How Do I Manage My Loneliness?

  • Published on Jan 2, 2018
  • Eckhart shares a personal story to illustrate how feelings of loneliness become transformed through acceptance.
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Comments • 523

  • MoonWishes
    MoonWishes 22 days ago +1

    Dude asking the question is Cute, dig his accent too !

  • Uranus Planet
    Uranus Planet 29 days ago +1

    loneliness = lack of suffering

  • Gary Young
    Gary Young Month ago +1

    Life always gives what you need...

  • Rkhan khan
    Rkhan khan Month ago +2

    Master is the best ♥️♥️
    From afghanistan 🇦🇫

  • Tiger Spills The Wine
    Tiger Spills The Wine Month ago +1

    Did yoda exist and become Eckhart? This is a compliment by the way haha
    Teaching us the ways of the internal “force”

  • l'éléphant rouge
    l'éléphant rouge Month ago +1

    What if he was seeking friendship instead of romantic love?

  • manfrombritain
    manfrombritain Month ago +1

    guy's been travelling a couple of years .... there's his problem. he probably only runs into wannabe hippies and spoiled white girls in hostels, never building any satisfying friendships or relationships

  • Steve Carol
    Steve Carol Month ago +3

    True, about suffering, I am going through a very unhappy part of my life.

  • Val
    Val Month ago +2

    That advice was actually kind of brutal

  • Adam Mada
    Adam Mada Month ago +2

    The real problem with this is how to break the paradox of wanting to be in a relationship while simultaneously NOT wanting to be in one. I could easily get a Women partner as I know I have enough to attract one and I do feel a yearning for this companionship often, yet I equally want to be a recluse and being a Man romantic offers NEVER fall into your lap, obtaining a Women always requires the effort of 'winning' her over so I feel resentment at the process and thus I've remained single for over 14 years now. I'm not motivated enough to ever play the dating game yet I do want a Women some of the time. I'm at peace with my current situation and expect it never to change but if it were to change what would be the catalyst?

  • Never Give Up
    Never Give Up Month ago +2

    That was great but it never answered the loneliness problem

  • Ash *
    Ash * Month ago +2

    Follow what makes you feel happy, follow what makes you feel inspired, follow what grounds you and brings you joy. All else follows.
    I have traveled the world alone and felt this extreme, extreme disconnect. What solved this for me was taking myself to film from my home country, taking warm showers, a teddy bear and being held by a companion.

  • Pouya Iranitalab
    Pouya Iranitalab 2 months ago +1

    This is an epic video holy cow lol

  • Alex F
    Alex F 2 months ago +1

    Funny how all the “Facebook friends” and still lonely. Rid that garbage media. !!!!

  • pvsk10
    pvsk10 2 months ago +2

    So much wisdom! He is a modern-day Buddha

  • Saucy Jk
    Saucy Jk 2 months ago +1

    Suffering, intense, lifelong, has not motivated me at all on the material plane, i admit, i would not be where i am spiritually had i not experienced the point now that i have lost all ambition, all desire, to achieve anything, and see the futility of working a crap 40 hr a week job just to order to work, one needs something one is desiring...possessions, romantic love, ego...when that is no longer there, it is i live homeless, at 50 years old...i enjoy solitude...but there ARE times when i am so truly lonely, and sad....i was a guy who owned a house, had girlfriends, a social life, a creative life, pets..friends....that is all gone, and i miss much of renunciation is NOT for the weak of worked out for Eckhart, but it doesnt necessarily work out for everyone, at least not in the same sort of fairy tale way... and remember, this is 42 years ago he started this journey (1977), and living expenses were such that one could work a little and quit...impossible now...the internet has hypersped modern life and economics into a dystopian nightmare and i choose for the most part to not engage, save things like this channel and a few others...point is..the trauma of loss/suffering is not always a motivator...sometimes it is something that does NOT make one stronger...some losses take pieces of you that are not to return, and i accept that...i cannot manufacture Inspiration. what is unfortunate is how much suffering has occurred with the loss of intimate relationships simply because of lack of money/the conditioned expectation of others,.i am roughly the age Eckhart was when he wrote Power Of Now...i have had some powerful, burning bush type supernatural experiences with SOMETHING...whether God, Higher Intelligence/Alien or that which controls this (hypothetical) simulation, if that were/is true...i dont know WHAT it is.... practicing Buddha,Christ and Krishna consciousness is all i have of value, besides the love of my family(parents/siblings)...peace and light to you Eckhart and his viewers...

  • Luis
    Luis 2 months ago +3

    I know you didn't mean to speak to me. But you did. You kind of confirm what I've suspected for a long time. I know that in my darkest night, I'll think of what you've said and draw hope from it.

  • Paul Slevin
    Paul Slevin 2 months ago +1

    Student- master Eckert -how do I find enlightenment? Master Eck. - you have not suffered enough, start a relationship and you will get there. LOL my question - but will the other person survive my journey to enlightenment?

  • Paul Slevin
    Paul Slevin 2 months ago +1

    Student- master Eckert -how do I find enlightenment? Master Eck. - you have not suffered enough, start a relationship and you will get there. LOL my question - but will the other person survive my journey to enlightenment?

  • Eduarda Marques
    Eduarda Marques 2 months ago +3

    It is indeed easier to move from a place of unhappiness to awakening, than it is to move from a place of happiness to consciousness. Most of us get motivation from pain. My case at least. 🙏

  • Winter Song
    Winter Song 2 months ago +1

    Wow, this guy is wonderful. They both are :)

  • Susie Arviso
    Susie Arviso 2 months ago +1

    Loneliness is a choice. Reach out to others and pour into their lives. Loneliness is overcome with new purpose and meeting new people. In order to feel lonely, a person must be willing to feel sorry for their self. Self pity isn't attractive. Reaching out to others, is.

  • tahitihawaiiblue
    tahitihawaiiblue 2 months ago +1

    You are so right master!

  • Redeemed4life
    Redeemed4life 3 months ago +1

    Resignation :)

  • ste s
    ste s 3 months ago +1

    Been travelling and is lonely, you said well stop travelling and go home. U travel to meet, new places and people obviously ur gunna be lonely until u meet people.

  • Raiders of the lost Narc
    Raiders of the lost Narc 3 months ago +1

    Modern day Yoda. So wise

  • LG TV
    LG TV 3 months ago +2

    I’ve been single for 5 years, no sex, no hug or a kiss from the opposite sex. I sometimes think i must be crazy because it doesn’t bother me one bit. EveryI know says there’s something wrong.

  • sleepy dank
    sleepy dank 3 months ago +1

    Immerse yourself in solitude, loneliness can sometimes be the best companion. It will teach you many lessons and provide you with a deeper insight into your being. You are never turkey alone we all have a deep sense of cone trees with one and other,we are all intertwined via energy,we are all at one with the elements of nature as well as the electric light energy of the cosmos. Learn to cultivate are a relationship with your source energy.

  • Ali Erkmen
    Ali Erkmen 3 months ago +33

    Loneliness, for me its the feeling of the soul missing soul connections, remembering past emotions of connection that are no more, brings loneliness on to me.

  • Marijke van der Meer
    Marijke van der Meer 4 months ago +2

    Do not use social media..or do not give it importance...

  • Maggy Ebraheem
    Maggy Ebraheem 4 months ago +5

    The audience is too loud when laughing. Half the time it's uncalled for.. Be still & quite .👍🏽🙃

  • Patrick Day
    Patrick Day 4 months ago +1

    i have found this idea/mantra helpful. "i don't have love, i don't give love, i don't need love, i don't share love. i am love.

  • bigboy
    bigboy 4 months ago +1

    Let me guess meditation and become one with the world ?

  • camelia elena
    camelia elena 4 months ago +3

    happend to me ,that in order to be free of a certain amount of suffering that was causing me huge health problems ,i had really to let go . and there is no book or spiritual teacher telling you ,how to do it. you must figure it out yourself .cause its unique way for every being here. and to decide to let go i had to reach a very very low point . was like a death . my desicion was : take me away home ,or let me live a good life. :) but that was like diyng inside . other fears reach me in the last years and probably when i will hit the ground again ....i WILL KNOW...IT'S TIME TO RISE AGAIN .

  • Elizabeth Long
    Elizabeth Long 4 months ago +1

  • Patrick van meter
    Patrick van meter 4 months ago +1

    I don't feel lonely often but when I do, being around people solves the problem every time. I love people but don't enjoy them very often. Don't enjoy small talk much.

  • Crasta
    Crasta 4 months ago +1


  • Lani Hadden
    Lani Hadden 4 months ago +1

    I want my life back. I don't want people to hear my thoughts. I want my kids and new family. What is happening?

  • dog bounty
    dog bounty 4 months ago +1

    like McFLY knows the way off the earth.

  • A GT
    A GT 4 months ago +2

    Tell me Frenchman, if you read this, are you still lonely?

  • Her Aeolian Harp
    Her Aeolian Harp 4 months ago +15

    Closing Facebook: best thing I ever did. Your true friends are foregrounded, the dross falls away, and you are left with the riches waiting in yourself.

  • DAV
    DAV 4 months ago +1

    Get a dog. See your depression lift.

  • Sarah
    Sarah 5 months ago +2

    The worst is feeling lonely when you’re surrounded by people.
    I would rather go live on a mountain alone with my dog then continue feeling unsupported and lonely with the people I’m around.

  • Lauris Olups
    Lauris Olups 5 months ago +1

    What if Eckhart's brain short-circuited back then and started mass-producing feel-good chemicals, like a perpetual high. And since he's been trying to "teach" it to others, not realising that it's an anomaly that no one can reach by mere practice?

  • Xia 8xxx
    Xia 8xxx 5 months ago +3

    This one is probably the funniest one of the videos from eckhart.:-D :-D had to listen to it several times,the end of this video is just brilliant. :-D

  • Anne Mari
    Anne Mari 5 months ago +1

    If you're reading this, know that you are capable of all the good things in life!

  • krokodit
    krokodit 5 months ago +2

    Thanks so much! I find myself in a similar situation and feel so relieved it's obviously "ok" to feel incomplete on some level although I'm on a spiritual path. But I have one question now: How can I find my counterpart for a healthy relationship - since I don't even know if I'm more yin or yang - so I don't know what I'm looking for ^^

  • shahilagh
    shahilagh 5 months ago +1

    You need to belong .... need to contribute than disconnect... then you won’t see people as robots ....

  • Martin Mullen
    Martin Mullen 5 months ago +1

    Brilliant, absolutely brilliant.

  • Sylvester Weiter
    Sylvester Weiter 6 months ago +1

    He’s awake

  • Whistling Puddle.
    Whistling Puddle. 6 months ago +89

    I accepted my loneliness years ago. The thought of being in a relationship makes me feel exhausted. It doesn't bother me at all anymore I love it.

  • leonard Alphonso
    leonard Alphonso 6 months ago +1


  • scott warwick
    scott warwick 6 months ago +149

    Rules for lonliness;
    1.Bed early.
    2.Rise early.
    3.Shower etc upon rising.
    (At this stage you have already won)
    4 .Look at your days plan and adhere to it.
    5.Get out in the fresh air.
    8.Plan your holidays,Easter,Christmas, etc.
    9.Take pride in your appearance.
    10.Realise that sometimes you are better away from toxic and negative people.

    • Chanel95
      Chanel95 6 months ago +2

      Beatrix 😄 Your comment made me giggle!

    • Chanel95
      Chanel95 6 months ago +18

      scott warwick What about people who can’t do these things???
      Like many, many people I am ill, disabled - and as a result very lonely. It’s not unusual by any means.
      After 30 years teaching I finally had to accept that my deteriorating health meant I could no longer work. I lost my partner round about the same time, after he’d been ill in hospital for 10 months. That was 13 years ago. ( No children by the way, as didn’t go full term with pregnancies ).
      Since then my health has worsened. I am very lonely and very lacking in energy. Fantastic friends have died, or moved to pretty far flung places - there’s not many left.
      I am only too well aware that my life is out of kilter, but despite my best efforts the reality is that even changing my bed linen is a day’s work, never mind all the things you list.
      I am not an exception.
      And this is the point I really want to flag up.
      I repeat, I am not an exception.
      Many people find themselves in not dissimilar circumstances, not born of their making.
      I do wish that some physically well people would be a little more sensitive, and a little more inclusive.
      You are taking a lot for granted.
      There endeth my sermon.
      For me two things make a world of difference to the quality of life - a bit of practical help for each other ( or as Leonard Cohen put it, ‘pitching in’ ), and a bit of TLC for each other.

    • Beatrix
      Beatrix 6 months ago +12

      You left out something... leave comments for people you will never ever meet on RU-clip😜😜😜

  • Namispond Jamispond
    Namispond Jamispond 6 months ago +4

    I've spent so long on my own now that it seems more natural and comfortable than being around people. I'm not sure that's a good thing but for now, that's the way it is. I sleep well without worry, I enjoy my breakfast and my little roll-ups(tobacco) with my cups of tea and coffee (mostly decaf), I walk, I exercise, I have TV, I have RU-clip, I can sit quietly and enjoy peace and quiet, I have music if I want it. These things fill my day. Life isn't very happy, but it can be content, and who knows what's around the corner?

  • mangs
    mangs 7 months ago +1

    isn't he the best dayum

  • Yami Le
    Yami Le 7 months ago +1


  • a person23675
    a person23675 7 months ago +1

    I only communicate with my family and my psychiatrist, i don't work or even go outside unless it's necessary. when i was hospitalized i realized that i enjoy being around people and could talk and laugh. i know people find friends on the internet, does anyone have any advice?

  • Lulu Raven
    Lulu Raven 7 months ago +30

    Suffering is a catalyst for change. doubt

  • Hucky Kim
    Hucky Kim 8 months ago +1

    I don't feel lonely when I meditate. But he's right. I still have the human side with me.

  • Robert
    Robert 8 months ago +1