Stop trying so hard. Achieve more by doing less. | Bethany Butzer | TEDxUNYP

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  • Published on Feb 21, 2018
  • Bethany Butzer, Author, Speaker, Researcher & Lecturer at the University of New York in Prague explains the concept of "down stream effort" and how to live life and achieve goals effectively and efficiently without over exertion. The majority of Bethany’s professional work involves teaching, writing, and doing research in the field of positive psychology, which emphasizes the development of human strength and potential. She received her PhD in psychology from the University of Western Ontario, Canada.
    Bethany has worked in the corporate world and in academia, and she has also spent several years as an entrepreneur. From 2013 to 2015 she was a postdoctoral research fellow at Harvard Medical School, where she studied the effects of yoga in school settings.
    Bethany currently lives in Prague, where she is teaching an undergraduate positive psychology course at the University of New York in Prague and continuing to study yoga and mindfulness for youth. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

Comments • 510

  • Shortie 76
    Shortie 76 22 hours ago

    Interesting........achievement addicts.......there are far more deeper reasons as to why one becomes an achievement addict....many answers lay in one’s childhood. Personally I think it’s far more important to deal with this addiction first as I fear this person will spend their entire life chasing achievements and yet remaining unfulfilled.
    Peace and contentment to all.

  • Bonny Guillen
    Bonny Guillen Day ago

    Very helpful, thank you very much for your advices.

  • ams 15292
    ams 15292 Day ago

    This path will take you to skid row. Most homeless started this way.

  • Andrew Tom
    Andrew Tom 7 days ago

    Just make decent income and be content with yourself. That’s all you need to do no need to strive for something that no one will actually care about.

  • Clément Thomas
    Clément Thomas 11 days ago

    I love TED but this doesn"t make any sense. Just stop doing things you don't like, and forget about what people told you to do

  • Signe Bilstrup Lindvig

    What to do if your in a school and you dont want to do anything you are being told to?

  • YJ Deng
    YJ Deng 14 days ago

    So, in a word, we don't feel our efforts as efforts only if we're doing something personally meaningful.

  • Lidiya Slyozberg
    Lidiya Slyozberg 17 days ago

    If you want to know what real freedom is and how to get inner peace and happiness, read Allatra book by Anastasia Novikh and even other books of Anastasia and you will be able to make incredible change in your life and the way you live today. That's happened to me!!!

  • Freirad
    Freirad 18 days ago

    Haha Harvard - or how sell I banality as science to the World. ... Maybe time to go on a new rage? ... Check "Operation Paperclip". That was real science. We need the German way to heal the World, right? Does your Haha-Harvard-Science allow the truth...

  • هدير هجار
    هدير هجار 18 days ago

    She is so boring

  • Arun Graeff
    Arun Graeff 18 days ago

    Work smarter not harder!!!!

  • Manal Javid
    Manal Javid 23 days ago

    Well, the society is competitive like that.

  • Jeff Oliver
    Jeff Oliver Month ago

    👏

  • Jeff Norman
    Jeff Norman Month ago +1

    This Reverse thinking is WRONG for Mostpart..Maybe in a couple things, ESP if you're burned out..but Most know when to stop before we get to this point. working Hard got me to where I am today. I've owned 3 Business and was HAPPY with working hard on my job..but then I hurt my back by working so hard.but I Finally listened and took time off work which was a Miistake cuz its been YRS since I worked So...my Bad...20 yr usage of pain killers which its been 5 yrs off them now, but I was made to feel Guilty about this AFTER I was off of work...Almost ready to get back at it Again... I Love working Hard but Need to realize I'm Not as young as I used to be so I NEED to slow down, but with Music in this piece of machinery (which IS my drug of choice as I am Also a Musician) I need to slow down...Maybe playing love songs might help me LOL TC

  • Jeff Norman
    Jeff Norman Month ago +1

    People thrown around the word ADDICT to easily and for Everything which is Rediculous! An Achievement addict? Cmon..It's called Motivation....working hard, Desire, Thriving on our Successes ETC

    • Jeff Norman
      Jeff Norman Month ago +1

      You can NEVER work too hard if you want something in Life!! If you're tired then take a break, Obvious right? like She said, then go at it Again and Again until we got what we Need And Wan n whatever it is in life...

  • John Snow
    John Snow Month ago +7

    Career ambition is for people without own personal goals.

  • Don Darren Dante
    Don Darren Dante Month ago

    It our job to choose which Tedx talks to believe to. 😊

  • CHOISIR SA VIE
    CHOISIR SA VIE Month ago

    Just Thank you

  • Ed's List
    Ed's List Month ago

    Everyone speaks of going forward and of pushing that turbo botton in their lives by working harder straining and doing whatever it takes to succeed. While that may work for some or even most people..for others like myself this talk hits the nail on the head. The key point is that it reaches the same goal ..but..without the pain and irritation as the forementioned method..... Excellent..tnx

  • Benjamin Daly
    Benjamin Daly Month ago

    She’s talking about Abraham Hicks she just copied everything she says.

  • Oluwole Chaviro
    Oluwole Chaviro Month ago +2

    Probably the most personally impactful-to-me TED Talk, I've ever listened to. And she was so calm and composed too.

  • adebiko
    adebiko Month ago

    Any person with a technical background would basically sum up everything she said as “just prioritize your wishes and put more effort on those with the highest priority”. You can even come up with a bubble chart so you can visualize your actions. You also need to update the bubble chart periodically, cause as she says, some things might get less important with time. This is why people with technical mind don’t understand what depression is, because they don’t suddenly realize that things changed.

  • Our2ndBrain
    Our2ndBrain Month ago

    Haha! The cast majority of people in Earth cant just slow down and take days 9ff to reflect whenever they want. Thia is just an answer for a very select few.

  • Nadia zarrougui
    Nadia zarrougui Month ago

    perfectionnisme and hey : arthrose ! WELCOME !

  • But Who Cares What I Think

    Time to move to Vimeo!

  • Jennifer Pasten
    Jennifer Pasten Month ago

    👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

  • German Meza
    German Meza Month ago

    Drive and purpose are great but there is always more. More achievements. More success, more goals. Be happy right here right now with the moment. Gratitude is the attitude that reflects my altitude

  • mulham mahmoud
    mulham mahmoud 2 months ago

    you are fabulous realy thank you so much

  • Filmy musica537
    Filmy musica537 2 months ago

    Anyone who struggles to make decisions should watch this !!! Life changing !!

  • M Barrera
    M Barrera 2 months ago

    One of the best Ted Talks.

  • Ahmed Mughal
    Ahmed Mughal 2 months ago

    It seems the speaker has memorize some speech and delivering it without any kinda expression she just like a newscaster. That actually reflects her personality as a topper in academics. I don't like these kinda toppers

  • RV GAMING
    RV GAMING 2 months ago

    i live this way

  • Nerds Brain
    Nerds Brain 2 months ago

    :)

  • Abhishek Nishad
    Abhishek Nishad 2 months ago

    thanks that really helped

  • 3AngelMessanger
    3AngelMessanger 2 months ago

    But up stream efforts got her to where she is right now. It would be best to keep in mind that feelings are misleading, but actions create reality. Knowing one's values is not a feeling but principle.There should always be a balance of not over working, this is why we take vacations.

  • Stacy Mackenzie
    Stacy Mackenzie 2 months ago

    I wasn't aware wasting time was trying to hard; my mistake!

  • SAV3 ICE
    SAV3 ICE 3 months ago

    Instructions unclear- I’m now unemployed and homeless.

  • Ihtesham ul haq
    Ihtesham ul haq 3 months ago

    There should be some speech on how to conquer the fear after you quit things that not aligns with your values. How do you find the courage?

  • Tenisha Adams
    Tenisha Adams 3 months ago

    This really broke down how I want to feel

  • Eduard Merc
    Eduard Merc 3 months ago

    Woow! Amazing Talk! Thank you!

  • E-bike advocate in China yu

    i like this one

  • Ray C. Lozano
    Ray C. Lozano 3 months ago

    More and more you find yourself faced with passive aggressive behavior skinner boxes that don’t allow you to swim downstream. Welcome to the VA.

  • Jessica Schilter
    Jessica Schilter 3 months ago

    So from the description of her life it sounds like trying hard worked for her. Just seems like she's taking her own efforts for granted.

  • The Oracle
    The Oracle 3 months ago

    As soon as discomfort happens, dive INTO it. Any job you do will become effortless.

  • Cyndi M
    Cyndi M 3 months ago

    "I want to make it clear I'm not advocating that we don't try".. I'm out. That's EXACTLY what I thought this video was about.

  • swati sarode
    swati sarode 3 months ago

    Watch this video @eshadeveshjain

  • Madan Prasai
    Madan Prasai 3 months ago

    Boring ted..feels sleepy :D

  • hala adel
    hala adel 3 months ago +1

    But what to do when your life isn't your own? when you work in the family business feeling obligation , doing something you don't like and constantly feel like a failure, but leaving means not taking your share of the responsibility ...

    • Penny C
      Penny C 2 months ago

      I get what you are saying however our life is always our own when we ''choose'' to think of it in that way.
      We always have 3 choices in these situations.
      1/ Stay and put up with the situation
      2/ do something to change the situation, put your limits for example it could be working in the family business for another 3 months till there is someone hired to replace you
      3/ leave the situation

  • Mahmud Ahsan
    Mahmud Ahsan 4 months ago +1

    Great speech. That's why I love the quote by Steve Jobs: "Focus what matters". Achievement is also a never ending process, one achieved another new will born.

  • Oleksandra Bakun
    Oleksandra Bakun 4 months ago

    Thank you.

  • Vahan Good
    Vahan Good 4 months ago

    Becoming a MGTOW is my first step towards the authentic success! 🇺🇸😁✌️🗽💲📈🎓👨‍⚕️🎈🏖️

  • Annika Campbell
    Annika Campbell 4 months ago

    Thank you

  • Sr Merrill
    Sr Merrill 4 months ago

    Abraham Hicks rip off

  • Kyle del rosario
    Kyle del rosario 4 months ago

    she should walk a bit

  • hear fan
    hear fan 4 months ago

    She listens to Abraham Hicks, no doubt.

  • John O'Regan
    John O'Regan 4 months ago

    High-achieving, financially comfortable person decides they don't like how they feel at work any more, so they quit work and go to Europe for a while.
    What a great talk. Very relevant to the average man or woman in the street I'm sure. Let's all just quit work and go on an open-ended vacation in Europe.
    The level of entitlement is just astonishing.

  • Pen Griffey
    Pen Griffey 4 months ago

    It's not nice to copy/paste Abraham's words and don't mention him. It's not your wisdom....but Abrahams

  • Clive Worth
    Clive Worth 4 months ago +1

    I am a 70 year old retired coal miner and I agree with you.

  • Corvus Crow
    Corvus Crow 4 months ago +3

    I can't relate to this chic, can't stand corporate America or the people who insist on drinking the Kool-Aid... :>/