Fall in love with fear | Sandra Joseph | TEDxSouthLakeTahoe

  • Published on Jan 17, 2019
  • Sandra Joseph holds the record as Broadway’s longest-running leading lady (Christine Daaé in The Phantom of the Opera) and is the author of Unmasking What Matters: 10 Life Lessons from 10 Years on Broadway. Through song and story, Sandra pulls back the curtain and reveals how her battle with fear offstage mirrored her character’s struggle onstage and led her to the question: What if we could fall in love with what we fear? As the lines between art and life blur, one thing becomes clear: Rather than hold us back or choke us with worry, the things we fear the most might actually free us to live our lives full-out. Sandra Joseph is a history-making Broadway star, a bestselling author, and a keynote speaker.
    Ten years as Christine in The Phantom of the Opera earned her the record as the longest-running leading lady in the longest-running Broadway show of all time. Oprah calls her a Broadway legend and an inspiration.
    Sandra has been seen on numerous national broadcasts, including The Oprah Winfrey Show, CNN, The Today Show, The View, and Oprah: Where Are They Now?.
    Sandra is the author of the #1 international bestselling book, Unmasking What Matters: 10 Life Lessons from 10 Years on Broadway and the coauthor of Your Creative Soul: Expressing Your Authentic Voice with five-time New York Times bestselling author Caroline Myss.
    Recognized for her thought leadership, Sandra is a member of The Transformational Leadership Council, a group of 100 top personal development professionals, founded by Jack Canfield. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

Comments • 172

  • Cathy
    Cathy 4 months ago

    thank you 😊

  • Alexia Vernon
    Alexia Vernon 5 months ago

    Misty-eyed and with my heart wide open, I thank you, my dear friend, for this riveting talk. You helped me see new places where fear is showing up for me and how to respond. And your dad is, no doubt, still grinning from ear to ear with pride for all you have done in this world! Love you.

  • Sam Horn
    Sam Horn 5 months ago +1

    Sandra, your COURAGE in talking about your fear is giving other people COURAGE to talk about and face theirs. Thank you for your honesty and your heart and for sharing your hard-won insights in such an inspiring way. We are all better for you sharing your story and your wisdom. Thank you.

  • butterfflyess
    butterfflyess 5 months ago

    The singing is cringey

  • Barath K Raja
    Barath K Raja 5 months ago

    Grateful for u mam,for those great interpretation of fear(life) and letting us as well to embrace and live happily with(out) it....!!!!!

  • The Hill
    The Hill 5 months ago

    Whatever just stay away from hetrosexual people

  • Jainah Primo
    Jainah Primo 5 months ago +1

    What amazing speach! It was impossible to pause this video and much more impossible was not being emotional. Thanks for share! S2

  • Akio J
    Akio J 5 months ago

    Bravo!!! Indeed a profound message! *sheds tears of joy*

  • Gaia Verita
    Gaia Verita 5 months ago

    What a brave woman. She made me to rethink about facing life. Facing bravely life with no fear is the key to kill our daily phantoms.

  • Marwan Shublaq
    Marwan Shublaq 5 months ago

    Behind the mask is another mask.

  • Khushi Budhiraja
    Khushi Budhiraja 5 months ago

    The best tedx speech so far for me...

  • Ambient Thinker
    Ambient Thinker 5 months ago

    Beautifully crafted message.

  • NorMorry :D
    NorMorry :D 5 months ago +1

    So moving, I almost cried.

  • you tube
    you tube 5 months ago

    so much rubbish on the internet ....

  • Budi Mardiono
    Budi Mardiono 5 months ago +1

    this is the first time i cried watching ted talks.... well noted on the message, thank you.

  • JulianaHereOnEarth
    JulianaHereOnEarth 5 months ago

    Ok, the opening singing was fine, but did she have to sing entire stanzas of Phantom songs in the rest of the speech??? Lady, it's a TED talk, not a Phantom performance! We get it, you played Christine in Phantom on Bway

  • Bastian Rivero
    Bastian Rivero 5 months ago

    You can smell the fear in her breathing, fear is totally normal... you cant live without it

  • Ada Vanja
    Ada Vanja 5 months ago

    What a waste of time.

  • MrTnbopp123
    MrTnbopp123 5 months ago +1

    Sorry, Opera doesnt fit in at all in a talk its just annoying

  • Jon Padrejuan
    Jon Padrejuan 5 months ago

    so theatrical.... sweet!

  • Nathan ONeill
    Nathan ONeill 5 months ago +1

    "The first rule is to have an untroubled spirit. The second rule is to look at things in the face and know them for what they are." Marcus Aurelius. This talk was profound. If you are struggling with fear, the stoics were experts in dealing with it. "It has a way of sustaining you during times of misfortune." Such an amazing talk, thank you Sandra.

  • Ana Morla
    Ana Morla 5 months ago

    “Perhaps all the dragons of our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us once beautiful and brave” - Rainer Maria Rilke 🦋

  • John Roddy
    John Roddy 5 months ago

    Wise Beautiful, Talented and Brave Woman ,

  • Alpha Strength
    Alpha Strength 5 months ago

    Very inspiring stories there

  • Cass & Bran
    Cass & Bran 5 months ago +30

    Courage is not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.
    And that is how we came to reach where we are now. I just graduated college and I started a late night cookie shop out of a local bagel shop in their off hours at night. I was living in my car in the parking lot of the shop at the time with my boyfriend, Bran. It was a crazy experience but it worked! We became a success! And how we have our first storefront location (hopefully a second soon!) We started it to fund a year long backpacking trip around the world and to be successful while living the life of our dreams. I am definitely not where I want to take this to just yet, because our second location is under construction now! And it's leading to achieving even bigger things! Thank you for all your awesome content!

  • Natascha Troehler ANP-C

    This "seeing" moment was recently the catalyst for my understanding and transformation. I am grateful for the angel in disguise who brought me this profound lesson. 🤚❤

  • Sandra Saverio
    Sandra Saverio 5 months ago

    She is confusing real life with theatre

  • Hey Man
    Hey Man 5 months ago +1


  • Mihaila
    Mihaila 5 months ago

    I stopped breathing when she was singing the part near her "father's grave".. Thank GOD it ended well!!

  • Cheyenne_trinity
    Cheyenne_trinity 5 months ago +2

    This was truly beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing your story. ❤️

  • Will
    Will 5 months ago +2

    Sounds more like she’s tooting her own horn 🤔😁

  • Lasisi Kazeem
    Lasisi Kazeem 5 months ago

    You are even swearing that you will privatise NNPC you also wanna enrich your friends. Wetting be NNPC before?

  • No Blood No Foul
    No Blood No Foul 5 months ago

    Best Ted Talk ever

  • MsTuliplady
    MsTuliplady 5 months ago

    "We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion". Parabol/Parabola by Tool. Maynard James Keenan

  • Krithi Nair
    Krithi Nair 5 months ago

    Seems like you brought up the theatre ma'am....on tedx stage....Emotional one....thank you....

  • Taranjeet Singh
    Taranjeet Singh 5 months ago

    Really inspired me... Hats off

  • The Fonz
    The Fonz 5 months ago

    I hope she didn’t sing Christine like that. The whole point of the character is that she DOESN’T have the popular (over the top) vibrato of the day like Christine and sang in a pure more contemporary fashion.

    • Glenn Stevens
      Glenn Stevens 5 months ago

      Gonna guess that Sandy knows the character a bit better than you, based upon her experiences with performing it 1,000 times.

  • Jason M
    Jason M 5 months ago

    Who says you’re suppose to survive...if death could be postponed would you go on postponing it indefinitely?
    Far more amusing to continue life through different individuals.

  • Kira Kjear
    Kira Kjear 5 months ago

    Feel the fear and do it anyway! Fear can really hold you back in life. I rather face them than becoming a prisoner. Great talk 👏🏻

  • lino barata
    lino barata 5 months ago

    very good



  • David Whitman Character Actor

    How may a person arrange to present a TEDx lecture?

  • Amelia Mitchell
    Amelia Mitchell 5 months ago +1

    Tears. Sandra Joseph you are magnificent. I am overjoyed thinking about how many people get to see this.

  • pcelsus
    pcelsus 5 months ago +1

    What a pleasure listen to this fragile, brave and intelligent woman! I agree - only heart which overcomes fear can understand and eventually feel empathy with another person

  • Mestry Badahra
    Mestry Badahra 5 months ago

    I' do not understand English Sory
    Mestry Badahra

  • Stan M.
    Stan M. 5 months ago +1

    Fear is a choice

  • Oleg Taurus
    Oleg Taurus 5 months ago

    No no no pizdej.

  • Piyushi sao
    Piyushi sao 5 months ago


  • cridecar
    cridecar 5 months ago

    Falling in love with fear means one is considering fear as an entity, i.e., like a person. On the other hand, falling in love with "Facing and Overcoming Fear", is like wanting to fall in love with a task.

    If I genuinely fall in love with a person/entity it casts away my fear of that person. Thus, if unconditional love exists, it casts away all baggages and demons for only unditional love has that power and has the soul of genuine acceptance. If this unfolds, then Fear becomes your ally and not your foe. Suffering then dissolves.

  • Akindele Olunloyo
    Akindele Olunloyo 5 months ago

    I am falling in love with my fears henceforth. Thank you!

  • David
    David 5 months ago

    TED really scraping the barrel for speakers

  • Rosalily
    Rosalily 5 months ago


  • elite partner
    elite partner 5 months ago +1

    Facing fear is the way to success

  • Seashell 47
    Seashell 47 5 months ago

    Truly beautiful and inspiring, thank you. I was crying from about 3 mins in T-T

  • Four Site
    Four Site 5 months ago

    She looks like a typical anxiety patient.

  • Pam G
    Pam G 5 months ago +1

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. I have struggled w/fear & anxiety my whole life. I'm practicing, day by day, walking towards the fear. BTW: I saw Phantom years ago & was so moved by it. What a gift you have! What a blessing that you are still here, speaking & singing without any impediment, bringing wisdom to so many.

  • Jace Jacobs - Jar of Poetry

    ✋🏼👊🏼😀❤️ Embrace your fear. Namaste 🙏

  • calholli
    calholli 5 months ago

    How bizarre.

  • T-800 Model 101 Infiltrator Unit.

    I do not fall in love with fear. Fear falls in love with me.

    • A O
      A O 5 months ago +2

      Haha I hate how true this is

  • Sarha Sarhan
    Sarha Sarhan 5 months ago


  • kissmygritz
    kissmygritz 5 months ago

    Christine x Phantom was cannon

  • Lateef Khan
    Lateef Khan 5 months ago

    Facing fear makes you grow. You made my day .

  • Sam sadat
    Sam sadat 5 months ago +2

    Only ISLAM MAKE YOU FEARLESS....trustme

  • Meatnyancat22
    Meatnyancat22 5 months ago

    fear adds alot of thrill, esepecally with motocross racing, every time the gate drops its you and up to 39 other riders racing, jumping and going up to 50 mph

  • sankalp jugral
    sankalp jugral 5 months ago +1

    Ruined my determination

  • Jenni Thompson
    Jenni Thompson 5 months ago


  • Kelly Overbey
    Kelly Overbey 5 months ago

    Change the thumbnail.

  • PIMA20132770579
    PIMA20132770579 5 months ago +4

    liberal overdramatic nonsense

  • Marilyn Taylor
    Marilyn Taylor 5 months ago

    Excellent. Thank you.

  • John La Marca
    John La Marca 5 months ago +1

    Why do people feel safe going where it is very dangerous and fear going where it is safe and rewarding? The fire escape into the streets of New York City at night?! A lot more dangerous than performing on stage something you have already done many times...