Reading minds through body language | Lynne Franklin | TEDxNaperville

  • Опубликовано: 19 дек 2017
  • Can you read someone’s mind by looking at them? Almost. Lynne Franklin teaches you how to connect with 3 types of people by understanding how their bodies communicate. After a boy threatened to kill her with a machete, Lynne Franklin decided to learn everything she could about persuasion. She became a neuroscience nerd, studying how the brain works and how to build rapport with people. She has since worked with organizations to use persuasive communication to increase their performance, productivity, and profit, and published a book about her personal research called Getting Others to Do What You Want. In addition to her marketing and consulting work, Lynne is a member of the National Speakers Association and President-elect of its Illinois chapter. After a boy threatened to kill her with a machete, Lynne Franklin decided to learn everything she could about persuasion. She became a neuroscience nerd, studying how the brain works and how to build rapport with people. She has since worked with organizations to use persuasive communication to increase their performance, productivity, and profit, and published a book about her personal research called Getting Others to Do What You Want.
    In addition to her marketing and consulting work, Lynne is a member of the National Speakers Association and President-elect of its Illinois chapter. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at

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  • Eric Kimball
    Eric Kimball День назад

    This talk reminds me of the educational cult dude from Donnie Darko who tells you about attitudinal beliefs and living paralyzed in fear

  • Adam
    Adam День назад

    This is something ive been practicing since my intense lsd trip over a decade ago. If you just accept it and allow your mind to read other peoples body language you can hear their thoughts. You simply need to understand that the human brain in every human is very similar and very complicated but what makes us different is the time and place we were born. Realize this and sit back let your subconscious do the work

  • Alexis Steph
    Alexis Steph День назад

    This is weird. I don't believe it!

  • Mubanga Mutale
    Mubanga Mutale 2 дня назад

    omg that Marina model looks a lot like the Mona Lisa with makeup

  • Elliot Goodhue
    Elliot Goodhue 3 дня назад

    james was a once normal human that got reset to factory defaults

  • Amartya Bhattacharya
    Amartya Bhattacharya 4 дня назад

    What if I can remember everything ..... Visuals , sounds and the senses that I felt.??? Even when people explain things to others they explain it differently in different situations depending upon the relationship they share or the mood they are in ,so how exactly can we categorise that he will always react in the same manner........for example - I am listening to something important I will act as a listener trying to memorize every sound ....if trying to make a point to someone. .look at their eye and say ....and if with a closed one will touch them and make them feel you are important for me. ....
    I feel we react differently ....not exactly in a category it true ?

  • Pegi Robinson
    Pegi Robinson 4 дня назад

    Read The Will of a Wildflower.

  • vanesqua
    vanesqua 5 дней назад

    Follow someone walking down the street or in the mall. Get in lockstep with them. They'll feel it. Stop walking. See what they do.

  • bou hou
    bou hou 5 дней назад

    I’m a listener 😅

  • aaa
    aaa 5 дней назад

    too generalized..

  • Slappyforever66
    Slappyforever66 6 дней назад

    Um idk which I am because when it got to the 'which are you?' bit I was all three...

  • Cari Bray- Pitts
    Cari Bray- Pitts 6 дней назад

    She's a great speaker! Loved this!

  • Erica Lewellen
    Erica Lewellen 7 дней назад

    Can you be all three? I think so!

    BUCHANAN 8 дней назад

    I'm a listener

  • Alanna Powell
    Alanna Powell 9 дней назад

    But...... I do all of these things...... am I part of the five percent she didn't mention?

  • Sara Morales
    Sara Morales 9 дней назад

    So what happens when you can recognize traits from ALL of these types in yourself??? I guess I'm a looklistentoucher.

  • I T Mosley
    I T Mosley 9 дней назад

    I'm a listening! Good thing this is not all encompassing. That would take an entire book because there are so many variables to consider - race, culture, etc. Good stimulating talk overall however.

  • RobertSalmond
    RobertSalmond 9 дней назад

    You may not believe it but some people have FIVE sences and use them all.

  • Heathyr Dickson
    Heathyr Dickson 11 дней назад

    What if your personal style employs all three? Should I understand myself by my first impulse, inspite of the fact that I change per situation, and my memories distinctly involve all three aspects strongly? I guess I'm missing the point though, which is to better understand communicating with others, not understanding myself so much. Lol

  • Mohammed ishtiaq ali. shadi
    Mohammed ishtiaq ali. shadi 12 дней назад +2

    Touchers should use good perfume 😎😎

  • Tyler Rakstis
    Tyler Rakstis 12 дней назад

    From the looks of those 3 human examples, I'm like Marge, a listener.

  • Julian Green
    Julian Green 12 дней назад

    Okay not the lip size girl that don’t make sense

  • UnrecycleRubdish
    UnrecycleRubdish 13 дней назад

    I thought this would be informative by giving us specific common body movements which we could use to tell what's going on 8n someone's head. Instead, it just overgeneralizes people into district groups. This is neither "mind reading" not useful.

  • Lexi Rae
    Lexi Rae 13 дней назад

    Awesome thanks

  • Sasha S
    Sasha S 14 дней назад

    She is good👍

  • William Turner
    William Turner 14 дней назад

    So can I now accurately predict what someone's lips will look like with a high degree of accuracy after just reading a book by them?

  • straw berry
    straw berry 15 дней назад

    boi Imma know who stole my eraser now

    BHAKTI BROPHY 15 дней назад

    The title is a bit of a misnomer.
    Otherwise, quite interesting.

  • Nala
    Nala 15 дней назад +1

    I feel like this is way, way, way too reductive...

  • ·.· ·.·
    ·.· ·.· 15 дней назад

    believe it or not but i'm already a people expert....i know crazy eh?
    as you can see my people skills are so good all i have for writing is what i taught myself real fast xD

    • ·.· ·.·
      ·.· ·.· 15 дней назад

      i guess my reading of people came from being around dangerous alphas at parties all my life....i've lived in a real human pack just as god intended. HF XD

  • Pushpak Dharia
    Pushpak Dharia 16 дней назад

    Why James hands are in pockets? What does that mean?

  • Kelly Ceccato
    Kelly Ceccato 16 дней назад +1

    So I'm all 3?! Now I know why I'm confuse 99% of the time. Great.

  • Elvis Anyi
    Elvis Anyi 17 дней назад


  • haya jbee
    haya jbee 17 дней назад

    So I categorize myself as a listener! as I do often mumble to myself, but not in front of people so they don't think I'm crazy! but I do care about my appearance and how I look! and that is a looker! despite this, my comfort comes first and when I closed my eyes and remembered an event I remembered how I felt about it and that's a toucher! so I think am all three combined in one! buy one get 2 for free! now that's a deal!

  • Scruffy City News Vols
    Scruffy City News Vols 17 дней назад

    What if I feel like a combination of all three?

  • Moody Niessuh
    Moody Niessuh 18 дней назад

    I'm a Toucher.

  • Justin Barth
    Justin Barth 18 дней назад

    I think in all of these

  • Robert H
    Robert H 20 дней назад

    Are there any people that think in 2 or all 3 ways?

  • Santos Coco
    Santos Coco 20 дней назад

    There’s must to be another personalities, cause i dont identify as any of those three caracteristcs

  • Nisrine Hichami
    Nisrine Hichami 21 день назад +2

    She has Cate Blanchett's voice lmao

  • golong son
    golong son 22 дня назад


  • paul mitchell
    paul mitchell 22 дня назад

    I am all of the above stereotypes.

  • Trolman !!!
    Trolman !!! 24 дня назад

    I was remember my memory like a movie and at the same time how I felt.
    Am I both looker and toucher?
    I look a lot like Lookers, and have body contact on the arm, or hug. Lol
    Could it be that there might be people with 2 attitudes at the same time?

  • Trolman !!!
    Trolman !!! 25 дней назад

    That was different. It sounds good. And I hate mind readers!
    Because they never get what I'm thinking. But this video is about read what type of person you have in front of you. And that's cool!!!

  • Senrika Govindasamy
    Senrika Govindasamy 25 дней назад

    Lookers use visual words, huggers use auditory words, touchers use words that creates an emotional link

  • Makay Clements
    Makay Clements 26 дней назад

    I’m a toucher/feeler that doesn’t touch? Also a looker. I followed her test and I’m definitely both. Don’t know what that means at all.

  • Anna Lill Bjørnsdatter
    Anna Lill Bjørnsdatter 26 дней назад

    I like the fact that she reminds me of something. Myself, when I start out calm and controlled, but engage in faster speech as I get excited by the topic. Body language is so interesting, I am noting hers as a speaker along her words on types. I am also confused about myself. Where is the dramaqueen and too-fast-decision-making ones?

  • Lisette Fernandez
    Lisette Fernandez 27 дней назад

    no consideration given to cultural differences?

  • light
    light 28 дней назад

    I think I’m a mixture of all:)) I remember an event in description and feelings! I’m totally observant without staring at people cause my dad always told us not to stare, it makes people uncomfortable!

  • Spongey
    Spongey 28 дней назад

    4:53 that fake looking to the right laughing tho

  • BeeVlogging
    BeeVlogging 28 дней назад

    More Likes PLEASE !!! Really nice Video!!!

  • I’ll
    I’ll 28 дней назад

    I’m in love with James 😂

  • SlimeSublime
    SlimeSublime 28 дней назад

    lookin pretty swole in the thumbnail

  • kyle white
    kyle white 29 дней назад

    I definitely touch myself

  • Lucy T
    Lucy T 29 дней назад

    I think I'm all 3

  • Ali Danish
    Ali Danish Месяц назад

    March was about to hit her. I can read her mind :D

  • amiga71
    amiga71 Месяц назад

    I am a looker and a toucher. I feel intensely while I watch it as a scene.

  • Andrea Bialkowski
    Andrea Bialkowski Месяц назад

    What about a combination? Is it possible?

  • Hera Licious
    Hera Licious Месяц назад

    Is it safe to think that there are kind of people that have the mixture of one or two categories? I mean 50% touchers with 50% listeners persona, 30%lookers with 70%listeners persona? Thus you can also mix the way you interact with these kinds of people??

  • damien Smith
    damien Smith Месяц назад

    Anybody could read other people's body language.

  • Zahid H Khan
    Zahid H Khan Месяц назад


  • LilMama InPajamas
    LilMama InPajamas Месяц назад

    75% of the world "Looker" Brain thinks in pictures, images. Good posture. Dressed well. Stands tall. Stress held in shoulders. Wrinkles in forehead because looks up when recalling. Thin lips. LOTS of eye contact.
    1. Give lots of eye contact. Pay attention.
    2. Give words with visual component.
    20% of the world "Listener"
    Brain thinks in words and sounds
    Not as well dressed. Look down to left when recalling. Head in hand "telephone posture"...tendency to mumble to self. Pen clicker.
    1. Do not give lots of eye contact because it freaks them out.
    2. Use auditory words
    5% of the world "Toucher"
    Brain thinks in feelings and tactile senses. Huggers. Comfortably dressed. Full lips. Tend to lean in. Tend to reach out and touch arm. Look down when recalling feelings.
    1. Let them touch you (APPROPRIATELY)
    2. Use feeling or tactile language
    What if you recall a memory with a bit of each...????

  • Froya Enarvid
    Froya Enarvid Месяц назад

    first of all, james reminds me of 90's david duchovny

  • sylvie swift
    sylvie swift Месяц назад

    I don't think you can just categorize the whole population into 3 groups. I remeber things visually but fit the exact description of a listener in body language !

  • Karl Vincent Roberts
    Karl Vincent Roberts Месяц назад +1

    This has to be the worst clip on youtube, UTTER NONSENSE.

    • V w
      V w 29 дней назад

      @ Karl Vincent Roberts - care to share your thoughts?? You've got me really curious now. I have some doubts about this as well.

  • Hamoude Hamzah
    Hamoude Hamzah Месяц назад

    Damnnnn explains a lot

  • Speedwater & Dolphinkick
    Speedwater & Dolphinkick Месяц назад

    I just want to be comment 1000

  • Jacob Van surksum
    Jacob Van surksum Месяц назад

    By all the things she said I’m all 3 like almost to a T

  • Manasi Bhosale
    Manasi Bhosale Месяц назад

    I,m a listener

  • Cai Staunton
    Cai Staunton Месяц назад +1

    Lookers: *70%*
    Listeners: *20%*
    Touchers: *5%*

    Am I missing something? Or rather, are *you*?

  • Yonk
    Yonk Месяц назад

    it feels good hearing myself put into a clean category I liked, when she introduced "toucher"

  • Ghania La Belle
    Ghania La Belle Месяц назад

    Hello people
    I really wanna find someone who can help me in enhancing my English speaking
    Any ideas or suggestions please
    &thanx in advance 💙

  • Ghania La Belle
    Ghania La Belle Месяц назад

    Very helpful thanx for the great work💙

  • Pedro Rock
    Pedro Rock Месяц назад

    When she described touchers, the first person who came to my mind was my four-year-old grandson.

  • Emi
    Emi Месяц назад

    I honestly feel like I'm 75% looker, 25% listener. I think in pictures and clips(with sounds and conversations, which is helpful when studying, I can simply say something out loud and remember later on), I avoid eye-contact and physical contact and when I try to recall memories I either look up or down to the left. When I try to explain something to someone I automatically use words like "look, -" or "-, you see".

  • Kaya Daley
    Kaya Daley Месяц назад

    Scary accurate for me

  • Hashim al3bdali
    Hashim al3bdali Месяц назад

    I think this subject is more Complicated then you think
    To find out which brain style the person use its demanded a talente and gift not that easy .. im not saying the points that u explained is wrong but u didnt clarify the whole thing 🙂

  • Brent
    Brent Месяц назад

    Woman is a quack!!! I've studied body language in law - enforcement for 30 years. She's way off the mark. Usually upon confrontation people rarely show you who they really are. I can pick this apart for days. I recommend watching the blonde, retired ,CIA woman's take on spotting a liar. She's the real deal.

  • Last Earthbender
    Last Earthbender Месяц назад

    I have traits from all 3 of these.

  • Nicole Biosse
    Nicole Biosse Месяц назад

    In Africa they are no thin lips. This woman is crazy

  • Naomi Guzman
    Naomi Guzman Месяц назад

    I'm a toucher and a listener.

  • Harish Pandey
    Harish Pandey Месяц назад


  • Shahinoor Sanji
    Shahinoor Sanji Месяц назад

    can we tag touchers as flirts?

  • Nicole Lamb
    Nicole Lamb Месяц назад

    Maybe the person that didn't look at you is because that person didn't want to look at you.

  • Hymntide
    Hymntide Месяц назад

    I remember based on how I want to.

  • I'm Rawan
    I'm Rawan Месяц назад

    I’m a visual but I have full lips

  • Quirky Clarke
    Quirky Clarke Месяц назад

    So 75% of us have thin lips😂

  • Joe Me
    Joe Me Месяц назад

    "Touchers" are definitly liberal. 5% trying to rule over the majority. FOH😂

  • The Spiritual Cafe
    The Spiritual Cafe Месяц назад

    Yep, 3 are sort of right... but she's left out the Gift of Prophecy... Purple Aura, Sleepy, Futuristic, Looks Away in the Distance, KNOWS (nose) Everything and Smells everything.

  • Amanda Curtiss
    Amanda Curtiss Месяц назад

    Idk which one I am.

  • Raymond Rojas
    Raymond Rojas Месяц назад

    I'm a divergent

  • rhBOSS
    rhBOSS Месяц назад

    I love watching the awkward body language of body language experts.

  • amelia gros
    amelia gros Месяц назад +2

    Doesn’t make any sense at all

  • amelia gros
    amelia gros Месяц назад

    Thin lips ? But isn’t that just to do with ur genetics?

  • J-Hoe U Make Me Smile
    J-Hoe U Make Me Smile Месяц назад

    Can you be all 3? But just have a more dominant area? Because that makes more sense to me.

  • yousef v
    yousef v Месяц назад

    the only beneficial video on youtube besides the cooking ones

  • Mohammad Saif Ullah Gauhar
    Mohammad Saif Ullah Gauhar Месяц назад

    Omg, I'm a toucher!

  • Miljan Krkic
    Miljan Krkic Месяц назад

    Winner of a video, I've been looking for "how to mentor someone spiritually" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of - Banulian Lonameron Breakthrough - (do a google search ) ? Ive heard some super things about it and my co-worker got excellent results with it.

  • Giuliana G
    Giuliana G Месяц назад

    im a listener

  • meshahotVEVO
    meshahotVEVO Месяц назад +1

    I can easily identify with all 3. However, the eye contact thing really caught my attention... I feel as if I’m ignoring someone if I don’t look them in the eyes, and I feel as if they’re ignoring me if they don’t look at me
    (At least until I watched this video)
    I can mumble and talk to myself like someone in an asylum
    I can also remember what many things felt like... but I am too scared of people thinking I’m a creep to be a toucher.
    I hate it when people touch me, so I assume they feel the same about me touching them