted intuition.

  • triptych lights
    triptych lights 2 месяца назад +3

    Damn. This woman doesn't KNOW how introspection works. Bothersome.

  • Roy Munson
    Roy Munson 2 месяца назад

    like fingernails on a chalkboard... something tells me she's an emotional train wreck

  • Keep Moving
    Keep Moving 2 месяца назад

    TLDR: use what instead of why during self reflection.

  • JOE 73
    JOE 73 2 месяца назад

    Great advice but just listen to the last ten seconds of the video and you'll get the whole speech!!

  • Thegooddater
    Thegooddater 2 месяца назад +2

    That is not self awareness, that is just thinking differently. If this was about how to think better it would be a great Tedtalk but the subject does not fit the content. Still a good speech but will miss its true audience.

  • Soso Di
    Soso Di 2 месяца назад

    And again...just had the thougt that "why is it not okay that it's..?" feels not as good as asking "what's wrong with it being...?" before I heard that talk

  • FaulknerLeanne
    FaulknerLeanne 2 месяца назад

    You're wonderful x

  • Tina M Fam
    Tina M Fam 2 месяца назад

    Use discomfort as an alarm to dig in, I have a whole process that I use on myself and teach others to learn the right way to dig into where the discomfort stems and what to do next.

  • danny
    danny 2 месяца назад +1

    We have to know WHY the plane went down, to understand WHAT happened so that, we can formulate WHAT can be done to avoid another similar crash. One WHY and two WHATS.

  • George Jr
    George Jr 2 месяца назад

    So do we start with why and nake sure we finish with " what " ?

  • Eliza
    Eliza 2 месяца назад

    Well, as a linguist, I can say that the 'why'-question presupposes a certain situation, so the individual is anchored there, and only asks to explore this very situation. The 'what'-question is more open, as it does not anchor you in any respect, and is, therefore, more adjustable to free options of envisaging various situations.

  • Victoria Grijalva
    Victoria Grijalva 2 месяца назад

    What category would this y’all be under for events like this

  • Norm
    Norm 2 месяца назад


  • Maria Tomczak
    Maria Tomczak 2 месяца назад

    Very helpful! thank you!

  • Sapphire Conran
    Sapphire Conran 2 месяца назад +1

    A lot of the time you need to ask why in order to know what.

  • Jain Harshit H2J
    Jain Harshit H2J 3 месяца назад

    Why----->What that's all in this video to learn about.

  • Garrett Hudson
    Garrett Hudson 3 месяца назад

    Speakers like this confirm TED talks are cancer

  • Rohit Goswami
    Rohit Goswami 3 месяца назад

    Red is so hot u know ...god bless u dear welcome sweetheart

  • João Pedro
    João Pedro 3 месяца назад

    Start to ask WHAT instead of WHY.

  • Long Legs Legs
    Long Legs Legs 3 месяца назад

    Change “Why” to “What”

  • KevinusarTV
    KevinusarTV 3 месяца назад

    She's hot

  • Caden Taylor
    Caden Taylor 3 месяца назад

    I feel like caffeine helps with this. But that doesn’t mean caffeine is good for you. 🤔

  • Robert Watson
    Robert Watson 3 месяца назад

    I'll give you the answer: BE a spiritual being in the center of your head, as THE OBSERVER, in the moment of now, while having a human EXPERIENCE in present time. Two events happening simultaneously : the spiritual event, NOW, and the human event PRESENT TIME. Another answer: There are five moments of CHANGE; 1. awareness, 2. recognition, 3. understanding, 4. release, 5. WHAT's next? And there is always a What's next! Karma is the issue! Becoming aware is the first step.

  • Shashank Bhute
    Shashank Bhute 3 месяца назад

    Hello Tasha Eurich, If you’re reading this then I would like to say that your talk was pure bliss :)

  • LolifreakSoap
    LolifreakSoap 3 месяца назад

    I really like the message behind this.
    But I do wish she had taken her conclusion to the next step of abstraction, one that does not cling to specific words - "Ask why not what".
    Is it about rephrasing the question or is it about asking a different question?
    If you ask 'What makes us so different' instead of 'Why are we like oil and water' you are still asking the quite the same question, 'What can I do to ...' is a completely different question.
    'What did I do to deserve this?', 'What is it that makes me feel so terrible? 'What makes people be so mean to me? - All those are what-rephrasings of her why-questions.
    But they are still depressing and will not help you that much.
    So what I got out of this:
    The first step towards self-awareness or first thing to do when reflecting:
    Before trying to find any answers, try to find good questions.
    Now, what are quality-critera for good self awareness questions? Herre are two thoughts, but that is a question that might be worth reflecting on.
    - Assumming you find the perfect answer to you question, how helpful will that answer be for your life?
    - The more open your question is, the bigger is the risk of getting stuck on it. So: The more concrete, the better. (That's why why-questions are so dangerous, they tend to be more open then what-questions)
    Maybe there is even a step before finding the question:
    Knowing your problem. Or even better: Knowing your goal.
    If you can't name those, that could be a good point to start asking.
    Final advice:
    Try and keep the phrasing of your problem, your goal, your question ans your answer as simple and straightforward as possible.
    The more mundane it sounds, the less risk you are actually lying to youself ;)"Ask why not what" "Ask why not what"

  • jeff illi
    jeff illi 3 месяца назад

    Nathan, Sara, Jose, Tasha.... very social justice of ya

  • Robert Mckinney
    Robert Mckinney 3 месяца назад

    Introspection is an application; some use it to improve, some prefer otherwise.

  • 73514 V0r73x
    73514 V0r73x 3 месяца назад

    lost me at mansplaining

  • Secret dupatte Wali
    Secret dupatte Wali 3 месяца назад

    The first is to ask.why..and then react on it that is your what
    Know the problem and solve it..

  • TheMightyWill
    TheMightyWill 3 месяца назад

    goddamn she's a slow speaker

  • olive ostrich
    olive ostrich 3 месяца назад

    Why are comments so critical ?

    • Jo Montanee
      Jo Montanee Месяц назад

      Because her core message is not right.

  • omerdem Celik
    omerdem Celik 3 месяца назад +2

    Hope she is reading reviews here too! Very long speech without clear explanations. Many gaps in logic! She talks about over-thinking and names it self-awareness. Why and What questions are related. You have to understand why something happened. Then you can act on it to improve the situation you are in. Can you cure a disease without knowing what is causing it? Title should be: "Stop overthinking and take action"

  • sahil shaikh
    sahil shaikh 3 месяца назад

    I got a lots of ways to do my work.

  • Lolke Dijkstra
    Lolke Dijkstra 3 месяца назад

    Thank you! The trap of overreflection was very well known to me. Your talk was convincing, focused and clearly backed up by research. Just ordered the book.

  • Kuangting Yen
    Kuangting Yen 3 месяца назад

    Before I have been taught and tried not to use the word “why”
    I did so ,I did not dare to ask many things
    which I really did not understand besides I had a totally
    Different point of view to those things and I wanted to change their point of view.
    I was not quite happy about it- don’t ask “why”
    I am so Lucky to watch your speech.
    I will always

    I fully agreed with your last word the powerful ending that
    Yesterday I was clever and I want to change the world
    Today I am so wise and I am changing my self
    I will ask what instead of why
    Thank you
    My all friend will b
    Be benefited through my interpretation

  • ::::::::::::
    :::::::::::: 3 месяца назад +5

    When you ask WHY, you can find the answer to your problem and figure out WHAT you need to do to fix it. She assumes that people are only asking why but not answering their own question. You can only get the "what" by asking yourself questions about why or how the problem happened.

    • ShoGo Racing
      ShoGo Racing 14 дней назад

      :::::::::::: That’s my understanding as well!

    • violett b
      violett b Месяц назад +1

      exactly. Why is very important question. Without you can spend years doing things you believe you "have to" do.

  • Rohit Goswami
    Rohit Goswami 3 месяца назад

    Welcome sweetheart

  • Stephanie Barry
    Stephanie Barry 3 месяца назад

    This speaks to me so deeply, it's almost as if she wrote this for me.

  • Rafayatul Kabir Rabby
    Rafayatul Kabir Rabby 3 месяца назад +1

    I thought it's always the "why" that defines the purpose of our existence.

    • Jo Montanee
      Jo Montanee Месяц назад

      Your thought is right.

  • mt89
    mt89 3 месяца назад

    I watched it for 10 mins and this woman still hasn’t gotten to the point, so much bs.

  • Art Maknev
    Art Maknev 3 месяца назад

    what the heck is interspected?

  • Sven AERTS
    Sven AERTS 3 месяца назад

    cf the experiment with 4 pairs of identical pants on 4 tables and 4/5 choose the right most table. Is that also with people who read from right to left like Chinese, Arabic? thy

  • Dr.Pongthep Phinainitisatra
    Dr.Pongthep Phinainitisatra 3 месяца назад

    According to Tasha's statements... ["To start, we just need to change one simple word.
    Change "why" to "what."
    Why-questions trap us in that rearview mirror.
    What-questions move us forward to our future.
    I think we should continue asking more "How-questions" in order that we could perform something to avoid or forget all the Why-questions and find the right answer and do it immediately to solve the What-questions to improve our Self-awareness !!!

  • sean stone
    sean stone 3 месяца назад

    why did this happen to me and what can we do to correct it you took way to long explaining what I just said??

  • Tsering Kunga
    Tsering Kunga 4 месяца назад

    That’s why I have been experience more stress since I have started to awareness of myself and others’ thought and reaction, bcoz I always thing why this happen to me and why they are talking and thinking such a negative. Since now I’ll try to what instead of why. I have seen logic on this strategy. Thank you so much

  • iris simmons
    iris simmons 4 месяца назад

    Oh my God .........that is why I have been stuck lately. I am by nature a professional why person. But my profession was to find the what and take action. I just need to apply that to daily living and then I will be freer to fulfill Gods purpose for my life. Lord what do you want me to do.......not why did ....why should i...why did they do... Tasha, I listed some things about myself and after asking what .....a light bulb came on. Thank you and may God continue to bless you.

  • Sneha Mallya
    Sneha Mallya 4 месяца назад

    Pretty dress..

  • Anna Mather
    Anna Mather 4 месяца назад

    lol... I've been 'persecuted' for asking someone why someone was so sad!! WHAT!? THEY AREN"T SAD!!! I could just stare back in silence....