Fall in love with fear | Sandra Joseph | TEDxSouthLakeTahoe

  • Опубликовано: 17 янв 2019
  • Sandra Joseph holds the record as Broadway’s longest-running leading lady (Christine Daaé in The Phantom of the Opera) and is the author of Unmasking What Matters: 10 Life Lessons from 10 Years on Broadway. Through song and story, Sandra pulls back the curtain and reveals how her battle with fear offstage mirrored her character’s struggle onstage and led her to the question: What if we could fall in love with what we fear? As the lines between art and life blur, one thing becomes clear: Rather than hold us back or choke us with worry, the things we fear the most might actually free us to live our lives full-out. Sandra Joseph is a history-making Broadway star, a bestselling author, and a keynote speaker.
    Ten years as Christine in The Phantom of the Opera earned her the record as the longest-running leading lady in the longest-running Broadway show of all time. Oprah calls her a Broadway legend and an inspiration.
    Sandra has been seen on numerous national broadcasts, including The Oprah Winfrey Show, CNN, The Today Show, The View, and Oprah: Where Are They Now?.
    Sandra is the author of the #1 international bestselling book, Unmasking What Matters: 10 Life Lessons from 10 Years on Broadway and the coauthor of Your Creative Soul: Expressing Your Authentic Voice with five-time New York Times bestselling author Caroline Myss.
    Recognized for her thought leadership, Sandra is a member of The Transformational Leadership Council, a group of 100 top personal development professionals, founded by Jack Canfield. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

Комментарии • 198

  • Alexia Vernon
    Alexia Vernon 20 дней назад

    Misty-eyed and with my heart wide open, I thank you, my dear friend, for this riveting talk. You helped me see new places where fear is showing up for me and how to respond. And your dad is, no doubt, still grinning from ear to ear with pride for all you have done in this world! Love you.

  • Sam Horn
    Sam Horn 26 дней назад +1

    Sandra, your COURAGE in talking about your fear is giving other people COURAGE to talk about and face theirs. Thank you for your honesty and your heart and for sharing your hard-won insights in such an inspiring way. We are all better for you sharing your story and your wisdom. Thank you.

  • butterfflyess
    butterfflyess 26 дней назад

    The singing is cringey

  • Barath K Raja
    Barath K Raja 29 дней назад

    Grateful for u mam,for those great interpretation of fear(life) and letting us as well to embrace and live happily with(out) it....!!!!!

  • The Hill
    The Hill 29 дней назад

    Whatever just stay away from hetrosexual people

  • Jaina Primo
    Jaina Primo Месяц назад +1

    What amazing speach! It was impossible to pause this video and much more impossible was not being emotional. Thanks for share! S2

  • Akio J
    Akio J Месяц назад

    Bravo!!! Indeed a profound message! *sheds tears of joy*

  • Gaia Verita Cassano
    Gaia Verita Cassano Месяц назад

    What a brave woman. She made me to rethink about facing life. Facing bravely life with no fear is the key to kill our daily phantoms.

  • Marwan Shublaq
    Marwan Shublaq Месяц назад

    Behind the mask is another mask.

  • Khushi Budhiraja
    Khushi Budhiraja Месяц назад

    The best tedx speech so far for me...

  • Ambient Thinker
    Ambient Thinker Месяц назад

    Beautifully crafted message.

  • Liam Lang
    Liam Lang Месяц назад +1

    So moving, I almost cried.

  • you tube
    you tube Месяц назад

    so much rubbish on the internet ....

  • Budi Mardiono
    Budi Mardiono Месяц назад +1

    this is the first time i cried watching ted talks.... well noted on the message, thank you.

  • JulianaHereOnEarth
    JulianaHereOnEarth Месяц назад

    Ok, the opening singing was fine, but did she have to sing entire stanzas of Phantom songs in the rest of the speech??? Lady, it's a TED talk, not a Phantom performance! We get it, you played Christine in Phantom on Bway

  • Bastian Rivero
    Bastian Rivero Месяц назад

    You can smell the fear in her breathing, fear is totally normal... you cant live without it

  • Ada Vanja
    Ada Vanja Месяц назад

    What a waste of time.

  • MrTnbopp123
    MrTnbopp123 Месяц назад +1

    Sorry, Opera doesnt fit in at all in a talk its just annoying

  • Jon Padrejuan
    Jon Padrejuan Месяц назад

    so theatrical.... sweet!

  • Nathan ONeill
    Nathan ONeill Месяц назад +1

    "The first rule is to have an untroubled spirit. The second rule is to look at things in the face and know them for what they are." Marcus Aurelius. This talk was profound. If you are struggling with fear, the stoics were experts in dealing with it. "It has a way of sustaining you during times of misfortune." Such an amazing talk, thank you Sandra.

  • Ana Morla
    Ana Morla Месяц назад

    “Perhaps all the dragons of our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us once beautiful and brave” - Rainer Maria Rilke 🦋

  • John Roddy
    John Roddy Месяц назад

    Wise Beautiful, Talented and Brave Woman ,

  • Alpha Strength
    Alpha Strength Месяц назад

    Very inspiring stories there

  • Cass & Bran
    Cass & Bran Месяц назад +29

    Courage is not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.
    And that is how we came to reach where we are now. I just graduated college and I started a late night cookie shop out of a local bagel shop in their off hours at night. I was living in my car in the parking lot of the shop at the time with my boyfriend, Bran. It was a crazy experience but it worked! We became a success! And how we have our first storefront location (hopefully a second soon!) We started it to fund a year long backpacking trip around the world and to be successful while living the life of our dreams. I am definitely not where I want to take this to just yet, because our second location is under construction now! And it's leading to achieving even bigger things! Thank you for all your awesome content!

  • Natascha Troehler ANP-C
    Natascha Troehler ANP-C Месяц назад

    This "seeing" moment was recently the catalyst for my understanding and transformation. I am grateful for the angel in disguise who brought me this profound lesson. 🤚❤

  • Sandra Saverio
    Sandra Saverio Месяц назад

    She is confusing real life with theatre

  • Hey Man
    Hey Man Месяц назад +1


  • Mihaila
    Mihaila Месяц назад

    I stopped breathing when she was singing the part near her "father's grave".. Thank GOD it ended well!!

  • Cheyenne_trinity
    Cheyenne_trinity Месяц назад +2

    This was truly beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing your story. ❤️

  • William T
    William T Месяц назад +3

    Sounds more like she’s tooting her own horn 🤔😁

  • Lasisi Kazeem
    Lasisi Kazeem Месяц назад

    You are even swearing that you will privatise NNPC you also wanna enrich your friends. Wetting be NNPC before?

  • No Blood No Foul
    No Blood No Foul Месяц назад

    Best Ted Talk ever

  • MsTuliplady
    MsTuliplady Месяц назад

    "We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion". Parabol/Parabola by Tool. Maynard James Keenan

  • Krithi Nair
    Krithi Nair Месяц назад

    Seems like you brought up the theatre ma'am....on tedx stage....Emotional one....thank you....

  • Taranjeet Singh
    Taranjeet Singh Месяц назад

    Really inspired me... Hats off

  • The Fonz
    The Fonz Месяц назад

    I hope she didn’t sing Christine like that. The whole point of the character is that she DOESN’T have the popular (over the top) vibrato of the day like Christine and sang in a pure more contemporary fashion.

    • Glenn Stevens
      Glenn Stevens 24 дня назад

      Gonna guess that Sandy knows the character a bit better than you, based upon her experiences with performing it 1,000 times.

  • Jason M
    Jason M Месяц назад

    Who says you’re suppose to survive...if death could be postponed would you go on postponing it indefinitely?
    Far more amusing to continue life through different individuals.

  • Kira Kjear
    Kira Kjear Месяц назад

    Feel the fear and do it anyway! Fear can really hold you back in life. I rather face them than becoming a prisoner. Great talk 👏🏻

  • lino barata
    lino barata Месяц назад

    very good

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    This Is My Channel Месяц назад


  • Logan Reynolds
    Logan Reynolds Месяц назад +1

    This channel has inspired during the creation of my channel please take a look & subscribe if you like my channel!😁

  • bansheewhiskey
    bansheewhiskey Месяц назад +2

    TED Talks are full of shitemongers looking for attention.

  • David Whitman Character Actor
    David Whitman Character Actor Месяц назад

    How may a person arrange to present a TEDx lecture?

  • Amelia Mitchell
    Amelia Mitchell Месяц назад +1

    Tears. Sandra Joseph you are magnificent. I am overjoyed thinking about how many people get to see this.

  • pcelsus
    pcelsus Месяц назад +1

    What a pleasure listen to this fragile, brave and intelligent woman! I agree - only heart which overcomes fear can understand and eventually feel empathy with another person

  • Mestry Badahra
    Mestry Badahra Месяц назад

    I' do not understand English Sory
    Mestry Badahra

  • Stan M.
    Stan M. Месяц назад +1

    Fear is a choice

  • Oleg Taurus
    Oleg Taurus Месяц назад

    No no no pizdej.

  • Piyushi sao
    Piyushi sao Месяц назад


  • cridecar
    cridecar Месяц назад

    Falling in love with fear means one is considering fear as an entity, i.e., like a person. On the other hand, falling in love with "Facing and Overcoming Fear", is like wanting to fall in love with a task.

    If I genuinely fall in love with a person/entity it casts away my fear of that person. Thus, if unconditional love exists, it casts away all baggages and demons for only unditional love has that power and has the soul of genuine acceptance. If this unfolds, then Fear becomes your ally and not your foe. Suffering then dissolves.

  • Akindele Olunloyo
    Akindele Olunloyo Месяц назад

    I am falling in love with my fears henceforth. Thank you!

  • David
    David Месяц назад +1

    TED really scraping the barrel for speakers

  • Rosalily
    Rosalily Месяц назад


  • elite partner
    elite partner Месяц назад +1

    Facing fear is the way to success

  • Seashell 47
    Seashell 47 Месяц назад

    Truly beautiful and inspiring, thank you. I was crying from about 3 mins in T-T

  • Four Site
    Four Site Месяц назад

    She looks like a typical anxiety patient.

  • Pam G
    Pam G Месяц назад +1

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. I have struggled w/fear & anxiety my whole life. I'm practicing, day by day, walking towards the fear. BTW: I saw Phantom years ago & was so moved by it. What a gift you have! What a blessing that you are still here, speaking & singing without any impediment, bringing wisdom to so many.

  • Jace Jacobs - Jar of Poetry
    Jace Jacobs - Jar of Poetry Месяц назад

    ✋🏼👊🏼😀❤️ Embrace your fear. Namaste 🙏

  • calholli
    calholli Месяц назад

    How bizarre.

  • T-800 Model 101 Infiltrator Unit.
    T-800 Model 101 Infiltrator Unit. Месяц назад +8

    I do not fall in love with fear. Fear falls in love with me.

    • A O
      A O Месяц назад +2

      Haha I hate how true this is

  • Sarha Sarhan
    Sarha Sarhan Месяц назад


  • Jim Dillard
    Jim Dillard Месяц назад

    You have a great voice.

  • kissmygritz
    kissmygritz Месяц назад

    Christine x Phantom was cannon

  • Lateef Khan
    Lateef Khan Месяц назад

    Facing fear makes you grow. You made my day .

  • Sam sadat
    Sam sadat Месяц назад +2

    Only ISLAM MAKE YOU FEARLESS....trustme

  • Meatnyancat22
    Meatnyancat22 Месяц назад

    fear adds alot of thrill, esepecally with motocross racing, every time the gate drops its you and up to 39 other riders racing, jumping and going up to 50 mph

  • sankalp jugral
    sankalp jugral Месяц назад +1

    Ruined my determination

  • Jenni Thompson
    Jenni Thompson Месяц назад


  • Kelly Overbey
    Kelly Overbey Месяц назад

    Change the thumbnail.

  • PIMA20132770579
    PIMA20132770579 Месяц назад +5

    liberal overdramatic nonsense

    • Micky Damon
      Micky Damon Месяц назад +1

      The singing was the worst part

  • Marilyn Taylor
    Marilyn Taylor Месяц назад

    Excellent. Thank you.

  • John La Marca
    John La Marca Месяц назад +1

    Why do people feel safe going where it is very dangerous and fear going where it is safe and rewarding? The fire escape into the streets of New York City at night?! A lot more dangerous than performing on stage something you have already done many times...

  • Grace Marie
    Grace Marie Месяц назад +5

    Wow this ones going to be good! I love tedtalks..they are very encouraging. In fact, I started a channel encouraging others too. Go check it out if you want to! Have a great day! Jesus loves you :)

  • zztop3000
    zztop3000 Месяц назад +2

    Your whole analogy of how to deal with life is a piece of a play you were playing? Alrighty then. This was a little cringe with the singing that was really unnecessary, but nonetheless a beautiful message. Thank you for sharing your idea.

    • fiona fiona
      fiona fiona Месяц назад

      I am not found of singing either but hers is meaningful for at least her pathos.

  • Guy Hofmann
    Guy Hofmann Месяц назад +2

    Great. Made me burst into tears. Thanks. Sincerely from Lower-Saxony in Germany.

  • Upgrade
    Upgrade Месяц назад +2

    I think you are confusing loving fear with mastering risk.

  • Ishan Vidyarthi
    Ishan Vidyarthi Месяц назад +26

    That was so beautiful

  • Gavin Vero
    Gavin Vero Месяц назад

    Amazing Inspiration Thank You x

  • Clifford L.
    Clifford L. Месяц назад +27

    Wow. this is a very powerful and beautiful talk. It made me cry. Thank you for sharing your story.

    SUDIPA ROY Месяц назад

    That's just brilliantly explained ❤❤❤ Amazing!

  • Jeff Nelson
    Jeff Nelson Месяц назад

    Very insightful... And very pretty 😍

  • Muhammad Asim
    Muhammad Asim Месяц назад +1

    Don't tap on
    Read more.....

    Like if you tap on read more..😄😄😄

  • Shane Walter
    Shane Walter Месяц назад +1

    Oh ted, how you always lie and smile at the same time so sheeple everywhere will believe you and blindly follow. We will remember you all for every little knife you put in us as we were falling down.

  • Nkem Obishai
    Nkem Obishai Месяц назад +3

    This is so liberating! Fears are demystified!.....Mask off, arms open and embracing......There's nothing to fear, after all. Thanks Sandra!

  • Islam raw
    Islam raw Месяц назад

    رجاءا الترجمه الى العربيه

  • O Pensante
    O Pensante Месяц назад

    Tem como adicionar legenda em português na proxima ?

  • sumedha sengupta
    sumedha sengupta Месяц назад +23

    I was feeling pretty off-the-beat recently for reasons I really can't figure out why. This video is so damn empowering that I suddenly have the urge to just do all the things I love as well as all the things I've ever feared to do right away. Thankyou so much, Ma'am.
    More power to you all who're trying their best to overcome their fears and figuring out life! You are on your path to become the most beautiful humans, full of experiences and strengths! May you empower other people around you! 😇

  • Stujoy
    Stujoy Месяц назад

    I m from Brazil . I love this video

  • satvik Agrasani
    satvik Agrasani Месяц назад

    Amazing 😇

  • Klarenxe Blood
    Klarenxe Blood Месяц назад +108

    Do Not Fall in Love with Fear , Fall in Love with Facing and overcoming Fear

    • swapna karan
      swapna karan Месяц назад

      +periklis spanos what r u thinking about girl...? Money doesn't mater.. I think u never know what is love..?

    • periklis spanos
      periklis spanos Месяц назад


    • periklis spanos
      periklis spanos Месяц назад

      Cass where do you find the mone. Thanks for the joke

    • Hyb Cuz
      Hyb Cuz Месяц назад


    • swapna karan
      swapna karan Месяц назад +2

      Yes.. U are telling right...

  • Adersh Jha
    Adersh Jha Месяц назад

    Thank you to show us the way !

  • Caner Erten
    Caner Erten Месяц назад +6

    Fear is non-existance. It is just an reflection of failure.

  • yash bansal
    yash bansal Месяц назад +4

    I want to tell a girl that I love her but I can't because I fear that if he rejects me than I can't leave without her.
    Can anyone help me

    • JoshuasBlog
      JoshuasBlog Месяц назад +2

      +Gillian Biernat See it's like a game of poker. First you have to know your cards. Would you go all in with a 2 and 4? Probably not, cause your chances of winning are bad. If you have pocket aces/she's attracted to you: Go for it. Otherwise play it slowly to learn about the opponents hand.

    • Gillian Biernat
      Gillian Biernat Месяц назад

      +JoshuasBlog That great actionable advice. It also helps determine whether it is really love or infatuation.

    • JoshuasBlog
      JoshuasBlog Месяц назад +3

      reduce risk by gathering data about her emotions

    • Gillian Biernat
      Gillian Biernat Месяц назад

      Well she will never be with you if you don't tell her. She could love you back, but if she does reject you know except that friendship is enough. You can be sad, but she love is infinite just know you will find it again.

    • Mayank
      Mayank Месяц назад +2

      Well no one except you will know your exact situation and feeling. But what you need to know is that make the choice you won't regret. Something that you can't wonder about 10 years down the line. Closure is what you need.

  • Micky Damon
    Micky Damon Месяц назад +1

    Annoying singing.

  • ZeCasuals
    ZeCasuals Месяц назад +37

    I will stand up against my bullies at work!

    • Ada Vanja
      Ada Vanja Месяц назад +1

      Bullies at work are called "mobbers". I hope yours - as well as mine - die. Best of luck to you!

    • She Ferdz
      She Ferdz Месяц назад

      Dont let ever happen. good luck

    • fiona fiona
      fiona fiona Месяц назад

      All ways be save and have an alternative.

    • Awa Belle
      Awa Belle Месяц назад +2

      Yes you most stand for your self

  • Gyro Gaming
    Gyro Gaming Месяц назад +23

    Who else love her voice?

    • Gyro Gaming
      Gyro Gaming Месяц назад

      +Juad white 😂

    • Juad white
      Juad white Месяц назад

      I wish she was my girlfriend, but unfortunately she is married.

  • Stephen Clark
    Stephen Clark Месяц назад

    She's here to give a f****** lecture not to sing some b******* at the beginning

  • Kiiro Sagi
    Kiiro Sagi Месяц назад +7

    Horrible, hollow talk with no real lesson, just another dramatized book plug. TED is a joke.

    • Sara Morales
      Sara Morales Месяц назад +10

      Go do better her then. Stop showing up just to put people down.

  • Tuncay şenses
    Tuncay şenses Месяц назад

    The is beautiful 🌟 harculads 🌟

  • Danie
    Danie Месяц назад +63

    I’m not crying, you are!

    • Dead Pool
      Dead Pool Месяц назад

      Thats rude

    • Juad white
      Juad white Месяц назад +1

      Iam not crying,but my heart is bleeding wothout stopping.

    • Danie
      Danie Месяц назад +1

      Dango_Official my eyes are leaking?!

    • Dango_Official
      Dango_Official Месяц назад +2

      I'm just sweating from eyes!