3 reasons you aren’t doing what you say you will do | Amanda Crowell | TEDxHarrisburg

  • Published on Jan 9, 2019
  • Amanda explores how to move beyond mindset-driven defensive failure and into productive failure to succeed at the problems you struggle with the most. Amanda Crowell is a cognitive psychologist, university professor at the Hunter College School of Education, speaker and coach. Dr. Crowell works with teachers, therapists, and mission-driven entrepreneurs to clear away mindset blocks and move into action. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

Comments • 248

  • Rafael Almeida
    Rafael Almeida 3 days ago

    My Skype
    For conversation in English, pls

  • Prachi Sambhare
    Prachi Sambhare 4 days ago +1

    Hey, thanks a lot. Eye-opener session. Loved it. Thanks again lady.

  • Hamza Raja
    Hamza Raja 6 days ago +1

    I needed this so much, I can't even.
    The most on point ted talk ever for sure.

  • Lincoln Rathod
    Lincoln Rathod 7 days ago

    4:10 the crowds sleeping or best playing dead, it does not hurt to laugh even if you are in a serious talk show

  • Sarah Muhammed Saleh
    Sarah Muhammed Saleh 8 days ago +1

    Great talk!

  • M Gopinath
    M Gopinath 12 days ago

    3 Reason
    ( Why you are locked in cycle of defensive failure are -: )

    1.Deep in our mind you think you can't do it.
    2.Believing that"You don't do things like this" because you highly identify yourself with a false self Identity.
    3.Secretly you don't want to do it.

  • Robyn Hodgkiss
    Robyn Hodgkiss 17 days ago

    I find it really interesting that so many of the comments are focused on the audience.. (as this one in turn is focused on the previous commenters) as opposed to your own/my own thoughts on our own behaviour and thoughts on the video content.

  • Jitendra Singh
    Jitendra Singh 18 days ago

    Found 3 reasons why I wasnt watching this videos which I believed I will watch..

  • Ivegotwo
    Ivegotwo 18 days ago +1

    An Amazing talk! The humor feels inauthentic but her words convey her message very clearly. This talk prompted me to look within myself and reflect on the half truths I've been convincing myself of. Also those hand motions are the most articulate I've ever seen. Bravo!

  • Ki Wi
    Ki Wi 19 days ago +1

    That was a really great, engaging talk! For those of you asking what's wrong with the audience, I would say the mic is probably hooked up so the audio of her comes through clearly on the video, not on the audience to stop a lot of additional noises (coughing, shifting, rustling) coming through.

  • Ricky Carbonaro
    Ricky Carbonaro 19 days ago +1

    good job, very respectful crowd.

  • Gayatri Ahuja
    Gayatri Ahuja 21 day ago +1

    it's 2 am and i'm so fired to exercise.

  • Anmol Behal
    Anmol Behal 21 day ago +21

    just loved her attitude and confidence 👏👏 well done girl 👍

  • sandro palmas
    sandro palmas 22 days ago +1

    Amanda, Thanks a lot. For now I had to take some notes to properly weight each word in some parts but you really simplify a complex stuff. I will come back to you in some months. Thanks again. Last thing I'm not understanding why your video is not having some million of visualization.

  • Sean Cook
    Sean Cook 25 days ago

    I'm sorry but this woman isn't the sharpest tool in the shed

  • Miraclefemme
    Miraclefemme 26 days ago +1

    Emma Stone. Great talk!

  • Gay Transgender Dilophosaurus

    Did this poor lady talk infront of a hall of corpses? I thought she was quite fun to listen to. :/

  • rhadawn bibby
    rhadawn bibby Month ago +1

    Also this woman is so funny who is in this audience

  • rhadawn bibby
    rhadawn bibby Month ago +1

    she came for me

  • Trần Hữu Tài
    Trần Hữu Tài Month ago +1

    Great advices. Thank you very much !

  • Jewelweed
    Jewelweed Month ago +1

    If you depend on the bear in order to start running...you might not be fit enough to get away when needed. Practice so you can get away from the bear, or the attacker, when it counts. Just another way to think about that.

  • nimeesha singh
    nimeesha singh Month ago +1

    Great video ✌️✌️

  • hellowhatup
    hellowhatup Month ago +1

    I love you - you are so wonderful, your kids are thankful to have you as a mom. so helpful ! !

  • DirectedByRocko
    DirectedByRocko Month ago

    Im gonna watch this later

  • acramish
    acramish Month ago +5

    The three situations she mentioned: exercising, networking and budgetting, are exactly the things I kept telling myself I'd do. Haha

  • James Remus
    James Remus Month ago +20

    Does she remind anyone else of Emma Stone?

    • Ki Wi
      Ki Wi 19 days ago

      I thought the same thing!

  • Indoona
    Indoona Month ago +1

    So the audience aren't good because: 1) Secretly they don't believe they can be a good audience 2) They don't think they are like people that can be a good audience 3)Being a good audience doesn't interest them enough, if they're honest

  • Joejo Cas
    Joejo Cas Month ago +95

    Boi, RU-clip Algorithm knows what Ive been dealing with in my life

  • Myke Buechele
    Myke Buechele Month ago +1

    Thank you..what a great speaker

  • TechDaddy
    TechDaddy Month ago +2

    People who complain about the crowd should learn about microphone placement. The sound comes mainly from the directional microphone she has next to her mouth, which is why we can barely hear the crowd.

    • sidesw1pe
      sidesw1pe Month ago

      I know, right? So much victim mentality.

  • Dealita Munichasari
    Dealita Munichasari Month ago +1

    Great speaker with great gestures!

  • Giulyan Gonçalves
    Giulyan Gonçalves Month ago +1

    Loved it!

  • Daniel Methner
    Daniel Methner Month ago

    change the speed to 1.5 to hear a normal person talking.

  • imahamo1
    imahamo1 Month ago +3

    Speaker: I never ever exercised
    Me: We are now friends
    Lesson: My mind is stopping me from achieving what I want to do. Smh 😅

    • Leigh Gordy
      Leigh Gordy Month ago

      Get outta my head, get onto my couch, friend.

  • Lulukova
    Lulukova Month ago

    I think my problem is that there is someone who told me: “You should be doing something else, like studying or something. Writing is a waste of time, because writers are not making much money.” What a fake friend? Not just for telling me this, but also for doing some other, much worse things.

    I don't have a problem with writing short stories or poems, but with opening that document with my unfinished novel. Opening the document is hard, but when I gather enough strength to write, it is going well and I enjoy it. I will finish it somehow. It is going slower than it should, but I am doing it.

    I apologize for bad english. I am not a native speaker. I know you are thinking: “Why is somebody writing about writing with such a bad grammar?”

  • Richard Lopez
    Richard Lopez Month ago

    2019's a good year to renounce victimhood. Not to bully anyone. Just quit hitting yourself in the face.

  • Guilherme Costa Coimbra

    3 reasons you arent doing what u say you will do... Wow i really need this *save to watch latter*

  • Olga Churilova
    Olga Churilova Month ago +1

    Love it 😍

  • Linda Ugelow
    Linda Ugelow Month ago +1

    What a fabulous talk and performance. Funny and deep at the same time. Thanks!

  • Still Waters Farm
    Still Waters Farm Month ago +1

    Maybe people who didn’t laugh were just focused on the message. I didn’t laugh at this for that reason. I wasn’t looking to be entertained, but to understand this science.

    • Amanda Crowell
      Amanda Crowell Month ago

      Still Waters Farm I think so, too! Also some of it is the audio, there was more laughter in real life!

  • Puja Bhandari
    Puja Bhandari Month ago +1

    Loved it really inspiring ☺☺

  • Anna Conathan
    Anna Conathan Month ago +1

    Girl. This is OSM. You nailed this talk. Sorry your audience was DOA.

    • Anna Conathan
      Anna Conathan Month ago +1

      @Amanda Crowell Phew! You rocked it. Glad they were present to that.

    • Amanda Crowell
      Amanda Crowell Month ago

      Anna Conathan THANKS!! And the audience was really very engaged- the audio just doesn't pick it up very well.

  • Kimberly Daniels
    Kimberly Daniels Month ago +7

    Girl that was helpful...love your attitude! Stay confident and maybe stomp your foot to the deadheads in that audience. 😂

  • Anu Chaudhry
    Anu Chaudhry Month ago +2

    Soo tru!!!! Thanks for sharing 🙏🙏🙏

  • James Hutchins
    James Hutchins 2 months ago +45

    Excellent talk. Reason crowd seemed so quiet is bc most ppl don't like hearing the truth and she hit everything right on the head.

  • Ishaq Nabi
    Ishaq Nabi 2 months ago +8

    Great talk, great content, good puns and amazing charisma. 👏👏👏👏

  • Trudy Dsouza
    Trudy Dsouza 2 months ago +17

    what's with the crowd?? Great talk Amanda. I hope you see this!

    • Amanda Crowell
      Amanda Crowell 2 months ago +3

      Trudy Dsouza thank you trudy! I appreciate that!

  • The erotic Show
    The erotic Show 2 months ago +2


  • huevonesunltd
    huevonesunltd 2 months ago +4

    I am pretty sure the audience is too far away for them to be heard at all by the microphone.

    • Amanda Crowell
      Amanda Crowell Month ago

      huevonesunltd I think so too. There were big tables in the front row that pushed them back a bit. There was much more laughter in real life! Thanks!

  • Jade Damboise Rail
    Jade Damboise Rail 2 months ago

    My biggest barrier to exercising for some years was self-consciousness and performance anxiety.

  • Jade Damboise Rail
    Jade Damboise Rail 2 months ago

    I have always loved to exercise! I keep getting hurt though.

  • Suzanne Dunning
    Suzanne Dunning 2 months ago +2

    Amanda you're brilliant. This Tedx Talk makes me never ever want to go to Virginia or wherever this was filmed.

    • Amanda Crowell
      Amanda Crowell 2 months ago +1

      Suzanne Dunning thank you!! It was in Harrisburg and they were really very nice! It's just that they seem to have lost the sounds of the audience!

  • David Compton
    David Compton 2 months ago +1

    Thank you for this talk. I have been stuck completely point 1 for talent and genetics was ("ok sometimes I am like this but intellectually I know that's not the whole thing") point 2 for identity ("I am like this so conflict with what 'want to do' means I binge watch (so I need to look at what I think my identity is and find a role model) point 3 Value for the wrong reasons ("This is who I am, my comfort zone, I know what happens next") but this is habit too! So it is so for people who have continued success just the other side of the coin. They have got to a stage where it is hard to fail. Looking to the long term goals will allow me to reshape the journey if the job is not happening but the long term is to earn a standard amount. Great talk. Funny and professional and as an extra wow as a redhead. Thank you for your clear concise thinking. :)

    • Amanda Crowell
      Amanda Crowell 2 months ago

      David Compton yes! I often tell people they this is especially true for high achievers who have reached a plateau and are so used to success that the idea of doing something new that could fail feels really hard because it threatens all three at once.

  • Johanna Tuominen
    Johanna Tuominen 2 months ago +1

    "........ and you're not there because you're at home on the chouch in your stretchy pants knee-deep into the 13th episode of the first season of Friends... AGAIN. Man why did this hit so hard 😂😂😂

    • Amanda Crowell
      Amanda Crowell 2 months ago +1

      Johanna Tuominen we've all been there!!!!

  • Wildfire Tina
    Wildfire Tina 2 months ago +5

    Awesome talk! Thank you for sharing this info and your story. 💪🏽

  • Ennaid Rolf
    Ennaid Rolf 2 months ago +6

    Wow! Makes a lot of sense. I find this very informative and helpful.

  • Ryan Haymer
    Ryan Haymer 2 months ago +2

    Good insight 👍 She is a natural at speaking to audiences. Enjoyed listening to her 👌

    • Ryan Haymer
      Ryan Haymer 2 months ago

      Amanda Crowell Your welcome 😊

    • Amanda Crowell
      Amanda Crowell 2 months ago +1

      Ryan Haymer thanks! I appreciate that!

  • neha m
    neha m 2 months ago

    She sounds like Rachel from Freinds

  • Mona G
    Mona G 2 months ago +6

    This is spot-on.. I didn't even know I was doing this! My dream is to become a musical theatre actress and although I am taking singing lessons, I always stop myself and think that I don't have what is required and that I have too little experience. Maybe I should, instead of procrastinating and whining, go out and GET experience, despite my brain telling me to stay home

  • Aparup Behera
    Aparup Behera 2 months ago +1

    Is she rehearsing before an empty audience?

  • edwin henri
    edwin henri 2 months ago

    Oof* tough crowd

  • Ajay Dhodiya
    Ajay Dhodiya 2 months ago +7

    What's wrong with the Audience?
    She is A$$mazing😍😍

  • Zahid H Khan
    Zahid H Khan 2 months ago +1


  • FeelitSupreme
    FeelitSupreme 2 months ago +40

    This crowd. Were they summoned here for jury duty?

  • Niente Nome
    Niente Nome 2 months ago +3

    I found it very helpfull thanks a lot.

  • SVin
    SVin 3 months ago +2


  • Karina M
    Karina M 3 months ago +9

    One of the BEST Ted Talks! Just WOW!!

    SHIVAM THAPA 3 months ago +4

    practical motivation ....kudos

  • Sayn Singh
    Sayn Singh 3 months ago +3

    This was so intrinsic for me to see it...haha i so love it

  • Alana Does Not Like Obsessive KPOP Stans

    That explains a lot.
    I really do believe I can't do it.

  • Louise Emily
    Louise Emily 3 months ago +3

    Come on audience, wake up! Good talk but dead audience.

  • Estefanía Palacio
    Estefanía Palacio 3 months ago +1

    This sound so much like me

  • Rania Char
    Rania Char 3 months ago +14

    These people are getting on my nerves !! what's wrong with them !!?? she's soooo funny why isn't anyone responding are they dead ??!!!
    Great talk thank you it was really inspiring and empowering !
    You're beautiful btw

    • Lena S
      Lena S Month ago +1

      A few half-hearted giggles....too much effort to react???

    • vjhfdtcydshutd
      vjhfdtcydshutd 2 months ago +1

      Watch this at 3 an some night you can't sleep. It's still as effective, and I don't care what the audience response is :-p

  • Nora Fouad
    Nora Fouad 3 months ago +2

    Looooooved it

  • Holly Hudson
    Holly Hudson 3 months ago +6

    When they record these talks they silence the crowd so we can hear her better.

  • OriginalTharios
    OriginalTharios 3 months ago

    I don't do it, because there's no point in doing it. You people want to fail...and I'm not interested in turning you around. I get nothing for doing so, and it wouldn't work anyway. It's like trying to steer the Titanic away from the iceberg when the entire population of the ship has forcibly jammed the rudder in place so that the ship cannot be saved...and is actively defending the damage from being repaired.
    To save the ship, I'd have to kill all of you to get to the problem anyway...so what's the point, then?

  • Tin Chan JC
    Tin Chan JC 3 months ago +1

    Thank you

  • Droidaimone
    Droidaimone 3 months ago +6

    Truly a lot of the Tedx talks have been so much better than the actual Ted talks lately. Good vod!

  • Gaurav Choudhary
    Gaurav Choudhary 3 months ago +5

    Deep in their mind audience think that they cant laugh so they are not laughing at jokes.Thats the first point

  • Nikky Aide
    Nikky Aide 3 months ago +11

    Thank you for inspiring me to get back on track with my real estate course and a documentary about running I’ve been planning in my head but too defensive to actually put effort into making happen. You are a gem 💎!

  • Queen Goldie Lush
    Queen Goldie Lush 3 months ago +13

    Productive failure. Damn thanks.

  • Jacqueline Challenor
    Jacqueline Challenor 3 months ago +4

    Thank you xxxx really needed this xxx

  • Flying Chef
    Flying Chef 3 months ago +2

    Geez, can she talk about something actually relevant or how about important?

  • 2004to2009
    2004to2009 3 months ago +6

    Great talk, definitely gave me something to think about ❤️❤️

  • GeorgeWithAJ 91
    GeorgeWithAJ 91 4 months ago +7

    I like her, she's funny and gitty. this crowd is dead.... And rude

  • Rohit Goswami
    Rohit Goswami 4 months ago


  • Rohit Goswami
    Rohit Goswami 4 months ago

    But u are sweetheart

  • Rohit Goswami
    Rohit Goswami 4 months ago

    I dont know who I m

  • aafster life
    aafster life 4 months ago

    I'm sure this is a great talk, but the crowd's refusal to laugh is just painful. I couldn't go beyond 4 minutes.

  • Jamie Ritchey
    Jamie Ritchey 4 months ago +9

    This is me to a tee. 💡 Total ah-hah moment. ♥

  • Mbali Mashazi
    Mbali Mashazi 4 months ago +4

    she is literally talking about me :(

  • loboestepario2424
    loboestepario2424 4 months ago

    Why every single talk that US people give are centered on their personal life? I've seen at least 10 of these talks and all of them have the same pattern, as if US people don't get close and personal the audience are not going to believe what they are saying.

  • Zain Anees
    Zain Anees 4 months ago +14

    Damn girl I think u r the answer to my problems and associated with it .....the depression....I will really try to apply this...and see where this goes....thumps up and keep up the good work

  • Nothing Is impossible
    Nothing Is impossible 4 months ago


  • Kao Ru
    Kao Ru 4 months ago +2

    Exactly what I needed right now. Thank you

  • bernecho
    bernecho 4 months ago +1

    Loved this talk and yes what a boring crowd, she was funny and informative and vulnerable and real. Audience wasn't, too bad for them

    • Amanda Crowell
      Amanda Crowell 4 months ago

      Thank you for your support! They were more engaged in real life, but they do seem totally disengaged in this video!

  • Olga Filmes
    Olga Filmes 4 months ago +15

    I got here with no expectations are at all and it turned out to be one of the best talks I've ever seen.

  • Renee D. Gross
    Renee D. Gross 4 months ago +2

    I really appreciated this particular Ted Talk because it gave clear insight; as well, good reminding: Effort is more factoring* over Talent. {Talent can be taken for granted; if not nurtured and honed on a consistent basis, indeed how true...especially by elected limitation.}

  • Sikachu in Japan
    Sikachu in Japan 4 months ago +2

    tough crowd. I really needed to hear this speech! It's hard to admit these things to yourself.

    • Amanda Crowell
      Amanda Crowell 4 months ago

      Agreed! But admitting it is how we are able to move around them!

  • uchihaheyhihi
    uchihaheyhihi 4 months ago +2

    This is very good. I relate to this with the goals I set for myself and meeting deadlines for uni. I enjoyed this. Thank you so much