Why comfort will ruin your life | Bill Eckstrom | TEDxUniversityofNevada

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  • Опубликовано: 31 янв 2017
  • After documenting and researching over 50,000 coaching interactions in the workplace, Bill Eckstrom shares life-altering, personal and professional development ideas through the introduction of the “Growth Rings.” The rings illustrate how dangerous it can be to remain in a state of comfort and how being in discomfort is the only way to sustain growth. You’ll be amazed at the world-changing outcomes discomfort can have on your life and the lives of others.
    Bill Eckstrom is an entrepreneur, author, speaker, outdoorsman and father of three. With a passion deeply rooted in growth and development, Bill has always been fascinated by the role a coach has on the performance of individuals and teams. As a result, he founded the EcSell Institute whose sole focus is to educate, track and measure coaching effectiveness for leaders within organizations around the world. This has led to hundreds of keynotes, published articles and e-books created from the research and documentation of coaching interactions and outcomes. You can learn more about the EcSell Institute here: www.ecsellinstitute.com/
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

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  • 陈昶宇
    陈昶宇 18 часов назад

    没太看懂哈哈哈

  • H
    H 22 часа назад

    Listening to this while doing my weight training on my yoga mat is truly a salvation

  • Game Tricks and Tips
    Game Tricks and Tips 5 дней назад

    .

  • didem yüksel
    didem yüksel 12 дней назад +1

    It's enough to read the title, nothing else inside..

  • Phenomenal Man
    Phenomenal Man 12 дней назад

    I love it! thanks for this

  • Rainbow Lion
    Rainbow Lion 13 дней назад

    I disagree with the ring inbetween order and chaos being complexity. Maybe it should be called "discomfort". But the gist of what hes saying makes a lot of sense. I just dont think complexity sums up once step below chaos and one step above order. Theres more to it than that.

  • Donald Wilson
    Donald Wilson 14 дней назад +2

    Well thank God I was born with General Anxiety Disorder & hypochondria. Haven't been comfortable once in 23 years ...

  • Diriliş vakti
    Diriliş vakti 22 дня назад

    More pain more gain

  • ProfitableLifestyles
    ProfitableLifestyles 22 дня назад

    But isn't that what we're working for?

  • dhanad naik
    dhanad naik 25 дней назад

    What we should find at interpersonal relationship, comfort or discomfort?

  • Ahmad Al Alwani
    Ahmad Al Alwani 27 дней назад

    so I'm a fish? C'mon

  • Smsm Smsm
    Smsm Smsm 27 дней назад

    your words inspired me so much and let me change my mind and the way I think. thanl you for getting me conscious to such great thought

  • TheYouQuark
    TheYouQuark 28 дней назад

    ok here is a question; how would you grow if you don't sleep? not sleeping is uncomfortable.

  • John Agresti
    John Agresti Месяц назад

    I stopped watching so much TV . Started eating less. First I got depressed. Feeling better now but shaky.

  • John Agresti
    John Agresti Месяц назад

    "Everyday I sit in this hotel I get weaker. Every day charlie sits in the bush he gets stronger" . Martin Sheen in APOCALYPSE NOW.

  • Tarsem Singh
    Tarsem Singh Месяц назад

    ਸ਼ਾਤ ਸਮੁੰਦਰ ਕਦੇ ਨਿਪੁੰਨ ਮਲਾਹ ਨਹੀਂ ਪੈਦਾ ਕਰ ਸਕਦੇ।

  • Larisa Golubeva
    Larisa Golubeva Месяц назад

    I love the video, but got confused about what he said in the very end (12:06): "it's not the complexity-triggering individuals or events you should fear the most, but it's your own willingness to accept or seek discomfort that will dictate the growth of not just you, but our entire world." ??? So, we have to fear the discomfort and growth that it brings? I thought he's advocating for discomfort as it brings growth. Can someone clarify, please? I also have to say that constantly being in the discomfort state is too stressful - I've been in this sate for the past 11 years and don't recommend it to anyone.

  • Manisha Dadlani
    Manisha Dadlani Месяц назад

    A truly insightful talk well-delivered

  • Carrie Oakey
    Carrie Oakey Месяц назад

    Being complacent will stunt your personal growth. Whenever I feel complacent with my life, I will take on a hobby like learning to play chess, riding a dirt bike, learning to speak another language, getting involved in my community.
    Being complacent will kill you

  • Mozaffer Abbasi
    Mozaffer Abbasi Месяц назад

    It must be easy to "bounce" back when you have had such a highend life to begin with..

  • anonymous
    anonymous Месяц назад

    All that a person needs to do is to consume the GLORIOUS ancient wisdom writings of the East and far East - simple. Realizing one's Higher Supreme Self (Christ Consciousness; Buddha Consciousness; Krishna Consciousness; Tao Teh Ching Consciousness; or any other truly "HIGHER" states of consciousness /awareness) takes care of ALL of these concerns. Rising ABOVE the world's false understanding of "form" (physical) life is what the core of all ancient religions is about. You must DIE to yourself in THIS life in order to have and to understand TRUE life.

  • Learning Ukulele
    Learning Ukulele Месяц назад

    I've been put back on the sick among people I didn't like but I've learnt to see the good in them!! I wish I wasn't on the sick it's too easy!!

  • Learning Ukulele
    Learning Ukulele Месяц назад

    I was kicked off the sick after 20 years and out of my home I didn't have time to get miserable!!

  • YouTube Account
    YouTube Account Месяц назад

    I was depressed with my disorganized uncomfortable room as a younger person. I’m much more comfortable and have grown since removing open shelves and adding actual organized dressers.

  • David Hirsch V
    David Hirsch V Месяц назад

    You comfort zone is a beautiful place where nothing ever grows.

  • MrKshesho
    MrKshesho Месяц назад

    I clicked on this video because the title made SO much sense to me. Comfort kept me from overcoming my Social Anxiety Disorder, living independent, and just being happy in life in general. Often times I now hear the phrase, "lean into discomfort." Probably the most difficult to face, but meaningful and powerful advice I've gotten.

  • toba thene
    toba thene Месяц назад

    I'm happy in my bed thank you

  • Mayank Wadhwa
    Mayank Wadhwa Месяц назад

    did any else realise he is crying a lot

  • Alex Tom
    Alex Tom Месяц назад

    Kind of a clickbaity title, considering that the point of the video was that comfort stops growth. Growth has no relation with whether or not someone's life is ruined, so technically the title doesn't relate to the video.

    • Sombrreroboss Flies
      Sombrreroboss Flies Месяц назад

      Roses are red
      Violets are blue
      Everyone is lazy
      and so are you

  • Philip Shirk
    Philip Shirk Месяц назад

    TLDR: change is wonderful and the benefits will always far outweigh the costs!

  • YourEnlightenedFriend
    YourEnlightenedFriend 2 месяца назад

    Thank You!

  • Robert Lind
    Robert Lind 2 месяца назад

    People who have avoided discomfort their whole life (not taking arguments etc), MAY feel insecure about themselves all time around strangers.

    A few years ago, I was searching for a job. Exposed myself to many job interviews and contacted managers. At first, I felt discomfort every time. I was nervous and looked up to these people at the job interviews, thinking they were more competent and better than me. Nowadays, I can be comfortable meeting the same people. seeing through their fasade of fancy job titles and acting of professionalism.

    I now feel very confident and relaxed a lot more!

    The reason that I had to go on a job hunt, was that my current job was changing for the worse.

    Also. Life isnt about devoting your life to a job. Its about enjoying your spare time on the trip to the coffin.

  • Safir
    Safir 2 месяца назад +1

    Comfortability isn’t bad. Too much of everything good is bad in some way.

  • Janik Rai
    Janik Rai 2 месяца назад

    @yestheory

  • S K
    S K 2 месяца назад

    The prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said,
    “The greatest reward comes with the greatest trial. When Allah (God) loves a people He tests them."

  • Valeriu Olariu
    Valeriu Olariu 2 месяца назад

    Great video, straight to the point. Thanks

  • Varelas Haralampos
    Varelas Haralampos 2 месяца назад

    Great analysis,result, assumption...wishes to go further:)

  • goldeneddie
    goldeneddie 2 месяца назад

    I wonder if he's wearing barbed-wire underpants whilst presenting. And wearing them backwards to create more complexity when needing a pee. I used to be with a girlfriend who had this guy's 'no pain, no gain' philosophy, so we spent two-thirds of our time in 'uncomfortable' conversations addressing our 'challenges' and the rest of the time we were just miserable, tired and pissed off. In the end I left her for someone who is loads more fun. It was an uncomfortable decision for me to leave but thankfully my Ex's 'training' really helped me make it ;)

  • hoiabaciufan
    hoiabaciufan 2 месяца назад

    12:34
    Now that is a symbol of progress

  • Ali Sandler
    Ali Sandler 2 месяца назад

    Wow, one of the worst TED talks I’ve ever seen.

  • Wisepersonsay
    Wisepersonsay 2 месяца назад

    Divorce, financial ruin, betrayal, disappointment, and all the rest are needed free lessons to grow your awareness and conscience to become truly you. Anything materialistic, rational and emotional will never last. They all pass. Rightness and Righteousness are totally different meaning. The richest will have to die, and so will the poorest. How you live each day is the most precious reality. You don't need to live to influence the world. You live to be peaceful and self-determined. The world goes on without us, while you cannot go on without your inner fulfilment each day. Right?

  • Young-il Jeong
    Young-il Jeong 2 месяца назад

    한국어 자막이 아쉽습니다.

  • David From New York
    David From New York 2 месяца назад

    Is it me or is this guy working for Trump? Lol

  • Ann Francisco
    Ann Francisco 2 месяца назад

    so inspiring! thank you :)

  • T Harvee
    T Harvee 3 месяца назад

    so self sabotage is actually creating room for my future success!

  • Mario M
    Mario M 3 месяца назад

    "Leave your comfort zone" episode 53627

  • Otaku Overlord
    Otaku Overlord 3 месяца назад

    True that change can be good but it's bad to think that all change just for the sake of change equals growth because it could also been seen as shrinking or dieing (not complete death but partial). This concept uncontrolled leads to ideas like the far left(Democrats) which isn't good(it's not good to go to far either way).
    Btw u can change through comfort.
    I recommend he watches some videos by Jordan Peterson.

  • penguinsunburn
    penguinsunburn 3 месяца назад

    "Post-Growth Ring Bill" is a awesome nickname :)

  • TheLyingTruthTeller
    TheLyingTruthTeller 3 месяца назад

    *The road of excess leads to the palace of wisdom.*
    Give me excessive comfort over excessive discomfort, given both excesses lead to the same place.
    Thank you & goodnight.

  • Ethan Hunter
    Ethan Hunter 3 месяца назад +1

    If this talk was named "Seek Discomfort" instead of "Why comfort will ruin your life" I doubt nearly as many people would watch it. The video actually plays on people's tendency in order to advocate the opposite.

  • 빡독가고싶은금준호
    빡독가고싶은금준호 3 месяца назад

    So nice voice he has... as a foreigner I desire to pronounce and speak like him

  • 박종웅
    박종웅 3 месяца назад

    Excessive amount of comfort can you make strange...

  • BEAUTYBYLEANN
    BEAUTYBYLEANN 3 месяца назад

    I smell Audi sponsorship

  • Christopher Horn
    Christopher Horn 3 месяца назад

    No different than lifting weights...if you are comfortable...it ain't heavy enough

  • PanginooTV
    PanginooTV 3 месяца назад

    Instructions clear, must get fired to get on a TEDtalk

  • Truther One
    Truther One 3 месяца назад

    You only get what you make.

  • farm dit
    farm dit 3 месяца назад

    I'VE BEEEN SAYING THIS

  • Vianney Fulo
    Vianney Fulo 3 месяца назад

    😍😍😍😍😍

  • Zachary Stoner
    Zachary Stoner 3 месяца назад

    Balance is important

  • Mark Levers
    Mark Levers 3 месяца назад

    Montgomery was the good ol days. Go to south Chicago and live there for ONE day and see for yourself (:

  • a1gray1
    a1gray1 3 месяца назад

    what if your to comfortable being uncomfortable and u never get your life together?

  • Keitron Wallace
    Keitron Wallace 3 месяца назад

    I realized I was struggling with depression when I almost got into a fight with a drunk bro who was 4in shorter than me and I thought I had to teach him a lesson. I was at a point where I was engaging in reckless and risky behaviors just to feel something good. I decided that month to move to a new state on my own and just learn a new craft. I started working before I even got a bed to sleep on and lived check to check. It wasn't easy but I definitely found something inside of myself that I thought I lost. Now things are much better for me and I am thankful I went out on my own and lived in discomfort. I can personally attest to how harmful comfort can be when you are immersed in it for years.

  • Dean Hart
    Dean Hart 3 месяца назад

    My heartfelt thanks and appreciation to Mr. Eric Hickman for sharing this video with me.

  • Hoàng Đinh Khải
    Hoàng Đinh Khải 3 месяца назад

    Thank you, sir
    Short version: Life begins at the end of your comfort zone. - Neale Donald Walsch

  • Julienne1979
    Julienne1979 3 месяца назад

    I'd rather hate that coach and quit playing tennis... v.v

  • Jaymes elliot
    Jaymes elliot 3 месяца назад

    Play Darksouls

  • Monique
    Monique 3 месяца назад

    3 minutes and i can't stand the talk blah blah blah

  • Choc des glaçons
    Choc des glaçons 3 месяца назад

    Peak platitude for a TED Talk and that's saying something. Who doesn't know that you need challenges to grow?

  • Jessica Phillips
    Jessica Phillips 3 месяца назад

    Love it

  • Mohammed El Massri
    Mohammed El Massri 3 месяца назад

    Success in the face of adversity on the physical and emotional arenas . Having a goal other than making money . Finding contentment and happiness in a mundane unchallenging job. that is the goal . Resisting the urge to challenge yourself. daring yourself to remain as you are . preaching the simple life . Finding a partner who shares your mediocrity and is happy as is .
    People are unhappy on account of all those TED Talks urging you to leap into the unknown . it frightens them , and makes them miserable.
    He never mentions why he was fired from his first job ? Perhaps he needed a good shaking up after such poor performance that led to his being sacked .
    Why should someone who is competent and successful in his low paid, low powered job be made to feel a failure ?
    If life is slow and predictable and safe and we need 'action' , there are always novels and movies that provide us with all the excitement we crave ( in the safety of our own homes ).

  • Mohsin Asif
    Mohsin Asif 3 месяца назад

    Too much unpredictability, chaos and stress can also lead to diabetes.

  • Zaheer Ahmed
    Zaheer Ahmed 3 месяца назад

    So true!

  • Hüseyin Öztürk \ Japonca
    Hüseyin Öztürk \ Japonca 4 месяца назад

    pushing someone into complexity... is an art. it needs expertise. There is a danger you might turn into someone very cruel, while thinking that you are doing everything for them.

  • Fahed Mahidi
    Fahed Mahidi 4 месяца назад

    Is it an advertising for Audi ?

  • Rawking Power
    Rawking Power 4 месяца назад

    That's true but sometimes I think there must be another way. We don't always have to learn through pain, we can become joyful learners. It's more fun as well! Who else thinks it's possible?

  • Omar B
    Omar B 4 месяца назад

    A life without challenges is boring. You will have a story to tell only if you move out of your comfort zone. But why do you have to move out of your CZ? we as human tend to stay within the comfort zone. it will only happen if your desires to succeed are way greater than your fears to fail.

  • Shirley C
    Shirley C 4 месяца назад

    Face the fear and do it anyway - how to grow and get a big comfort zone. Disagree about Aspen - I think dogs are naturally curious and growth oriented.

  • Nyanko Sensey
    Nyanko Sensey 4 месяца назад

    im waching this as being stay at home wife

  • erikson1359
    erikson1359 4 месяца назад

    It already has

  • Eddy C
    Eddy C 4 месяца назад

    This guy speaks like pastor haha

  • Mr. Numi Who
    Mr. Numi Who 4 месяца назад

    Too simplistic. Comfort is a tool, and what you do with the tool is what matters. This goes for discomfort, too. Extended reason, for example, is not served by discomfort. Ego is (bragging rights).

  • Nabeel Khan
    Nabeel Khan 4 месяца назад

    amazing, i truly have a similar view about growth too. however people confuse discomfort with unhappiness. unhappiness is not having a job that you like. discomfort is improving yourself and leaving that "permanent monthly salary job" "voluntarily"

  • lynnthegreat10
    lynnthegreat10 4 месяца назад

    I was fired a couple weeks ago. I have decided to pack up & move states in an effort to find greener pastures. I have always been a calculated risk taker, so I am very exited about the new opportunity to grow.

  • BossDiStoCazzo
    BossDiStoCazzo 4 месяца назад

    My question is: a person who is continually growing is happy? I'm in line with this speach because it represents what i'm doing in my life but it's not the secret of happines. The goal of our lives should be the happines or not? But it can't be a costant of our lives so...

  • Ridhi Chaudhary
    Ridhi Chaudhary 4 месяца назад

    it was really the best one
    thanku for ur words sir

  • Chris Marklowitz
    Chris Marklowitz 4 месяца назад

    The reason disorder causes growth is because disorder causes discomfort which when combined with confidence causes change. When combined with helplessness causes fear, blaming , etc.

  • Simon
    Simon 4 месяца назад

    growth growth growth GROOOWTHHHH GROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOWWWWWTH GROOOOOOOOOOOOWWWWWWWWTWWWHHH

  • warren simpson
    warren simpson 4 месяца назад

    I deserve credit for making others grow

  • vaibhav lodhi
    vaibhav lodhi 4 месяца назад

    TEDx Talks plz put captions in Hindi language also. Lot of Indians will join you.

  • Chazz Xtreme
    Chazz Xtreme 4 месяца назад

    This guy is completely wrong. He took his specific situation about his job and generalized it to be the only way to find growth. Comfort is what allows for clear thinking and concentration which is important for problem solving. Why was Ancient Greece a pioneering place where many innovations happened? Because for the first time there was an economic system in place that allowed for the rise of a scholar class: people had financial comfort and thus could afford education. Their lives were secure so they could focus on abstract things. If you are constantly thrown into situations of crisis you have no choice on what to work on. By having comfort, productive people are able to find some of the most groundbreaking discoveries. There is not just one way to do something.

  • Elizabeth Çakirerk
    Elizabeth Çakirerk 4 месяца назад

    Brilliant!

  • Hans Hoerdemann
    Hans Hoerdemann 4 месяца назад

    Why were you fired?

  • Ravi Patel
    Ravi Patel 4 месяца назад

    Bill, you should apply this principle to your physique and start exercising and eating better which means get out of your comfort zone of junk food .

  • TheDeskPotato
    TheDeskPotato 4 месяца назад

    Really good video for helping normal people feel brave enough. Just needs an extra (somewhat big perhaps though) tweak to help people with chronic depression etc

  • Prod. by JJ Brem
    Prod. by JJ Brem 4 месяца назад

    god works in mysterious ways but all things work together

  • Michelle Ngahadjo
    Michelle Ngahadjo 4 месяца назад

    Thank you to you. This was Soo Deep

  • Benchur Wong
    Benchur Wong 4 месяца назад

    Nice talk. No pain No gain.

  • Chaos Tade
    Chaos Tade 5 месяцев назад +1

    Amazing short speech..!! very very true.

  • The future is Unity
    The future is Unity 5 месяцев назад +1

    Pessimistic view: Life is all about struggle, unless you are born rich or privileged you are destined to struggle.
    Optimistic view: No pain no gain, hardships pays off and its always sweeter when you earn it.
    Life is short, everyone tries to maximize gains they can enjoy before they die. Some need not struggle, most have to and some choose to give up on life. To how i see, all is the same, you give your own meaning to your own life, be it living it or ending it. We are just part of this endless cycle in the flow of time.

  • agenthoini
    agenthoini 5 месяцев назад

    Hm not convinced. Imma stay in bed :D