Confessions of a D Girl: Colorism and Global Standards of Beauty | Chika Okoro | TEDxStanford

  • Опубликовано: 23 май 2016
  • If you look like me, you’re used to colorism, says Stanford Graduate Business School student Chika Okoro. She calls the phenomenon known as colorism - discrimination against those with a darker skin tone -- “both as sinister and as subtle as racism.” In a world where light skin, light eyes and long “real” hair are sought after features, Okoro tells us how she copes, and what we can do to unlearn this deep rooted, destructive mindset.
    Chika Okoro is a second year MBA student at Stanford. Passionate about race and gender equality, she is excited to raise awareness about the many issues that women of color face around the world. She hopes that her talk will start a conversation about important issues that people are less vocal about today. While at Stanford Chika is an Arbuckle Leadership Fellow providing leadership coaching and training to MBA 1st year students. Before coming to Stanford she worked at Procter & Gamble as an assistant brand manager and spent last summer at Google as a product-marketing manager. Chika holds a bachelor's degree from Harvard University where she wrote her honors thesis on race and identity in the black community.
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at

Комментарии • 2 574

  • nazhifah himatul ulya
    nazhifah himatul ulya 3 часа назад

    lol you know how grouping people is basically the worst thing, and guess what, you dont even have to group them yourself. just go watch a movie and you will have them grouped up by themselves lolol this is the reason why i stop watching movies or the kind, i dont see anything good again with it. almost like quitting social media, you only will understand after you do it. btw if that girl is D then I could be, L', or Eo, or Eu as in korean hangeul, or probably Sya like in Arabics alphabet. or Ain, or Bet like in Hebrew, or oh, oh, you know the Alpha Beta Gamma grouping? yes im kalashnikov

  • Natalie Lou
    Natalie Lou 17 часов назад

    I wish I could give her a hug.

  • M T33
    M T33 День назад







    DARKER !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!














    We only have one race and that is the human race

  • August Wind
    August Wind 2 дня назад

    Be true to yourself.

  • Craig Castanet, D.C.
    Craig Castanet, D.C. 2 дня назад

    Attractiveness is proven to be an internationally and innate consensus opinion. It is not sinister. It has sociobiological origins. One price of diversity is variability in every human trait, attractiveness included. Don't assault humanity for reality. Of course, it doesn't justify cruelty. But I'm tired of hearing small-minded people complaining about reality. This planet is not a homocentric planet. Our preferences about reality are not important. Be weren't here before, and we'll be gone again someday. Such is history. Be bigger-minded and stop complaining. That is not an argument for cruelty, but an argument for understanding. EVERY REALITY DOES NOT HAVE A DEMON.

  • Tvn Trn
    Tvn Trn 2 дня назад

    Meanwhile she is wearing Brazilian (non kinky) hair...somewhere the issue of trying to be accepted and self hate has to be deeply addressed. You cant have outrage if your going to keep changing your body to euro/nordic features!!

  • Darth Orphan
    Darth Orphan 2 дня назад +1

    I know I'd like her clean like a 🐱!

  • Andrew Osei
    Andrew Osei 3 дня назад

    The trend will exist for certain looks but I can't help but notice that this trend is further encouraged by dark/Afican women going ask the way to modify and use extensions to make them look that way (trend) hence nullifying all efforts to disperse this issue. I don't think that's her natural hair 🤔

  • Lafonzio u
    Lafonzio u 3 дня назад

    No one can change the way a person views beauty, it is completely personal and individual. The problem here is acceptance of others opinion when they give you less weightage.
    It's not a legal system of country it is a personal choice so others should respect that.
    Doing hard work, pursuing higher study, concentrating on work and career should rather be aim of life rather than going on to change others personal taste and preference.

  • Chizal White
    Chizal White 5 дней назад


  • ESP Daniella
    ESP Daniella 5 дней назад

    8:22 i felt this quote on a spiritual level. Wow.

  • Lilly Anna
    Lilly Anna 5 дней назад


  • Cinnamon Sonkarley
    Cinnamon Sonkarley 5 дней назад

    Always go A girl. Don't listen to the rest.

  • Eliana Zewdie
    Eliana Zewdie 5 дней назад

    you are beyond beautiful but most of all smart and well spoken!

  • Richard Riley
    Richard Riley 6 дней назад

    I honestly stopped because she was Beautiful and listened because I knew she was intelligent.

  • Tijan
    Tijan 7 дней назад


  • Flor Varela
    Flor Varela 7 дней назад

    All skin is Beautiful ..💯👌

  • Flor Varela
    Flor Varela 7 дней назад

    She is beautiful😘

  • Edwin Torres
    Edwin Torres 8 дней назад

    This was excellent, she spoke on colorism so well!

  • Huey Love
    Huey Love 9 дней назад

    Beautiful and intelligent total package. I

  • Antel Drobat
    Antel Drobat 9 дней назад

    d girl? shes hot!

  • TheLadyEmerald809
    TheLadyEmerald809 9 дней назад

    she is flat out GORGEOUS, idc, fight me whoever dares says d girl

  • Aaron Young
    Aaron Young 13 дней назад

    It really got to me when they showed the clip of the little girl...that's not cool :(

  • Gregory Clark
    Gregory Clark 14 дней назад

    Laaawd have mercy she's fine,fine,fine!

  • SL
    SL 17 дней назад

    I love her dress. I never had a Barbie, didn't idealize that stereotype. It's ok to be a D girl if you choose to categorize yourself. How about a ME girl ?

  • Ella Exterkamp
    Ella Exterkamp 17 дней назад

    bruh, she's prettier than me and I'm pale as snow.

  • Sk Rezwan
    Sk Rezwan 18 дней назад

    she is gorgeous af...

  • Rina Mary
    Rina Mary 25 дней назад

    You're gorgeous. Inside and out.

  • Anthony Buckley
    Anthony Buckley 27 дней назад

    She is beautiful !

  • vent
    vent 29 дней назад

    bro... i farted

  • Aishwarya 007
    Aishwarya 007 29 дней назад

    She is in perfect shape

  • Tereljmaa
    Tereljmaa Месяц назад

    Great body!

  • Jessica Dudson
    Jessica Dudson Месяц назад

    But she's so pretty!

  • Dr.Moiz Jamshed
    Dr.Moiz Jamshed Месяц назад

    And of God's signs is the diversity of your languages and your colors.(inference) Qur'an 30:22 every color is beautiful Forget the haters when you have God to love you the way you are👍❤🇵🇰

  • terock22
    terock22 Месяц назад +1

    I personally am more attracted to light skin girls. Nothing to do with race, just personal preference!

  • Cristie A
    Cristie A Месяц назад +2

    Great delivery, wrong outfit

  • luzon3
    luzon3 Месяц назад

    She is wearing a weave 😂

  • Corrin B
    Corrin B Месяц назад

    As a darker woman I COMPLETELY relate to everything she's saying 💜

  • Queen monique
    Queen monique Месяц назад

    I'm a F girl 😐

  • Sanjita Sunar
    Sanjita Sunar Месяц назад

    Thank you for this video.....I am really inspired.####😘😘😘 god bless you 😘😘

  • axianskin
    axianskin Месяц назад

    People who say beauty is superficial are delusional.
    I recommend you to read this book titled “Survival of the Prettiest “

  • Jessa
    Jessa Месяц назад

    She’s is gorgeous and I personally know a lot of men of all types of ethnicities who would marry her in a heartbeat.

  • kevin kellogg
    kevin kellogg Месяц назад

    It’s sad our society is so unaware of the negativity we instill in our children

  • Apryl Brown
    Apryl Brown Месяц назад

    Bravo Bravo!! What a beautiful women and message!!!

  • Mera
    Mera Месяц назад

    huh, this made me cry bc i felt exactly like her growing up- i tried to bleach myself when i was 14 heh

  • Z Breaux
    Z Breaux Месяц назад

    Payback time needs to start ASAP

  • Kimberly Dooley
    Kimberly Dooley Месяц назад +1

    This woman is absolutely gorgeous..

  • ultimatedivashats
    ultimatedivashats Месяц назад

    Bravo! It took a great deal of courage to confront the Truth of Colorism. Excellent presentation. I ve talked to people in other cultures who are experiencing the same.
    The speaker is attractive. The hair extentions don't compliment her because they are not professionally installed. Nevertheless, it's concerning that she feels she needs to wear them to confirm to an unobtainable beauty standard rather than wearing the hair because of the diversity of styles extentions over.
    I think the issue is deeper than hair, skin color, or casting call lists. There are plenty brown and dark skin women who have been high profile, Tamara Dobson, Naomi Campbell, Tika Sumpter, Diana Ross, Kelly Rowland, Diane Carroll, and more. I acknowledge colorism does exist; however when you believe you're beautiful then you let nothing stop you from going for your dreams. Tika Sumpter is dark and lovely. In my family we have light and dark sybillings. All of my family is beautiful. I think colorism did not impact greatly because growing up my family taught me and told me I was pretty. Self-esteem starts at home. Not all light skin people are attractive. Growing up in New Orleans I saw colorism. However I knew I was going to great no matter my skin tone. You have to love the woman in the mirror. It all Starts with you. I was pretty before Exentions. Hair doesn't cover up who you really are. You have to love the you God made.


    This WOman has a lot of integrity, HUMANS HAVE A ROTTEN SOUL...YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE?

  • Oh yeah
    Oh yeah Месяц назад

    Thats right sis 👏👏👏👏👏

  • Lorna Marie
    Lorna Marie Месяц назад +1

    That wig or weave is what ruins the presenters look. Girl it looks like some dead animal is slipped on her head. Get a refund. She would look way better with her own hair.

  • Gunther Vincent
    Gunther Vincent Месяц назад

    The lighter of the pack is the boss because he/she stays in the shady area and watch his men and women working hard in the fields.

  • Jay Mac
    Jay Mac Месяц назад +1

    Chika, you are gorgeous...

  • Nessa Va
    Nessa Va Месяц назад

    I'm a brown skin woman and I nearly completely related to her experience. Thank you for your fearless honesty.

  • Nessa Va
    Nessa Va Месяц назад

    She should be a voice actor as well. Fabulous voice.

  • Nessa Va
    Nessa Va Месяц назад

    Fantastic talk.

  • Delfonte Knight
    Delfonte Knight 2 месяца назад

    She's beautiful.She's wrong bout the hair.The only women who have natural hair r Indians,Pakistanis.cuz they use Coconut oil.

  • xevious2501
    xevious2501 2 месяца назад

    The problem, is that when it comes time to make the right decision.. people surrender what little morals they have to the desire of the all mighty dollar. And no matter what feeling they have inside few, so very few will risk money possession position and power for morals.

  • Tiffani H
    Tiffani H 2 месяца назад

    This was a really great ted talk!....I'm older than her and a dark skinned woman...she made me more aware of those "d-girl obstacles" I've faced throughout my life, they are still in me now. Don't get me wrong, NO BODY'S better than me simply because they might have lighter skin- I don't subscribe to that magazine! We've got to do a better job at stopping colorism- it starts with our children.

  • MrHotPinkBanana
    MrHotPinkBanana 2 месяца назад

    "Pencil test to make sure our hair is straight enough so it wouldn't get stuck"
    XD I am white and have "straight" hair and I'd fail this test. I usually used my hair to hide small things when I went to school I legit stored pencils in there.

  • Yvonne Juju
    Yvonne Juju 2 месяца назад

    That is the VERY reason I refuse to see that MOVIE. I can't believe that people see and praise that movie. And I was BEYOND offended by the casting call. The colorism is a bad thing we pretend doesn't happen to this day.

  • Nchang najeh
    Nchang najeh 2 месяца назад


  • LTTP
    LTTP 2 месяца назад

    I couldn't watch the video and listen at the same time. She is just too beautiful! What is wrong with this world that people have to categorize people based on how they were born?

  • Mikael.The.Swede.
    Mikael.The.Swede. 2 месяца назад

    Slavery in the usa ended on december 18th 1865. Still today the african american population in the usa are judged by the color of their skinn.
    I wonder what it takes for some people to learn that it is the inside that matters. Is it really neccessary that somebody have to walk up to them and hit them in the head with a cast iron frying pan? If you don't manage to learn something this simple in 153 years, then it is f***ing serious.

  • Kam Lu
    Kam Lu 2 месяца назад

    Powerful. Just powerful. Unlearn is the key. I’m dark brown and have wavy straight hair and lord do I hear, Are you Indian are you Dominican you have pretty hair for a dark skin woman. My gosh. When children say this to me little dark girls I teach them the history behind their color a rich beautiful biblical history.

  • Stella Bella-Bello
    Stella Bella-Bello 2 месяца назад

    Am dark and i know am beautifull and hot, so i dont care what any white person thinks. After all no white skin is beautiful than me.

  • Emma tried to hard
    Emma tried to hard 2 месяца назад +1


  • Shanelle Beasley
    Shanelle Beasley 2 месяца назад +1

    "D" girls are beautiful too"😍

  • Beige Negress
    Beige Negress 2 месяца назад

    There’s a disconnect with someone with a straight weave talking about a “pencil test,” a very beautiful young lady. She’d fierce with natural hair.

  • toomanybears
    toomanybears 2 месяца назад

    She is fine af. To me the darker skinned women are the best looking ones.

  • Gigi Hadid
    Gigi Hadid 2 месяца назад

    Wow, she is so beautiful

  • Mona Austin
    Mona Austin 2 месяца назад

    I could not help but question her self acceptance since she has a head full of Brazlian hair weave. I pray that she is healed of the damage that others' opinions about beauty standards has had on her sunconsciously. She is right in that the attitudes about beauty can be unlearned. True beauty is being comfortable with or without beauty enhancements. The point about Beyoncé being in the B group was a strong statement. You will never be able to please everyone. Place priority on pleasing God. He doesn't care about the physical, but what is in our hearts.

  • inphanta
    inphanta 3 месяца назад

    I'd take her over a million mediocre "light skinned" women any day. She's gorgeous.

  • Florence Obura
    Florence Obura 3 месяца назад

    She is stunning. Beautiful.

  • mem
    mem 3 месяца назад

    Dark skin is so beautiful, that is so sad :'(

  • Lace Tide
    Lace Tide 4 месяца назад

    The little girl 😔😢

  • Rishabh625 Joshi
    Rishabh625 Joshi 4 месяца назад +3

    I was admiring this beautiful speaker throughout ! Her skin is heavenly stunning i wish i had a skin tone like her.

  • jayla B.
    jayla B. 4 месяца назад +1


  • Dina Sangster/O’Brien
    Dina Sangster/O’Brien 4 месяца назад

    As an Ethiopian (and proud) and considered a ‘D girl’ this message should really be heard more. Thank you so much for this 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • straight jacket
    straight jacket 4 месяца назад

    This is real life. Honey, you have to accept it.

  • Lynx O
    Lynx O 5 месяцев назад +1

    Or you could not wear the extensions and rock natural braids. Might look even better.

  • trendsetters06
    trendsetters06 5 месяцев назад +4

    It seems the only way to heal this dumbness is for women to stop buying into it. Stop playing the game. Know your own beauty and stop apologizing. Stop accepting other people's definition of you, good or bad.

  • kath david
    kath david 5 месяцев назад +1

    What rubbish, are people taken in by this. Is it a women, Mmmm.

  • A Buzzed Whaler
    A Buzzed Whaler 6 месяцев назад +1

    This makes me sad.

  • Loor
    Loor 6 месяцев назад

    She’s gorgeous, and she couldn’t have chosen a dress that better complements her body.

    SASH VZ 6 месяцев назад


  • Sema
    Sema 6 месяцев назад

    She is stunning.

  • Sinovuyo Budaza
    Sinovuyo Budaza 6 месяцев назад +1

    It's true. They can definitely be unlearned.

  • Sinovuyo Budaza
    Sinovuyo Budaza 6 месяцев назад +1

    This broke my heart

  • ruby
    ruby 6 месяцев назад

    Beauty features are actually not learned.

    • Rebecca A.
      Rebecca A. 6 месяцев назад

      ruby - Depends on which features. A symetrical face has been seen as beautiful in all epoches and cultures. But other things like hair style and skin colour are learned. In the 17th century people thought white curly wigs are cool and ghostly white skin to the point where you can see blue veins. They even drew artificial blue veins onto their bodys. I doubt that anybody would find this attractive nowadays. So this view of beauty was learned.
      Research has found out that people tend to find the most average face beautiful. In a society where there is a white majority that would automatically be a white face. However things are changing slowly due to the influx of people from non-white countries. In the past thin lips were seen as beautiful in Europe and the US, today full lips are desired. This is because the average has changed due to immigration.