Why comfort will ruin your life | Bill Eckstrom | TEDxUniversityofNevada

  • Опубликовано: 31 янв 2017
  • After documenting and researching over 50,000 coaching interactions in the workplace, Bill Eckstrom shares life-altering, personal and professional development ideas through the introduction of the “Growth Rings.” The rings illustrate how dangerous it can be to remain in a state of comfort and how being in discomfort is the only way to sustain growth. You’ll be amazed at the world-changing outcomes discomfort can have on your life and the lives of others.
    Bill Eckstrom is an entrepreneur, author, speaker, outdoorsman and father of three. With a passion deeply rooted in growth and development, Bill has always been fascinated by the role a coach has on the performance of individuals and teams. As a result, he founded the EcSell Institute whose sole focus is to educate, track and measure coaching effectiveness for leaders within organizations around the world. This has led to hundreds of keynotes, published articles and e-books created from the research and documentation of coaching interactions and outcomes. You can learn more about the EcSell Institute here: www.ecsellinstitute.com/
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

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  • Aaron Smyth
    Aaron Smyth 4 часа назад

    Do him a favor and kick him in the balls.

  • Damian P.
    Damian P. 2 дня назад

    annoying accent

  • Accident 158
    Accident 158 4 дня назад

    It’s true comfort ruins me

  • Michael Howard
    Michael Howard 7 дней назад

    Great talk. But I think it makes more intuitive sense if the stages are named "Familiarity" and "Unpredictability", instead of "Order" and "Complexity".

  • Malak Aqtai
    Malak Aqtai 7 дней назад

    I heard that stress kills your creativity, would anybody explain it for me ?

  • Esharido
    Esharido 8 дней назад

    Quitting my job in 5 months, I don't know where I'm going but I need to go.

  • SomethingTo FillTheBlank
    SomethingTo FillTheBlank 9 дней назад

    YesTheory anyone?

  • Juan Figueras
    Juan Figueras 9 дней назад

    Sounds like Jordan Peterson

  • Colin Brown
    Colin Brown 10 дней назад

    What about those that react to discomfort or disorder by taking their own life?

  • Brine1206
    Brine1206 12 дней назад

    When strangers call me "friend" I instantly imagine them to be used car salesmen.

  • Umar Chowdhury
    Umar Chowdhury 13 дней назад

    "Roughen up because the blessings of Allah do not last forever."
    Umar ibn al-Khattab

  • Bryan Smith
    Bryan Smith 19 дней назад

    He got fired from his cushy, high-paying job. So, he had to move onto bs'ing people with ted talks. NONE of this information is remotely new. This guy is a salesman selling to dummies.

  • Alex Ferrari
    Alex Ferrari 21 день назад

    Nothing changes if nothing changes

  • Deborah Barr
    Deborah Barr 25 дней назад

    I'm pretty sure people who aren't sure where next month's rent is coming from would disagree.

  • christie hobbs
    christie hobbs 28 дней назад

    When I stepped out of my comfort zone, I found what I wanted in life and since have created a good life that I am able to share with others and help people to do the same "Blessed"

  • Yeah you’re right and
    Yeah you’re right and 29 дней назад

    I haven’t eaten in 5 days and my goal is a week. I have been doing JiuJitsu throughout which is 5x harder with no fuel. I like to find my limits cause it helps me grow as a person. I’m 16 and I intend to keep finding my limits for the rest of my life. Happiness is not lack of obstacles but overcoming them. Tough situations breed tough men, tough men rule the world.

  • 3000pedobear
    3000pedobear 29 дней назад

    jordan peterson had a book about this

  • Lucid Trees
    Lucid Trees Месяц назад

    Anyone else thought the president was going to jump off the building?

  • meow0meow7
    meow0meow7 Месяц назад

    Looking at his face makes me uncomfortable but I did learn from this video.

  • Broderick Bunnell
    Broderick Bunnell Месяц назад

    So basically, if you are conservative, you don't like growing

  • Fat Potatoe
    Fat Potatoe Месяц назад

    This sounds like Ludwig von Mises' Human Action.

  • Sixbears
    Sixbears Месяц назад

    He's a monster.

  • Keith Mc
    Keith Mc Месяц назад

    Bill Eckstrom has started a business and is trying to create a need for his services.
    Comfort won't ruin your life. Comfort just won't provide the impetus or necessity to do anything. Still some of us are self-motivated and get things done.

  • Forgiven 87
    Forgiven 87 Месяц назад


  • Jo Montanee
    Jo Montanee Месяц назад

    4:27 Aspen the dog is super adorable!!

  • Rabish Kumar
    Rabish Kumar Месяц назад

    Most handsome sir

  • An Hải Nguyễn
    An Hải Nguyễn Месяц назад

    i can't understand much because i dont good at english.
    how to can now?

  • Trillbandz _
    Trillbandz _ Месяц назад

    I think I rather be comfortable and calm plus confident then anxious low and depressed

  • Chris M
    Chris M Месяц назад

    Dumbocraps should watch this.

  • Quinton Mhizha
    Quinton Mhizha Месяц назад

    Thank you! I’m going to get discomfort and start my business.

  • olzt100
    olzt100 Месяц назад

    What doesn't kill you should make you stronger.

  • Tufail Mohammed
    Tufail Mohammed Месяц назад

    This is seriously wrong. You don't want to die uncomfortably..

  • Tlreiber
    Tlreiber Месяц назад

    Amazing. So happy to see JESUS is in your heart. Thank you for putting him in your talk. God bless you.

  • maximuslyricus
    maximuslyricus Месяц назад

    At first, my attitude was 'this is a bunch of overexuberant hogwash, or at least one of many valid, but different opinions. This I realized that in order to succeed in my New Year's resolution to lose weight, I am going to have to experience some discomfort. Thanks so much for this video.

  • klwarren169
    klwarren169 Месяц назад

    The title is awful. I don't know about it ruining your life, but I will say, I'm never 100 percent comfortable at any job, anywhere, period. I'm always thinking of ways to evolve because jobs and people are FOS. Society teaches us that we should be doing this or that regarding particular roles or statuses and it's all BS! Do what you love; if it doesn't work out, change is good. Everyone does not have the means or stamina to go with it though. I'm fortunate enough to be able to deal with change. Many disagree on how often I like change, but God had not failed me yet. Never get comfortable at someone's job.

  • Tony STARK
    Tony STARK Месяц назад +2

    ITS TRUE☺️

  • Siegfried Braun
    Siegfried Braun Месяц назад

    Another interesting way to paraphrase Jordan Peterson; chaos and order in-balance, are critical to personal satisfaction.

  • studybug2010
    studybug2010 Месяц назад

    So when comfort is sought through hard and uncomfortable focused work and is finally achieved, we are the better for denouncing it? I think "comfort" is bad when it is making us "immobile" to strive towards desired, or needed, future accomplishments. "Comfort" is so easily confused with "acceptance or "settling for" something simply because, its not what you want but at least its familiar, that is,..Opting to stay in something undesired, verses taking the steps to positively change your situation in order to feel safe. To seek comfort and then be successful at achieving it, only to then call it a bad thing to have, rings so similiar to being ingrateful for what you have, This video would be better titled " Why SETTLING will ruin your life"!!

  • Lysan dre
    Lysan dre Месяц назад

    Seek discomfort

  • Tyler Schwab
    Tyler Schwab Месяц назад

    his attempts at humor were awful

  • Carl Lelandt
    Carl Lelandt Месяц назад

    Great topic. I agree with Eckstrom. I think children benefit from well thought-out and planned, consistent intervals of (low technology) comfort, however. And adversity builds character.

  • Gary Baxter
    Gary Baxter Месяц назад

    One of the most inspiring Ted talks I've ever heard !

  • Calvin Rockwellは夏が好き
    Calvin Rockwellは夏が好き Месяц назад

    _Why he got fired?_

  • Alex Amor
    Alex Amor Месяц назад +1

    *Seek Discomfort*

  • Jobanpreet Singh Mutti
    Jobanpreet Singh Mutti Месяц назад

    Cyrus the great approves this message

  • MsSunhappy
    MsSunhappy Месяц назад

    That's why i seek discomfort in eating something new once a month for growth of my acceptable foods to eat.

  • Jacob Mceachern
    Jacob Mceachern Месяц назад

    When he said seeking discomfort I instantly thought of yes theory.

  • epavarma
    epavarma Месяц назад

    no pain, no gain

  • 57367/3 33x1\6/2
    57367/3 33x1\6/2 2 месяца назад

    1:25 - 1:38

  • Silvio Biasi
    Silvio Biasi 2 месяца назад

    Oh well have kids and you'll experience discomfort for years to come,having to deal with constant issues and caring but you know what you'll be the happiest person on earth !!

  • Piaodang Suifeng
    Piaodang Suifeng 2 месяца назад

    But my life have been ruined.what should I do?

  • jstnhnh
    jstnhnh 2 месяца назад

    This should be a clever ad for Audi

  • Leah Ann Mitchell
    Leah Ann Mitchell 2 месяца назад

    When a wealthy white dude tells you you're whining and should be like him... great ted talk...

  • Sank E
    Sank E 2 месяца назад

    This is the law of life's evolution itself , Pain is evolutionary necessity .

  • Prince Jaq
    Prince Jaq 2 месяца назад

    Wait so can you eat goldfish?

  • Mia Augsburger
    Mia Augsburger 2 месяца назад

    @yestheory I'm sure you have listened but take a look :)

  • 陈昶宇
    陈昶宇 2 месяца назад


  • H
    H 2 месяца назад

    Listening to this while doing my weight training on my yoga mat is truly a salvation

  • Game Tricks and Tips
    Game Tricks and Tips 2 месяца назад


  • didem yüksel
    didem yüksel 2 месяца назад +2

    It's enough to read the title, nothing else inside..

  • Mark Ariel
    Mark Ariel 2 месяца назад

    I love it! thanks for this

  • Rainbow Lion
    Rainbow Lion 2 месяца назад

    I disagree with the ring inbetween order and chaos being complexity. Maybe it should be called "discomfort". But the gist of what hes saying makes a lot of sense. I just dont think complexity sums up once step below chaos and one step above order. Theres more to it than that.

  • Donald Wilson
    Donald Wilson 2 месяца назад +7

    Well thank God I was born with General Anxiety Disorder & hypochondria. Haven't been comfortable once in 23 years ...

  • Diriliş vakti
    Diriliş vakti 2 месяца назад

    More pain more gain

  • ProfitableLifestyles
    ProfitableLifestyles 2 месяца назад

    But isn't that what we're working for?

  • dhanad naik
    dhanad naik 3 месяца назад

    What we should find at interpersonal relationship, comfort or discomfort?

  • Ahmad Al Alwani
    Ahmad Al Alwani 3 месяца назад

    so I'm a fish? C'mon

  • Smsm Smsm
    Smsm Smsm 3 месяца назад

    your words inspired me so much and let me change my mind and the way I think. thanl you for getting me conscious to such great thought

  • TheYouQuark
    TheYouQuark 3 месяца назад

    ok here is a question; how would you grow if you don't sleep? not sleeping is uncomfortable.

  • John Agresti
    John Agresti 3 месяца назад +2

    I stopped watching so much TV . Started eating less. First I got depressed. Feeling better now but shaky.

  • John Agresti
    John Agresti 3 месяца назад

    "Everyday I sit in this hotel I get weaker. Every day charlie sits in the bush he gets stronger" . Martin Sheen in APOCALYPSE NOW.

  • Tarsem Singh
    Tarsem Singh 3 месяца назад

    ਸ਼ਾਤ ਸਮੁੰਦਰ ਕਦੇ ਨਿਪੁੰਨ ਮਲਾਹ ਨਹੀਂ ਪੈਦਾ ਕਰ ਸਕਦੇ।

  • Larisa Golubeva
    Larisa Golubeva 3 месяца назад

    I love the video, but got confused about what he said in the very end (12:06): "it's not the complexity-triggering individuals or events you should fear the most, but it's your own willingness to accept or seek discomfort that will dictate the growth of not just you, but our entire world." ??? So, we have to fear the discomfort and growth that it brings? I thought he's advocating for discomfort as it brings growth. Can someone clarify, please? I also have to say that constantly being in the discomfort state is too stressful - I've been in this sate for the past 11 years and don't recommend it to anyone.

  • Manisha Dadlani
    Manisha Dadlani 3 месяца назад

    A truly insightful talk well-delivered

  • Carrie Oakey
    Carrie Oakey 3 месяца назад

    Being complacent will stunt your personal growth. Whenever I feel complacent with my life, I will take on a hobby like learning to play chess, riding a dirt bike, learning to speak another language, getting involved in my community.
    Being complacent will kill you

  • Mozaffer Abbasi
    Mozaffer Abbasi 3 месяца назад

    It must be easy to "bounce" back when you have had such a highend life to begin with..

  • anonymous
    anonymous 3 месяца назад

    All that a person needs to do is to consume the GLORIOUS ancient wisdom writings of the East and far East - simple. Realizing one's Higher Supreme Self (Christ Consciousness; Buddha Consciousness; Krishna Consciousness; Tao Teh Ching Consciousness; or any other truly "HIGHER" states of consciousness /awareness) takes care of ALL of these concerns. Rising ABOVE the world's false understanding of "form" (physical) life is what the core of all ancient religions is about. You must DIE to yourself in THIS life in order to have and to understand TRUE life.

  • Harry Stottle
    Harry Stottle 3 месяца назад

    I've been put back on the sick among people I didn't like but I've learnt to see the good in them!! I wish I wasn't on the sick it's too easy!!

  • Harry Stottle
    Harry Stottle 3 месяца назад

    I was kicked off the sick after 20 years and out of my home I didn't have time to get miserable!!

  • YouTube Account
    YouTube Account 3 месяца назад

    I was depressed with my disorganized uncomfortable room as a younger person. I’m much more comfortable and have grown since removing open shelves and adding actual organized dressers.

  • David Hirsch V
    David Hirsch V 3 месяца назад

    You comfort zone is a beautiful place where nothing ever grows.

  • MrKshesho
    MrKshesho 3 месяца назад

    I clicked on this video because the title made SO much sense to me. Comfort kept me from overcoming my Social Anxiety Disorder, living independent, and just being happy in life in general. Often times I now hear the phrase, "lean into discomfort." Probably the most difficult to face, but meaningful and powerful advice I've gotten.

  • toba thene
    toba thene 3 месяца назад

    I'm happy in my bed thank you

  • Mayank Wadhwa
    Mayank Wadhwa 3 месяца назад

    did any else realise he is crying a lot

  • Alex Tom
    Alex Tom 3 месяца назад

    Kind of a clickbaity title, considering that the point of the video was that comfort stops growth. Growth has no relation with whether or not someone's life is ruined, so technically the title doesn't relate to the video.

    • Sombrreroboss Flies
      Sombrreroboss Flies 3 месяца назад

      Roses are red
      Violets are blue
      Everyone is lazy
      and so are you

  • Philip Shirk
    Philip Shirk 3 месяца назад

    TLDR: change is wonderful and the benefits will always far outweigh the costs!

  • YourEnlightenedFriend
    YourEnlightenedFriend 4 месяца назад

    Thank You!

  • Robert Lind
    Robert Lind 4 месяца назад

    People who have avoided discomfort their whole life (not taking arguments etc), MAY feel insecure about themselves all time around strangers.

    A few years ago, I was searching for a job. Exposed myself to many job interviews and contacted managers. At first, I felt discomfort every time. I was nervous and looked up to these people at the job interviews, thinking they were more competent and better than me. Nowadays, I can be comfortable meeting the same people. seeing through their fasade of fancy job titles and acting of professionalism.

    I now feel very confident and relaxed a lot more!

    The reason that I had to go on a job hunt, was that my current job was changing for the worse.

    Also. Life isnt about devoting your life to a job. Its about enjoying your spare time on the trip to the coffin.

  • Safir
    Safir 4 месяца назад +3

    Comfortability isn’t bad. Too much of everything good is bad in some way.

  • Janik Rai
    Janik Rai 4 месяца назад


  • S K
    S K 4 месяца назад

    The prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said,
    “The greatest reward comes with the greatest trial. When Allah (God) loves a people He tests them."

  • Valeriu Olariu
    Valeriu Olariu 4 месяца назад

    Great video, straight to the point. Thanks

  • Varelas Haralampos
    Varelas Haralampos 4 месяца назад

    Great analysis,result, assumption...wishes to go further:)

  • goldeneddie
    goldeneddie 4 месяца назад

    I wonder if he's wearing barbed-wire underpants whilst presenting. And wearing them backwards to create more complexity when needing a pee. I used to be with a girlfriend who had this guy's 'no pain, no gain' philosophy, so we spent two-thirds of our time in 'uncomfortable' conversations addressing our 'challenges' and the rest of the time we were just miserable, tired and pissed off. In the end I left her for someone who is loads more fun. It was an uncomfortable decision for me to leave but thankfully my Ex's 'training' really helped me make it ;)

  • hoiabaciufan
    hoiabaciufan 4 месяца назад

    Now that is a symbol of progress

  • Ali Sandler
    Ali Sandler 4 месяца назад

    Wow, one of the worst TED talks I’ve ever seen.

  • Wisepersonsay
    Wisepersonsay 4 месяца назад

    Divorce, financial ruin, betrayal, disappointment, and all the rest are needed free lessons to grow your awareness and conscience to become truly you. Anything materialistic, rational and emotional will never last. They all pass. Rightness and Righteousness are totally different meaning. The richest will have to die, and so will the poorest. How you live each day is the most precious reality. You don't need to live to influence the world. You live to be peaceful and self-determined. The world goes on without us, while you cannot go on without your inner fulfilment each day. Right?

  • Young-il Jeong
    Young-il Jeong 5 месяцев назад

    한국어 자막이 아쉽습니다.

  • David From New York
    David From New York 5 месяцев назад

    Is it me or is this guy working for Trump? Lol

  • Ann Francisco
    Ann Francisco 5 месяцев назад

    so inspiring! thank you :)