The Credibility Gap: How Sexism Shapes Human Knowledge | Soraya Chemaly | TEDxBarcelonaWomen

  • Опубликовано: 28 июл 2015
  • It's a man's world...but what does that mean? Today, when you Google "Are Women...?" the most likely suggested answer you'll get is "Evil." What does the suppression of women's experiences and knowledge in culture and media mean in terms of human understanding? How does a global suppression of women's experiences, perspectives and storytelling result in injustice and inequality? This talk dives into the question of what male-centered culture really means.
    Soraya Chemaly is an award winning writer and media critic whose work focuses on the role that gender plays in culture and human rights.
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at

Комментарии • 702

  • n777
    n777 10 часов назад

    Men are better than women, deal with it 😎😎😎

  • Annetta Waiz
    Annetta Waiz 6 дней назад +2

    Strong women like you inspire me so much....thank you!

  • Amber J
    Amber J 6 дней назад

    a great speech about time. been thinking like this for years.need these types of speeches to go global and in schools. great speech

  • Cosmic Kari Star
    Cosmic Kari Star 7 дней назад

    Thank you! Soo much information in such a small block of speaking. The gender wars are the problem in society. Thank you for clarifying.

  • D Q
    D Q 8 дней назад

    I love this, thank you

  • Elder Mountain Dreaming
    Elder Mountain Dreaming 15 дней назад +1

    The true power we have as women, mothers and grandmothers is to actually show these things in a real living "action" in life, at home with family and at work. This teaches kids (children, teens and young adults) of how to respond to oppression and sexism in real living ways.

  • Michael Streich
    Michael Streich 15 дней назад +2

    Um....ur IGNORING Trans-Gender Women.

  • sechale
    sechale 16 дней назад +2

    POW, 10:37 ... boys go into those [religious] spaces and learn that they have authority, girls go into those spaces and learn to be silent. Particularly with the rise of monotheism, the feminine was wiped not just from serving with spiritual authority, but from the concept of the divine. Many places considered God to have a wife ... a kind of cosmic power couple. With monotheism, we quite literally allowed the feminine to be wiped out of our concept of God. It cascades into so many aspects of our lives.

  • Zuzanna Tomaszewicz
    Zuzanna Tomaszewicz 16 дней назад


  • curious
    curious 16 дней назад

    We think we have everything right for each other in the present time, but that is not true. We just become aware of that and it takes time to change those entrenched habits. So have patience and do not repeat the complaining !! Oh, and do not forget .. Women are the most important beings for men and we do almost everything for you. That is a fact, but where is that written or is it in the news?

  • Alison Selje
    Alison Selje 17 дней назад +10

    I googled 'are women' and one of the first things that came up was 'are women allowed on submarines?' What??? To the apparently many people who google that, please explain.

    • Alison Selje
      Alison Selje 17 дней назад +3

      I searched it, and apparently women weren't allowed on U.S. Navy submarines until 2010.

  • Cheryl
    Cheryl 19 дней назад +4

    This is one of the most refreshing, re-affirming, accurate TEDx Talks I've ever seen. Thank you.

  • Brian
    Brian 20 дней назад

    Large yikes

  • thirdquality
    thirdquality 20 дней назад +10

    So sorry that she made you guys aware of your privilege..

    • thirdquality
      thirdquality День назад

      +Kaden Monfredi I know that I am very privileged. I am female and was able to go to school, I went through life mostly unharmed and my husband respects me. So many women are less lucky.

    • Kaden Monfredi
      Kaden Monfredi День назад

      thirdquality someone should make you aware of your own privilege.

  • kristina makela
    kristina makela 22 дня назад +3

    I worked as a waiter/bartender for 20 years, and I was always SICKENED by 'fellow' Americans' disgust of the sight of a baby breastfeeding . . . which STILL forces women to feed their infants in public bathrooms. White American male privilege is OVER.

  • Anu Liza Thomas
    Anu Liza Thomas 22 дня назад +1

    This is a great and illuminating talk...

  • sodazman
    sodazman 22 дня назад +6

    How about this for the other side of the argument:
    - Men account for 93% of workplace fatalities
    - Men account for 97% of war fatalities
    - 80% of all homicide victims are men
    - Men lose 80% of all custody battles, yet more than 50% continue to pay child support
    - Men account for 80% of all suicides
    - Men account for 75% of the homeless population
    - More women graduate from university than men
    - 40% of all domestic violence cases are against men from women
    - 60% of women prefer men to pay on the first date. Men spend on average twice as much as women on dates.
    I'd like to see gender equality in these areas. That would be fair wouldn't it?

    • EmbersCreed
      EmbersCreed 11 дней назад +2

      Have any of you have been to an anthology class or a class on the diffrent ways children are raised around the world? Boys get kicked out/drop out due to the fact that as young children they are encouraged to be rowdy. By the saying" oh boy will be boys". When they get to higher education it is no longer acceptable. Its not a woe is me topic its a there are many things wrong with our bias and prejudice inducing cultural up bringing.

    • Ishwari Mulkalwar
      Ishwari Mulkalwar 17 дней назад +6

      Hold up. Where are you churning out these numbers from?

    • Mura
      Mura 17 дней назад +7

      +sodazman Why is it so wrong to have segment focusing purely on women's issues? Yes, of course men's issues are important too, but you're allowed to focus on issues that are important or relevant to you specifically.
      Let's say a man decides to make a video highlighting the problems men face in our society. Is he obligated to dedicate a portion of that video to advocating women's rights as well? If he focuses only on issue affecting men, does that mean his video is really just a thinly-veiled attack on women? And how would you feel if a woman came into the comments, ignored all the points he made about the problems men face, and instead listed off a bunch of statistics only relevant to women and then claimed that the man's call for equality was an attempt at dominating women?

    • sodazman
      sodazman 17 дней назад +1

      +Mura I have watched the video and read some of her books. And what I'm saying is her info is heavily biased and cherry picked. If you're going to talk about something trivial like how long the line to the toilet is, why is it irrelevant to talk about workplace deaths? The statistics I have listed is there to show that men suffer just as much in many instances if not more but there is zero mention of it in either the video or the comments. She didn't talk about the 'genders', only how it's unfair for women. It's just a thinly veiled attack on men.

  • Pristine Parr
    Pristine Parr 22 дня назад +1

    Thank you thank you thank you! Very insightful

  • Paul Suchy
    Paul Suchy 23 дня назад

    I think she makes some great points and makes me think twice about how I’ll behave in public and with women in the professional workspace. Some of the things she talks about are not backed by science and I think there’s a lot of broad generalizations like: men and women can control themselves just as equally, what is control here?; or that men and women are taught to know differently. They’re treated differently, I think, because we have different bodies and different chemicals rushing throughout our veins, making us better suited for different tasks, and for domains of thinking.

  • Alpha Om3gatr1x79
    Alpha Om3gatr1x79 23 дня назад +1

    Keep it up Soraya!!

  • Heidi S. T.
    Heidi S. T. 24 дня назад +1

    More speakers like her please

  • Carla Martínez Santistevan
    Carla Martínez Santistevan 24 дня назад +6

    I got "are women human". Yikes.

  • Luiz Martins
    Luiz Martins 26 дней назад +1

    My FEMALE boss kept saying "If you want something done right, get a man to do it." The system is crushing us and making us believe this old lies.

  • Sheldon Brown
    Sheldon Brown Месяц назад

    Women use more words to say less.

    • ALBUMOF2008
      ALBUMOF2008 7 часов назад

      Sheldon Brown wow ur just so logical and smart sheldon

    • Sheldon Brown
      Sheldon Brown День назад

      ALBUMOF2008 nice 'feels' rage. an argument based on a negativly provable assumption. Though I'd say we have an argument for your inability to participate in a spelling bee, let alone skills in using spell check.

    • ALBUMOF2008
      ALBUMOF2008 2 дня назад

      Noah fence sheldon but I bet you’ve never had an original opinion in ur entire fuckin life

    • Smyod
      Smyod 12 дней назад

      erroneous stereotypes

  • Elizabeth Reynoso
    Elizabeth Reynoso Месяц назад +1

    I disliked this video, even though I am I minority and female. To all the men out their feeling guilty-- stop. There's rarely been a long line in front of a bathroom for me, like the one this speaker says. Periods are very manageable, and, well, woman can breastfeed anywhere. I've seen woman, including my mother, breastfeeding in parks, on benches, in the subways, in trains, but funnily enough--- never in the bathroom.
    Woman do have less rights than men-- but not in America.

  • Ivan Shmakov
    Ivan Shmakov Месяц назад

    Just googled "verable women" - whole bunch of ads with the same text, letter to letter ("verable women" , I mean, with "how-to's", organisations and so on)

  • Borussia Doormat
    Borussia Doormat Месяц назад +2

    Some women just aren’t good enough. Deal with it

  • hengineer
    hengineer Месяц назад


  • Mia Kehinde
    Mia Kehinde Месяц назад +6

    I’m 12, and just starting middle school, and ever since I was in the first grade I’ve had to deal with these problems.

  • RetroAnim
    RetroAnim Месяц назад

    It's true we don't treat boys and girls the same way, but we do so doing our best to prepare them to the society we know. And I think many of us are very careful to teach girls about choosing whether they want to conform or not to the stereotypes. Which is not a choice I'd leave to boys, regarding it as too detrimental. So as of today I genuinely believe that girls enjoy more freedom than boys.

  • Darya Varfolomeeva
    Darya Varfolomeeva Месяц назад +2

    Great talk! This public bathrooms issue irritates me a lot as well.

  • Chaitanya Divate
    Chaitanya Divate Месяц назад

    Maybe your grandma liked being kidnapped....who knows, cause she is dead

  • Fregoli Delusion
    Fregoli Delusion Месяц назад +1

    This victim drivel is like nails on a chalkboard.

  • Emily Molloy
    Emily Molloy 2 месяца назад +12

    I can do anything you can do bleeding

  • B. E. Richardson
    B. E. Richardson 2 месяца назад

    this information is out of date the current top result is: are women born with eggs

    • Maria Lee
      Maria Lee 2 месяца назад

      This was recorded in 2016.

  • Emil Sørensen
    Emil Sørensen 2 месяца назад +16

    It had never occurred to me that women needed bathrooms more than men.
    And it would never occur to me to complain about women getting more bathroom space. That would be the pettiest thing in the history of time.

  • A Unger
    A Unger 2 месяца назад +2

    An incredible speech. Thank you Soraya Chemaly!

  • Vonita Esse
    Vonita Esse 2 месяца назад +1

    When men teach they get permanent teaching contracts more rapidly, they are pick out of school before they are done completing their degree more frequently, they get better paid and the more glamour positions, getting assignments that often result in taking children on field trips just because a man is assumed to be required to handle the crowd of kids, example a skiing field trip, even when their position is not in sports but in science or math.

    • Nunya Dambidniss
      Nunya Dambidniss 20 дней назад

      Is it really like that??
      If so then well yeah, Of course!, Except for the whole "Men are paid more" myth, Lol
      Men sometimes EARN more, That's not the same as being PAID;)

  • Luke Sky walker
    Luke Sky walker 2 месяца назад +1

    I could tell you exactly why you have a lack of credibility but I'd be hailed down as sexist and mysoginist, and quite frankly you would not listen then proceed to justify yourself without holding your actions to any sort of accountability!

  • Allison Cloud
    Allison Cloud 3 месяца назад +4

    When I performed the google search "are women..." my top result was related to reproduction and the other four were all in relation to men and men's spaces. Three of the options provided were all about permission! whether or not women are allowed somewhere: 1. are women born with eggs 2. are women allowed in combat 3. are women colder than men 4. are women allowed in the NFL 5. are women allowed in the tour de France. OMG. Soraya, thank you for this Ted Talk and thank you for your book, which I am devouring after waiting for it for weeks at the library.

    • Maria Lee
      Maria Lee 2 месяца назад

      Because this was recorded in 2016.

  • Arjun and Arnav Menon
    Arjun and Arnav Menon 3 месяца назад +1

    This is the dumbest comment section ever. If something is criticized, maybe there's something wrong with her. The people in this comment section think that the criticism is why we need feminism.

  • Just Me
    Just Me 3 месяца назад +4

    All of the negative comments here are just proving the speaker's point.

  • Arjun and Arnav Menon
    Arjun and Arnav Menon 3 месяца назад +6

    Basically your saying all women are poor victims and all men are privileged. Check again and se how many privileges women have.

    • Just Me
      Just Me 3 месяца назад +11

      She's not saying that at all. Don't comment if you're not going to watch the video.

  • Arjun and Arnav Menon
    Arjun and Arnav Menon 3 месяца назад +2

    It's the girls fault if they dont stand up and take a high and important job, stop blaming society.

    • MrHotPinkBanana
      MrHotPinkBanana 2 месяца назад +3

      Problem is half of girls try and don't get ahead because of sexist people and the other half sees it so they don't even try.

  • Arjun and Arnav Menon
    Arjun and Arnav Menon 3 месяца назад +5

    Whenever I went to school the teachers would always interrupt the boys and not the girls because they thought that all girls were smart and kind and all boys were crazy delinquents.

    • MrHotPinkBanana
      MrHotPinkBanana 2 месяца назад

      Huh it was the opposite in my school

  • lockandloadlikehell
    lockandloadlikehell 3 месяца назад +1

    "And I can have knowledge, which is a difficult thing to do."
    What? She's definitely not too bright. Her mannerisms and voice are also grating.

    • ALBUMOF2008
      ALBUMOF2008 2 дня назад

      This has to be irony omfg

  • Lorraine Smith.
    Lorraine Smith. 3 месяца назад +23

    If men had to wait in line they would go outside and pee..they have the option ...but women have to undress to pee..its not the same as we have our periods , or have to insert a tampon.
    I feel sorry for anyone who thinks its all fare..its not.

    • bademoxy
      bademoxy 13 дней назад

      ls- yes, women are different, thus cannot be "equal".

  • silvestre
    silvestre 3 месяца назад +2

    What a powerful performance! I agree so much with everything she said. I would love to be able to give a speech like that some day!

  • Seven Skies
    Seven Skies 3 месяца назад +1

    The things Soraya Chemaly talks about are nothing compared to the sexism men face. Yet nobody talks about that.

  • bademoxy
    bademoxy 4 месяца назад +1

    if they're so "equal" in ability to men, why don't feminists create THEIR OWN WORLD like how men created their OWN!
    This speaker halfway ADMITS that women are biologically DIFFERENT to men- so why then do they insist on being treated the SAME(equal) as men?

    • Smyod
      Smyod 12 дней назад

      +bademoxy western democracy is more or less halfway there i guess, but there are countries with laws which still require the equality talk, and even though laws say one thing, people often do whatever they want even if it's against it. For example human trafficking. but anyways, i hope i make sense, it's 4 am.

    • bademoxy
      bademoxy 13 дней назад

      +Smyod- so name even one western democracy where women don't have as many legal rights as men!
      in fact American women have TEN more rights that men don't.
      social equality is DIFFERENT, with women getting different choices offered to them than men ,relative to their
      physical differences and average life choices.
      society places different expectations upon men ,with harsher punishments and fewer of them achieving honor
      of spouse and parent . the sexes are not biologically identical ,thus neither are their behaviors.

    • sechale
      sechale 16 дней назад

      haha what

    • Smyod
      Smyod 2 месяца назад +3

      because all men (and women) should be equal in the eyes of the law.
      Whether they are militants (did i say that right?) or civilians

  • Juuso Pylväläinen
    Juuso Pylväläinen 4 месяца назад

    Im a man and I've had meny encounters when I'd like to raice my voice and say I just sayed that. Presentin someone elses idea as their own is definetly what only men seem (women starting to do also... meaby that happens already among women)to do but I don't think it's only against women. I think that actually happens a lot and it's more about being extrovert or introvert than being woman. Saying "I just sayed that" takes some practice and that practice is good to be done by parents (wich sometimes ingludes mother also). Still if you havent had that kind of practice you can always go plaiming your parents (includes mother also...mostly). Credibility comes from seeing both sides. Just some healty criticism. Lots of criminations against women, so do consentrate things that matter the most so we all can have better future. Women, you have a case here, don't ruin it for blaiming everything on men. Assholes are raised by parents. Parenting, parenting, parenting. Yeah your mother didn't know what she was doing when she bougth you baby doll(to practice)or told you to dress in pink chose she was brainwashed by men, but quess what, so was your father. But yeah great speech, really was.

  • Wavemaninawe
    Wavemaninawe 4 месяца назад

    #1: yes. 👍🏾👍🏾
    #2: YES!! * applause *
    #3: what? No... seriously, no.
    An explanation is always needed. That is how we make sense to other people and advance our communication.
    Hardly any claim is automatically true at face value. And trying to validate it with something as subjective as group identity is not only dishonest. It is downright dangerous.

    • ALBUMOF2008
      ALBUMOF2008 2 дня назад

      She’s talking about when u already know something 100% and men talk down to you and assume u are unaware of the situation.

  • Firstname Lastname
    Firstname Lastname 4 месяца назад

    I agree, however yall shoulda just started going into the mens room, i mean lol, if you gotta go then you gotta go.. Pretty sure nobody is really going to complain about it when you have such a huge line as long as you gave the guys priority for the mens room.
    Around 7:00 in. What people fail to realize is compare those current stats to what it was like 20 years ago : / ... You'll see we have come A-LONG way and we are on the right path for equality... You have to mention the good with the bad.. The results.. How things are changing compared to the past.
    We have the most free country on planet earth and instead of complimenting and enjoying this fact people are just keep complaining.
    around 10:00 in - Genders have different brains. For instance, boys tend to solve issues with physical nature where-as women are more prone to talk through the issue. Grey and White matter in our brain..
    Around 11:50 - You picked out documentaries which the males were in a positive documentary and the women were in a negative one. Im sure if it was hillary's documentary she in front of camera and talking or whatever im sure the cover of that documentary would look far more respected. This part of the speech feels completely mental to me no offense. If you're emotionally hurt because of a video cover >_> ... and you get triggered over it.... Then don't look at it ... : / .... This part just makes me feel like the speaker wants a world which its like illegal to make satire / hurt someone's feelings.. Which is completely against our freedom of speech... Revolutions come about from people expressing whatever they want and speaking their minds! The worst thing we can do is try and advocate a society unto which its illegal to express that wonderful freedom we take for granted.

  • Brian JOnker
    Brian JOnker 4 месяца назад +1

    Yeah the whole of society is against the curvy half.

  • katherine Aubrey
    katherine Aubrey 4 месяца назад +1

    it's not because of size of stalls that men are in and out faster when going to a public bathroom its because women go in like sheep in pairs and talk for a half hour before they even sit down on the seat,men are effeciant,women are bossy and gossipy and thats the truth women go in in pairs and stay there chatting about the guy 2 rows back and how much they like him more then there partner etc thats a fact heart pace makers are made for men because men are more likely to have a heart attack then a woman dont half truth all the time and u wont be called on everything u say i liar

  • HappyHealer
    HappyHealer 4 месяца назад +1

    pure poopy

  • Jason Richardson
    Jason Richardson 4 месяца назад +2

    I'm ashamed of my gender. I'm male.

    • sechale
      sechale 16 дней назад +1

      It's all good bro, no need to be ashamed. (And Todd ... seriously man. go out there and do something you can be proud of, not just drag others down)

    • Todd Howard
      Todd Howard Месяц назад +3

      Jason Richardson There’s a name for people such as you. Beta Cuck.

  • Tim Brown
    Tim Brown 4 месяца назад +1

    "It wasn't the lines that was bothering was the idea that I was demanding that society meet the needs of women." Right. Except you weren't, you were demanding society bend over backwards to make special concessions JUST for women based on a majority of women not being able to recognize that you're not special, this isn't your home, get in, get out, stop taking up the bathroom like you own it.

  • Honest RC
    Honest RC 4 месяца назад

    Here is what I see, I see a great TED talk given by a frustrated woman who feels that women have been unjustly unequalized by society and she is right. This inequality has been going on since the beginning of time and that is why society is having such a hard time evening the playing field. some of the things Soraya said were true and some were personal beliefs, regardless talks like this can be an eye-opener for our leaders and something that they should implement in there plan to better our worlds. I just want people to stop being sheeple following the things society says or some celebrity who doesn't know their but from a hole in the ground) and start being individuals. With all this being said I also need for people to look at the people they are electing into the positions of power for their countries. Is the person you want in power a backstabber and a traitor or are they straight and narrow? Is the dirt the other side pulling up on that person something from when they were a kid or was it a recent event? jsut because you like what that person says they WILL do when they get into power doesn't always mean they WILL actually do it, so use your brain and your gut, not your personal vendetta when selecting your leaders and I bet the things you want will come to fruition.

  • Celeste Gamarra Venegas
    Celeste Gamarra Venegas 4 месяца назад +2

    why in the comments looks like this talk is so bad?

  • Ajith Viswanath
    Ajith Viswanath 4 месяца назад

    I don't go along with all her points. But, I think she talks about a lot of intertwined issues. They are ingrained in our culture and people don't realize it.

  • Gallop Free
    Gallop Free 5 месяцев назад +11

    I do get the credibility deficit. That one is true, even from a young age. Part of why I'm loud is because I want to be heard, and unless I shout over boys they won't let me speak. Or when they're completely clueless of course they are nicer because you're useful. These days I don't particularly care because they can crash and burn all they want. As long as my grades are up I don't give a damn about people who don't care enough to hear me speak for ten seconds.

    • lockandloadlikehell
      lockandloadlikehell 15 дней назад

      Just make sure you learn how to cook (and clean).
      You could be invaluable.

  • Sean Freebairn
    Sean Freebairn 5 месяцев назад +2

    I am, or should be, a target audience for this type of message. Let me tell you why many of these messages did not resonate with me. Think of this as market research.
    I have stood in line for a public bathroom, but for me it's usual workplace bathrooms. I have absolutely used single use women's bathrooms (I don't think they should be gendered anyway). I have even jokingly told a boss to hire more women because of the bathroom problem... Yes, waiting in line for a bathroom sucks, but i'm not sympathetic... Also I think more family restrooms would be great. I'm seeing more changing tables in men's rooms, but not enough. Also Also women should NOT be breastfeeding in restrooms if there is a line. We live in the South, but my wife has NEVER had any problems breastfeeding any of our 3 children in public (sorry I'm denied the opportunity for first had experience). You might be shy, but that's a personal problem not societal... Also Also Also, I don't know what those special needs are, I'm not sure what you are asking to be done, so it's hard for me to empathy.
    Heart disease: Am I wrong in thinking men are in disproportionate need for heart transplants? Still I wonder why they don't have hearts small enough. I find it hard to believe the doctors don't care about women, small men, or children. I'm thinking technological restriction, but I don't know. There were a few other things blurted out, but without context or explanation.
    Your family history is messed up. That wasn't right. However, I don't identify with that culture and it's not immediately obvious to me how that applies to middle class america, so I don't know what I can do with that. Also, I don't understand that "knowing" bit.
    Fun fact, I used to be a math teacher. Fun fact even though I can quantitatively show I had the most difficult students at my inner city school (this is what they do to new teachers and has nothing to do with gender) I can also show that I had the highest standardized test scores. However I was still forced out... probably for the better, I liked teaching but didn't like being a surrogate parent, but that a whole other discussion.
    Yes, we can acknowledge that most professional spaces have more men, but so what? Due to the nature of my work, nothing I do will matter in 5 years professional. However, it does allow my wife to stay home and look after the children, which SHE has chosen to do because it will affect generations. Furthermore I believe it is her right to be able to make that decision, but as long as there are women making that decision, there will be more men in the workforce. Furthermore, since men don't have the same kind of employment gap and don't change industries as much as women, they will be over represented in leadership. I'm not saying there isn't a problem, but just saying that there are more men does not show me what the problem is. She also makes several other unsupported claims (at least she does not give her support or how they were determined, but time is short I know).
    I complementary missed how there being more men somehow says men are more trustworthy/competent.
    Stop interrupting: I am interrupted all day long at work, it's not because of your gender. And while I will interrupt my boss from time to time depending on the situation, more senior people definitely interrupt me more than I interrupt them. So what you would have to show that men interrupt their female peers at a higher rate then their male peers. Even then, you are going to come across as abrasive, just as a man would if he said it. On the whole this feels to me like a case of women not knowing that the same thing happens to men.
    I just said that: If you this happens to you then congratulations! You have successful influenced the group in your favor. Especially in management it is the job of every lower manager to get their upper manager to come up with the idea you want them to. And yes, they will take credit, it has nothing to do with gender.
    ... I'm only half way through the video and I'm board... yes I did watch the whole thing, but I think you get the idea.
    On a whole there is a lot of unspecific complaining, but guys like action, what do you want us to do about it? So let's just go to the end where she kind of tacks on some actions:
    1. "Be knowers, not pleases".... What?.... "Boys can be more crude" Not my boys!... Also, is she saying that we should teach our daughters to be rude and crude?
    2. Gender roles in chores... I literally pay my wife to do my share of the chores (we both have an allowance, she negotiated more to my chores), so I guess you've got me there? (she subcontracts to our boys (no girls) and I do think she overpays) But why is the only valid form of female ambition to have a high salary? Honestly as fare as life ambitions go I don't think a high salary is a particular good one for men or women.
    3. More male teacher: Ok, sure. As I mentioned above, I tried. It would be interesting to hear ideas to attract and retain more men into teaching... Honestly, I can't see any way that that could end well.
    I hope I was able to express my intent. I hope you see that I wasn't trying to be sexist in any way. In general I think equality is a good thing, but this type of rhetoric is just preaching to the choir and won't help you reach men good men who might just not see that there is a problem or what they can do to help.

  • blueascetic
    blueascetic 5 месяцев назад +23

    This video and the comments from women below make me sad. Recently I've followed the MGTOW, men's rights' activism and red pill movement, mixed in with Alt-Right, and have seen high rates of sexism fueled by false "facts" these men have about reality in the world. It just makes me sad. I don't know how to handle it, and I'm just beginning to see sexism is a huge issue. MGTOW videos that hate on women, all women, have so many views and likes. I can't see or communicate with these men except through the internet, which isn't a great way to carry a conversation and have a real discussion. But even when I bring up rational arguments or points, I'm shot down and my experiences invalidated. I'm told because I'm a woman, I shouldn't be speaking, or don't know what I'm talking about. If they're talking about women, I do know what I'm talking about!

    • Kaden Monfredi
      Kaden Monfredi День назад

      peachie05 you realize feminists are what you described and worse.

    • Jordie Belle
      Jordie Belle 8 дней назад

      @blueascetic I feel your pain, and as much as I hate to say it, you get a bit numb to it. I'm 30 now and mostly jaded, but I remember being a teenager and realizing things were pretty unfair and honestly feeling like I couldn't handle the anger sometimes lol. The best you can do is fight fear with facts and have faith that humanity will evolve as it has been, albeit slowly. Even if you're shot down by some, there will undoubtedly be a silent few who will actually consider your words.

    • Jordie Belle
      Jordie Belle 8 дней назад +3

      +bademoxy I looked up what you were talking about, and it seems to be a British study. I can't find anything from the IRS, but there is data from Office for National Statistics (ONS), British, that women in their 20s make a whopping 8% more than men in their 20s, but the caveat is that the gender pay gap goes up again after this age range and lifetime earnings are still not equal. There is no such data that I can find from the US. Also I really challenge you to tell me I'm not as capable of something as you based on actual science and not because "that's how women are."

    • peachie05
      peachie05 9 дней назад +4

      I feel your pain, but it's useless to try to genuinely engage with mgtows/mras. They're miserable, irrational woman-haters - nothing more. They don't care about logic, common sense, facts, or women's lived experiences. They believe lies that support and reinforce their own misogyny. Luckily, they'll never have a chance to breed, so they're an endangered species.

    • bademoxy
      bademoxy 13 дней назад +1

      are you going to accept that all feminists have the same ideas and motives? no? then why do you lump MGTOW,MRAs and RED PILLERS together as "haters of women" or even men who'd deny women's human rights?
      are you going to tell us there are misogynists but no misandrists?
      it's too easy to make generalizations about other identity groups, isn't it? and not very nice when it's directed against yourself.
      women have different qualities and abilities than men -they are NOT identical thus are not equal in every role, but better in some while not as capable in others. they are by LAW given the same educational and job opportunities, however they make different choices-including willingness to work later or travel-which result in different outcomes.
      btw-in the U.S.- Women 20 to 31 now earn 8% MORE than men in the same age group-part of this being thanks to men's traditional manufacturing jobs being offshored -i challenge you to call this IRS data "false facts" .

  • TheresADonkeyUnderUrBed
    TheresADonkeyUnderUrBed 5 месяцев назад

    2:40 ur putting words in their mouths

  • Zeek M
    Zeek M 5 месяцев назад +1

    Speaking of credibility , TEDx has none.
    TEDx is funded by corporations.
    That means no credibility.

  • Keep Heart
    Keep Heart 5 месяцев назад

    Excellent! Checkout IG @keepanopenheart

  • TokyoBlue
    TokyoBlue 5 месяцев назад +1

    Excellent speech

  • zak edelman
    zak edelman 5 месяцев назад +1

    Amazing! Thank a lot

  • Brady Whit
    Brady Whit 5 месяцев назад +4

    I disagree, I was raised to love, respect & protect women. &for the record, I don't think anyone wants "women" to talk less.. It's pretty much just you that should do that.

    • Tori Razor
      Tori Razor 7 дней назад +1

      Brady Whit that’s your opinion, and it’s an amazing one. But, one man doesn’t cancel out thousands of bad ones

  • Andreea Virginia
    Andreea Virginia 6 месяцев назад +1

    19:30 mmm you know what is funny? I was about to say that I had more teachers men than women, but then I stoped to think about it, and I found another difference: in Romania, all my teachers were women, excepto the religion one, who was a priest, and when i went to live in Spain (5th grade) all my teachers were still women except the PE. When you are in 7 grade, you change school, you then begin Compulsory secondary education (10 or 11 years old) and all my teachers were women excepto PE, religion (another priest; it was a catholic school) and Spanish. At 15 I began to have more male teachers (ethics, maths, PE and religion) and then, at 16-17 (11th and 12th grade, the optional education) all my teachers were male, except Latin and Finance.
    My sister is studying to be a prep-teacher and 70% of her year are women...

  • C Y D
    C Y D 6 месяцев назад +57

    I have to admit, I never thought of bathrooms to be sexist, just extremely inefficient which is why I am in favor of gender neutral bathrooms. Opens space for more stalls and optimizes use of each stall.

    • John Steiner
      John Steiner 20 дней назад +3

      I hate it when my female partner and I arrive at the restrooms to find a long line at the ladies room and none at the men's room. Why? I can only guess that architects just don't consider women in their plans. And this has been the case forever! And that- is sexism!

    • Magnus Corvus Albus
      Magnus Corvus Albus Месяц назад +6

      Me too. Who has business with what ones genitals look like behind the closed stall? Exactly. NOBODY. So why segregate?

  • Sylwia Aniszewska
    Sylwia Aniszewska 6 месяцев назад +1

    I'm so angry right now...

  • zaxapitsa
    zaxapitsa 6 месяцев назад

    Men should pee in trees like the dogs they are, that should give your bathrooms a few extra square meters. You could potentially kill us all too, that would definitely give you some more room. You might have to actually do some work, though, so take that into consideration.

  • Ein Benzinator
    Ein Benzinator 6 месяцев назад

    Oh, I liked that chart where she showed on how much issues men get more than 50% - AFTER she complained that 50% = equally sized toilets AREN'T GOOD enough for women to meet their special fragile sex's needs ^_^ well then MEN simply NEED 95% of Nobel prizes to meet OUR demands of feeling as smart as we are ☺= can't say fairer than that ^^...

    • funlovincop
      funlovincop 5 месяцев назад +1

      Physical demands are equal to the demands of your ego? Equality is not about each getting 50% of everything, it is about getting the same amount of respect. Women need bathrooms for more things than men so why wouldn't toilets be bigger for women?

  • Ein Benzinator
    Ein Benzinator 6 месяцев назад

    Does she realize that she has an irritating chicken's voice ? And also I couldn't reproduce any of the internet examples she showed as required in a scientific way to be true, so that was probably made up or was just an AI phenomenon especially delivered to annoy her by Google or an April Fool's joke search ... which is probably the answer to the credibility gap as well.

  • Danielle HolewA
    Danielle HolewA 7 месяцев назад +2

    I have a question for you feminists out there: Is there ANY scenario, as far as men and women go where you say to yourself "You know, its good to be a woman."?

    • MrHotPinkBanana
      MrHotPinkBanana 2 дня назад

      +ALBUMOF2008 I meant they have more freedom in styles.

    • ALBUMOF2008
      ALBUMOF2008 2 дня назад

      MrHotPinkBanana men dominate the fashion industry

    • sechale
      sechale 16 дней назад

      Sure. I love being a woman. Love it ... and that statement is not comparative to the masculine. Though I do love the masculine too. Feminine is life force :)

    • MrHotPinkBanana
      MrHotPinkBanana 2 месяца назад

      Fashion. That's all. (I am not a woman tho, but I feel the sexism towards men everytime I wear a dress or "feminine" clothing. Women can wear wtf they please without having to fear for their life. Even tho that was only possible thanks to centuries of women protesting. I finally found a thing MRAs can do wear dresses and protest for the right to express themself without having to suffer from sexism.)

  • E H
    E H 7 месяцев назад +15

    Interesting and great talk

  • moe dog
    moe dog 7 месяцев назад

    she about 50/50

  • buffcouch
    buffcouch 8 месяцев назад +1

    I often hear that the difference in temperament between boys and girls needs to equal out. Are boys supposed to get less assertive, or are girls supposed to get more assertive?

    • MrHotPinkBanana
      MrHotPinkBanana 2 месяца назад

      Should even out.

    • Dewaldt
      Dewaldt 2 месяца назад

      In all honesty neither should be done.

  • The Druid Diaries
    The Druid Diaries 9 месяцев назад +19

    Well said! It's amazing that there is still a unaware. Very sad. Thank you for this amazing and much needed talk. Awareness...

  • bob hite
    bob hite 10 месяцев назад

    go away in a convent -snowflake..

  • Emily Bastian
    Emily Bastian 10 месяцев назад +40

    THANK YOU. Someone needed to say this.

  • PH RR
    PH RR 11 месяцев назад

    Women want to be treated exactly like men except we want to have this this this and that. Lol

  • Andrew Adricatico
    Andrew Adricatico Год назад

    How much more power do women need over this world? None, they have too much already they need to be put down soon

    • ALBUMOF2008
      ALBUMOF2008 2 дня назад

      Genuinely hope smth really fuckin bad happens to u

  • Hugo Maritz
    Hugo Maritz Год назад

    Wow. Ok. Medicine? Education? You know what nvm... feminism when it began was very important. There were real injustices to be addressed. Now I know this will be dismissed, but third wave feminism has become counterproductive to the very goals they espouse. When men no longer want to interact with you at all you might try and map it back to where you went wrong.

  • Mr Z
    Mr Z Год назад

    Feminism is designed to destroy the family...

  • Andrew Oram
    Andrew Oram Год назад +1

    The problem people have is when narratives are used instead of facts. Please demonstrate that the builders of the museum purposely designed it to favor men, with facts and not more narratives.

    • Mary Hunter
      Mary Hunter 8 месяцев назад +5

      She never said it was on purpose btw. It is more likely the bathrooms for both genders were designed by men and they just never realised women might have different wishes or needs for their bathrooms.

    • Mary Hunter
      Mary Hunter 8 месяцев назад +3

      I do not need a study to know that the male perspective is often used as leading. Just look at the newspaper, there is news, financial, sports, and then there's the 'women's section' xD

  • william shakesqueer
    william shakesqueer Год назад

    I think it would save everyone a lot of time if we all could just stop with the cubicle arguments. Please.

  • James W. Smith
    James W. Smith Год назад

    Liberal word vomit.

  • Rob R.
    Rob R. Год назад

    A lot of misleading information here. Not good. The premises are not good. The statistics are misleading.

  • Indifferent Centrist
    Indifferent Centrist Год назад +3

    All the negativity she received has less to do with the violent nature of men and more to do with the fact that WE KNOW IT'S WRONG AND WE'RE TIRED OF BEING LECTURED ON IT.

  • Harvey Martinez
    Harvey Martinez Год назад

    Why hate all men? surely she's pissed off at the decision maker circe, why doesn't she just call them for what they are, criminals. we're not all criminals.

    • Mary Hunter
      Mary Hunter 8 месяцев назад +1

      Eh, did she say she hates men?

  • lu na
    lu na Год назад +1

    women can go into a mens toilet no problem
    men cant do the same
    because women are treated better than men(west only). i don't mind
    most of them know that and appreciate it. Some become feminists ( small obnoxious minority )

    addon: i think we should give women further privelegdes like bigger bathrooms with more seats

  • Andor Drakon
    Andor Drakon Год назад +1

    "Girls and women up to 14x more likely to die in crises". Well, it must be sexist patriarchy, not the fact that they're weaker and less aggressive. How many women die in military combat compared to men again?
    Everything else is building a narration. Women choose differently, that's why they're as often CEOs or scientists, they usually don't also choose more demanding jobs. This is again, because they are structured differently and there's nothing bad in it. Women trying to "equalize" the outcomes will only cause socioeconomic disaster.

    • Arjun and Arnav Menon
      Arjun and Arnav Menon 3 месяца назад

      +Mary Hunter Oh ok. Sorry bout that.

    • Mary Hunter
      Mary Hunter 3 месяца назад +1

      +Arjun and Arnav Menon We were talking about why women are more likely to die in crises, not abuse shelters.

    • Arjun and Arnav Menon
      Arjun and Arnav Menon 3 месяца назад

      +Mary Hunter What about domestic abuse shelters that reject men?

    • Mary Hunter
      Mary Hunter 8 месяцев назад +3

      @Andor Drakon - she means the way we put help programs for victims of crises is focussed on men's needs and women's needs are often forgotten in the process.

  • Tora Chan
    Tora Chan Год назад

    When it comes to accusing someone of rape, women have more credibility than men.
    A simply accusation from a woman is enough to destroy you as a man. It doesn't work the same vice versa.
    Clear evidence of sexism in this situation.

  • Rituparna Roy
    Rituparna Roy Год назад

    this should have no of likes= no of views but alas!

  • just me
    just me Год назад +17

    I have this brilliant idea, what if we all report the comments that are offensive?
    like, it would be great to shut down all the haters

    • Jason Martin
      Jason Martin 20 дней назад

      Then just do it.

    • Cosmic Jr.
      Cosmic Jr. Месяц назад +1

      Fascism? How open minded

    • bademoxy
      bademoxy 4 месяца назад +3

      j-yep-shut down free speech! what the marxist/feminst left is consistent on

  • 森
     Год назад +16

    I am far for being a feminist ... and I agree 100% with all you said here. This are real issues that need to be talked about!

  • justice1truth2
    justice1truth2 Год назад +1

    she used some solid facts and added them to some lies to prove that women should take more than men and empowering women over men not for equality or justice as she claimed.
    she also ignored other facts to win the argument. Good people don't do that