How to Meet New People - 6 Tips for Making More Friends

  • Published on Sep 1, 2018
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    It can be tough to make friends, especially when you're not a kid anymore. Where do you go to meet new people? How do you introduce yourself and break the ice? And (my biggest challenge) how do you keep conversations going and prevent them from fizzling out?
    Today, we'll cover 6 useful tips for talking to people and building new friendships. Whether you're in high school, college, or are already out in the real world, I think you'll find these helpful.
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Comments • 593

  • Yacile D.
    Yacile D. Year ago +436

    I think you forgot a really important point, it's to be friend with yourself first (like Tyler Durden lol jk); if you go out and address people while being uneasy with yourself they'll look at you as if you were desperate for company ... unfortunately they will not riposte positively in a way of helping you but they'll see you as a lonely nerd who has never experienced friendship before (90% of the time because there are still decent folks out there).

    • SucceedEng
      SucceedEng 2 months ago

      Great point 👌

    • Abdul Kamara
      Abdul Kamara 10 months ago

      talk like u er talking with tym
      an knowledge others.😰😰😰😷😷😷

    • SoloWolf 100
      SoloWolf 100 Year ago +5

      Exactly. And if you love yourself, it'll be harder for people to take advantage of you because you'll be more willing to walk away from a toxic friendship, even if that is the only "friendship" you have at the moment.

  • Batcavesales Batman
    Batcavesales Batman 7 hours ago

    Hello my 303 people. Want to be friends ? I want to be your friend;)

  • Gavi Marion
    Gavi Marion Day ago

    Soooo... what is RU-clip trying to tell me?

  • Tiffahni A. Harris
    Tiffahni A. Harris 7 days ago

    Nerds run the word though. I don't know who came up with that backwards insult lmao

  • Sára Csiffáryová
    Sára Csiffáryová 10 days ago

    Well. Im so awkward and I cant speak normally.

  • Emily Joy
    Emily Joy 10 days ago +1

    Does anyone want to be my friend? 😂

    • Marco Solis
      Marco Solis 5 days ago

      @EugeneVideo hi!

    • EugeneVideo
      EugeneVideo 10 days ago

      I'm Eugene
      I love playing games,watching tv and reading
      also sport

    • EugeneVideo
      EugeneVideo 10 days ago

      sure! why not

  • Otavio Oliveira
    Otavio Oliveira 10 days ago

    Great tips! But I would like to comment about the listening to audiobooks because, despite them being very handy, sometimes it's better NOT to fill every gap in our schedule with "productivity". It's equally important to have moments in which we don't look for things outside our mind, but to cultivate a quieter life.

  • Breyden Doane
    Breyden Doane 11 days ago +1

    they need to making a dating app just, friend making app instead. Find similar interests, ideas and blah blah blah

  • Rrrr Mmmm
    Rrrr Mmmm 11 days ago

    I have no friends so thx for the help

  • Meera _16m
    Meera _16m 14 days ago +1

    Is anyone looking for internet friends?

  • M.xn1qxe
    M.xn1qxe 17 days ago +1

    Someone be friends with me , start a conversation

    • Nico Nekatasu
      Nico Nekatasu 11 days ago

      M.xn1qxe I’m from Canada

    • M.xn1qxe
      M.xn1qxe 12 days ago

      Nico Nekatasu oh I don’t play anything , what country you from

    • Nico Nekatasu
      Nico Nekatasu 12 days ago

      M.xn1qxe I play the flute

    • Nico Nekatasu
      Nico Nekatasu 12 days ago

      M.xn1qxe class where you play instruments

    • M.xn1qxe
      M.xn1qxe 13 days ago

      Nico Nekatasu whats band class

  • Toriun
    Toriun 17 days ago

    I'm looking for friends I'm 24, from Lithuania. My Telegram is: Toriun7

  • Pencil Boot
    Pencil Boot 20 days ago

    How do I not come off as desperate. Like I try but it’s really hard.. anyone have tips?

  • Paolo Bruschi
    Paolo Bruschi 21 day ago

    These guys had a pretty nice "making friends" idea:

  • Josh Whittaker
    Josh Whittaker 23 days ago +1

    I'm just a weird dumbarse who cant even speak right

    • ismini
      ismini 16 days ago

      Me too want to be friends?

  • Dragon Mohammed
    Dragon Mohammed 24 days ago

    Plz answer but I had a really good friend then he got mad at me cause I was asking him personal question which I should have not say. So what do you think I should do to be his friend again?

  • Code
    Code 27 days ago +5

    How on earth do you lose a friend by liking spreadsheets???

  • ricky m
    ricky m Month ago


  • Michael Foster
    Michael Foster Month ago

    7:13 L M A O... I spat my drink seriously. Out of nowhere.

  • Lara Smith
    Lara Smith Month ago

    🦋fear is a liar, treat others how you want to be treated

  • Loni;-; Woah
    Loni;-; Woah Month ago +1

    I didn’t get anything I’m staring at ur sexy face 💘

  • TheXplosifBrosif
    TheXplosifBrosif Month ago +1

    Microsoft Excel: *Exists*
    Friends: *Becomes extinct*

  • NOT!nsaneツ
    NOT!nsaneツ Month ago

    Title how to make more friends.
    Me- I dont even have any 😞

  • デ鉛韻Just a blink

    I lost all friend, cause they don’t like me and they are toxic

  • Rookie Canada Life
    Rookie Canada Life Month ago

    Do you guys want to be my friend?

  • Melissa Rod
    Melissa Rod Month ago

    Thomas you are interesting and very attractive 😁 Thanks for the tips 👍

  • smail smail
    smail smail Month ago

    I can meet new friends

  • iTzIsaacFTW
    iTzIsaacFTW Month ago

    The 3 seconds trick really works, never thought of it, thanks.

  • Supernova Zap
    Supernova Zap Month ago +1

    I need new friends now, its pathetic I'm 26 and still clinging to friends from high school who honestly never cared about me. I haven't gotten an initiated phone call from them in 5 or 7 years, I have always been the one initiating the conversation. I began to realize too that the only reason they were my friends, was because I lacked proper social skills, I have autism and we hung out of convenience and a common interest for video games, not anything deeper than that. I feel like I wasted a good portion of my life, I wish I never met a few of those guys.

    • summersworld
      summersworld Month ago

      I hope you make new friends soon. I suggest joining a club or something where you can meet people with the same interests as you. Also see a counselor they can really help with social skills

  • Kozhin Kokopo
    Kozhin Kokopo Month ago

    What if everyone hate you it’s extreme

  • cooldude5699
    cooldude5699 Month ago

    Will you be my friend?

  • Ali Barsnack
    Ali Barsnack Month ago

    Join your local wine making club! 🤪

  • Ali Barsnack
    Ali Barsnack Month ago

    I thought you were gonna say you made the mistake of buying your friends..

  • Warriors Flash Sidat

    Would u be my new friend

  • Better Every Day
    Better Every Day Month ago

    Hahaha yeah making friends can be easy if you put yourself out there, in my last few videos I show how I meet random people in the streets and make new friends easily 🤙

  • life of slav
    life of slav Month ago

    I wach this video just for memes

  • Mister.Wolverine Cayden

    i have no friends

  • Thalie Ferry
    Thalie Ferry 2 months ago

    Me very social and can chat down for hours and then I get invited to go for a drink or a bite and I ignorantly declined 😩😔 or fear talk me out of accepting. Now, In my third year of uni, I have no friends.

  • Matt Garcia
    Matt Garcia 2 months ago

    I don’t think most people are extroverts

  • Typical naps
    Typical naps 2 months ago

    moving to a new city AND im home schooled

  • Ross
    Ross 2 months ago

    Wow, what has it come to, that at 40 something I have had to admit to myself, I dont know how to make friends and totally afraid of approaching people. Im scared to talk to guys, terrified to talk to women. I used to use alchohol and drugs to allow me to socialize, but I found my social anxiety and shyness was SO overwhelming bad that I had to get high\drunk to the point of either almost becomming unconcious or making a complete fool of myself, which made making friends impossible, which was the whole point. Never been able to conquer this shyness, I am particularly bad with it, but I know soo many other people out there suffer with it. I dont have the answers, but I wrote this partly to let anyone out there, struggling with this, know you are definitely not alone, at least not in that sense. At 40 I feel time is running out and I MUST face this fear now, or simply give up like a coward and hide in my house. Well thats just not gonna happen.

  • Bozhidar Valchev
    Bozhidar Valchev 2 months ago

    I knew you were gemini Thomas! Only Gemini love learning everything on earth!

  • Gaspar Sanchez
    Gaspar Sanchez 2 months ago

    I would like talk with new people, who wants talk?

  • James Angus
    James Angus 2 months ago

    7:15 - Aaaaaand that's how you get likes without asking

  • Jewels Okike
    Jewels Okike 2 months ago

    Usually done in spare time.

  • Jewels Okike
    Jewels Okike 2 months ago

    AKA hobbies.

  • Jewels Okike
    Jewels Okike 2 months ago

    It's cool to have individualized interest.

  • Jewels Okike
    Jewels Okike 2 months ago

    I just take the time off to read or watch a movie.

  • Guy
    Guy 2 months ago

    Anyone in the comment section want to be my friend?...

  • Progressive Rockman
    Progressive Rockman 2 months ago

    Megaman X6 isn't a very good game. That's why you don't have friends.
    Seriously, though. It's awesome that you are a nerd and are able to be a normal person who cares about their fitness and finances and eloquent with your speech. Life is a balance and it's easy to get lost in one aspect of it and lose the balance of it all. These are all things I've struggled with and as I get older are falling into place a little bit better. Thanks for the video and inspiration!

  • jack ree
    jack ree 2 months ago

    call me if anyone needs poor, bad n not handsome friend. 017 2020 377, Z

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  • A V
    A V 2 months ago

    I've moved to a new city and I haven't hung out with 1 person in 9 months. It sucks

  • Farrel Ramadhana
    Farrel Ramadhana 2 months ago

    why is this guy look like jake gylenhaal


  • SucceedEng
    SucceedEng 2 months ago

    Don't find but be a friend.
    1- Where to go. Go to active places where people go:, look up Facebook groups and events features.
    2- remember to try new things: don't just try things you like.
    3- Don't ignore proximity friends: you don't have to have same sets of interests.
    4- how to break the ice: live by the 3 second rule. Decide whether you wanna talk...within then.
    5- remember some conversations may fizzle out: it's okay.
    6- take interest and ask questions: take context from activities you are working on not just Netflix.
    7-an interested person is interesting person: then you can click with anyone.

  • Ag silver Radio
    Ag silver Radio 2 months ago

    Your friends left you, because they thoght you were too nerdy? Those are some lousy friends!

  • Fuzzytoess
    Fuzzytoess 2 months ago

    I have no friends..

  • ocean chime
    ocean chime 3 months ago

    Meet friends you meet disapointment

  • Mr. Sunglasses
    Mr. Sunglasses 3 months ago

    You boys are all my friends!

  • Remothiru 11
    Remothiru 11 3 months ago +2

    I'm just shy and awkward and cringe and dum at everything I just get bullied no lies.

  • 赵铁柱
    赵铁柱 3 months ago

    I'm a Chinese. Want to make friends with foreigners