How to Build Self Confidence | CeCe Olisa | TEDxFresnoState

  • Published on Nov 29, 2018
  • It's possible to change your life by changing your perspective on the perceived obstacle. CeCe Olisa is a Lifestyle Blogger and Co-Founder of the CURVYcon, a convention celebrating body positivity and plus size fashion during New York Fashion Week. CeCe’s blog and RU-clip channel are dedicated to discussing fashion, fitness, dating, and life from a plus-size and body positive perspective.
    CeCe creates wildly popular plus-size workout videos on her RU-clip channel, encouraging women to work out because they love their bodies, not because they hate their bodies. An expert in body positivity, CeCe recently partnered with SHAPE Magazine for the 2018 SHAPE women’s half-marathon, as an honoree among 13 notable female leaders. She is described as a “person who proves you can be fit at any size” by, CeCe lives by her motto, “Don’t wait on your weight to live the life you want." This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at

Comments • 303

  • Riski sar
    Riski sar 10 hours ago

    This is pretty good. Then I am sure that every people have different lackness. However, they should identify it then they look for how to cover it with their strength. In addition, they should be confident to make themselves be great.

  • DeliciaTrini
    DeliciaTrini 3 days ago

    When I first starting watching the video, the first thing I notice (besides her beautiful face) was her gorgeous hip to waist ratio! She's beautiful!

    SUDEEP SINGH 4 days ago

    love you Olisa. A valuable lesson!

  • Tlade o
    Tlade o 4 days ago


  • Tara Shahpoor
    Tara Shahpoor 10 days ago

    Thank you so much

  • Althea Richardson
    Althea Richardson 10 days ago

    Thank you!!! Awesome message!

  • Rachael Rios
    Rachael Rios 12 days ago

    I loved this

  • Sree lakshmi
    Sree lakshmi 12 days ago


  • raspreet sandhu
    raspreet sandhu 13 days ago

    it was really helpful beautiful cece

  • J Lupus
    J Lupus 18 days ago

    Curves > Flabs

  • Zachary Kariotis
    Zachary Kariotis 22 days ago

    i thought she was gonna say, "my confidence baloon looked like the heart on 808's and Heartbreaks" lol

  • KeKe Nyte
    KeKe Nyte 24 days ago

    Great presentation but what if your obstacle is confidence....

  • naledi ramontja
    naledi ramontja 25 days ago +1

    I am struggling with self-confidence, I have fear of being judged and misunderstood.

  • Alana
    Alana 27 days ago

    Thank you for creating the way you do.

  • Lord Of Chaos Inc.
    Lord Of Chaos Inc. 29 days ago

    In a somewhat ironic twist I'm watching this as a male who's too skinny to reach his goals (among other things).

  • belindageorge03
    belindageorge03 Month ago +1

    Love this... needed to hear this today

  • Thomm Bean
    Thomm Bean Month ago

    She looks amazing

  • Courtney McCullough
    Courtney McCullough Month ago +1

    Somehow makes me want to cry!!! I love this Cece :) I'm so proud of you XO

  • Vesela Vel
    Vesela Vel Month ago

    You are very beautiful , inside and out. Good luck in your life, CeCe.

  • Just a Question
    Just a Question Month ago

    The second you succeed at something, you are no longer succeeding by repeating. A skateboarder lands their first kickflip and it's a massive rush of success, this feeling is not repeated until that same kickflip is done in a much more difficult situation or they land a new trick. You can't have self-confidence without forcing yourself to fail.

  • lila 123456789
    lila 123456789 Month ago

    If you think that every compliment said to you is a backhanded compliment or a sarcasm, then you must have low confidence. Be confident, that's important.

  • Cherelle Marie
    Cherelle Marie Month ago

    I needed this! Thank you CeCe

  • I Am Just Denee
    I Am Just Denee Month ago

    Life changing

  • Tairat Shote
    Tairat Shote 2 months ago

    Whoa! That was breathe taking. I am not a big girl but i am transferring those skills (steps) into my dream me. I am 'visualizing' where I want to be and the 'blocks' that are standing in my way.

    Eye opening Cece.....!!
    Thank you....

  • Green Tea
    Green Tea 2 months ago

    So freakin beautiful 😍

  • Anny Chybaby
    Anny Chybaby 2 months ago


  • Get Healthed with Kristy

    Ted Talks have such great speakers and topics. This one is not an exception. Thank you so much. I am currently doing a series on Confidence on my RU-clip channel, feedback and comments are welcome.

  • nancy mueni
    nancy mueni 2 months ago +1

    This is amazing... You don't have wait to conquer so that you can start leaving... Show up and it will finally bow down

  • Leila Leila
    Leila Leila 2 months ago +4

    This was absolutely phenomenal!! I didn’t know when I just happened upon this that it would be everything I needed... ❤️

  • Dawn Thompson
    Dawn Thompson 2 months ago

    She looks a bit like Kelly Rowland!

  • Matsiko Denis Paul
    Matsiko Denis Paul 2 months ago

    I love this

  • Sushma Bhise
    Sushma Bhise 2 months ago

    Awesome 👍

  • Gaurav Mittal
    Gaurav Mittal 2 months ago


  • Joan Wang
    Joan Wang 2 months ago

    The brain can’t differentiate between a real memory and an imaginary memory.

  • Sharita Mayo
    Sharita Mayo 2 months ago

    Another way you could addressed your insecurity is to go back to your roots and visit Nageria. They love full figured women.

  • Dominique Howard
    Dominique Howard 2 months ago

    Beautiful 💕

    LESLIE CHAVEZ 2 months ago

    Wow your amazing. I wouldn’t even know where to start.

  • folasade obasohan
    folasade obasohan 3 months ago

    Thank you Sister girl. You are an inspiration

  • rahel aregawi
    rahel aregawi 3 months ago


  • Veronique487
    Veronique487 3 months ago +1

    I tend to stay away from ted talks because I have not found one that really talks to me or inspires me, but this one is really good. Good job CeCe 👍🎖

  • agbor bechem
    agbor bechem 3 months ago +3

    Okay so she actually starts talking about the steps at 5:10

  • x y
    x y 3 months ago

    I Love her !

  • fhl 18
    fhl 18 3 months ago

    I was very unconfident while talking to strangers and could'nt make eye contact with them, But after Reading Gita and understanding it, I speak on stage without hesitating a single second.
    Read it once, you will be transformed

  • Rae Kembabazi
    Rae Kembabazi 3 months ago +1

    Thank you so much CeCe, this is what I was looking for 😍😍😍

  • James Vidigal
    James Vidigal 4 months ago

    Loved this!

  • Нигина Абдушукурова

    Very useful talk❤️❤️❤️ I really loved it, the woman is amazing 💗

  • Angulu Nyaranga
    Angulu Nyaranga 4 months ago

    Pretty woman

  • Xin Ma
    Xin Ma 4 months ago

    Thanks for sharing beautiful ❤️

  • Book Lover
    Book Lover 4 months ago

    Oh my god she ils beautiful 😍

  • Anne Wanjeri
    Anne Wanjeri 4 months ago


  • Robin D
    Robin D 5 months ago


  • Jessa
    Jessa 5 months ago +1


  • ThePersianbookworm
    ThePersianbookworm 5 months ago +2

    but my perceived obstacle is having no money how can i do step 4 and live like im financially secure when im not? :(

    • Confidence Coaching with Gwun
      Confidence Coaching with Gwun 4 months ago +1

      Consider this: Someone out there with less is praying for what you have right now. I don't say this to diminish what you're going through, only to illustrate that it's possible. It's a mindset/perspective thing. From a coaching perspective, it might help to explore your definition of "financially secure".

  • Liam Smith
    Liam Smith 5 months ago


  • Ni Na
    Ni Na 5 months ago

    She has a great body wth?!!

  • Beauty By Iasia
    Beauty By Iasia 5 months ago +1

    Needed this! Thanks for sharing your story!

  • Karmamel K
    Karmamel K 5 months ago

    Woo-woo! Go, CeCe! You led the way by example! I especially loved what you said here 8:08 "...We live in a world that values...looking good over feeling good...Embrace health as a practice, not a pants size."

  • Adam U
    Adam U 5 months ago +2

    glad to see such amazing woman and her speech is so inspiring ... thank u girl , ! XOXO

  • AleenahTalk __
    AleenahTalk __ 5 months ago

    Thank you Cece, You’re amazing 🥰

  • Mr Colemore
    Mr Colemore 5 months ago

    Skinny Cece will visualise eating less food and it will become so in reality

  • idjis narif
    idjis narif 5 months ago +1

    Thank you too much for this amazing advices

  • Michelle P
    Michelle P 5 months ago

    My obstacle is being sociable and i lacked the ability to get close and connect with people. I have tried numerous times throughout my years but failed. I have no close friends or family member. Although i felt I am respectable enough to other and helpful enough, but because I am not funny and is what others considered shy and boring I am always excluded. Living in a society and put emphasis on social interaction and promote extrovertism, I felt like an unwanted alien. I am reluctant to apply for jobs who seeks those that can have the confidence and fit in. I am just afraid that if they know the real me, they might not want me. I want to just be myself and still feel ok with it, but I lacked the confidence to do so. I wish I was more like other people, who can make others feel happy and comfortable, who can connect with others so easily and have so much confidence in themselves that they could as a stranger for help.

  • Enjoli L
    Enjoli L 5 months ago

    One of the best Talks

  • Rich Q
    Rich Q 5 months ago

    You look great to me!

  • RealinNYC
    RealinNYC 6 months ago

    Good job! Well done! Wish you much continued success.

  • Martin Bief
    Martin Bief 6 months ago

    Definitely one of the best tedx talks i've listened to, really inspiring and positive

  • ellein leon
    ellein leon 6 months ago +1

    opposite to Cece I’ve always desired a fuller body bc I’m extremely thin & constantly being called things like “skinny, small, fragile, little,” times I’m compared to a twig that could ‘snap’ if too much aggression/weight was put on my body.

  • In Between Dreams
    In Between Dreams 6 months ago

    u are amazing!

  • TinLizzie Studios
    TinLizzie Studios 6 months ago

    Go woman! Great. Helped in the breaking down ex. “My life would be perfect if...”

  • Olivia Mainor
    Olivia Mainor 6 months ago

    Seriously she’s gorgeous! So inspirational

  • Aya Abbas
    Aya Abbas 6 months ago

    Waaaw I really love it thank you for sharing dear keep it up don't let Anyone to disappoint you 😍😍😍😍😍

  • Patrick Arthur Atangana Ngono

    Big Kelly Rowland

  • Monkeys and Mountains Adventure Travel

    You're already beautiful but what makes you especially beautiful is your inner glow which lights up your face. I appreciated how vulnerable you were in order to help others, very inspiring and practical tips. Thank you.

  • Balzhan Skipper
    Balzhan Skipper 6 months ago

    skinny is health

  • Fabyola
    Fabyola 6 months ago +25

    Yes Yes and Yes! Go CeCe! I'm skinny and had no confidence, the weight doesn't mean anything really. Bravo!

    • Angela Johnson
      Angela Johnson 3 months ago

      You're right, while weight can be a confidence deflater for many, it is not for everyone. Some people are heavier but very confident, some people are thin but as you touched on lack confidence. May we all have confidence no matter what our " perceived obstacle." This talk was great!

  • Steviebb26
    Steviebb26 6 months ago

    Great speech CC. Very honest and inspiring. Thank you

  • Zola Johnson
    Zola Johnson 6 months ago +1

    This is a very empowering speech! So glad to know that you are using your talents and confidence to inspire other women! Amazing, keep up the good work!

  • Lemons19902010
    Lemons19902010 7 months ago

    I really liked this video! I want to become more confident in driving because I have driving anxiety. I stick to my small city and avoid getting on the highway, taking tolls and exits. So my goal is to push myself to drive longer distances by going new places outside of my city.

  • Neferisha Johnson
    Neferisha Johnson 7 months ago +2

    As an educator, your presentation is flawless. Your 4 steps will go a long way in reaching many "students". I will share this Talk with my female atudents.

  • Tee Tee
    Tee Tee 7 months ago +1

    Wow. Thank you for this🤗 You just helped me to pull my current perceived obstacle into perspective👩🏾‍🦱👍🏾

  • Ogwa Aduloju
    Ogwa Aduloju 7 months ago

    I’ll hit the subscribe button on RU-clip right away! I think you are absolutely amazing💕💕💕

  • Azucena Perez
    Azucena Perez 7 months ago +6

    Loved your speech and I sooooo relate!!! Keep rocking your passion, your beauty, your body!!! :)

  • Justin Nguyen
    Justin Nguyen 7 months ago

    She lost me on step ect...

  • Evelyn Bright
    Evelyn Bright 7 months ago

    Thanks Cece, I enjoyed and learned listening to you. Hope to apply same principles in my life.

  • vamperkillzshy
    vamperkillzshy 7 months ago +1

    What is cool about being skinny lol you get called malnourished everyday you leave the house

  • Amina Holder
    Amina Holder 7 months ago +5

    Gladys Knight twin alert
    Made so much sense and was well put together

  • Genia Foster
    Genia Foster 7 months ago +4

    She has a beautiful shape and smile F her past teachers

  • Living Truth
    Living Truth 7 months ago

    Awesome job CeCe

  • Rohit Goswami
    Rohit Goswami 7 months ago

    Olisa welcome sweetheart

  • Celeste Tanepau
    Celeste Tanepau 7 months ago

    I needed to hear this ! Bless yo soul CeCe ! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • Witty Kitti
    Witty Kitti 7 months ago

    Omg you're a stage natural! Your presentation was so genuine and real. Thanks for showing us we can live oir lives outside others flawed perceptions

  • Qhawekazi Luke
    Qhawekazi Luke 7 months ago

    Wow ❤️

  • Deborrah Hamilton
    Deborrah Hamilton 7 months ago


  • SauLifestyle !
    SauLifestyle ! 7 months ago +53

    You look like Kelly Rowland!! Maybe you are twins separated at birth x

  • Jay Bube
    Jay Bube 7 months ago

    Naija no dey carry last 🕺🕺!!!

  • Talib Louisiana
    Talib Louisiana 7 months ago +10

    😂😂😂🤣hear me out before you think am promoting obesity. Had me dying

  • Conquer or be Conquered
    Conquer or be Conquered 7 months ago +12

    Well done girl! Many of us struggle with confidence on account of our body size and especially the negative stigma that is attached to being "full" (neither am I saying it's ok to fall way out of your BMI & be threatened with the risks associated)... but some of us will NEVER be skinny...
    I think social media is injecting loads of pain in us that a woman can only attain happiness/full potential if slim

  • Twisted Emotions
    Twisted Emotions 7 months ago +2

    Thank you so much for sharing all of this. I am trying to change and become a better person and this is exactly the push that i needed. You are beautiful just the way you are and your confidence is inspiring!

  • KLo 2daMax
    KLo 2daMax 7 months ago +1

    Wonderful speech and so inspiring. I'm sharing this video with my now grown kids along with a story of when my red balloon of confidence first started to deflate...and how I got past it. God bless you CiCi! 🙏🏾

  • Juliette J Pierre
    Juliette J Pierre 7 months ago +127

    "Dont wait on your weight to live the life you want"!
    That pulled me right in & she's right, if you can begin to build your confidence while not being where you wanna be just yet, then just imagine when you get there!!