Stop Sabotaging Yourself | Debi Silber | TEDxFultonStreet

  • Опубликовано: 11 ноя 2015
  • Leading health, mindset and lifestyle coach shares insights about how we become liberated when the pain of where we are exceeds the fear of the unknown. She discusses how we get in the way of our own efforts to improve our health, careers, romances, and other priorities - and shows how adopting a childlike openness can start the virtuous cycle of improvement.
    Debi Silber MS, RD, WHC, FDN, CEO of Lifestyle Fitness, Inc. and founder of is a recognized health, mindset and personal development expert. She’s a speaker, consultant and author of the Amazon #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis, as well as 2 other books recommended by Brian Tracy, Marshall Goldsmith, Jack Canfield and many more. Debi's led countless others to achieve their ultimate body, mind, image and lifestyle; inspiring them to transform into their personal and professional best.

    In addition to being a highly credentialed and awarded health expert, Debi has her own line of deliciously healthy nutrition bars and shakes, has also contributed to FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz show, The Huffington Post, Shape, Self, Health, Working Mother, Forbes, Psychology Today, WebMD, Yahoo Shine, Ladies Home Journal, MSN, Woman's World and Glamour to name a few. She regularly speaks at association meetings, corporate events, conferences, Universities and women’s leadership retreats, offering simple solutions that create lasting change physically, emotionally and psychologically.

    Debi Silber is THE secret behind some of the healthiest, most influential, charismatic and successful professionals today.
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at

Комментарии • 249

  • Big Daddy
    Big Daddy 2 дня назад

    Thank you for this! I have been feeling pretty numb lately and I am ready to snap out of it, make stronger decisions and move on. I actually believe I may have outgrown my friends, because most of the stuff they like now really doesn't appeal to me. I need a stronger, exhilarating challenge for me to come out of my own self-doubt and max out my self-esteem and I am looking for it.

  • Osamah Abbas
    Osamah Abbas 3 дня назад


  • Israel Gawiseb
    Israel Gawiseb 9 дней назад

    I needed to hear this.

  • Tara Wagner
    Tara Wagner 10 дней назад

    So much helpful insight! Couldn't have said it anyyyy better myself!

  • Diego Flores
    Diego Flores Месяц назад

    Can't concentrate looking at them arms

  • Zahid H Khan
    Zahid H Khan Месяц назад


  • 植树人工作室
    植树人工作室 Месяц назад

    Ture hero isn't measured by the size of strength, but by the strength of hurt.

  • Paul
    Paul Месяц назад

    You’re ridiculous!

  • Jane Stoller
    Jane Stoller 2 месяца назад

    You explain this video really well.

  • NotSoRoyal Academy
    NotSoRoyal Academy 2 месяца назад

    man those biceps are hawt

  • shalini gupta
    shalini gupta 2 месяца назад

    I loved it . Thanks for this videos.

  • KayLa
    KayLa 2 месяца назад

    Thank you.

  • Emily Stanzione
    Emily Stanzione 2 месяца назад

    Thank you for this! I needed it

  • Jeffy
    Jeffy 2 месяца назад

    Cool story bro🤮

  • EИK3.
    EИK3. 3 месяца назад

    I didnt hear anything I dont already know sorry

  • Donna Woodford
    Donna Woodford 3 месяца назад

    If you want to get to second base, you need to let your foot off first base. We're in the age of transformation. So, take a deep breath and go for it...if it is moral, ethical, and right action.

  • Alexinatree
    Alexinatree 3 месяца назад

    So I'm at the stage where I know I've got to change but the thing I have to change is depression and forming good habits and persevering through the discomfort of it is so overwhelming that I just go back to my old habits.. not sure how to find the motivation that's necessary for change. Advice would be appreciated!

  • Addison Tharpe
    Addison Tharpe 4 месяца назад +1

    The title doesn’t do the video justice. This is the way I feel. This what my summer has been about.

  • Bob Abooey
    Bob Abooey 4 месяца назад

    Danger a Yenta that works out

  • celestial force
    celestial force 4 месяца назад

    Amazing talk!!!!

  • Nathan Ramos
    Nathan Ramos 5 месяцев назад

    "The risks are great but the rewards are even better" awesome quote from an amazing speaker

  • bimal dhamala
    bimal dhamala 5 месяцев назад

    everyday million of our body cells are changing, that doesn't mean they are dying, BUT actually they are growing and destroying the damaged one....Our body knows we need change, But our mind says if i could i would have stopped that change also... so listen to your gut not your fear look for the changes, guys!!!

  • Sabrina Martino
    Sabrina Martino 5 месяцев назад +1

    This video is grossly unviewed and underrated! Thank you for making me feel powerful and confident!

  • Daniel Matwijczuk
    Daniel Matwijczuk 6 месяцев назад

    nothing new here

  • Rohit Goswami
    Rohit Goswami 6 месяцев назад

    Sorry for waiting

  • mary evans
    mary evans 7 месяцев назад

    life is about suffering for the most part. just because you feel UNCOMFORTABLE doesn't mean you should quit. we don't call it the ME generation for nothing.

  • monster jesse
    monster jesse 7 месяцев назад

    she is 100% on point

  • Jasmine Gilles
    Jasmine Gilles 8 месяцев назад

    Letting go!

  • Krystal Artis
    Krystal Artis 8 месяцев назад

    Brilliant talk

  • Edgar Agustin
    Edgar Agustin 8 месяцев назад +1

    People like you do more damage than you will ever know. You make people fall into a situation that compares to a dog chasing its tail it's pointless. Without the right tools and education people like you create motivated idiots they're still idiots. Women leave their families. Man quit their jobs and end up in weird places . Worst of all people like you Get Paid stop destroying people's lives

  • Bryan Williams
    Bryan Williams 8 месяцев назад

    Powerful I pray we stop doing this

  • Bryan Williams
    Bryan Williams 8 месяцев назад


  • johnnni76
    johnnni76 8 месяцев назад

    Okay you recognized what self sabotaging is! Bravo! Where are the methods to stop these thoughts!
    I don’t understand why people post things with no answers! It’s like saying stop smoking because it cancerous, bad for your teeth, bad for your health! News flash they know it’s bad for them but they still smoke! That’s not an answer!
    An answer would be mediate or whatever! But in order to be up there at a ted talk, please use answers to the questions

  • super reaction
    super reaction 9 месяцев назад

    Iove tHis speech

    SLY SPY 9 месяцев назад

    That's me at 4;45 HELP

  • Grey Grey
    Grey Grey 9 месяцев назад


  • Ísis R.
    Ísis R. 9 месяцев назад

    The second woman should have cut her husband too if she do all of that and he just sits there and watch tv

  • abulahb
    abulahb 9 месяцев назад

    Very inspiring and God damn the legs on her !

  • Unburried Talents
    Unburried Talents 9 месяцев назад

    "Swing anyway". I love that because that's pretty much how it goes. That won't look the same for everybody but it is a solution to self-sabotage -- maybe that's why she wasn't specific. I think she's putting us in the mindset to recognize the opportunity to take a leap of faith so that moment is familiar and we will actually do it and not second guess it because it's uncomfortable.

  • LifeFromMyProspective
    LifeFromMyProspective 9 месяцев назад

    Change is exactly what I'm facing, currently in my life. I sabotaged myself so much in the past that I just can't do it anymore.
    "Headed to the top so, that I can get a better view".

  • Batcavesales Batman
    Batcavesales Batman 9 месяцев назад

    I am having health problems - panic attacks , ulcers etc . I’m stuck between the ocean and the rocks . Time to sink or swim

  • tasha IsLosingWeight
    tasha IsLosingWeight 9 месяцев назад +12

    This is sooo much.. for years and years and years I have self sabatoged..... even walked to the edge, ready to jump, but i didnt... it took my bestfriend dying last year, for me to jump. i am filled with guilt, and regret, and fear.. but I jumped .. and im jumping.. pray for me please.. I have a l ot of weight to get off ... but im going to do it...

    • Antonio Navarro Jr
      Antonio Navarro Jr Месяц назад

      You are on the way and my prayers are with you. Love in Christ Jesus my Lord and Saviour

  • AnimusFlux
    AnimusFlux 10 месяцев назад


  • Tiffany Mathis
    Tiffany Mathis 10 месяцев назад +1

    This really spoke to me!!!! Great Ted Talk!

  • Daria Haikov Kramskiy
    Daria Haikov Kramskiy 10 месяцев назад +2

    Great TED talk, informative, interesting, straight to the point. Not like 20 min “me,me, me, look at me!” ones.

  • Brittany Anderson
    Brittany Anderson 10 месяцев назад +1

    Awesome Ted Talk! ❤❤❤

  • Willy Price
    Willy Price 10 месяцев назад +1

    Excellent work

  • Kendra T
    Kendra T 11 месяцев назад +1

    Wow this came at the perfect time for me. Thank you

  • Anon
    Anon 11 месяцев назад

    I just love her high pitched voice! It always brightens my day to listen to her voice in this clip every day! "(in high pitch) You feel like rock star!"

  • Sylvia Remington
    Sylvia Remington 11 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you for this. Awesome.

  • MIchelle Ospina
    MIchelle Ospina 11 месяцев назад +1

    Wish this was the truth! Most ppl don’t self sabbatoge on the verge of success.

  • The Cowboy
    The Cowboy 11 месяцев назад +6

    I think the reason why life has become so complicated, is because of how fast paced everything has become.
    With everything is fast paced, people can't slow down and think. They can't slow down and evaluate.

  • Sabine Fonderson
    Sabine Fonderson 11 месяцев назад +3

    I agree that by stopping doing things that are good for your mind and body you go back into the world of sabotage
    I used to go to the gym, eat healthy and since I stopped I can pinpoint the day that it made me lose focus in myself, my work and my reality
    I’m saying everyday I will go back to the gym and eat healthy again...

  • Videos silva
    Videos silva 11 месяцев назад +1


  • Debbie Willey
    Debbie Willey 11 месяцев назад +3

    Bingo! Wish I had heard this 30-40 years ago. Great information.

  • Dayna McMullan
    Dayna McMullan Год назад +2

    This TALK spoke to every situation in my life now. I need to kick sabotage to the curb! Thank you. I’m going to order your book today too. Losing my remote control was the jumpstart from just surviving to thriving.

  • Jayson T
    Jayson T Год назад +1

    Excellent speaker.

  • Jayson T
    Jayson T Год назад +1

    She's pretty

  • Katrina Sawa
    Katrina Sawa Год назад +2

    Debi Silber knows her stuff, I've known her for a long time... I highly recommend you follow her if any of this resonates with you. Great talk Debi!

  • Goat Rider
    Goat Rider Год назад +1

    Thanks for the post! I feel the change i want for long time! Just need to brake thru!

  • David Brown
    David Brown Год назад

    Ive tried to self destruct to the point of intentional death. All i was thinking about. Because i never released shame or guilt about past experiences and grief. I never have noticed my value until recently. I am 21 and was on my way to falling by my own hands. With drugs and alcohol. I have committed myself to a more positive aspects of life recently. Cause i realized i can make a change from the inside. Many trials ive had to face. And im still traumatized. I need to go free myself from this destructive behavior. Cause im breaking my own heart and also others :(

    • Debi Silber
      Debi Silber Год назад

      David-please get the support you need. You're a beautiful soul meant to learn and heal from your experiences.

  • laroo56
    laroo56 Год назад +2

    Four TTalks in a row, and this was the only one that I really responded to. Wish it was more.

  • Eileen MacDougall
    Eileen MacDougall Год назад +1

    This is nice, thank-you.

  • T Washpee
    T Washpee Год назад +3

    I totally agree. Like when my ex friends would make fun of me for reading self help books...I knew I had to cut em off, before i self sabotage to thinking developing myself was lame. I am lonely 😂😂😂 totally worth it! Damn! Her arms are ripped AF

    • Debi Silber
      Debi Silber Год назад

      Hi T, I know it's hard to outgrow friends but I'm sure you're seeing that while it's challenging, you're allowing new, like-minded inspiring friends to flow in. Good for you!

  • Scott Klemp
    Scott Klemp Год назад

    Shut up, Ted Bundy!

  • Gilmara das Neves Silva
    Gilmara das Neves Silva Год назад +1

    Truly inspiring!

  • Kenedy Freeman
    Kenedy Freeman Год назад +1


  • Brett Pulley
    Brett Pulley Год назад +1

    Too much fluff, get to the point woman.

  • Tanya Medukha
    Tanya Medukha Год назад +1

    Truly an idea worth spreading. Her level of clarity and understanding of the world is incredible.

  • rachel oh
    rachel oh Год назад +2

    this should be getting more views

  • rollership
    rollership Год назад +1

    i needed this

  • Deb Menard
    Deb Menard Год назад +1

    Excellent public speaker & message, thank you Debi!

  • vajs siti
    vajs siti Год назад +1

    She gets it

  • milly figue
    milly figue Год назад +2

    one if my favorite TEDTALK....❤️

  • ipnotiK from Italy
    ipnotiK from Italy Год назад +2

    I think this woman, besides saying interesting things, has an amazing body!!

  • MishuTaste
    MishuTaste Год назад

    My job makes me feel like a zombie, but I'm afraid to get a new job because I'd have to give up health benefits and pay raises. I've learned how to accept misery in order to have some stability in my life. I don't know if I'll ever have the courage to step up to the next level.

    • Debi Silber
      Debi Silber Год назад

      That's always a challenge but "accepting misery" may be an option you want to think over. You have more courage than you think. Good luck!

  • B AR
    B AR Год назад +1

    thank u so much

  • B AR
    B AR Год назад +1

    this is one of my favorite ones ever!!!

  • Alexandra Leigh Madden
    Alexandra Leigh Madden Год назад +1


  • Coach Luis
    Coach Luis Год назад +1

    She’s pretty

  • steve wakeham
    steve wakeham Год назад +1

    Wow, That was so spot on ! loved it

  • Fahad Ayoub
    Fahad Ayoub Год назад +2

    This one is awesome... It's exactly what i needed to hear

  • Francesco Ambrosio
    Francesco Ambrosio Год назад

    Brilliant, inspiring, essential. Good Ted

  • Naomi Cox
    Naomi Cox Год назад

    100% correct.

  • Oso Shaolin
    Oso Shaolin Год назад

    wow great speech

  • adi shec
    adi shec Год назад


  • Salsabil Hena
    Salsabil Hena Год назад

    Imagine a world where we all beat our fears, hence reaching our potential

  • fred fred
    fred fred Год назад

    wow body and mind

  • SolesOfPassion
    SolesOfPassion Год назад

    Awesome presentation of such important information!

  • hlb0111
    hlb0111 Год назад

    Not helpful at all. No step by step way to stop self sabotage. Pointless.

  • E B
    E B Год назад

    Such a great talk!

  • Happy Me
    Happy Me Год назад

    Excellent. Very thought provoking!!

  • Cami Cargnelutti
    Cami Cargnelutti Год назад

    Sooo good!

  • ThytKym
    ThytKym Год назад


  • souffled
    souffled Год назад +5

    Unlike the other speakers, l have a feeling you didn't study psychology. Your basic message, move and you will get inspired?
    And you will be able to overcome self doubt and a life time of overwhelming negative emotions?
    Oh yeah baby, let's rock. Sure.

  • Meiti
    Meiti Год назад +1

    Thank you so much! that was (right in my face)incredible

  • Lisa Gray
    Lisa Gray Год назад +5

    Your words are my new mantra....."The risk is great, but the reward is greater!"Thank you for giving me that extra push I needed.

  • Mimi Layton-Cartier
    Mimi Layton-Cartier Год назад +1

    Wow, great talk!

  • Toby Fitzpatrick
    Toby Fitzpatrick Год назад +1


  • menna tolba
    menna tolba Год назад +1

    so inspiring