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  • Published on Feb 17, 2019
  • Everybody feels lonely sometimes. But only few of us are aware how important this feeling was for our ancestors - and that our modern world can turn it into something that really hurts us. Why do we feel this way and what can we do about it?
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  • Kurzgesagt – In a Nutshell
    Kurzgesagt – In a Nutshell  5 months ago +9404

    We designed a poster on this topic as well. You can find it here: standard.tv/collections/in-a-nutshell/products/in-a-nutshell-loneliness-poster

    • Luz Marina Peña Pacheco
      Luz Marina Peña Pacheco 11 days ago

      Hey thank u im passing truhg that

    • MSB25 Blaze
      MSB25 Blaze 15 days ago

      I have a question about the loneliness social pain thing. If we developed social pain then why are some people still mean and stay mean?

    • King Panther
      King Panther 15 days ago +1

      Nice

    • kavyal jani
      kavyal jani 24 days ago

      Kurzgesagt - In a Nutshell You have an amazing voice!

    • Alejandro Olivas
      Alejandro Olivas 28 days ago

      Can you make a video about people who use cannabis to cope with loneliness

  • Potato Cat
    Potato Cat 2 hours ago

    This is me and it hurts so much.

  • Rizmie Imie
    Rizmie Imie 4 hours ago

    Allah
    with all
    of us

  • Nitram LP
    Nitram LP 4 hours ago

    Einsam bin ich erst dann nicht mehr, wenn ich mich auch mit einer person treffe, die meisten hier wohnen eh so weit weg
    Wer kommt aus der nähe von bremen?

  • sapna sinha
    sapna sinha 6 hours ago

    I change cities frequently and am hit by loneliness every time

  • O Gui Blindao
    O Gui Blindao 7 hours ago

    "Socially awkward" **GOANIMATE/VYOND INTENSIFIES**

  • Ma ra
    Ma ra 8 hours ago

    I like the loneliness!

  • Zahra sc
    Zahra sc 9 hours ago

    thanks for making me even more sad

  • Demonku
    Demonku 9 hours ago +1

    bruh I wish I got invites to parties again. so far, i've been making everyone decide to not invite me.

  • Rainbow the Dragon Cat
    Rainbow the Dragon Cat 12 hours ago

    I think this is only Kurzgesagt video with only one word in the title.

  • OwO
    OwO 16 hours ago +1

    At least some people here commented that they have friends that don't treat them as a friend. I, don't have friends at all. No one in my contact list on my phone except my parents,no former classmates that live nearby that I can invite to hang out with(not that my classmates are my friends anyway). For the most part of my life, I feel lonely. Suicidal thoughts came up a few times throughout these years but this video changed how i viewed loneliness. Thanks Kurzgesagt.

  • Dániel Szikora
    Dániel Szikora 18 hours ago +1

    I guess the intelligent people are more likely lonely because the silly people dosent care about things intelligents do.

  • Ossy Koi
    Ossy Koi 23 hours ago +1

    I watched this video at least ten times by now... Every time it makes me cry...

  • Laya Rohani
    Laya Rohani Day ago +2

    The thing about me is I don’t want to be alone and I can’t really do anything about it right now bc i moved to another country like a year ago and I’m not fluent in the language yet so it’s really hard to make friends and i see my friends back home like their insta stories etc. and i see them going out together and having fun and it truly breaks my heart that I’m not there....

  • Hinna P
    Hinna P Day ago +1

    If anyone here is feeling lonely then I’m here if you wanna talk. Snapchat: h1nna 😊 I’m in the uk, not far from London

  • zonex001
    zonex001 Day ago +1

    Some Drugs can help us, such as heroin.

  • Mörri
    Mörri Day ago +2

    Lonel illness

  • Macho Fantastico
    Macho Fantastico Day ago +1

    These are wonderfully put together, with sound advice. They should be shown in schools.

  • Zohungaar
    Zohungaar Day ago +1

    I couldn't help but fell into tears at the end of that video.

  • Justin Byrd
    Justin Byrd Day ago +1

    If I could be alone 100% of my life, I would be so happy.

  • VIP Unicron
    VIP Unicron Day ago

    Only child anyone?

  • shark XD
    shark XD Day ago +1

    This video make me felt warm

  • Nucleus
    Nucleus Day ago +2

    This video somewhat save my life from the feeling of hopelessness , self doubt , self pity and anger . . . At the moment i am at rock bottom . I am suffering from chronic loneliness and leading to depression , an introvert by nature and have social anxiety and awkwardness with people thus , making me really hard to make friends or carry a decent conversation :'( . 4 years ago i have completed my studies and move out from the family to seek a good job and found one , far away from my common social circle . I found it Fucking hard to make a friend , hell I am even awkward among my colleagues . My daily routine is simply sad , boring and quiet . . . I have my meals alone , I walk alone , i do everything alone i feel hurt and sad every time i watch a movie i cant share my thought about the movie . . . watching this video felt like it was made for me and I somehow understood that loneliness will always be there until you do something about it . . . I NEED HELP AND I FEEL I HAVE FOUND THE ANSWER TO IT ,THANKS FOR THIS VIDEO !

  • Oden Atek
    Oden Atek Day ago +1

    Human need PERSONAL contacts. Go Facebook, Instagram, NEtflexyflixy and others! Go, go go !!! Let"s go , come on New York! Go go !

  • gelavêj Muhammad
    gelavêj Muhammad Day ago +1

    the worst thing about being alone
    is you won't have a hug when you need it the most .

  • Emile Emile
    Emile Emile Day ago +1

    Beautiful

  • Κώστας Καραπαπαχατζηδιμιτρακόπουλος

    This is the most awesome video I've seen on this platform.

  • eccentricwriter
    eccentricwriter 2 days ago +1

    Every ne of these videos makes me hate reality just a little bit more.

  • Trash Mammal
    Trash Mammal 2 days ago

    I cried while watching

  • Kein leben
    Kein leben 2 days ago

    man that hit like a truck

  • addie
    addie 2 days ago +8

    I got betrayed by all my fake friends(2) and now im lonelier than ever🙂

  • Jasmin S
    Jasmin S 2 days ago +1

    sheeeesh who else was sobbing throughout the whole video bc they felt way too attacked?

  • Radhey P.
    Radhey P. 2 days ago +2

    I feel the need to cry after watching this but idky

  • King Nothing
    King Nothing 2 days ago

    Loneliness is best thing. People are viruses. And shit :)

  • Silas Thornblood
    Silas Thornblood 3 days ago

    Well, at least I'll die faster.

  • J.J Whitty
    J.J Whitty 3 days ago +1

    There is something wrong with me :) I love my own company and am quite content to stay as far away from people as humanly possible and I never feel lonely.

    • Virag
      Virag 10 hours ago

      @J.J Whitty Depression and anxiety go hand in hand as my doctor used to say, and there is a lot of truth to it. I come from a war torn country, and as a child I witnessed hate, hunger, poverty and death of my relatives. In that regard I still have trouble letting go of that past, although the war has long ended. Thats where my depression comes from. My anxiety comes from the uncertainty of the future for myself, because of troubles with coping with the illness I never fully developed myself as a man. Hence the loneliness, because people usually stay clear of people like me, and vice versa.
      You must of had an amazing childhood, your story came out of nowhere and actually brought tears to my eyes.
      I wish you all the best, wherever you are.

    • J.J Whitty
      J.J Whitty 11 hours ago

      @Zsolt Virag For whatever reason, I always believed people who suffered from Depression lived in the past and from Anxiety lived in the future, it never crossed my mind that someone could suffer from both at the same time. To have had the actual wherewithal to get medical help shows you have a strong character. I grew up in a small fishing village and as a child would spend every possible moment with my grandfather on his trawler, he was a quite gentle man who never spoke much (but that is another story). When I was 14 had one of those small training sailing dinghies and I can vividly recall one spring morning sailing alone 10 NM off the coast and in every direction there was nothing but sea and sky. I do not have the words to describe how exhilarating that moment of being truly alone felt, but I was hooked. Be safe :)

    • Zsolt Virag
      Zsolt Virag Day ago

      @J.J Whitty Yeah of course, biology is everything, I have felt mind numbing loneliness in the past, but when I went on antidepressants for depression/anxiety disorder my loneliness went away, and I was perfectly fine being on my own. Those meds change the chemistry in the brain, so yeah, everything is biology. By lucky I ment you were born with the "right" genes so you dont suffer in that regard as the rest of us.

    • J.J Whitty
      J.J Whitty Day ago

      @Zsolt Virag Doubt an evolutionary psychologist would say 'luck' has anything to do with the feeling of loneliness but it is related to genes. I suspect the feeling of being alone is innate in animals knowing there is safety in numbers, reproduction and such. Contrary to popular belief when a Wolf is expelled from a pack it does not go off into a corner and die but lives and survive quite well.

  • smaple
    smaple 3 days ago

    I-I thought this was normal and how everyone felt....

  • Lexie Perez
    Lexie Perez 3 days ago

    I feel like there is something wrong with me cause I feel really lonely when I'm with my family. I try and talk to them but then I realize they aren't listening to me... I just really need someone to talk to, at some point I even think about talking to myself and I have been feeling really angry lately too. I just feel like I'm the only one being left out and they only talk to me when they need me to cook dinner or if they want to show me something but when I try and talk, then I no longer exist.

  • Emilios Powerballer
    Emilios Powerballer 3 days ago +1

    what made us depressed is simply ONE THING:


    MEDICATION AND DOCTORS. prove me wrong

  • Fishbowl the illusionist

    Damn this video is deep

  • M3nta
    M3nta 3 days ago +4

    me: *THE EXPERT*

  • Alice Chen
    Alice Chen 3 days ago

    thank you , for letting me know what's happened on me.

  • Jeffrey050711
    Jeffrey050711 3 days ago

    Loneliness, without a doubt, is the #1 contributor to all of the unhealthy choices I have made in the past. I wish this topic was taught in our schools... it literally could make the difference between life and death.

  • Doc Man
    Doc Man 3 days ago

    If anyone needs to talk about anything, big or small, I'll give a listen and some (hopefully) constructive input. : 3

  • Taniachi
    Taniachi 3 days ago

    9:21 all this started when I was 3

  • Vei Vei
    Vei Vei 3 days ago +1

    Such paradox D:

  • hexmaniac
    hexmaniac 3 days ago

    that's why I took 20 hydroxizine pills and 5 ativans

  • Hannah Ancheta
    Hannah Ancheta 4 days ago +1

    All this said is so relatable

  • Professor Eggplant
    Professor Eggplant 4 days ago +1

    What percentage of those lonely souls are married? Go find someone you can care about. If you can't then you have unrealistic expectations or you need to work on repairing a personality disorder..

    • I Max
      I Max 2 days ago

      Marriage is not and never will be a cure for loneliness. And there is absolutely NO benefit for a man to marry in this feminist world. Don't ever rely on someone else to make you whole or happy. If you're lonely, get a dog.

  • fruits punch samurai
    fruits punch samurai 4 days ago +1

    "If everybody was a loner, there would be no war or suffering."

  • alexis estalilla
    alexis estalilla 4 days ago

    Thank you

  • Jeremy Thorson
    Jeremy Thorson 4 days ago

    Would human specie evolve to feel less lonely if it was evolutionary legacy from ancestors

  • Su Cui
    Su Cui 4 days ago

    I relocated from home to a new world 9999km apart about 5 years ago. New adult friendship is hard to find

    • Su Cui
      Su Cui 2 days ago

      J.J Whitty Can I add I drive alone 😂

    • J.J Whitty
      J.J Whitty 3 days ago +1

      I live alone, work alone, stay alone and avoid adult friendships like the plague. I'm happy and never feel alone. However; in my case it is my choice. But if I decided that I wished to go back into the world of the living tomorrow I could do it quite easy. Strangely in the past, one place I always found it easy start adult friendships as you refer was on Trains ;)

  • Prince Dyrroth
    Prince Dyrroth 4 days ago

    In my school, I would call my old friends, but they didn't listen and abandoned me

  • sameh elzoubi
    sameh elzoubi 4 days ago

    I only don’t answer friend calls if I think they’re harmful or bad.And I fell too lonely when my dad is travelling or didn’t speak to me for time.

  • IWantToBe Yeontan
    IWantToBe Yeontan 4 days ago

    When I finally realized i should really go out more often,

  • EpicManAbid
    EpicManAbid 4 days ago

    Hi. Anyone else feeling a little lonely? Feel free to message me :)

  • lol bye
    lol bye 4 days ago

    Worst part is after you're out of loneliness you start fearing falling back again when starting a new school or environment

  • Ceres Lauron
    Ceres Lauron 4 days ago

    So im unhealthy as 1 pack smoker a day? God show me mercy!

  • Faris Alkhalifa
    Faris Alkhalifa 4 days ago +1

    Fucking hell i cant believe I'm gonna die earlier from this shit

  • AMajor Seven
    AMajor Seven 4 days ago +1

    Loneliness is a world epidemic. Put the phone down, go outside and talk to other human beings. The phones are just an easy cop out to avoiding others, and run the risk of social isolation. Neighbors, communities and nations are beginning to starve from connection because people are fearful to reach out to others. Don’t be scared to help someone out.

  • Dumble King
    Dumble King 4 days ago +1

    I may not have loneliness but I forgot to make a wish on my Birthday, never held a party and I have no siblings which makes me a...odd one out of the whole school plus I am a little weird at time since I always play with my self.



    I know I am late to comment but there is still the option

  • Skull+Butterfly
    Skull+Butterfly 4 days ago

    This video made me cry and I don’t know why

  • Nexus- Sensei
    Nexus- Sensei 4 days ago

    I had this one "friend"
    One that changed my life upside down
    When i was in junior high i made freind with this one guy he looked friendly well i had very low self esteem back then because i didnt know anyone back then,this friend opened up to me i was always helping him and even tutoring him because i was good at alot of subject so i taught him,i even let him copy and always have his back during recitations,i even help him in various tasks, i practically made him an honor student and the 2nd best in our class BUT he never thanked me he said i studied very hard and was not copying anyone and HE SAID THAT I WAS THE ONE COPYING FROM HIM HE EVEN HUMILIATED ME ,thats when i had trust issues which also made me feel alone
    But i was still tutoring him while being very close on punching in the face (im a taekwondo varsity)
    After that i never helped him again thats when i got true friends,freinds that help each other

  • Susan Ananda
    Susan Ananda 4 days ago +1

    What happens when a lonely man wants to have sex?

  • Arab Thanos
    Arab Thanos 5 days ago +2

    Ever since my best friend died I haven’t socialized much and the feeling of loneliness has been getting a lot worse recently

  • micaela solis
    micaela solis 5 days ago +1

    ok, this destroyed me. Im lonely.

  • Sammysambo9
    Sammysambo9 5 days ago +2

    “If you feel lonely, you are lonely”
    Idk why but I felt more offended by this than I probably should have

  • MER Made 106
    MER Made 106 5 days ago

    I'm in this picture and I dont like it

  • Roger Gardner
    Roger Gardner 5 days ago +3

    Well now so for us singles remember many people are just Miserably Married.
    Fix lonliness... Go out and help somebody else. Focus on others not you.
    Eat right and exercise
    Get a pet
    Like great salesman do everyday, get out and make the" cold calls" ie be the first to say hello to new people and ask about them, not you. Believe and you will. Am en
    Get a great hobby

  • Marc A.
    Marc A. 5 days ago +1

    Every comment is relatable.

  • Ori nattiv
    Ori nattiv 5 days ago +1

    I am bisexual and my family are religious and anty-LGBT
    Until I will be 18 years old and I will have a backplane for the case of kicking me out from home I can't do anything about my loneliness I just can't
    Did I mention that my friends and my entire society are religious too?
    That is so annoying

  • Cam Man
    Cam Man 5 days ago +1

    We all feel lonely but what makes a diffrence is if you decide to dwell in it.

  • David Thompson
    David Thompson 5 days ago

    I find in my experience and because I am a rather sensitive introvert that the older I am getting, the less things matter and also because I now know that all life is connected, I'm often alone but never feel lonely, I had it when I was younger a little bit but have always been a loner. This video is mostly for the younger people who are just starting out and so trying to understand what it's about although we can all be affected to a degree. I would rather have a couple of brilliant friends than hundreds of shallow idiots. I also find that people cant make you happy but they can and do make you unhappy and 95% of peoples unhappiness is other people so although it's just my experience and opinion, I prefer my own space. I think I could actually be more ill by having people in my life than being on my own where I can experience peace and listen to my deeper self which is always urging us forward to where we need to really and truly be, if this is to be with people then follow that but for the most part, I am my own best friend. I'm not religious but understand better now and also know rather than just believe the omnipresence of God. We come in the world alone and go out alone and the bit in between is up to us but for me, I'm happier and mostly content on my own. I do have a couple of very special friends which is always for me better. A message to the young, always be yourself whatever that might be and wisdom comes with age and life's experience although I'm not as old as some might think. Realise your connection with all things in the universe and eventually you will feel it in and around you and you will never be lonely again but likewise yes at times we all need other people and all have a human side as well as spiritual and eternal side.

  • Dartnix
    Dartnix 5 days ago +2

    This video hit me like a truck

  • Аббосбек Ирмухамедов

    If somebody feels lonely just answer my comment hi. Let's talk)

  • BoxesAreGreat
    BoxesAreGreat 5 days ago +1

    I’m lonely rn. Even on ROBLOX people don’t wanna do stuff with me. I just want to go back to school now. School is my best time now. My best friends can’t see me. And I’m gonna move school is September. Then I’ll have to start all over. Making new friend. All of that stuff.

    • Daniel E
      Daniel E 5 days ago

      A new start can be positive 🙂

  • santa santonino
    santa santonino 5 days ago

    Manipulative global agenda:))))
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    And no, we can’t trust you!!!

  • us for
    us for 5 days ago +1

    This is me....

  • Aqi_momo
    Aqi_momo 5 days ago +2

    Fuck this life
    Let's overdoooooosssseeeeeeee

  • Tuna Raw
    Tuna Raw 5 days ago +1

    Feels like it's a good Evangelion review.

  • _ CyclicObject _
    _ CyclicObject _ 5 days ago +1

    Thank you

  • Darcy Bhaiwala
    Darcy Bhaiwala 5 days ago +2

    How do you get people to start inviting you again?

  • we all need it
    we all need it 5 days ago

    I am here to talk to anyone who needs someone to talk to and listen to anyone who needs someone to LISTEN. If you don't want to talk publicly you can send me an email in the description of my channel. I WILL REPLY.

  • Twitch_StarLord_
    Twitch_StarLord_ 5 days ago +2

    Such an accurately describing well made video. Surely alot of affected people would be able to relate and perhaps solve some or all of their problems through this.
    Tysm Kurzgesagt. You've probably saved hundreds of thousands of lives in that 8.798 million views this single video has got.
    EDIT: U've mentioned in another video that it took over 1 and half year to script this video with resources. Please know that u've done a wonderful job and personally alot of the points in this video describing/relating to lonliness and its depressing effects are 100% correct to alot of us, if not all.
    Anyways, GL And TC guys! Be happy for that is what our purpose is.
    ~Star

  • Avery Rock
    Avery Rock 6 days ago

    So I am very terrified of rejection so maybe that means my ancestors were rejected a lot and now there for i am? Idk what I’m talking ab

  • Quel Smith
    Quel Smith 6 days ago

    Eu sempre me senti sozinha, porem desde que comecei a namorar eu saio direto, vou para lugares diferentes, conheço novas pessoas e tenho milhares de experiências... porem sempre faço isso por Ele. São amigos dele ou coisas de que ele gosta. Eu mal tenho uma personalidade. Isso anda me deixando mal e ainda mais solitária... alguem ja passou por isso? ;-;

  • w a t e r l i n g
    w a t e r l i n g 6 days ago +21

    Alot of people in comments are really kind where is this People in real life ? I am confused!

    • Bernardo Mazalan
      Bernardo Mazalan Day ago +1

      @w a t e r l i n g really true

    • w a t e r l i n g
      w a t e r l i n g 5 days ago +6

      @Daniel E no i think.. No matter how good you think you are, you are evil in someones story. ( Sorry for bad English i am not native speaker )

    • Daniel E
      Daniel E 5 days ago +1

      Spread across the vast world

  • emoukou
    emoukou 6 days ago

    Okay but why would you wipe that mirror with your hands ? Unsanitary peasant -.- (jk)

  • aousaous65
    aousaous65 6 days ago

    Best channel in whole RU-clip

  • Moniker Covert
    Moniker Covert 6 days ago

    Pssst... RU-clip can you put this in my sister’s Recommendeds?

  • Briendo Hinh
    Briendo Hinh 6 days ago

    So lonely in Paris

  • Miss Chloe Jenkins
    Miss Chloe Jenkins 6 days ago +1

    Can someone tell me why this made me cry :'(

  • MKJT
    MKJT 6 days ago

    I needed to see this today

  • Wild- Energy
    Wild- Energy 6 days ago

    the most painful and disappointing feeling is when you think you're important to someone, then you find out you're not

  • Bads
    Bads 6 days ago

    Why is there so many people who dislikes your every video? Damn =/

  • Billy Bob
    Billy Bob 7 days ago +1

    Damn, they really had to call me out.

  • Reveer
    Reveer 7 days ago

    this video is like making others feel more lonely

  • David Still
    David Still 7 days ago

    I’m chronically lonely not because I feel disconnected with my friends, but my friends have all left me and live somewhere else
    Nowadays I spend most of my day in my room not interacting a lot with family

  • claywords
    claywords 7 days ago +1

    "Can you risk being open and vulnerable again?" How do i even do that
    "Do you asume others dont want you around." the story of my life.