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  • Published on Feb 17, 2019
  • Everybody feels lonely sometimes. But only few of us are aware how important this feeling was for our ancestors - and that our modern world can turn it into something that really hurts us. Why do we feel this way and what can we do about it?
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    'Emotional First Aid' by Guy Winch
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    'Loneliness' by John Cacioppo & William Patrick
    www.amazon.com/Loneliness-Human-Nature-Social-Connection/dp/0393335283/
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  • Kurzgesagt – In a Nutshell
    Kurzgesagt – In a Nutshell  10 months ago +10974

    We designed a poster on this topic as well. You can find it here: shop-us.kurzgesagt.org/collections/all-kurzgesagt-products/products/in-a-nutshell-loneliness-poster?variant=28928293503024

    • 000ShadowHedgehog000
      000ShadowHedgehog000 16 hours ago

      I really needed this video thank you for the insight.

    • Cav L
      Cav L 3 days ago +1

      Stop promoting miscegenation ffs. 10:44 white girl with black male! Also when a black guy tapped her shoulder she was correct to assume the worst and run.

    • LittleFlyingAnimationMV's
      LittleFlyingAnimationMV's 7 days ago

      Kurzgesagt - In a Nutshell Congratulations with ending up in RU-clip rewind 2019! It was really cool to see this video in it, because it has helped me so much this year

    • Gabriel Angelo Valmores
      Gabriel Angelo Valmores 9 days ago

      Just wow

    • Gabriel Angelo Valmores
      Gabriel Angelo Valmores 9 days ago

      Wow

  • ishikawa maki
    ishikawa maki 15 minutes ago

    I moved new town...feel lonely

  • Luca Di Vezza
    Luca Di Vezza Hour ago

    Then there is something missing in my biology, i never understood loneliness, i am quite liked by people, so i can make friends effortlessly when i want to, and it has always been so, i am quite popular with both men and women(even romantically strangely) but i do not want to waste time, so i do not want to start a relationship and be tied to people, a friend of mine once told me that "my heart is like the coldest iceberg" and my family told my that i am rarely "human-like" but i really do not need others, i feel bliss when i am alone, be it at home, travelling or doing a sport very few people are worthy of my time.

  • Tooth Nick
    Tooth Nick 3 hours ago +1

    Lonelieness makes you die faster.
    Me: I see this is an absolute win

  • koka reshka
    koka reshka 6 hours ago

    Why does this video exist? To point out all mistakes I've made and problems I have? That hurts, thank you.

  • Sahil Ali
    Sahil Ali 7 hours ago

    My depression is bc of guilt and loneliness and people were not dumb in the past they were very smart as the first human was a prophet

  • Dovahkiin
    Dovahkiin 9 hours ago +1

    I feel lonely alot now. I always talk to myself about everything and it sucks. I have four really good friends that are my brothers but since i moved to another area i only get to see them once every couple months. I have also just failed my 7th driving test which makes things harder and i have lots of people that i talk to but arent true friends because they never invite me to anything.

  • Hayan Imadi
    Hayan Imadi 10 hours ago

    I got kicked in the balls by my ex gf. This vid hit hard.

  • Камилла Ярулина

    Thank you so much! I started crying when I heard it’s ok, you are normal ! Your explanation of this problem is awesome! It is what I really needed !

  • plato_edits s h i i
    plato_edits s h i i 12 hours ago +1

    Me with people: lonely
    Me with people though they are asleep: alone
    Anyone else prefer being alone than lonelh

  • Jhoanna Caraballo
    Jhoanna Caraballo 13 hours ago

    After this video I called my grandmas...I haven’t feel so happy in a while

  • vaishan avi
    vaishan avi 16 hours ago +1

    Does RU-clip watch me? I was just crying hysterically in front of my phone and this was recommended.

  • Hugo Lachs
    Hugo Lachs 20 hours ago +1

    Problem is I don't have friends...ever in my life...

  • Steffen W.
    Steffen W. 23 hours ago +1

    Thank you for this video. I love you all.

  • Maya Occomy
    Maya Occomy Day ago +1

    I have so many friends but I just feel like im left in the background. I feel like im no ones priority. I feel unimportant and irrelevant and like some disgusting weirdo that doesn't belong. And it hurts a lot.

    • we r all Gods
      we r all Gods 16 hours ago

      Honesty if u feel that way u must seek therapy because all of that u described is some sort of mental disorder

  • Lolo Cates
    Lolo Cates Day ago

    HOW DARE YOU CALL ME OUT MY NAME!!! IT'S TOO LOUD IN HERE!!! ಥ_ಥ

  • Ivan Cipta
    Ivan Cipta Day ago +1

    I avoid my friends, cause i have tendency to think that i'm a burden and cannot keep them happy while they're with me. I'm afraid of making things worse. So i avoid people. Is that normal? Also i can't value things right. I often overvalue my friends's act. I think it's bad for me too, both fundamentally and mentally

  • Johnny Favourites
    Johnny Favourites Day ago +3

    Decline invitations and assuming others don’t like me. That hit hard.

  • Ale R.
    Ale R. Day ago +1

    More like:" How to avoid Second Impact" :D

  • Alex SeligerX
    Alex SeligerX Day ago +1

    I always want to be lonely, but I can't. I always speaks to people without any expectation...

    • Alex SeligerX
      Alex SeligerX 3 hours ago

      @we r all Gods i don't think about it at all. It is something inside me that do all the job... My instincts can adjust my behaviour on fly just looking on person's face and body i'm speaking

    • we r all Gods
      we r all Gods 16 hours ago

      Same but u have to learn to be Friends with people first then u have to then u have to think about expectations

  • milesaph
    milesaph Day ago +1

    Huh. I thought i was paranoid but maybe im just lonely

  • Shinchan Nohara
    Shinchan Nohara Day ago +3

    So guys, the gold that comes out from the video is "don't feel lonely so that you don't feel lonely because when you feel lonely you are lonely"😂

  • Jenna Liss
    Jenna Liss Day ago +1

    Thank God there is animals, always a friend that is there

  • Shinchan Nohara
    Shinchan Nohara Day ago +3

    This world is now more fake than ever. This is the problem.
    We were much better when we were troglodytes.

  • Some Girl
    Some Girl Day ago

    How come i feel lonely when i have a boyfriend and friends?

  • we r all Gods
    we r all Gods Day ago +1

    This me mechanisms help great for us ancestors now this mechanisms r not helping modern humans literally people r all sad in some way or another we humans need a new plan to counter loneliness at this point humanity is going backwards if anything.

  • yolo ralli
    yolo ralli Day ago +1

    n

  • Eeyanzai
    Eeyanzai Day ago

    Don't even say that you were alone,



    My whole life was loneliness, i never had any friends with activities, cuz they don't care about me and not interesting in my topic.

  • Cat Funky
    Cat Funky Day ago

    Thank you

  • Attor Safar
    Attor Safar Day ago

    11,111,122 this much people are alone, including me

  • Stef Van Eijndhoven

    2:22 wtf is that background noise?

  • Daksh Badal
    Daksh Badal Day ago +2

    When this video was released I didn't feel lonely at all now I'm seeing symptoms of it in me and it gives a totally new perspective to it thanks a lot for this beautiful video of yours

  • Barbara Lindhjem

    Buy a dog...look carefully...make sure you have a bond. Love that dog and when you take it for a walk on a dog park. All kinds of people will stop and chat

  • uniCorny Freak
    uniCorny Freak Day ago

    I'm lonely because once upon a time I used to have friends, (at least that's what i thought) but then they started to drift away and decided to choose other people and made them their new friends then they became a squad/group and now they always hang out together then they always post their whereabouts like everywhere and it hurts man it just happened you know, it happened so quick, so sudden and now they act as if we didn't know each other before, they don't even ask me if I'm okay or anything. They just stopped being friends with me with no explanation, no reason, no anything. I don't understand why..was I not good enough to them? Idk I just feel lost right now and that alone is the reason why I just isolate myself so I wouldn't have to deal with people anymore.

  • Michael Hushtiuk
    Michael Hushtiuk Day ago +3

    One more good way to find friends that hasn't been covered in the video - is through hobbies. As adult people don't have much time, they tend to connect on what they spend their time on. For example, sport, music or some other hobbies that gather more than 1 person in the same place. Go on, find what entertains you and you will find people who love it also. Good luck!

  • Chris Cheltenham

    Hell is other people.

  • Julia Dodson
    Julia Dodson Day ago

    Anyone want to be my friend? I haven't had a close friend in literally years.

    • Tom 441
      Tom 441 Day ago

      Julia Dodson How about me as a friend, can men and women be friends?

  • Prax 77
    Prax 77 2 days ago +1

    To understand the true pain of loneliness watch Naruto .

  • Jackie Chen
    Jackie Chen 2 days ago

    When you made peace with loneliness, it can be a blessing and a curse.
    Relievement and Eternal Punishment
    Joy, but permanent reality checks
    Peace, but forever on edge
    Sympathetic, but through alexithymia
    Attached, yet unattached

  • Jackie Chen
    Jackie Chen 2 days ago

    Idk. The problem of mass social interactions for people suffering from loneliness is that they can't talk as much as others can.

    I get invited to something and everyone is like a machinegun to each other. They can't stop talking at all and always have something to bring up to keep the conversation going which then naturally leads them to move around which would further increase the topics they can bring up.

    When someone talks to me, its like 2 pistols with one bullet each. We say hi, we talk about something and the conversation just drops dead. It gets hella awkward from there and the natural response would be 'haha well I'll see you later! There's something I gotta do'. And yeah that hurts.

  • Ina Masschelein
    Ina Masschelein 2 days ago

    i never even got invitations in the first place, just being treated like an outcast for my appearance lol

  • Alec waters
    Alec waters 2 days ago

    Just wow! What a great channel

  • Eva Krautman
    Eva Krautman 2 days ago

    одиночество в толпе the worst feeling ever i guess

  • blagd
    blagd 2 days ago +1

    Why did this make me cry. There wasnt even sad music

  • x Crane
    x Crane 2 days ago +2

    ME feels lonely FBI LET S PUT THIS ON HIS RECOMANDATION

  • DodyFX
    DodyFX 2 days ago +1

    Depresion 100

  • My Dream
    My Dream 2 days ago

    I am going online now

  • BATMAN
    BATMAN 2 days ago

    you really help a lot and teach a lot,I love your channel, please make move videos like this.

  • Them Mz
    Them Mz 2 days ago

    Loneliness is my middle name .
    This video just read my life in 12mins .

  • lemonberry s
    lemonberry s 2 days ago

    I really want to cry but I can't. Can someone please talk to me?

  • Cogently
    Cogently 2 days ago

    I saw this video after i have a break up ;((

  • Eugene C
    Eugene C 2 days ago

    I'm sure most people have at least one friend, or someone ...


    *I wish I did too ;')

    • Chris Cheltenham
      Chris Cheltenham Day ago

      I don't. Haven't spoken to anyone for 4 months. Why should anyone care... People prefer to laugh at you rather than help you.

  • Casey DuBay
    Casey DuBay 2 days ago

    ....I feel SOOOO called out right now

  • Randall the Dog
    Randall the Dog 2 days ago +1

    damn, imagine being lonely AND fat...

  • The Muffin Man
    The Muffin Man 2 days ago +1

    Ahh yes, Ive found a new way to describe loneliness; CHRONIC!

  • Mrs. kim
    Mrs. kim 2 days ago

    If only I had a true friend

    • Tom 441
      Tom 441 2 days ago

      Mrs. kim same here

  • theGamingKid
    theGamingKid 2 days ago +1

    Even if I am interacting with my friends or in a group, I feel loneliness inside...

  • theGamingKid
    theGamingKid 2 days ago +2

    "Loneliness is injurious to health. It kills!"

  • theGamingKid
    theGamingKid 2 days ago +1

    I saw myself in that character...

  • 0
    0 2 days ago +2

    The reason why lonely people are lonely usually is because they haven't developed their own authentic sophisticated persona. Persona is not just a mask that u wear in public... it is also an individual ability or a skill that is absolutely vital for one's social life.
    But persona is associated with one's life particular ambition(s).

    • What the shit
      What the shit 22 hours ago

      >loses all ambition and motivation for everything
      *well its been lit, everyone*