All the lonely people | Karen Dolva | TEDxArendal

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  • Karen Dolva
    Title: CEO and co-founder of No Isolation
    Dolva is the CEO and co-founder of No Isolation. Her background is in UX/interaction design and informatics and she has previously co-founded the consultancy company UX Lab. With her co-founders, Marius Aabel and Matias Doyle, she has taken No Isolation to 36 employees, build AV1 for children with long-term illness, expanded sales 5 countries and started development of a senior product in less than two years. No Isolation’s goal is to help as many people as possible out of social isolation and loneliness by making technology available for those who can not just use generic solutions to stay connected.
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    Lisens Standard RU-clip-lisens Karen Dolva is the CEO and co-founder of No Isolation. Her background is in UX/interaction design and informatics and she has previously co-founded the consultancy company UX Lab.
    With her co-founders, Marius Aabel and Matias Doyle, she has taken No Isolation to 36 employees, build AV1 for children with long-term illness, expanded sales 5 countries and started development of a senior product in less than two years. No Isolation’s goal is to help as many people as possible out of social isolation and loneliness by making technology available for those who can not just use generic solutions to stay connected. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

Comments • 5 286

  • Mohamad Fakih
    Mohamad Fakih 27 minutes ago

    Depression hit me after i finished this video

  • sid ray
    sid ray 3 hours ago

    lets start a project, all of us buy a land somewhere beautiful ...live, study be happy.

  • Rudraksh Gandhar
    Rudraksh Gandhar 21 hour ago

    Let's be lonely together !

  • Zemplin Castellan

    Karen, you're my spirit animal ! Excellent work, you and your co-workers ! :-) Yes, loneliness is dangerous. :-( We need to help each other as human beings. Men and women, young and old. Far too many people in the world are plagued with loneliness or too much isolation.

  • fabio costa
    fabio costa Day ago

    It was painful to hear her... 😕
    She makes a very important point. She seems so sad I wanna give her a hug .
    All you lonely people like me gimme a hug 🤗

  • Vivek Acharya
    Vivek Acharya Day ago

    Poor soul.

  • ƬӇЄ ƦЄƔЄƝƛƝƬ

    Ragnarophobia that I always had

  • McGuire
    McGuire 2 days ago

    If I say I'm lonely I get called an incel. So I lie instead.

  • Lando Kaybro
    Lando Kaybro 2 days ago

    I'm crying I'm so lonely I'm dying inside pls help me!!!!!!

  • Daydreamdirty
    Daydreamdirty 2 days ago

    That last part is geared more towards women who are geared and wired more for social connecting, bonding and networking then men. Men have more of a capacity to be alone than women for a reason. It’s built into who they are and it shows just how well they can adapt to the certain situations that pop up.

  • Toothlesscam25
    Toothlesscam25 2 days ago

    I rather be alone but alone with someone. But most of the time I enjoy my own company except in social situations where I need to be social. I’m just trying to figure my self out right now.

  • k
    k 2 days ago

    People are lonely but why aren't lonely people aren't helping each other to be not lonely , i can help someone be not lonely but even lonely people don't want me .

  • abhishek singh
    abhishek singh 2 days ago

    Nobody remains lonely forever. Make goals in life and pursue hobbies.

  • victoria palmer
    victoria palmer 3 days ago

    I've gone to a few of my family members and I have talked with a few acquaintances about how I feel so lonely I feel like I have no existence which is made me feel very sad and depressed. I don't know why I bothered speaking up to these people because it got me nowhere..... People do not see loneliness and depression therefore they do not believe you are suffering 😔😞

  • Peter Kalmar
    Peter Kalmar 3 days ago

    I can feel Karen Dolva's experiences in life amidst lonely times. She lives it. Feels it. Sensitive enough to bring it to the worlds' attention that this does exist as a chronic state in our lives. Many, who suffer from it indefinitely. Thank you for this heartfelt share. I understand because I feel what you do.

  • Gentleman Driver
    Gentleman Driver 4 days ago

    It is strange to me. I have friends, I have a girlfriend. I am a very charming person. But all I want is to flee from those who love me. I want to ride a motorcycle in the most remote areas of the world. And then I hear this and that some people are sad and feeling pain, anger and are scared because they are lonely. I guess you always want what you dont have?!

    • Gentleman Driver
      Gentleman Driver 3 days ago

      @Heartslove 3 Dont get me wrong. You can believe in anything you want. I am not into this.

    • Heartslove 3
      Heartslove 3 3 days ago

      your searching for somehting and that somehting is God. Only he can fill that void in the human heart. Only he can satisfy the human soul, i was once so sad and empty until i came back toFather and so can you love, im never lonely because God is with me and he loves you too, come back to your first love, only he can save us

  • No Fear!
    No Fear! 4 days ago

    The only friend that will always be there for you when needed, is You!! So make sure to enjoy that company!! People will always come and go!!!!

  • Nick Blood
    Nick Blood 4 days ago

    I love you

  • A B
    A B 4 days ago +1

    The pain in her voice

  • Conor Johns
    Conor Johns 4 days ago

    2020 January 14 I was so lonely that I decided to drive to my brother house he lives 20 miles from me. But my parents where talking each other and my other brother was getting wasted.
    Anyway I don't know how to be more socially. I'm introvert and I don't like talking to my parents.
    My biggest fear is showing my emotions to my parents.

  • Melissa Hall
    Melissa Hall 6 days ago +1

    Thank you for talking about it. My grandma always had a strong support system because of church. I wish we had spiritual support centers... like churches but without all the books & rules & divisiveness (because rather people realize or admit it books like the Bible are very divisive)... where people could gather to support one another. It is strongly needed in the USA.

  • Juan Taype
    Juan Taype 7 days ago

    .....is this what happens when you are thaught you are extremly unique ? .....in consequence you end up in a unique solitude?

  • ayesha simplicity
    ayesha simplicity 7 days ago

    Feeling the pain in her voice and seing wretchedness in her face literally make me wanna cry...

  • Haydeliz Sanchez
    Haydeliz Sanchez 7 days ago

    It's actually comforting but upsetting to know I'm not alone in the journey of life living like this. I hope it gets better for you that feels this way.

  • Gloria
    Gloria 8 days ago

    Loneliness is HUGE in Norway partly due to fear of being judged by society and somewhat cultural coldness towards each other. Conversing with a stranger sitting next to you on the bus, or offering your seat to an elder lady will result in cold blank stares and a stern no. After living here for over 20 years, I've acclimated to this standoffish behaviour and go about with my headphones in my ears. I'm sociable by nature but damn, making friends with the locals in hard.

  • - ᴋʀɪɪᴅ
    - ᴋʀɪɪᴅ 8 days ago

    Lonely brothers and sisters... Hold my Hand

  • hamid k
    hamid k 8 days ago

    I didn't know it could kill me.

    • Heartslove 3
      Heartslove 3 3 days ago

      your searching for somehting and that somehting is God. Only he can fill that void in the human heart. Only he can satisfy the human soul, i was once so sad and empty until i came back toFather and so can you love, im never lonely because God is with me and he loves you too, come back to your first love, only he can save us

  • Muhammed Elsakka
    Muhammed Elsakka 8 days ago

    I watched ur video exactly for two years. I was lonely, sad, and alone in my life. Now after two years nothing changed. I'm still lonely, no love and no body cares and asks about me. Sometimes I feel that l wanna die and eliminate of my miserable life but I try to give a positive hope and ambition to my life, my existance. Actually, I don't know if I will go on or surrender to my depression and loneliness life.

    • Heartslove 3
      Heartslove 3 3 days ago

      your searching for somehting and that somehting is God. Only he can fill that void in the human heart. Only he can satisfy the human soul, i was once so sad and empty until i came back toFather and so can you love, im never lonely because God is with me and he loves you too, come back to your first love, only he can save us

  • Admiral Ackbar
    Admiral Ackbar 8 days ago

    Digitization of society is one of the biggest causes. Bringing people together and globalizing through the net actually did the opposite and emotionally separated humanity as a whole. Because we know we have access to "internet" we don't feel the urge to give effort to chase "real humans" outside, as we did decades ago. Due to this we lost these basic skills of socialization and confidence and instead inherited social anxiety and fear of society. I guarantee you the government knows this and is using this loneliness and mass isolation to their advantage to gain control over society in a greater way.

  • Jeremy Menning
    Jeremy Menning 8 days ago

    This is what Universe 25 looked like after the tenth generation.

  • Jeremy Menning
    Jeremy Menning 8 days ago

    Alone in 2020 crew checking in.

  • Nayan Kalapgar Vlogs

    I've been lonely all the time 😭

    • Heartslove 3
      Heartslove 3 3 days ago

      please come back to God love, give FAther a chance, you are his preicous child, ill give you a salvation prayer? you can get saved right now:)

  • F!zZ
    F!zZ 9 days ago

    Western people are mostly lonely if you ask me.. The children don't take care of their parents, friendship is weird in the west, dating & love is short term, increase in superficial behavior. I have know plenty of Indian students who say there are lonely in the west.

  • Lisa Campbell
    Lisa Campbell 9 days ago

    What if you are in a relationship that makes you feel lonely?

    • Jeremy Menning
      Jeremy Menning 8 days ago

      You know what you need to do. Stop searching for permission from internet strangers to do it.

  • Pero Spero
    Pero Spero 9 days ago

    She's weak. That's all, really. The weaker you are, the more you need other people for everything.

  • Kiki Stardust
    Kiki Stardust 11 days ago +1

    🙋‍♀️ Who’s alone here?

  • Daniel Panter
    Daniel Panter 11 days ago +3

    hard to belive she's single,she seems like a kind and caring person,i'd definatly go out with her :)

    • Admiral Ackbar
      Admiral Ackbar 8 days ago

      Lonely people tend to be more self conscious, leading to social anxiety and endless rumination causing absolute annihilation of confidence. It's an endless cycle that snowballs and gets worse. Inherently the issue is completely psychological and the person usually sabotages any socialization by avoidance due to fear of rejection. This is the reason why "failed suicide" victims and people in major depression have high rates of successful treatments by psychologists and "cognitive behavioral therapy". Most psychological issues are incorrect patterns of thinking that the brain adopted. Essentially "errors" that your brain perceives as "valid", when the reality is completely the opposite of what you perceive. It's pretty incredible how people change once they get out of their heads and see the world for what it is, not what "they think it is".

  • asif hossain
    asif hossain 11 days ago +1

    Take some weed...

    • Jeremy Menning
      Jeremy Menning 8 days ago

      Option A) - Alone.
      Option B) - *Paranoid* & alone.

  • Nana Alyy
    Nana Alyy 11 days ago +1

    wish i have friends that are honest with me and feel me what I'm going through! Any way I'm happy to be alone rather than being with fake friends.

  • Kazuma K.
    Kazuma K. 12 days ago

    *Wakes up and starts the day watching a video about loneliness* 🙃

  • Abdulmajeed Mohammad
    Abdulmajeed Mohammad 12 days ago

    I'm socially awkward, and because of that, I'm always lonely. Year after year, I can't take it anymore.

    • Major PainDiaz
      Major PainDiaz 11 days ago +1

      I am 5'2 as a man in the USA, so I am always lonely.

  • Branden Cayanan
    Branden Cayanan 12 days ago

    she made a comparison between the governments policies on cigarettes and government not having loneliness policies.
    LOL.
    She basically said the government doesnt have policies on loneliness. and that was the punch line.
    i would understand if she mentioned the gov should spend towards programs like hers tho.

  • steven gibson
    steven gibson 12 days ago +1

    I just want it to be over!

  • SuzieQ Wonder
    SuzieQ Wonder 12 days ago

    Why would a beautiful young girl be lonely? Wait until she’s in her sixties without her beauty, with no family, no friends, no job due to a disability & a lost of inspiration! Don’t take your youth, beauty & good health for granted ... because I did.

  • Nitish gurav
    Nitish gurav 12 days ago

    ...where do they all belong?

  • Tom Thumb
    Tom Thumb 12 days ago

    what do you do when you want people around, but they only wind up bothering you?

    • Angelo papas
      Angelo papas 12 days ago

      When you know the answer......please tell me!.

  • BlueEternities
    BlueEternities 13 days ago +1

    It isn't mentioned here but there is a massive difference between being alone and feeling alone. Perspective is everything.

  • Jonathan Mitchell
    Jonathan Mitchell 13 days ago +1

    I feel a slight twinge of relief when I hear that loneliness is being acknowledged as a widespread societal problem--but it's a fleeting, phantom relief, because there's no solution. How do we address loneliness? Can we force people to have a conscience? Can we *make* them spend time with the homely, the uninteresting, the disaffected, the sick? It's not something that we can roll up our sleeves and fix like a leaky pipe.
    Yeah, we can discuss the fact that there's a problem, but that's not enough.

  • Jim stevens
    Jim stevens 13 days ago

    They were so lonely they quit their jobs and started their own company - now that's a statement.

  • Dirty vincent
    Dirty vincent 14 days ago

    how a girl like this feel alone.... WTF?, what happen with us!

  • Brooks Woodward
    Brooks Woodward 15 days ago

    Theres too many people filled of snakes... they bite and you get poisoned. It's better to just enjoy your home and your alone time.

  • Barbara Ann
    Barbara Ann 15 days ago

    Sometimes I think I'm an introvert for safety. Because with some folks I can be quite extroverted and bubbly. With other folks, I get extremely uncomfortable and quiet.

    • Iron Hands Terminator
      Iron Hands Terminator 10 days ago

      Barbara Ann yeah... I know that feeling... that’s become just about everyone nowadays...

  • Miazono Rize
    Miazono Rize 16 days ago +1

    I've been lonely quite a few months now. My friends ignore me and my best friend betrayed me by acting like she was never my friend. I thought no one loves me except my mother. Then I started yoga classes since two days ago and trust me I've been feeling a little better than before. I think you guys should also join the gym or yoga to calm yourselves down and keep your mind busy.

  • E S
    E S 16 days ago

    Chronic loneliness is a manifestation or form of depression. When I rid myself of depression, loneliness and other problems also vanished. Likely for the most part, EMF radiation from man-made wireless technologies such as cell towers and phones, WiFi, and cordless phones. Research it.

    • Angelo papas
      Angelo papas 12 days ago

      Loneliness and depression have been with us since the dawn of man, lack of meaningful interpersonal relationships and isolation has nothing to do with radio waves.

  • 08wolfeyes
    08wolfeyes 16 days ago +1

    She's so beautiful and i love her accent.
    She also has a beautiful heart!
    I would so marry her!

    • Angelo papas
      Angelo papas 12 days ago

      You don't know her from a bar of soap, you know nothing about her, you want to marry your romanticized interpretation of who you think she is.

  • Piotr Biesiada
    Piotr Biesiada 17 days ago +2

    This is all bu**s*it. Tinder makes 20% guys do 80% girls, where 80% of guys are left alone. Also the democracy and capitalism has gone so far that it is its effect to make ppl lonely. These are times when all social relations are made by money and the guilty here are all govs. Be a less attractive guy and you are deleted from everything. Even if you have M. Sc. and many years of work exp. Be a 9/10 guy and you have amazing life. That's the difference. Everything is related to how does the person look. Both girl or guy.

  • Liban Qorane
    Liban Qorane 17 days ago +2

    The one who remembers his creator is never lonely. Allah is contentment.. my best friend 😊

    • Iron Hands Terminator
      Iron Hands Terminator 10 days ago

      Liban Qorane I wish I could thank you for your words of encouragement... but this comment section is full of nothing but people who are aching for feelings of companionship. Telling them to believe in something they cannot see, hear, touch or speak with like we humans do... well... it’s almost like twisting the knife in a little deeper. I appreciate that you have the intent of healing, not hurting, but your method may not be the right one for THESE people, you know? Trust me. I’ve looked to religion. I clung to it until it was all that was left of my identity at some point. The same thing happened to my mother when my father abandoned us while I was still a baby. It failed my mother, and it failed me. I looked to God for a slightest glimmer of hope, the faintest sign that my struggle through life is not in vain, and that, I was denied. I wasn’t looking for some miracle. I wasn’t looking for God’s hand to come down from on high, to touch my messed up prosthetic leg and to turn it to a normal, healthy human leg. I wasn’t looking for God to place the woman I’m destined to be with til my dying day right before me. I just needed something to point me in the right direction. And since that day, I have been drifting. Directionless. Aimless. No one, and nothing, makes living worth it anymore.

    • Liban Qorane
      Liban Qorane 17 days ago

      @BigKWS wish you all the best 😊

    • Liban Qorane
      Liban Qorane 17 days ago

      we muslims also believe in Jesus and love him and hold him very close in our hearts.

  • Marcelo Velarde
    Marcelo Velarde 17 days ago +1

    Wow, this was extremely devastating because...Im lonely. I just finished my carreer but my family doesnt Hear me at all, i leave the group of my (fake) "friends" /blocked them because they are alcoholics or drug addicts and doesnt seem to have dreams or a sense to improve their life. I cant find girlfriend because I do not how to start with some stranger(i feel worthless because I dont use face book or other social media except for youtube ). However, I workout intensely 4 days a week, and im going to move out from my family's home(i cant stand them) to study a master of my carreer.. I hope I dont commit suicide in the near future 😢

    • Iron Hands Terminator
      Iron Hands Terminator 10 days ago

      Marcelo Velarde loneliness may feel like dying, but
      “I WILL ENDURE A THOUSAND DEATHS BEFORE I YIELD.” -DoW2 Dreadnought
      Don’t let the loneliness break you. You are stronger than it, brother. If I am stronger than it, then you surely are.

  • oktay kuzu
    oktay kuzu 17 days ago

    Fkkk i could never give speech in front of many people,u have to put a gun to my head.

  • Ivy Zhang
    Ivy Zhang 18 days ago

    Don't feel lonely, I will be with you!