With deepest sympathy: Addressing grief

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  • Published on Nov 10, 2019
  • Dealing with death is simply part of living life, as every person who dies leaves behind loved ones who must face a grieving process. And while most of us eventually adapt to a "new normal," one in 10 endures what researchers calls "complicated grief." For them the acute phase of grief never lets up. Susan Spencer investigates the study of grief with Dr. Katherine Shear, and how a website, Modern Loss, is sharing personal stories of grief, loss and coping from around the world, sometimes with unexpected twists. She also talks with columnist Leslie Gray Streeter, who wrote the loss of her husband and came up with a surprising response to her grief.
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Comments • 137

  • RDT JDB
    RDT JDB 10 days ago

    I am grateful for this story because it is hard to know how to cope with loss. Thank you.

  • Mae M
    Mae M 13 days ago

    " Our lives become a " new normal " and we shall survive, missing them, but we shall survive. After 19 years of being a widow I miss cooking for my husband ! "

  • Michelle Vega
    Michelle Vega 15 days ago

    I miss my dad 11 11 19💔

  • ChillyToes
    ChillyToes 17 days ago

    My mother passed in July 2009 and my father in Sept 2015 and I'm just now settling myself to truly accept that they have passed. I can hardly remember the days and where I was or what I was doing for nearly 10 yrs now. This is the first Christmas since dad passed that I've decided to put up a Christmas tree and I used to love the holiday season. I still talk to both of them nearly every singe day, I miss them so very much. Love hurts...I am a believer and I look forward to seeing my parents again someday, God willing.

  • Colleen Lavoie
    Colleen Lavoie 18 days ago

    Thank you for this segment

  • Colleen Lavoie
    Colleen Lavoie 18 days ago

    I still miss many people really deep

  • Marie D
    Marie D 20 days ago +2

    I lost my youthful 81 yr old mother and my 37 yr old son (totally unexpected) within a week of each other 5 mos ago. I still feel like I'm in a daze. I don't want to go out. I work from home so l don't have to.

    • Marie D
      Marie D 18 days ago

      @Dias Lamure thank you so much

    • Dias Lamure
      Dias Lamure 19 days ago +2

      I'm really sorry for your loss honey. Sending
      (((((hugs)))))

  • Justin Williams
    Justin Williams 21 day ago +6

    I pray for anyone out there struggling to get on with their lives. May anyone who needs a blessing receive it in due time.

    • Mae M
      Mae M 13 days ago +1

      Haus_of_Justice,
      Amen ! "

  • terryfriend16
    terryfriend16 21 day ago +2

    Time does heal all wounds, just go on, go on to make the most beautiful life you have been given. Take a walk, a walk can do wonders.
    Spoken from a woman who lost her entire family within 12 years.
    Carry on.

  • Morris M Smith
    Morris M Smith 22 days ago +1

    🙏

  • JR Pacer
    JR Pacer 23 days ago +5

    I lost my father when I was 21 from cancer and 6 years later at 28 I lost my mother suddenly from a heart attack and I still feel the absents of them ...I’m 52 ..

  • Christina B.
    Christina B. 23 days ago +2

    Can this question be answered can grief be fatal?

    • Christina B.
      Christina B. 21 day ago

      That makes better sense with the third one as it was more of the nervous system being over worked. The first two wasn’t that bad and the one’s after that one wasn’t as bad. All I know is I don’t want to spend those 6 weeks of that ever again.

    • B the Change
      B the Change 23 days ago

      Christina B. No, you’d be in the hospital with heart attack symptoms...it’d be more than high heart rate and b/p. Those are definitely signs of stress and anxiety though. The inability to eat is also a sign of your nervous system in overdrive...the getting sick is likely your immune system not being able to optimally function due to nervous system overload.
      Blessings for healing. Hope you can speak to a grief counselor or group.

    • Christina B.
      Christina B. 23 days ago

      Wow so there is a disorder. I let me guess high pressure and high heart rate is the most severe complaint while can’t eat and getting sick?

    • B the Change
      B the Change 23 days ago +3

      Christina B. I worked with some patients who had broken heart syndrome or takotsubo syndrome, which is a cardiac myopathy after grief. The heart is stunned by the stress hormones etc and it acts similar to a heart attack.
      Some people are more resilient than others. A lot is a person’s ability and expectations of handling uncertainty and trauma.
      Women are more susceptible to this syndrome. I haven’t personally seen anyone die of it...but unresolved grief can definitely contribute to unhealthy coping and other hardship on the body, accelerating death.

  • Christina B.
    Christina B. 23 days ago +1

    If you were to read this comment and it said I had 12 family deaths how old is this person. Sure it sounds like older than 50. What if I told you now that person is me and I’m only 26 and this start when I was 12. You never be broken and lost until you loss someone you got to know.

    • Christina B.
      Christina B. 21 day ago

      thank you. I hope you have to loss anyone or not loss anymore. It’s a yearly thing. I can tell where I was and just how I knew even that’s what odd.

    • Denise B
      Denise B 21 day ago

      That's a tremendous amount of loss! My deepest sympathies. Please stay strong.

  • Irenee Shubert
    Irenee Shubert 24 days ago +4

    You have to face it, and in some cases, it goes beyond the death. I not only lost my husband, but I lost my entire family!

  • Melissa honey
    Melissa honey 25 days ago +3

    But can't get help is because it cost too much to go talk to somebody if it was a foldable and cheap people would do it or maybe you live somewhere they don't have that kind of people to talk to small towns don't carry therapist and some people can't afford to drive to another town uneven place to talk to a therapist I lost my mother in July in 2019 then two months later I lost my brother am I supposed to talk to does know nobody and I can't afford it

    • 81meganmarie
      81meganmarie 13 days ago +1

      Better Help and Talkspace allow you to meet with a counselor online and it's relatively affordable

    • Pam Spencer
      Pam Spencer 23 days ago +2

      Crisis services hotline call them

  • D Hurley
    D Hurley 25 days ago +7

    I miss my mom and dad ❤️

  • Ann Ham
    Ann Ham 25 days ago +7

    I have lost both my parents and so I am no stranger to grief. I am one of those individuals who gets tongue tied trying to find consoling words for someone who has lost someone and I hate to say this, but perhaps it is time that people quit being so self righteous about others failure to communicate their sympathies as though it should be some magic pill rather than a heartfelt sentiment where all words fall short, naturally, and the only thing that should matter are the loving efforts of a person who very often does know how hard it is to lose someone that is dear to you. The more you have personally suffered grief, the harder it is! The only thing that matters at such a time is to accept the compassion others feel for you at your time of grief and do so graciously.

    • Sareta Fernandes
      Sareta Fernandes 18 days ago

      Well said! The words will never by adequate but at least the person is willing to make an attempt at consolation.

    • Ann Ham
      Ann Ham 21 day ago

      @Denise B : Thank you! And love back to you!

    • Denise B
      Denise B 21 day ago

      sending love to you

  • Judy Newton
    Judy Newton 25 days ago +8

    I believe grief is the price we pay for love. The deeper the love the deeper the grief. After losing my 16 year old daughter to suicide and then almost becoming a casualty of that suicide myself I've shut myself off from love. When I allow myself to even stroke my cat lovingly or even appreciate a beautiful sunset, the pain that floods me is almost unbearable. So I close up tight and keep my feelings very superficial and I can go days at a time without a breakdown. Yet inevitably something triggers me and I'm lost. Consumed. Can barely function for days and can not be alone in my head. The shoulda coulda woulda game I play with myself. If only I had done this or that differently....
    I know I seriously need therapy. Yet hold off due to the fear that it will open the wounds from deep trauma throught my childhood that I buried long ago.
    I know without a doubt that doing that would surely be the undoing of me. So I wait. Endure another day hoping its the one that I finally get to find out what's on the other side and where my sweet baby girl is now. Thanks for reading if you did. I needed to get this out. RIP Devin Rain.

    • Sareta Fernandes
      Sareta Fernandes 18 days ago

      Meditation music. Hugs

    • Denise B
      Denise B 21 day ago

      oh honey- there is a light through your tunnel of grief.. hang in there

  • Jim Klipper
    Jim Klipper 26 days ago +5

    When people say, ‘I know what you are going through’, they don’t, even if said in good faith.

    • brilliantatbreakfast
      brilliantatbreakfast 21 hour ago

      If they've been through the same kind of loss they sometimes do. As much as we'd love to believe that our grief is somehow different, somehow special, something unique to us, it isn't. I've seen from my own experience and that of other widows that there are many common threads and even the timetables are sometimes smiliar -- the numbness of the first 6-9 months, the fetal position in months 9-12, the awfulness of the second year when the denial is over and you start getting rid of the clothes and realize that he's not going to need his Adidas basketball shoes....and when your friends stop wanting to hear about it at all. Life and relationships change with loss and you really feel it in Year Two. The good news is that at the end of year two, you're better situated to start writing on that blank slate that life has given you even though you didn't want it. But those "hit in the back of the head with a 2 x 4" moments ALWAYS come. They get less frequent, but they never go away.

    • lin2theZ
      lin2theZ 5 days ago

      Sometimes they do.....

    • Christina B.
      Christina B. 22 days ago

      It’s panics me because goal as I make friends is please don’t lose anyone close to you (or please don’t lose anymore) I fail at this.

    • Road Weary213
      Road Weary213 22 days ago +2

      Sometimes they actually do though

    • Christina B.
      Christina B. 23 days ago

      I wouldn’t be that mean but when people say that it panics me.

  • Lynn Gold
    Lynn Gold 26 days ago +3

    Just being there...a heartfelt hug...crying with the person...just saying I Am so sorry.When the time is right-tell me about your loved one.Checking in with the person after the funeral& when time is passed...thats what I do.

    • lin2theZ
      lin2theZ 5 days ago

      Continuing to talk about the person who died....it feels like, after a certain point, friends/family just stop talking about the deceased.

    • Denise B
      Denise B 21 day ago

      wise advice

    • Jim Klipper
      Jim Klipper 26 days ago +3

      Lynn Gold yes, continuing to ‘check In’. Most people, over time, go on with their own lives and forget about you.

  • 2213 Change
    2213 Change 26 days ago +1

    Can anyone give any tips for someone who lost their dad due to suivide?

    • Denise B
      Denise B 21 day ago +2

      You need to grieve whenever and where ever it comes up. It's part of the healing process of healthy people. God bless you.

    • 2213 Change
      2213 Change 23 days ago +2

      Thank you for your replies it means alot.

    • Pam Spencer
      Pam Spencer 23 days ago +1

      Crisis services hotline, call them asap❣️🙏

    • Margie Mackrell
      Margie Mackrell 24 days ago +1

      I also lost my dad to suicide. The death of a loved one to suicide is twofold, the death itself and the unnatural way they died. Learning to accept the unnatural helped, but that pain never goes away. Don’t be afraid to cry and be angry, it helps to get those feelings out. My recommendation is to find a good therapist to help you through.

    • Saira Sanchis
      Saira Sanchis 26 days ago +3

      Sorry dear. Just take it one day at a time. Don't blame yourself or anyone. These are things we cannot control. Take care of yourself and your family. Keep the good memories in mind to cope with the daily life you will have to face.

  • Plaid Zebra
    Plaid Zebra 27 days ago +15

    Its about a good support system where people show that they care and are willing to check in on you if you want them to or not. If you have those people (even that one) you are blessed and lucky. I lost my dad almost 11 months ago and my family has shown no interest or concern since his passing. Even to check on me his only son. So I'm basically doing this by myself. My point is if u have that support system even 1 person you are blessed cause it beats doing it alone.

    • Yolanda Estrada
      Yolanda Estrada 23 days ago +2

      An only son loses his dad. Wow that says it all. I am sorry to hear this. God bless you.

    • yankeeladee02
      yankeeladee02 24 days ago +4

      Plaid Zebra
      Bless your heart... Sometimes others unknowingly and unwillingly think you’re such a strong person, you’re brave, you’re handling it.
      It’s not a fair assumption, but it happens, especially to those of us that wear our “game faces” to get through the day(s). We learn to disguise our grief and cry behind closed doors, in the shower, in our cars.
      I am fortunate to have a few that check on me since I lost my sister 4 months ago, but to be really frank, even they don’t understand. I feel like only someone else that lost their sibling young and to an unfair disease “might” understand, but even then, our relationships to the one(s) we lost is so unique and there’s so much words can’t convey. Much of our bond with them could’ve been unspoken feelings when together or the priceless memories of spending your entire life with nearly every monumental memory with them by our side. A new normal where there’s always going to be a void. NOTHING can fill that void. We can’t even try. We can try to find a happy spot each day in their honor. A laugh, a smile, a dance, a good deed. Living honorably as they did. We mourn the greats, the best ones, the special people, the irreplaceable people.
      There is no “I’m all better now”, but the brutal rawness becomes less brutal. It’s like having been on crutches, learning how to walk without them (our loved ones), but now with a limp. The limp isn’t going away, but we can live even with the limp. The reminder is with us always. For me, pretty much 24/7. Sometimes I feel such sadness I can barely breathe. Then miraculously my sister will send me a hug or strength from above. Maybe there are no true signs as some dispel that notion, but perhaps it’s the love we had that gives me strength out of nowhere. For her... Stay strong... Hugs from a fellow grief warrior. 🤗☮️💟🛐🕊🕯

  • Lalo Lujan
    Lalo Lujan 27 days ago +6

    My dearly Mom passes away with a terrible illness, I am a believer, it was hard to see her suffering, I did give her to my God, I said to Him, please Lord, take her in your lovely arms, bcuz I know, you will take care of her, and when she died i did cry a lot, but I knew she finally find peace, eternal rest, 😪❤

  • Not A Snack
    Not A Snack 27 days ago +7

    Lost my mom 3 weeks ago. Breast cancer

    • Denise B
      Denise B 21 day ago

      @Jacquie B So true.... sending hugs to you

    • Denise B
      Denise B 21 day ago +1

      My heart goes out to you. so sorry for your loss... I lost my mom to cancer as well

    • Jacquie B
      Jacquie B 27 days ago +3

      Not A Snack I’m sorry for your loss. Cancer robbed me of my husband four months ago. Cancer is the most devastating and treacherous disease.

  • Glenn McCreary
    Glenn McCreary 27 days ago +5

    I can't imagine what it will feel like when I lose my parents. I lost my grandma in November 2018 and then in December 3 days before Christmas my oldest sister died. That was hard enough to get through and now with anniversaries and the holidays coming up e everything feels fresh and sad again.

    • Steverino
      Steverino 22 days ago

      The first several years, I found, were the toughest. After a decade or so, the pain is still there "numbed" by the passage of time. I'm very sorry for your loss

  • Kelly o
    Kelly o 28 days ago +11

    This is true. I felt like an orphan too. The only help for grief is time. Even then, it is just a matter of learning how to live with the pain of loss.

    • Judy Everist
      Judy Everist 16 days ago

      Glenn
      I can't feel your pain
      No one can
      But I can relate
      God bless you

    • Kelly o
      Kelly o 23 days ago +2

      @Yolanda Estrada Make the most of time with them now. Grieve when they really are gone because it will be gut wrenchingly painful then. I needed my parents too but had to learn to accept that they really were gone. It was difficult but with each passing year, I learned how to live with the pain.

    • Yolanda Estrada
      Yolanda Estrada 23 days ago +1

      Right now I feel like I have started grieving the death of my elderly parents despite them being here still. I keep thinking about it. I see how much they have aged and am very sad about it. I need my parents.

  • denise cappelletti
    denise cappelletti 28 days ago +16

    I miss the life I had before sometimes I do not want to leave my apartment order food in

    • Judy Everist
      Judy Everist 16 days ago

      Cynthia
      You 'll never forget but thing's do
      Get easier with time

    • NG0915
      NG0915 16 days ago +2

      Cynthia Cuomo I’m so very sorry for your deep loss, I couldn’t even imagine how that would feel. It’s only two days from now and I bet it’s just as painful as that first day! I’m sorry for both your losses. 😢

    • Cynthia Cuomo
      Cynthia Cuomo 18 days ago +1

      My husband died 3 years ago, he died on Nov. 29th... the marking of his death is now, 4 days from today...I have become 'by choice', isolated...I leave the house, 'only' when necessary...my world instantly turned upside down, when I watched him close his eyes for the last time...I've lost my place, I don't feel that I fit in anywhere... and this is because, I actually don't!

    • missy H
      missy H 25 days ago +2

      That's very understandable. There is life outside your four walls. I pray you find it. Love to you.

  • Pam Schobelock
    Pam Schobelock 28 days ago +10

    I just lost my dad on the Oct. 19th after a battle with mesothelioma. The grief is overwhelming. I know he is in a better place and his pain is gone. If it wasn't for my belief in God and knowing I will see him again, I wouldn't be able to make it thru the grief.

    • Denise B
      Denise B 21 day ago

      so sorry for your loss - stay strong

  • Calvin & Hobbes
    Calvin & Hobbes 29 days ago +8

    One of the many symptoms of grieving is people cry randomly for no particular reason at all! Anything could trigger and make them cry! But the root of that sadness is the reminder of the loss of loved one and inability to cope with family and loss of loved one's death! Don't look at them funny, or be insensitive or be awkward when they cry at random occasion! It is offensive and rude! For those that never been to that place, they have no fu**n' idea what its like!

    • Jacquie B
      Jacquie B 27 days ago +3

      Calvin & Hobbes Yes, so true.

  • Calvin & Hobbes
    Calvin & Hobbes 29 days ago +21

    I lost my mother to suicide at the age of 17 in 1993. I suffered with emotional pain and clinical and chronic depression for 12 or 13 years! I needed to seek mental health treatment, sent to mental hospital and lock up facility for 4 weeks, and received counseling! I also attempted my own suicide. I'm also a survivor of a heart attack. The best gift you could give to someone who is hurting, in pain, and in grieving, are listening ears and crying. Cry with them!! There is nothing that needs to be said. No need for words!! Don't say anything, especially don't tell them what to do!! That's the most worst thing you can ever do to someone who is in pain! I'm a much better person now who is in good health emotionally, mentally, and spiritually! Remember when Lazarus died, Jesus wept! Nothing more. 😥😞😢😭😰

  • Judi Welch
    Judi Welch 29 days ago +8

    I lost my beloved husband four months ago after 40 years of marriage. I live with the fog of grief daily. I miss him with all my heart and soul. I feel that I will never be happy again......unending sadness.😢

    • Proverbs Ryan
      Proverbs Ryan 13 days ago

      So sorry for your loss Judi, I pray that the Lord will be your comforter and strength in this time!

    • Denise B
      Denise B 21 day ago

      @Jacquie B You are such a kind person as I'm sure your husband knew ... so sorry for your loss

    • Denise B
      Denise B 21 day ago

      oh so sorry for what you are going through - I can't imagine.....

    • missy H
      missy H 25 days ago +1

      Praying for you Judi.

    • Jim Klipper
      Jim Klipper 26 days ago +2

      Judi Welch I lost my wife of 40 years about a year ago. Hang in their Judi, it does get a bit better over time. Peace and Love!

  • Tony Feller
    Tony Feller Month ago +2

    i recommend reading The Complete Conversations With God series by Neale Donald Walsch, whatever your religious beliefs. it covers so many topics so beautifully. your deceased loved ones are fine. in fact they have never been better.

  • California Overland
    California Overland Month ago +1

    Why was it necessary to note that Ms. Sofer was a writer for Stephen Colbert? CBS scratching CBS' back.

    • California Overland
      California Overland Month ago

      @Les D yes, it lasted 4 seconds, and she's not a writer for him any more, which is why it was unnecessary. Colbert works for CBS, in case you didn't know. What a great way to plant the seed for watching Colbert later.

    • Les D
      Les D Month ago

      California Overland - considering the comment lasted about four seconds, and that she is a writer, I found it perfectly appropriate. And what back needed scratching, come to think of it?

  • Jeanine Sieja
    Jeanine Sieja Month ago +14

    Thank you so much to CBS Sunday Morning for airing this piece. I am paralyzed in my suffering of losing my only son in a soccer accident a few years ago as a teenager. And also losing my daughter years ago in stillbirth. I am walking in a fog of grief constantly trying to keep my brave face on everyday hoping to spare others of the pain I feel every day. I hope to look up the doctor referenced from Columbia to view more of her thoughts. Every little bit might help

    • Denise B
      Denise B 21 day ago

      I wish you the best - be strong

    • Dennis Morris
      Dennis Morris 28 days ago +1

      So very sorry, Jeanine. It is very good you can talk about it. Do know your children would wish you a very happy and productive life, as much as you can do so. I know this is what my parents, whom I no longer have with me, would want from me. With God´s blessings.

    • dreamcatcherMAS
      dreamcatcherMAS Month ago +1

      Felt sorry for you Jeanine, hope you can overcome this situation and make the best out of it.
      All the best!

  • E Kop
    E Kop Month ago +5

    IN THE LAST 40 YRS IVE BEEN TO ABOUT 40 FUNERALS AND WAKES SINCE THEN
    MOSTLY FAMILY AND SOME CLOSE FRIENDS TOO
    NEVER GETS EASY

    • Christina B.
      Christina B. 21 day ago

      I read this can other weep I can only see where my future is going. You hit the nail on the head it never gets any easier or better.

    • E Kop
      E Kop 21 day ago

      @Christina B. I WOULD SAY LIKE 38 AROUND IM 49 AND BEEN TO EVERY CHURCH SINCE THEN

    • Christina B.
      Christina B. 21 day ago +1

      That’s a lot. I have lost 12 myself and I’m only 26 years old and it started when my 12. I feel broken and lost.

    • michael wertzy
      michael wertzy 28 days ago

      Ever since "GREAT" gramma's wake, I refuse to look at a beloved family member or dear friends in an open casket. It's not the vision of the "deceased" I care to live with. My memories are of how this "person" meant so much to us. Never a "hallmark" premade sentimant.

  • E Kop
    E Kop Month ago +6

    I LOST ME DAD 7 MONTHS AGO AROUND EASTER 2019
    COPD - I CAME HOME FROM CHRUCH ON SATURDAY AND FOUND HIM UNRESPONSIVE
    PARAMEDICS CAME AND HE PASSED IN HOSPITAL
    COPD WITH HEART FAILURE
    STILL SUFFERIING
    HE WAS 76

    • Kymberly P
      Kymberly P Month ago +1

      E Kop ~ Grief and grieving is very stressful. Many people don’t understand this. I’m glad your blood pressure is getting better.💚

    • E Kop
      E Kop Month ago

      @Kymberly P TRING TO ADJUST NOT EASY I HAD DEVELOPED HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE TOO DUE TO THE STRESS BUT GETTING BETTER

    • Kymberly P
      Kymberly P Month ago

      So, so sorry for your loss E Kop.💚

  • bardess5
    bardess5 Month ago +11

    As a Grief Coach, I am so appreciative of this piece - beautifully written, sensitive and gives cogent and practical advice. Thank you, Susan Spencer, for your compassion and insight. Grief is universal and so damaging when not addressed, as our culture keeps so many silent & suffering.
    www.youcanhealyourgrief.com

  • Kristine B. McAnelly
    Kristine B. McAnelly Month ago +18

    Grief is a relentless part of life that will have its way with you until you can dance by yourself.

    • Mae M
      Mae M 13 days ago

      Kristine B. McAnelly,
      Beautiful Comment ! "

  • Janine Johnson
    Janine Johnson Month ago +10

    Really good post. Thank you. ☮️

  • Carmela Szymanski
    Carmela Szymanski Month ago +4

    GREAT Insite..Thank you

  • yankeeladee02
    yankeeladee02 Month ago +31

    🕊🕯👼🏽🕊🕯👼🏽🕊🕯👼🏽🕊🕯👼🏽🕊
    I wish I could send enormous, invisible hugs to everyone grieving. 💚
    My heart related so deeply to the lovely ladies that were so brave to share their stories of losing their loved ones.
    Having lost my younger sister 4 months ago to cancer, I feel like grief is an open wound, raw and trying to heal, but it won’t ever fully heal, it will form into a scar that can NEVER be forgotten.
    I love the signs when my sister shows those of us that loved her that she’s still with us. The rainbows, butterflies, cardinals, dragon flies. The “signs” may all be a figment of our imagination, clinging to ANYTHING to have her near, but it’s one of the only comforting parts of this grief journey.
    Grief is a lonely path, not for the weak.
    My heart truly goes out to anyone missing their loved one(s) and surviving each new day that comes.
    That makes us warriors of grief.
    Peace, love and comfort to all.🌈🦋
    ☮️💟🛐☮️💟🛐☮️💟🛐☮️💟🛐

    • Melody Rosas
      Melody Rosas 24 days ago +3

      Thank you for sharing a bit of your story and journey. I lost my mom 4 years ago and I still have to deal with days I remember her with a smile and move along my day. Other days are harder to bear. I also love the signs , in my case they are more feelings or sensations, her face, laugh or voice comes to my mind as if from nowhere.. To let me know she is around. I agree, grief is an open wound that turns into a scar that we never forget. I feel that scar can re open and bleed from time to time. Honestly grief is a sign of how much your loved one was loved, is loved and will forever be loved❤ I pray for peace, comfort and Streghth to continue in this journey of life despite the pain; to continue to love, laugh and live a life our loved ones would want us to have. A happy life❤

    • Alberto Fernandez
      Alberto Fernandez Month ago +3

      I like your post...my sister and I were like twins for 61 yrs, till she died last yr. I liked reading what you wrote...no one asks me any more how I am...I need to be asked, but as in times past a few sentences are spoken I can tell I ve have lost my audience...so I have learned to suffer in silence, I am sure there are many like me walking around, but reading your post tells me that God has put souls out there for me to encounter and to help me...thank you

  • Patricia tha bibliophile

    I experienced 6 years of complicated grief after my father lost his battle with cancer in 2010. Losing him felt like all the love I had in this world left with him.🕊️💔

  • Cerebro Brother
    Cerebro Brother Month ago +2

    We proud, truthful American's, are mourning the death of REAL news, that was replaced by FAKE news, truly, the "enemy of the people",,,Trumps 2020 & Trump 2024.

    • Kymberly P
      Kymberly P Month ago +2

      Cerebro Brother ~ You sweet little pumpkin face. It’s okay, this 52 year old (not a boomer or millennial) understands that you crave attention and validation. I’ll give you that by responding/replying and send you some sloppy wet kisses and warm hugs. As for my “fake avatar”, nope. That’s actually me... and my actual name. I don’t need to hide who I am nor do I feel the need to publish anything on RU-clip. Have a beautiful life and embrace life. You’re worth it, Brother. 😘

    • Cerebro Brother
      Cerebro Brother Month ago +1

      @Kymberly P OK, Millennial

  • Make Racists Afraid Again

    After four decades of marriage I cannot imagine losing my Wife.

    • Cerebro Brother
      Cerebro Brother Month ago +2

      @Jory Lewis,,, Just gotta vomit, at your queerbait, soyboy, lunatic, libtard username,, nice try Soro's troll bot.

    • Jory Lewis
      Jory Lewis Month ago +5

      Just gotta say... I love your username !

  • suzanne schulz
    suzanne schulz Month ago +43

    I am in therapy. My grief is lots better but still dangles. My parents died 5 weeks apart in 2015.

    • Denise B
      Denise B 21 day ago +1

      @Sun Shine You are a brave soul - you make your parents proud

    • Denise B
      Denise B 21 day ago +2

      @Kirsten B I'm so sorry for your loss -life is such a mystery

    • CHAPLAIN BETTY BRADLEY
      CHAPLAIN BETTY BRADLEY 22 days ago +2

      @Kirsten B God Bless You.❤🙏❤
      I Offer You My Deepest Condolences.🌹

    • CHAPLAIN BETTY BRADLEY
      CHAPLAIN BETTY BRADLEY 22 days ago +1

      @suzanne schulz God Bless You.🌹
      You Have My Deepest Condolences.🌹
      May God Continue To Keep You In The Palm Of His Hand.❤🙏❤

    • DamnImWounded
      DamnImWounded 23 days ago +1

      Im so sorry about your loss. Hang in there 🙏