Stop trying so hard. Achieve more by doing less. | Bethany Butzer | TEDxUNYP

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  • Опубликовано: 21 фев 2018
  • Bethany Butzer, Author, Speaker, Researcher & Lecturer at the University of New York in Prague explains the concept of "down stream effort" and how to live life and achieve goals effectively and efficiently without over exertion. The majority of Bethany’s professional work involves teaching, writing, and doing research in the field of positive psychology, which emphasizes the development of human strength and potential. She received her PhD in psychology from the University of Western Ontario, Canada.
    Bethany has worked in the corporate world and in academia, and she has also spent several years as an entrepreneur. From 2013 to 2015 she was a postdoctoral research fellow at Harvard Medical School, where she studied the effects of yoga in school settings.
    Bethany currently lives in Prague, where she is teaching an undergraduate positive psychology course at the University of New York in Prague and continuing to study yoga and mindfulness for youth. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • Avi Barhom
    Avi Barhom 3 дня назад

    The problem is money!
    I have many authentic goals but none of them is making me money so i went to get computer science degree , not authentic at all.

  • JC M
    JC M 4 дня назад

    I probably would have taken this more seriously if this came from the Dude rather than Rory Gilmore here

  • Light Bulb Goes Off
    Light Bulb Goes Off 5 дней назад

    Nothing wrong with quitting Harvard and living in the woods for 2 months then moving to Europe. She was exhibiting classic signs of burnout and that's how she dealt with it. I'm happy she found a new path. No one ever got burned out doing something they absolutely loved.

  • Terence Lau
    Terence Lau 5 дней назад

    Spare me. Bad advice.

  • Jay Em
    Jay Em 6 дней назад

    Discover what you truly value and pursue them in the line of work you would fulfill them no matter what. Authenticity brings joy and effortless progress to people who enjoy what they are doing. Values change over time as people experiences over them vary after they reach a goal. When you are not happy, everything becomes a drag and an upstream battle. Acceptance of switching to your values as priority, despite of lifestyle changes and initial challenges, you must be willing to go through all these to make it happen.

  • positive_energy
    positive_energy 7 дней назад

    Omg, this helped me figuring out my priorities right now! She is so inspiring really!! Many times I find it hard to make myself happy over my family happines or my husband. But this is my life,I make the rules. Hope not loose focus,this time I'm determined!! Thank you

  • Jane Bacon
    Jane Bacon 15 дней назад

    Stop pursuing perfection

  • Karolina Kieliszek
    Karolina Kieliszek 15 дней назад

    Spot on. It made my day!

  • emondelma
    emondelma 19 дней назад

    I encourage you to listen to some of Steven Covey's videos on youtube and his take on principles over values and aligning your values with life principles

  • chiya7
    chiya7 21 день назад

    Money is still an issue though because sometimes you HAVE TO WORK, even if it feels like constant UPSTREAM, in order to pay the bills.

  • Наталья Мазур
    Наталья Мазур 23 дня назад

    Perfect

  • Michael Jackson
    Michael Jackson 27 дней назад

    I live in a cabin in the the woods offgrid. Time has slowed down. Definitely downstream. I feel successful. I'm sure people can't see that. I'm healthy. I'm happy. I'm free. That's success to me.

  • Leshreddur Mitchell
    Leshreddur Mitchell Месяц назад

    Very wise advice. It's just like when I was playing Skyrim I didn't cheat the first several play throughs, no console commands. Eventually I got bored of the grind and used the console commands I saw everyone else using. By the time I got everything I wanted, it felt fake and empty, cheesy, something anyone could do, when I used console commands. Follow your path the way you want to remember it, not how you think everyone else perceives it. To thine own self be true.

  • Catherine Wolhlfert
    Catherine Wolhlfert Месяц назад

    Thank you! This is what has been happening to me for the last few years, and I knew it was right. No one could understand, and I couldn't put it into words. I shared this with my family to finally help them "get it".

  • hazelina lester
    hazelina lester Месяц назад

    benedin tablet

  • 廣發君
    廣發君 Месяц назад

    The downstream and upstream effort can be decomposed into two questions:
    1. How bad do you want it?
    2. How much effort do you have to/are you willing to pay to achieve it?
    If both answers turn out negative, then you may be paying upstream effort and need to find what you want the most first.
    Those who are struggling for their goal are not discouraged by the speaker from my perspective. At least you have another option: try to live happy with your current situation.
    I myself am poor and hopeless in the sense of future success. But I’m happy with a lowered need and more focus on my health and soul. This speech synchronise with what I think really 👍👏👏

  • Sosan Oria
    Sosan Oria Месяц назад

    This is so me 🙃

  • Shruti Jedhiya
    Shruti Jedhiya Месяц назад

    I'm watching this video again after a few months, what an impact. Thank you :)

  • Chris Ellis
    Chris Ellis Месяц назад

    Is there any way we can stop overachievers from telling us that we need to underachieve?

  • Thủy Nguyễn
    Thủy Nguyễn 2 месяца назад

    when I attend a team with 3 classmates, I learn more about how to manage time and how to study effectively. They are so busy with their partime to earn money but they fulfill our homework well. so I think when we have little time we should find the way to finish our mission effectively, especially, when you learn in short time you should learn by heart at this time and dont think you will learn it then.

  • Seduk Oh
    Seduk Oh 2 месяца назад

    I think the point of what she is saying is we need to find our own authentic goal to achieve. So many people set a goal of other people and then making painful efforts to achieve that. It is painful because that is not a authentic goal. Obviously it is easier said than done. But it's worth understanding and trying in the direction.

  • 初代憤死遺体
    初代憤死遺体 2 месяца назад

    これを訳してくれる神様いませんよね

  • Saurabh suman
    Saurabh suman 2 месяца назад

    Wow , it feels really good.... Thanku for the video.

  • MELLY DEE
    MELLY DEE 2 месяца назад

    Fantastic talk! Thank you Beautiful 🌷💖

  • sapiroosh22
    sapiroosh22 2 месяца назад

    she is amazing!

  • Duncan Emery
    Duncan Emery 2 месяца назад

    she would look cool in any situation

  • Jacory Gao
    Jacory Gao 2 месяца назад

    To follow your heart.

  • rowanans
    rowanans 2 месяца назад

    I found the speaker's blog and shared my view there. Seems my comment was deleted. Maybe my comment is not fully in line with her views? I feel offended anyhow.

  • Light Passion
    Light Passion 2 месяца назад

    I love this talk,Thanks 💐🙏🏻

  • Jolita Martinaityte
    Jolita Martinaityte 3 месяца назад

    what is she talking about?

  • Philipp the Sock
    Philipp the Sock 3 месяца назад

    In my view she has one of best tone of speech here on tedx
    PS I just quitted my job too for the same reason she explained (without having listened to her before) 😂

  • Sophie Aiyer
    Sophie Aiyer 3 месяца назад +1

    Brilliant.

  • Siphiwe Mabuya
    Siphiwe Mabuya 3 месяца назад

    What I am getting out of this is whatever you are wanting to achieve, be clear on the WHY. Because after you achieve it, the WHY might still not be answered. Hence you feel like you were too busy for nothing. If it is your passion and answers your WHY, then it is not really doing too much. Plus live your WHY, not anyone else's WHY.

  • Kashif Rana
    Kashif Rana 3 месяца назад +1

    One of the best and deep TEDx talk

  • Kanade1111
    Kanade1111 3 месяца назад

    This video isn't very convincing. A naive woman from the top of social hierarchy can't be expecting peolple who barely make both ends meet take her seriously. She is forgetting that unlike her, there are people from different social backgrounds, less developed countries, different circumstances -- who don't necessarily had the luck, talent, opportunities and health to be allowed to live to their leisure.
    Needless to mention how her talk contradicts itself. She is right off starting the presentation with telling us what a successful person she is due to tremendous efforts and innate perfectionism she practiced in her early life, and the rest of the video she is basically saying "but screw all that and do whatever"
    I've got here to get some inspiration on how to make my life more productive and efficient but instead I get this..

    • Philipp the Sock
      Philipp the Sock 3 месяца назад

      In the end it's held for students of a university 😉

  • Theodore Roosevelt
    Theodore Roosevelt 3 месяца назад

    So basically this talk is about someone who achieved everything she wanted but still not happy... Harvard people are fake as Kim’s a**. okay I guess Tedx is for people without problems. Ciao Bella.

  • Millie Jean Warren
    Millie Jean Warren 3 месяца назад

    whooa, is anyone else getting some ASMR tingles from this? ♡.♡

  • Kelly Nottingham-Smith
    Kelly Nottingham-Smith 3 месяца назад +1

    This is so spot one and brilliantly said. I listen to thousands of podcasts every year... and this really spoke to me. Thank you for sharing.

  • Sofia Spassova
    Sofia Spassova 3 месяца назад

    someone has been getting into the law of attraction

  • ana g
    ana g 3 месяца назад

    Awesome

  • Ayumi Saito
    Ayumi Saito 3 месяца назад

    abraham hicks theory with her personal experience.

  • Maja
    Maja 3 месяца назад

    Helpful!

  • zubair khan
    zubair khan 3 месяца назад

    So to work upstream you need to follow your passion or your dream not the expectations of the society or your parents'. For this you first need to accept yourself than be yourself and finally love yourself. Personally this brings me back to the same story . I wanna follow my dreams but my parents think that it's too impractical and unrealistic . Perhaps they are right. Wot if I end up doing nothing. I wanna be successful as well as happy. So I came up with this solution,I would like to share it with you guys Everyday I take out some time for self reflection and self love. Well am not talking about selfishness. I am searching for another passion . Manier times people have more than one passion. And if it's realistic I'll definitely follow it cuz it's not necessary that wot your passionate about is your ability. Let's see wot happens. I will need your advice guys
    Thanks for reading. Wish you a HAPPY AND SUCCESSFUL LIFE

  • Ryan Stone
    Ryan Stone 4 месяца назад +5

    This is the most naive, tone-deaf thing I've ever seen on a Ted Talk. Only wealthy, mobile people have the luxury of making choices like this. If you've got kids to feed and jobs are scarce, you have to work hard no matter what.
    This whole talk is humblebragging. "Oh no, I had to choose between Harvard Medical and Europe."
    If she had taken her own advice years ago, she wouldn't be where she is. The system rewards upstream effort. Downstream is for PEOPLE WHO ARE ALREADY SUCCESSFUL.

    • Zornroeschen90
      Zornroeschen90 7 дней назад

      Having kids is also a choice you make, or at least accepting the responsibility to care for them. But the social pressure in family related decisions is even worse than in work related ones so I understand why you can't see how it is your own choices that make your life hard(er than it has to be).
      Also quite frankly I hate your ignorance towards a person who admittedly needed medication over many years until realizing that she could change the circumstances that made her depressive. You don't have the right to deny others their feelings of pain because you think you have it harder. Pain is not a comeptition.

  • Charles Thomas
    Charles Thomas 4 месяца назад

    Very smart and sage advice. However, she could use a couple of big Macs every week. Physical nutrition is important.

  • Hull Stle Produtions Change the World
    Hull Stle Produtions Change the World 4 месяца назад

    I have noticed that when I force an idea it rarely comes, when I stop thinking an idea appears

  • Hull Stle Produtions Change the World
    Hull Stle Produtions Change the World 4 месяца назад +1

    Work smarter not harder

  • Atwongeire Hellen
    Atwongeire Hellen 4 месяца назад

    Needed to hear this. Thank you 🙏🏻

  • shilpa krishna
    shilpa krishna 4 месяца назад

    Sounds like Esther hicks talk

  • Disha Thakur
    Disha Thakur 4 месяца назад

    Wow! I just discovered it

  • Madhra AL
    Madhra AL 4 месяца назад +2

    Be Authentic always ! 🙏

  • Kushal Tyagi
    Kushal Tyagi 4 месяца назад

    One of the best Ted Talks that I have listened to ❤️

  • SWAGATA SAHA
    SWAGATA SAHA 4 месяца назад +1

    This is something what I have started to believe in more and more

  • Lindus A.
    Lindus A. 4 месяца назад

    If you study/work/pushing yourself above your energy limits and do not take time for pauses/breaks and then crash, you will only get very sick and maybe end up with chronic illnesses and more so for every crash and unproductive as I have done hundreds if not thousands of times in my life.

  • Amy Mohanty
    Amy Mohanty 4 месяца назад

    We have to be productive otherwise we are not human beings..???

  • Apratim Ghosh
    Apratim Ghosh 4 месяца назад

    This was an eye-opener for me. Thanks a lot to her and TEDx.

  • Riju Pk
    Riju Pk 4 месяца назад

    Thank you bethany, frm india

  • Rhay Negus
    Rhay Negus 5 месяцев назад

    best advice of the day.

  • Purdyka Wahilani
    Purdyka Wahilani 5 месяцев назад

    Balance

  • Ivan Kolesov
    Ivan Kolesov 5 месяцев назад +8

    My take:
    1. Balance effort with ease
    Stop trying so hard
    Loosen attachment to your goal(s)
    2.
    Focus more on a process (on a journey of getting towards that goal)
    Practicing mindfulness and non-attachment
    3.
    Engage in downstream effort
    where you are trying but it doesn’t feel like you’re trying
    Wu Wei - effortless effort (Daoism)
    “Search your heart and see - the way to do is to be” Lao Tzu
    Align your actions to your values
    5.
    Sometimes you need to engage less in up-stream effort to make room for downstream effort
    If/when you must engage in up-stream effort - remind yourself why you’re doing it to help yourself to go through this
    6.
    When hit the obstacles towards your goals don’t try harder
    Take some time off - for personal reflection (remind yourself how you want to feel everyday)

  • Akshaya Sahoo
    Akshaya Sahoo 5 месяцев назад

    👍👍👍👍👍
    Very nice !

  • mist __
    mist __ 5 месяцев назад

    My translation/thoughts while listening: Success is relative & giving up is not failure.

    "Internally own your values and feelings and externally act on those."
    "Search your heart and See, the way to do, is to be."
    "Are you motivated by something that is true and authentic for you, or are you more motivated by something that is external to you?"
    "Your health, your well-being, and your authenticity, are more important than any job, any promotion, any salary, any degree, or frankly, anyone else's opinion of you."

  • Eduardo Antunes Beneduzi
    Eduardo Antunes Beneduzi 5 месяцев назад

    Great speech! Very truthful and useful, helped me a lot, thanks!

  • clarity
    clarity 5 месяцев назад

    Lots of criticizing of this talk because "what she is selling is for the privileged and elite." She never said she was either of those things, but rather that she worked super hard, ended up in a lofty place then figured out she needed to change her approach in order to be healthy and happy. A smart, motivated poor kid can study and work like crazy to get to higher ground (it happens every day despite all the gloomy talk on here - I did it) - and like her, can later make a choice between being a miserable workaholic, or changing their life to be happier. Try to see past Harvard, PhD, Europe, etc. if all that winning triggers you, and get the basic lesson here.

  • Vladimir Hybl
    Vladimir Hybl 5 месяцев назад

    Thank you👍😉

  • Psychology Passionate
    Psychology Passionate 5 месяцев назад

    Thank you for the wonderful message.

  • Monica Pignotti
    Monica Pignotti 5 месяцев назад

    Based on her bio on her website, it looks as if she was only a postdoctoral research fellow at Harvard Medical School, which is not the same as being Harvard faculty. Many of the hospital appointments are non-tenure track courtesy appointments where the hospital, not Harvard pays their salaries and in her case it was a postdoctoral fellowship, which anyone who gets one eventually leaves behind because it isn't permanent. She seemed really phony and pretentious to me, so I looked it up and checked out her site.

  • Liz Shibahara
    Liz Shibahara 5 месяцев назад

    I'm a total overachiever and upstream effort worker and this resonates with me. Although, I have to say I'm not as much of an achiever so as to have gotten a job at Harvard Medical School. As a nurse, I am finding the work to be lots of effort on many levels, spiritual, emotional, physical, mental, sociological, and I have not gotten anywhere. For the past year and a half, since earning my Masters, I've been working on a fiction novel and working part time. So I understand the downstream effort, where I go for a hike, sit down, write the scene and am free, authentic, feel good and have psychological flow. Even if I self-publish my novel on Amazon, nobody ever buys it, maybe some people read it for free, and I continue to write novels until it isn't important to me anymore, that would be more successful to me than when I go into work as a nurse and make a lot of money even working part time but it leaves me stressed. So I have let go of working full time and have my writing part time so it is a good balance. But my children are grown and out of the house so it is just me and my student loans. I get it how people think she sounds kind of like a spoiled brat but she does have some good points and she doesn't dismiss that people need to provide for themselves.

  • Raj 3
    Raj 3 6 месяцев назад

    Awesome teachings. Thanks

  • orona cosmetics
    orona cosmetics 6 месяцев назад

    V nice

  • Abílio Accioly Bello
    Abílio Accioly Bello 6 месяцев назад

    So tru!Thaks for sharing.

  • bettylaos3389
    bettylaos3389 6 месяцев назад +4

    I totally agree with what she was saying. However, these kind of thought are for people who already have a good life. For instance, if your goal is to have a job just to avoid living in the street and being homeless, whether you like it or not you will do everything to have it. Some people are not white and beautiful... They have to face many difficulties to achieve their goal... Difficulties that have nothing to do with their talents, or their inner feelings. So it is a good speech but not for people like me.

    • Johannes Wojtulek
      Johannes Wojtulek 5 месяцев назад +2

      You may want to read the book "Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl. He was a concentration camp inmate finding meaning in his life by staying true to his values. So I guess it's possible regardless of one's circumstances. Good luck :-)

  • Arjun Chowdhury
    Arjun Chowdhury 6 месяцев назад

    This talk is phenomenal! Thank you for sharing this!

  • AldoAzDesign
    AldoAzDesign 7 месяцев назад

    Genial!

  • Telma Filipa
    Telma Filipa 7 месяцев назад

    Really inspiring speech. All real usual life situations in one talk.

  • Andreia Siika-aho
    Andreia Siika-aho 7 месяцев назад

    She is a good speaker, very pleasant and calming voice. I wonder if she practices meditation. But one more reason why I wonder about this is that she mentions principles which are uniquely used and were introduced by Maharishi Mahesh Yogi, to whom she unfortunately does not give credit. She does mention other techniques which makes me wonder even more. The very principle of "achieve more by doing less" sounds too much like Maharishi's "do less and accomplish more". Also the idea of becoming "one" with something outside of yourself, and more indirectly, doing this for the sake of your health, etc., and being more in tune with your true, inner self. Too bad she did not give Maharishi credit. This the kind of thing that can send you upstream.

  • Kevin Stanton
    Kevin Stanton 7 месяцев назад

    How much effort do you need to put forth if you're wanting a good job, or to date a potential spouse, when all you get is rejection?

  • DreadfulBride
    DreadfulBride 7 месяцев назад

    I sit here watching this frail woman talking about ... wtf? This is what it's like had I put my shoes on, went to the city looking for success in the construct of society? I am sfg I skipped out on my senior year of high school.

  • Kayce Phillips
    Kayce Phillips 7 месяцев назад

    The best TedTalk I’ve ever watched.
    Thank you

  • Aloyce Motive
    Aloyce Motive 7 месяцев назад

    you cant achieve more by doing less its pure logic

  • Peron Jegeg
    Peron Jegeg 7 месяцев назад

    my father let his child, my brother n sister, chasing after their dream even if it looks impossible to get. for me its a bad decision. its clearly seen that when they get it, it would be too late or they will be too old when they achieve their goal. I'm a practical one n i often disagreed. But now things got different. I sees them live a happy life, not with lots of money(as we defined success) but with heart n value they always hold. I heard satisfaction in their story n I wanted to be like them. to hold on, to get backwards n find out what important to me

  • elkammash
    elkammash 7 месяцев назад

    One of the greatest talks I have heard on TEDx

  • Being Reality
    Being Reality 7 месяцев назад

    Why even try when you can just do?

  • supamundane
    supamundane 7 месяцев назад

    Great talk and weirdly appropriate this week!

  • Rose Agaatsz
    Rose Agaatsz 7 месяцев назад

    Love this ! I have a great life so far. What is important to you ? Just make the best of life. Enjoy there are always people above us no matter what ! I, am grateful and blessed ! Thank you 🙏🏻❤️

  • Vanniston Aile
    Vanniston Aile 7 месяцев назад +10

    I stopped being an achiever by stopping being busy. I thought it was for the better. It destroyed me.

    • Sahejeet Singh
      Sahejeet Singh Месяц назад

      +Ji Jj lol same. How to deal with this?

    • Ji Jj
      Ji Jj 4 месяца назад +2

      +Mama Bird I think she wants to tell that going from being active in achieving her goals to stop and try a different approach, made her feeling lost. I got that too. I'm naturally a person who makes things happen and I had a period when I had to stop and think about a different path and new opportunities. That period of time, oh boy, I was in a dark place. Because I had a lot of energy and initiative and not manifesting that, was cruel. Maybe we have to pay attention and learn to live with joy and gratitude in our soul while trying our best to get what we wanted. I don't know. If it's important for me, I'm going to make it happen. I won't chill until I make efforts towards that. I'm like that. Being less active messes with my thoughts and I feel like I'm lying myself.

    • Mama Bird
      Mama Bird 5 месяцев назад

      Vanniston Aile how come? Would you share with us?

  • Samantha
    Samantha 8 месяцев назад

    One of my favourite Ted Talks

  • rcphilip hill
    rcphilip hill 8 месяцев назад

    Yes!

  • Tiano Cris
    Tiano Cris 8 месяцев назад

    Some people cannot even discover this until death, for example, they always say something like "You are too lazy , you should work harder, you are still nothing,etc.............", especially some teachers in school........

  • cat videos
    cat videos 8 месяцев назад

    Do what you love and you won't ever work a day in your life.

  • aastha subedi
    aastha subedi 8 месяцев назад

    I found this right on time. Thank you for the upload.🙏

  • Hizzy Does It
    Hizzy Does It 8 месяцев назад

    🏄🏻‍♀️I love you...I can’t believe how easy you made that sound!....it is so unbelievably hard to get simple and I really appreciate your amazing downstream effort ...Thank you for being humble and REAL AF 🙏❤️...Thank you for sharing your brain and being!! May the chaotic flow be with you always!!🏄🏻‍♀️

  • Arùéí mareu
    Arùéí mareu 8 месяцев назад

    So beautiful

  • laila younes
    laila younes 8 месяцев назад

    This lady is amazing. Thanks alot for this beautiful uplifting message. 💕💕

  • IThinkWithMy Dick
    IThinkWithMy Dick 8 месяцев назад +1

    More TURDx talks.

  • John Roddy
    John Roddy 8 месяцев назад

    Great talk a intelligent and Wise girl very impressed Thank million

  • Android User
    Android User 8 месяцев назад

    Every time l hear N Americans talking about authenticity it sounds like a joke.

  • Das JK
    Das JK 8 месяцев назад

    Great talk, thank alot

  • Myca Harter
    Myca Harter 8 месяцев назад

    This video is the cure of depression

  • Nicolás Israel
    Nicolás Israel 9 месяцев назад

    Bravo.