Emotional laws are the answer for better relationships: Diana Wais at TEDxThessaloniki

  • Опубликовано: 20 июн 2014
  • Nuclear physics, astronomy and molecular biology truly lack complexity when they are juxtaposed to one word: relationships. Interpersonal relationships represent probably one of the most complicated ideas that have troubled the human mind.
    Whether it's aristocracy, models, professional athletes or every day couples they all face the same difficulty of making their relationships work. Diana Wais talked about how "we are all the same" and how we respond with criticism when we feel threatened by words.
    However, it is important to "respond to the other person's need with empathy", she said. It is difficult to understand when you are being emotional and when irrational. Her most valid point though was that, as individuals, we need to conquer the unconscious emotions and understand that essentially, we are all fighting the same internal fight.
    In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group. These local, self-organized events are branded TEDx, where x = independently organized TED event. The TED Conference provides general guidance for the TEDx program, but individual TEDx events are self-organized.* (*Subject to certain rules and regulations)

Комментарии • 163

  • Vlaicu Anne-Marie
    Vlaicu Anne-Marie Минуту назад


  • Aman Brar
    Aman Brar 51 минуту назад

    Beautiful explainations👍🏻👍🏻

  • Que Unlimited
    Que Unlimited 10 дней назад

    She's lovely 🥀

  • yunielescaz
    yunielescaz 12 дней назад

    her ex sounds like the perfect man, and yet they broke up. our species is doomed.

  • Rita Gaston
    Rita Gaston 13 дней назад

    Wonderful info BUT all theoretical. Needs to be experiential which takes years of work bc roots of reaction are buried very deep and we have many buffers ( defense mechanisms) to protect us from painful traumatizing experiences. But good luck !

  • CG
    CG 14 дней назад

    Context is everything. You can't go around wearing either 'pink or blue glasses' for the sake of it. Pushing it harder, 'pink glasses' could even seem like propaganda from the 50s on how to be a devoted wife, without considering anything else. I think you must think things through to determine how to act, especially when you are feeling at peace with yourself and empowered. Also you must be able to find happiness within yourself as well.

  • wils0nk3
    wils0nk3 15 дней назад

    I don’t think that she took into account that the husband has been leaving the room to take calls and texting excessively and been extra secretive about who he is talking to and has received pictures of his married female subordinates dressed in corsets or questions about what to wear into work the next day via text from a female coworker that he sat in his car with in a parking garage downtown for over two hours. All things you wouldn’t have found out if you didn’t trust your field of triggers that are meant to protect you from being hurt and keep you from being duped, so you asked more questions that didn’t add up. Don’t think this is even close to right. No matter what color glasses you wear it doesn’t change the facts, but it might keep your husband around to cheat on you longer while you imagine he is like your father to cope.

  • Marichka Milord
    Marichka Milord 21 день назад

    Now, my biggest challenge is distinguishing when I am being triggered and when my intuition is telling me there is something truly off about the situation. For instance, let say you suddenly notice a change in how your partner interacts with you. He is no longer as consistent in checking how you are, and becomes a bit distant. Would I be responding with "emotional trigger" if I suspect that there is someone else in the picture? I mean where is the line between "listening to your intuition", analyzing one's inconsistent behavior and getting triggered? I would appreciate if someone could enlighten me. Thank you :)

  • L R
    L R 23 дня назад

    Thank you x

  • Dodge Blake
    Dodge Blake 23 дня назад

    Many narcs/borderline abuse survivors commenting here, including myself. We must understand: it was our lack of emotional intelligence that made us get involved (and stay in the cicle of abuse) with cluster B's. Western society should know that not being emotionally intelligent can literally cost your life.

  • Christopher Broderick
    Christopher Broderick 23 дня назад

    If you break these principles down further you end up with The Four Agreements

  • Keith Mead
    Keith Mead 29 дней назад

    Read Bible and follow it's advice with Jesus Christ help, and you do not need people to "fix" you.

  • abrasionthermals
    abrasionthermals Месяц назад

    She seemed surprised by the reaction of the audience judging by her nervousness later. The first thing I checked to know whether this was a decent woman was her choice of footwear. She cleared that, and the rest of the outfit did pass also. Would like to give her a nod, or say "nice to meet you".

  • Azalea Jamie
    Azalea Jamie Месяц назад

    Anyone else recognize the intro music from The Arcana?

  • Britney Becker
    Britney Becker Месяц назад +1

    When you put God first and REALLY put God first, you wont need anyone else to Love you to be happy because God Loves you the most and everything else falls into place when you develop a relationship with God and talk to him all the time

    • Max Igan
      Max Igan Месяц назад


    • Britney Becker
      Britney Becker Месяц назад

      God gives you compassion he created each and every one of us

  • Jyoti Swami
    Jyoti Swami Месяц назад


  • These Truths
    These Truths Месяц назад

    What I've tried to develop is an appreciation for others that point out to me how I annoy them, either through direct, serious words, or in humor (which I usually ask for confirmation). Then I assess if they are 100% valid, partly accurate, or being prideful in offense because that's where they are in life. Sometimes it's a mix of all three.
    Quiet time and delayed feedback is a must because usually my first impression is somewhat off. The life lessons that we have hardwired into us about "first impressions" is not a valid tool to apply in close, or a desire to be close, relationships. It's valid in professional relationships but there must be dividers in our reaction centers (our brains) so that we remain aware of this. peace...

  • julesdownunder
    julesdownunder Месяц назад

    Yeah I tried this. I mustered the calm compassionate response in spite of past betrayal. Turned out the second partner was having an affair too. Still I maintain the compassionate response. Maybe one day I will meet an honest loving man capable of compassion too. What I need to heal in myself is my tendency to don rose coloured glasses and forget how many narcissistic, psychopathic & machiavellian personalities are out there.

  • Diana Tavares
    Diana Tavares Месяц назад

    So good!

  • Gloria Ovung
    Gloria Ovung Месяц назад


  • inner strength
    inner strength 2 месяца назад

    Fear/pain/shame ie. criticism can trigger conflict and leads to unhelpful situations. Past experiences and memories linked to determine whether its handled positively or negatively. Mastering emotional laws will enable all to have harmonious relationship :
    2)avoid triggered and
    3)responds to another persons need first with love and compassion.
    Ask this question to heal your receptor fields so that you didn't get triggered that easily.
    1)Whats getting triggered in me?
    2)What am i afraid?
    3)What lies underneath that?
    4)What do i need to heal in myself?
    Ignoring emotions makes you rational thinker.
    Healing your underneath will ensure you feel curios of another need - without reacting to what they say to you.

    MIRNA PAIVA 2 месяца назад

    Thank you for remind me that!!

  • Fiona G.
    Fiona G. 2 месяца назад +32

    How to not suffer from fears to lose your guy? Simple - stop overthinking, love yourself and have fun with your own life, and hold gratitude towards him day to day. Ladies, if a guy is going to leave you, he will, there is nothing to stop it. So why all these worries to make yourself feel sick of yourself, make him distant you, and in the end who gets hurt? You, or both of you! So STOP worrying, stop analysing and doubting and stop being so angry and passive aggressive. When you become the person you want to be with, that lucky guy will never want to leave you ever! Because why would he?

  • runninginsept
    runninginsept 2 месяца назад +2

    A lot of triggered people in the comments 🤔

  • runninginsept
    runninginsept 2 месяца назад +33

    'You cannot be triggered into an emotional reaction unless there is a receptor field inside you that's interacting with the trigger.'
    This is something all empathic people understand of others instinctually, and it's wonderful to be defined so clearly.

  • abeer suhail
    abeer suhail 2 месяца назад

    whats the name of the lady in video?

  • Anne Dige
    Anne Dige 2 месяца назад


  • ultrahapoel99
    ultrahapoel99 2 месяца назад +1

    Well all the points she mentioned are useless if you are in a relationship with a narc

  • Eve Louise
    Eve Louise 2 месяца назад +7

    She deserved way more laughs, the hilarious, classy, gorgeous, intelligent woman that she is! I reeeeaaallly enjoyed this.. I get it now.. Click.

  • Thumb Print
    Thumb Print 2 месяца назад +10

    So the 'good' wife's father paid for her university education so she could go on to become a simpering woman waiting for hubby to come home two hours late. Please, let's switch up the anecdotes.

    • Iris Xisto
      Iris Xisto 17 дней назад +1

      I'm sorry that's what you took away from the video. So i guess you think the example could have been different:sure you got a valid point. However if you can't see past that you just missed some very usefull points of view. Try watching it again and "replace" the "simpering wife" with the casseroule, with a stay at home dad that just survived 12875 tea parties and 547 makeovers

    • Hera Hagstoz
      Hera Hagstoz 2 месяца назад

      Thumb Print Agreed!

  • MsBuchnerd - Amelie
    MsBuchnerd - Amelie 2 месяца назад

    I never thought about this before, but honestly why isn't there a "Social Interactions" subject in schools?

  • Ainsley Flint
    Ainsley Flint 2 месяца назад +1

    I was the second wife.... turned out he was having an affair.

    • Julie Carter
      Julie Carter 2 месяца назад +1

      Ainsley Flint I’m sorry to hear this... I also experienced this. It’s a difficult situation. 😢 💔

    • Thumb Print
      Thumb Print 2 месяца назад

      Ha ha. You were too nice.

  • OhLadyTam
    OhLadyTam 2 месяца назад +2

    Your fear simply didn't get realized. Mine did.

  • Laureen Swaby
    Laureen Swaby 2 месяца назад +2

    Good video! Best relatable line for me..."You have an emotional brain & it can & will override your rationale brain".

  • shauryaa saxena
    shauryaa saxena 3 месяца назад +3

    Great... Eye opener♥

  • Ritika Nahak
    Ritika Nahak 3 месяца назад

    I couldnt get the 3rd point of self questioning.can anyone help me with it please?

  • Mariana Khill
    Mariana Khill 3 месяца назад +1

    Did the two women with different responses end in divorce?

  • goofy grin
    goofy grin 3 месяца назад

    Great speech. Annoying camera angles.

  • CreativiTimothy
    CreativiTimothy 3 месяца назад +1

    Finally, a spokesperson who doesn't believe in the BS that logic alone without emotions can solve all problems.

  • CreativiTimothy
    CreativiTimothy 3 месяца назад +31

    The video is very worth the watch, but if you don't have time and want a summary. Here:
    Scars under your emotional receptor fields cause you to take offense or negative feelings (6:00). It's often unconscious. In our world, there is a view that reason alone will solve all our problems, and that ignoring your emotions somehow makes you more rational. If you unaware of the emotions, however, emotions will override your rational brain, as it's how the brain works. (12:34) In order to find those emotions, try these 4 questions...
    - What's triggering me
    - What am I afraid of
    - What lies underneath that fear
    - What do I need to heal myself

    • Cindy Mulvey
      Cindy Mulvey 2 месяца назад

      I got too many buttons.

  • Red Collar Kennels UK
    Red Collar Kennels UK 3 месяца назад

    Any one watching this must be a right sado lol

  • Devika vernekar
    Devika vernekar 3 месяца назад +12

    What if you already know what gets you triggered and you keep quite most of the times understanding your partner and now he’s started taking advantage of it ? What if your partner thinks you are in fact “weak” rather than “understanding” for not reacting.

    • Mz modae'
      Mz modae' 2 месяца назад

      +Hera Hagstoz so very true, well said 👍👌

    • Hera Hagstoz
      Hera Hagstoz 2 месяца назад +1

      This is great for couples who share equal power culturally and financially. Sadly there is great inequality and sometimes being self aware without a way to take any real action can get a person into serious states of stress and anxiety which makes it almost impossible not to create these triggering pathways. I find it really interesting that the main solutions to manage a person who violates your trust etc is analogous to the fight/flight/freeze instinct we all have; ie. argue/leave/stay. It’s a response to predators and a part of us still can’t help but go back to this when someone else “triggers” this. Basically this talk is a roundabout way to encourage people to be more empathetic and less self critical.

    • Mz modae'
      Mz modae' 2 месяца назад

      +Cindy Mulvey this is common phycology about a narcissist. There's alot of info online about it.

    • Cindy Mulvey
      Cindy Mulvey 2 месяца назад

      Katy I. How doll you know what all have narcissist , fear traits

    • Mz modae'
      Mz modae' 2 месяца назад +3

      @ Katy. L so very true. This only works when someone is open to working together. And has self awareness xxx

  • Rachel Xiao
    Rachel Xiao 3 месяца назад

    Good talk, but I had to watch this x1.25 speed. And her way of acting/speaking style kinda bothers me for some reason...

  • Amanda Perez
    Amanda Perez 3 месяца назад +5

    Wowww!she should teach at a university as a class. Talented and intelligent woman! GOD BLESS HER

  • Taryn Hoofman
    Taryn Hoofman 3 месяца назад +6

    Yes we need to teach our children how to identify and handle their emotions.

    • Dutchgala
      Dutchgala 3 месяца назад +1

      DBT needs to be taught in H.S. (well anyone at anytime)

  • Louvenia
    Louvenia 3 месяца назад +3

    7:20. I realized I'm her in the story. Def need to work on healing my emotional receptors.

  • G Molina
    G Molina 3 месяца назад +1

    She speaks clearly. I mean, her pronunciation is perfect for me. My native languague is spanish.

    ACXD ATTX 3 месяца назад +1

    Trigger, has a bad flavor now

  • HouseJug
    HouseJug 4 месяца назад +15

    Be aware of yourself and how you feel
    Don’t take it personally, there’s probably something else going on
    Remain centred on your values instead of being defensive
    Respond in kindness to the other persons need first

  • HouseJug
    HouseJug 4 месяца назад

    Respond with love 💖

  • Sonal Modha
    Sonal Modha 4 месяца назад


  • Lana Sessy
    Lana Sessy 4 месяца назад +1

    The video is so educating...♡♡♡

    PINK ROSES 4 месяца назад +11

    So unfortunate that the majority of malignant Cluster B personality types refuse therapy. Also, never go to couples therapy with your abuser because everything they observe will be used against you in the future.

    • Cris Barreto
      Cris Barreto 6 дней назад

      +1xXxIceGirlxXx1 Cluster B personality disorders are characterized by dramatic, overly emotional or unpredictable thinking or behavior and interactions with others. They include antisocial personalitydisorder, borderline personalitydisorder, histrionic personalitydisorder and narcissisticpersonality disorder.

    • Breezy1313
      Breezy1313 2 месяца назад +2

      This is a Fact Maturing Empath, these malignant cluster B personalities are opportunistic parasites. They seek out Empaths by drawing them in with their pity stories. They are damaged goods who don't know how to give love but want to receive it. They are selfish and always try to justify their "wrongness" as they are always the victim. They are delusional narcissistic sociopaths with a broken past who believe that since everybody has done them wrong, they will only think of themself...me me me and me.

      PINK ROSES 2 месяца назад

      +1xXxIceGirlxXx1 sociopaths, malignant narcissists , psychopaths.

    • 1xXxIceGirlxXx1
      1xXxIceGirlxXx1 2 месяца назад +1

      can you explain what is cluster B personality type??

      PINK ROSES 3 месяца назад +1

      +JJ Andregg Thank you.

  • menotq
    menotq 4 месяца назад

    halfway through it seems like the word restimulation and being in the present could replace verbosity

  • Hassan khan
    Hassan khan 4 месяца назад +1

    Thank you so much... for the insight.

  • Nathan Reed
    Nathan Reed 4 месяца назад +3

    What ive learned is that we run WITH our parents emotions, far and near. I also learn that our feelings in a group could actually be the exact feeling the person in front of you is feeling, like a giude to feeling their emotions. Sow your feelings are not your own but a tool to better understand the man in front of you.

  • Rebekah Wang
    Rebekah Wang 4 месяца назад +1

    I don't understand, did this woman date a narcissist??? who love bombed her?

  • Rebekah Wang
    Rebekah Wang 4 месяца назад

    hmmm... but that's not nice of the husband. ... you know what --- these are two different men! The fact though is that the man shoudl have actually used a bettter tone of voice - better language - and not just deadpan.. Tone of voice - showing sorrow is deeply effective. as well.

  • Abhilasha Saroj
    Abhilasha Saroj 4 месяца назад

    This was super. thank you

  • Zanderpus Ward
    Zanderpus Ward 4 месяца назад +20

    I think the speakers points are valid and pretty well explained. The aim is to limit 'excessive' response by understanding the cause and thus reducing conflict.
    But even with understanding not every relationship, personal or professional, is fixable as the speaker demonstrated. Especially if the other half of the equation is unresponsive.
    Sometimes the anger is righteous and all you can do is try to limit the damage to yourself and innocent bystanders.

  • Emily Alp
    Emily Alp 4 месяца назад +8

    Beautiful talk--amazing.Will add something. The practice of mindfulness--particularly regular sitting in stillness and focusing on a mantra or the breath for minimum 20 minutes at a time--can help us get more time in those moments between a trigger and reaction. The four questions are brilliant and undeniably necessary as a framework, but when you are in the middle of being triggered, it helps to have built up the part of you (through regular sitting) that can detach long enough to reduce any damage and then go inside and apply the four steps. Just thoughts. Not to take away from this talk but perhaps add to it in a humble way. It's brilliant!

  • Kostas stv
    Kostas stv 4 месяца назад +5

    And I forgot to note.... What a feminine woman! You are a very special lady. ☺️🙂

  • Kostas stv
    Kostas stv 4 месяца назад +6

    What a fantastic, coherent and accurate speech! Congratulations!

  • always facts never
    always facts never 4 месяца назад +11

    why'd yall break up tho...

  • Patricia Bounty
    Patricia Bounty 4 месяца назад


  • Rose Moon
    Rose Moon 4 месяца назад +1

    so true

  • Cheryl Rock
    Cheryl Rock 4 месяца назад +9

    Yes! Yes! Yes! I know exactly what you are speaking about. We need to teach our children these tools so they can grow up feeling happy and whole.

  • Water Ski Lake Austin
    Water Ski Lake Austin 4 месяца назад

    Thank you!🙏✨💫

  • Laura InRevison1
    Laura InRevison1 4 месяца назад +13

    Yeah, but what if you did find out that your suspicions were correct? Even if you walk around trusting everything?

    • brieannajm
      brieannajm 2 месяца назад +5

      Then you give the person who has Earned your rejection, your absence from their life. They made that choice when they violated your trust. Don't stay & let them change you into a suspicious person, and they will. Free yourself for the person who will honor & reciprocate your trusting heart. You won't find the right one when you are bound to the wrong one.

    • CreativiTimothy
      CreativiTimothy 3 месяца назад +2

      Then you just sympathize and realize that the person who done the suspicions is still flawed as a person and needs healing

  • El Arte de Ser Humanos
    El Arte de Ser Humanos 4 месяца назад +10

    When talking from the heart to other hearts I find technology utterly USELESS .

  • Victoria Mengqian Wu
    Victoria Mengqian Wu 5 месяцев назад +6

    Yup I thought I was the only few who haven't got their lives sorted out by the age of near 30, I thought I was the only few who were born with so much internal struggle and fear. I found this video very helpful as I was getting triggered again yesterday and now I probably can deal with it with some new perspectives. Thank you

    • Leelz247
      Leelz247 Месяц назад

      No one has their life together, trust me

    • Abhinav Raizada
      Abhinav Raizada 2 месяца назад

      Me too nearing 30's still struggling in life..

  • rlew8095
    rlew8095 5 месяцев назад +68

    This video changed my life! I had to watch it about 5 times to understand it totally. Things with my girlfriend kept getting worse, and I kept trying to fix it. She was at the point where I did everything to fix it, she took it as a negative, instead of something positive. So it kept snow balling.... the more I tried to fix it, the worse it got. Now her and I understand why, and can keep fixing it together... with good attitudes. Thanks so much!! Where can I find more videos of your talks? Didn't see anymore on RU-clip.

    • Beaaaaaansgreen
      Beaaaaaansgreen Месяц назад

      Look at videos on attachment styles. I feel like the concepts are similar & can provide u guys with more insight

    • Wah Wah
      Wah Wah Месяц назад

      Thank you 😊

    • J Oh
      J Oh 2 месяца назад +2

      thats great,... def helps to have a partner who is willing to change.... =\

    • DL J
      DL J 3 месяца назад +6

      “Now her and I understand why, and can keep fixing it together “. I was hoping for a positive ending!
      Thank you for sharing

  • Michael Archuleta
    Michael Archuleta 5 месяцев назад

    emotion is pure stupidity while logic provides you a living. women ahould grow brains instead of feeling sorry for themselves

  • Zeek M
    Zeek M 5 месяцев назад +3

    When you say planet, I'm done with you.
    There's no room for emotion on death camp earth.

  • Naima Axmed Wayrax
    Naima Axmed Wayrax 5 месяцев назад

    Good point mrs

  • Mela Ju
    Mela Ju 5 месяцев назад +13

    Very helpful video! As a person who is looking to regulate my emotions this video is very helpful. Thank you!

  • Lana Schott
    Lana Schott 5 месяцев назад +50

    Unfortunately the seeds of doubt and fears are planted in our childhood and get reinforced by those who trigger us. I remember when I was 4 riding my tricycle with my long curly hair flowing and tassels on my handlebars without a care in the world feeling invincible ... that was a time when no one could trigger me ... we can’t be children forever but we can get back to that invincible feeling of self love and happiness in our hearts. It takes restraint and loving others and not being reactionary to everything everyone says to us. I now counteract negativity with positive loving responses. It works 💜

    • Dummy Phone
      Dummy Phone 17 дней назад

      Wow, I've been watching and reading talks on the subject, all the while building this idea that I need to start over and rebuild myself. Your comment struck so deeply that my eyes started watering. I'm a 35 year old man and never cry. Thank you, I found something in your words that had changed my mind. Everyone deserves a second chance at love, I hope you read this

    • Anna Reuber
      Anna Reuber 2 месяца назад

      very true! any advice on how to stop being so reactionary? much love

    • HappiestBeing
      HappiestBeing 4 месяца назад

      I totally agree, thanks for sharing!

    • arts
      arts 5 месяцев назад +1

      once bitten twice shy.

  • BarbaraMerry Geng
    BarbaraMerry Geng 5 месяцев назад

    Beautiful & true 🌸 Thank U 🙏🏽🤗🌻

  • Germaine Ir
    Germaine Ir 5 месяцев назад


  • Moonlight Cynthia
    Moonlight Cynthia 5 месяцев назад +11

    I lost my best friend because I didn't realise this and I think she did

    • Luvanon
      Luvanon 3 месяца назад +2

      +Victor Yamaykin Yes😁

    • Gee Wiz
      Gee Wiz 4 месяца назад +4

      Sorry to hear too. Maybe you can still make up. It’s never too late to say I’m sorry. If you still feel you have things in common with that friend. Or even if you don’t or live in different cities or something, still...it’s never a bad thing to say how bad you feel and how you cherished/valued her friendship. If you did, I’m sure your friend would love to hear that.... Even if it’s in writing.

    • Victor Yamaykin
      Victor Yamaykin 5 месяцев назад +9

      "Anything you lose comes around in another form." - Rumi

    • ChronoGXay
      ChronoGXay 5 месяцев назад +3

      Moonlight Cynthia Arabella - I’m sorry.

  • Maran L
    Maran L 5 месяцев назад +13

    You are , as of now, in my rewatch folder. 🙂

  • Maran L
    Maran L 5 месяцев назад +3

    If I could many 👍🏽 I would. Thank you, Diana!

  • Maran L
    Maran L 5 месяцев назад +4

    If you get this Diana Wais, you look good in those clothes. Nice combination and you wear it well. Not just being M.A.N. , just giving a compliment. 🙂

    • Dusty Beard
      Dusty Beard 5 месяцев назад +1

      Maran L i was going to say it but you saved me the effort. Beautiful, intuitive and smart is a great combo.

  • Maran L
    Maran L 5 месяцев назад +2

    Oops, wrong ted video

  • WeirdWorld
    WeirdWorld 5 месяцев назад +1


  • Molly McCuistion
    Molly McCuistion 5 месяцев назад +13

    The camera work and editing in this video are very distracting :P

    • shikastachiron
      shikastachiron 5 месяцев назад +1

      with me it''s always the smack-sound of someone speaking... i dont know why audio engineers do such poor jobs.

  • Rachel Ramirez
    Rachel Ramirez 5 месяцев назад +76

    I think youtube found out I was emotional, empathetic & going through something from my search topics! 😂 lol!

    • S N.
      S N. 2 месяца назад

      I personally think it's creepy, but yes, it's the search analytics & algorithms. Happens to everyone... they're tracking us. 🤤😧

    • A LEPTA
      A LEPTA 3 месяца назад +1

      Pretty cool how that happens.
      It had guided me to some extraordinary videos

    • Gee Wiz
      Gee Wiz 4 месяца назад +2

      Their algorithms were calculation your heart feelings 😆 💕 impressive, huh? 😅

    • Mela Ju
      Mela Ju 4 месяца назад +1

      Rachel Ramirez
      That’s funny Rachel!:) 😂

  • kath david
    kath david 5 месяцев назад +1

    massive thumbs down for this. i watch to realise the bigger sinister agenda. tedtalks wants banning... opposed opposition.

  • kath david
    kath david 5 месяцев назад +2

    Are all these ted talkers thoroughly brainwashed... doesn't wash for me... emotional laws... wtf. ted talks is dangerous.

    • JJ W
      JJ W 4 месяца назад +5

      I appreciate learning the power to control our emotions, I am only just curious why learning how to not re-act supercedes teaching our youth not to be button pushers to begin with. its a double edge sword. Our focus is heavy handed on dealing with our reactions and less on becoming people who dont want to elicit negative reactions? is there a reason for this?

    • Maran L
      Maran L 5 месяцев назад +5

      kath david
      I get much learning and understanding from TED.

  • Marla Star
    Marla Star 5 месяцев назад +4

    thank you... here's another source of info: ' Already Free' by Bruce Tift...(Buddhism meets Psychotherapy)

  • bowenfarm1
    bowenfarm1 5 месяцев назад +2

    Makes perfect sense :)

  • Tony
    Tony 5 месяцев назад +30

    Have self worth and self value

    • Gee Wiz
      Gee Wiz 4 месяца назад

      WokeAF and listen.

  • Tony
    Tony 5 месяцев назад +3

    Most of this comes down to: You have to forgive your parents and others for past trauma. Only losers take victim mentality. Winners forgive and WIN.

  • Tony
    Tony 5 месяцев назад +18

    Only get in relationship with high self esteem women with gratitude.

    • ReDew
      ReDew 2 месяца назад +1

      @Tony Yeah, men can be a lot harder to deal with.

    • livingwaterutube
      livingwaterutube 3 месяца назад +2

      Agree and I understand fathers are very important to development of self esteem of the daughter.That be another good TED.

  • seeker
    seeker 5 месяцев назад +13

    THANK YOU SO FOR your CLEAR explanation and all your work!!!! I feel MUCH more human now🤗 MUCH LOVE💛💚💙💖❤ Eva, Belgium

  • aLaa aLi
    aLaa aLi 5 месяцев назад +203

    Ask yourself those 4 question when u get triggered
    Whats getting triggered in me
    What am i afriad if
    What lies underneath that
    What do i need to heal in myself
    You can heal you receptor fields so that u dont get triggered that easily

    • Ian Guzman
      Ian Guzman 2 месяца назад +1

      What's getting triggered in me
      What am I afraid of what lies underneath that
      What do I need to heal in myself

    • brieannajm
      brieannajm 2 месяца назад

      "Man with his burning soul
      Has but an hour of breath
      To build a ship of truth
      In which his soul may sail-
      Sail on the sea of death,
      For death takes toll
      Of beauty, courage, youth,
      Of ALL
      but TRUTH …" ~John Masefield
      Sorry about your perspective, Sarah... "what ifs" won't save you

    • Sarah Jordan
      Sarah Jordan 4 месяца назад +6

      What if YOU are G o d and you just had to re member. There is no separation that;t the ill us ion

    • Rebekah Wang
      Rebekah Wang 4 месяца назад +5

      except you can't heal yourself. Only God can heal all your wounds. because he is the one who loves you and WILL provide.

  • Shireen Hendricks
    Shireen Hendricks 5 месяцев назад +6

    Beautiful. Im busy healing my receptive fields.

  • Lana Dell hatestheclock
    Lana Dell hatestheclock 5 месяцев назад +3

    Good info!

  • nazri madeus
    nazri madeus 6 месяцев назад +1

    My life is very difficult...huhu

  • Jean-pierre Saint-aime
    Jean-pierre Saint-aime 6 месяцев назад +1

    There are some good techniques to learn, the first part specifically. But then she just lose it ...

    • bowenfarm1
      bowenfarm1 5 месяцев назад +1

      Jean-pierre Saint-aime The first part is the technique and the rest is how to use it.