7 Ways to Make a Conversation With Anyone | Malavika Varadan | TEDxBITSPilaniDubai

  • Published on Jan 11, 2016
  • “We mustn’t speak to strangers.” Malavika Varadan, challenges this societal norm, by presenting 7 ways to make conversation with anyone.
    RJ extraordinaire, Malavika Varadan, creates waves quite literally with her morning show, Breakfast No.1 on City 101.6. An avid fitness enthusiast, positivity ninja and drama queen, she has chiseled a benchmark in the radio industry. At TEDxBITSPilaniDubai she will choose to redefine connections.
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

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  • Siva Shankar
    Siva Shankar 4 hours ago

    Osm this love one

  • Imran
    Imran 4 hours ago

    Thank you so much,

  • Pardeep Waraich
    Pardeep Waraich 4 hours ago


  • Jocelyn Christine
    Jocelyn Christine 14 hours ago +1

    I love the timber of your voice! And in case you want to know where this quote is “but they will never forget how you made them feel” it is from Dr. Maya Angelou 💖💖

  • Harsh Vardhan
    Harsh Vardhan 19 hours ago

    Ladki set krne ki trics bta rhi h bc 🤣🤣🤣

  • Anshu Srivastava

    Best video ever. Thank you Ma'am

  • Motaz Helbawi
    Motaz Helbawi Day ago

    Real horrible


    Say hello hi say something...
    Bunty :- apna kaaam karna madarchod


    Ye bachpan se hi Bak Bak karti thi to isko hi isne apna passion bna liya...

  • Klaas Bil
    Klaas Bil Day ago

    7:33 Find the "me-toos"! LOL, this clearly was before "me too" got a special meaning.

  • Iraz Sharma
    Iraz Sharma Day ago

    It cud have been a 30 sec video 😑

  • Yashwant Bangani
    Yashwant Bangani 2 days ago


  • Stallion Capital
    Stallion Capital 2 days ago

    i have tried her advice to ask personal question to a contact .well it was a total fail . i thought she knows what she is talking about but it s a rubish . don t try to ask privat questions lol . i guess she is talking from her indian culture background from my experience indians ask a lot of privat questions from first talk but the world is not india . cultures are differents .

  • Bedabrat Deka
    Bedabrat Deka 4 days ago

    Really appreciate your lessons to start a conversation. I faced all the seven situations that you showed in that presentation and now I am becoming more confident in talking to strangers. Earlier I used to hesitate to start a conversation with a stranger and slowly slowly I am becoming capable in doing so.

  • Project FreeJam
    Project FreeJam 5 days ago +1

    Alone 😢

  • Rocketassistedgoat
    Rocketassistedgoat 5 days ago +2

    I like money.

    You like money too?

    Wow. We have so much in common. We can be friends.

  • G Hghgh
    G Hghgh 6 days ago +7

    When conversation is between male and female this goes to another level. Flirt!!

  • Dipjyoti Baglari
    Dipjyoti Baglari 6 days ago

    Me too have exactly same power-point-slider...

  • Despite fabian
    Despite fabian 6 days ago +1

    I think its depend on person to person u look hot and attractive so this point work better with you because you created it on bases of yourself nd I love your flood gate

  • Farman Ali Abbasi
    Farman Ali Abbasi 7 days ago

    13:37 that could be disastrous 🤣

    Malavika you are just love, that way You talk💖💖

  • lilian lee
    lilian lee 7 days ago

    I found out that first,she is very cute,and ...that's all.

  • Ram Warrier
    Ram Warrier 8 days ago

    The worst talk I've ever listened.Never expected from TEDx.

  • Michelle Mickelson
    Michelle Mickelson 8 days ago

    people love talking about themselves.

  • Siva kumar
    Siva kumar 8 days ago

    These won't work... Believe me.

  • A B
    A B 9 days ago

    Very beauty girl

  • jose maria
    jose maria 10 days ago +1

    Thanks for this advicement.
    It is the powerful way to build up my feeling to another feeling of anybody else.

  • Ruchi kumari
    Ruchi kumari 10 days ago +2

    She talk for living, well it's the best job

  • Net Ediction
    Net Ediction 10 days ago

    Nice tip to make her fall in love with you.

  • LoveSriLanka🇱🇰
    LoveSriLanka🇱🇰 11 days ago

    I was just looking at how beautiful she is, and ended up listening to nothing 😂

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  • Batte BAAz
    Batte BAAz 12 days ago +1

    I can see her nail paint..very focused ,0range.clr🤣

    • Batte BAAz
      Batte BAAz 10 days ago +1

      FDR s thnx for ur words bro

    • FDR s
      FDR s 10 days ago

      @Batte BAAz well it's not just her looks (personality) makes woman 2x pretty & most of them lack that...but yea your right

    • Batte BAAz
      Batte BAAz 10 days ago

      FDR s every girl is beautiful..it's upon u..how you see.. isn't?

    • FDR s
      FDR s 11 days ago

      she's beautiful

  • Ashwath Madival
    Ashwath Madival 12 days ago +1

    You are a good reader of human

  • GHK47
    GHK47 12 days ago +1

    If you are a socially anxious introvert reading this comment right now, don't give up! Social skills are learnt and practiced, NOT something that's born with you or genetic. Keep working at it, and we can all be experts at communication. It's an important skill to have.

  • Vijay Warriyar
    Vijay Warriyar 12 days ago +1

    What in god's holy name she is blathering about ?????

  • abd allh
    abd allh 13 days ago

    every body inside to see she's bossy give me like

    ABHISHEK KUMAR 14 days ago

    she is hot.

  • Madleen Maroo
    Madleen Maroo 14 days ago +1

    WOW, great ways, I really liked this video!

  • Hakan Yesil
    Hakan Yesil 17 days ago


  • Elena M
    Elena M 19 days ago

    Bla bla bla... nothing useful

  • Van Shuo
    Van Shuo 21 day ago

    Everyone want play game which bring surprise bring fear bring the good or bad feels whitout any signs.
    Thatis named "life".
    We can sit in front of compurter for whole day to play 2 or 3D some artifical game. But dare to improve us in real "life" lets get up at 5am, make a breakfast for your family etc. Focus on addicted in.
    And some items i want to mention:
    1.keep youself alive
    2.keep youself be a good person as you can.
    To be a awesome player

  • Andu Alemu
    Andu Alemu 21 day ago +1

    Great motivational speech." Open a page and start reading a story'' trust me I will start and practice it today.

  • Tomy Lim
    Tomy Lim 22 days ago +17

    I watched this and found it's very useful

    After 1year, I am back here again

  • Kevin Jadia
    Kevin Jadia 23 days ago

    one of the BEST TED talks video❤❤❤❤

  • Golden Wings
    Golden Wings 23 days ago

    What happens when two introverts make eye contact 😐

  • Christy Xavier
    Christy Xavier 25 days ago

    She sounds like Margrot Robbie😉

  • cowboysamuraiカウボーイ侍

    What a cutie and what a cute smile

  • Angelina Jack
    Angelina Jack 26 days ago +18

    -Step out your comfort zone by giving compliments to passer byes
    -Go to events by yourself so you have no option but to talk to someone
    -When you talk to someone try to use your actual voice, don’t make it softer and more professional. This will make you more comfortable
    -Please try eye contact, it won’t hurt you, it will only make your better with conversations.
    (If you have something to add please comment it)

    • Manak Bansal
      Manak Bansal 5 days ago

      Hey, being an introvert is not something I hate. It's not like I hate being not being able to talk to someone. I absolutely love that.
      I don't know why people think that introverts are mentally ill or depressed or something like that.

    • Morgan Patton
      Morgan Patton 12 days ago

      Something tells me you're not an introvert. A lot of extroverts think they have the answer to cure introverts but it's exhausting for me to talk to people and I often have crippling social anxiety. I don't want to give random compliments to strangers because then they'll probably talk to me and I just want to be left alone. If I go to an event by myself, I will be so uncomfortable that I'll end up leaving. Making eye contact with someone when I'm trying to also talk to them is so extremely distracting and uncomfortable that I cannot think and, therefore, cannot talk. I admit that I can't possibly understand what it's like to be an extrovert. It would be nice if extroverts (people that love taking to strangers and get energy from talking) could admit and realize that there's no way they could possibly understand what it's like to be an introvert.

    • Meowzzar
      Meowzzar 19 days ago

      am autistic, i will never make eye contact. it's uncomfortable and i cant focus on the conversation since i'd be hella focused on trying to maintain eye contact :c

  • Info Veda
    Info Veda 28 days ago +1

    Do you have only one eye

  • PiK
    PiK 28 days ago +88

    Me: Hi!
    Stranger: Hello?
    Me: What was your childhood like?
    Stranger: What? Why do you care?
    Me: An Indian online told me to ask a stranger a personal question.
    Stranger: Oh... well I don’t feel comfortable saying that to a total stranger. Goodbye.

  • Nirmal Bhagat
    Nirmal Bhagat 28 days ago

    2:36 With one eye?

  • alroy gonsalves
    alroy gonsalves 28 days ago

    Nice message ma'am but what shall we do in circumstances where we feel shy to talk to that person who is in higher authority it ...
    Sometimes it makes us shy and affraid too

  • Biji Benny
    Biji Benny Month ago

    Thanku so much madam..... love ... RJ.....😘

  • Valentine Atieno
    Valentine Atieno Month ago

    I have a normal appearance but ,i feel like i make people uncomfortable to maintain eye contact with me which makes me also unconfortable to make eye contact

  • Lane Sabri
    Lane Sabri Month ago +2

    Sorry .. I'm not Rihanna ..
    I don't love the way u lie :|

  • Nana tesia
    Nana tesia Month ago

    yeah i had an eye contact for 2 years and end up without even saying "HI"😂😂 funny huh??

  • Mayank Gupta
    Mayank Gupta Month ago +1

    Chutiya aurat hai ye ek number ki...
    Jaane los gaandu tharki me chhodne ke lie hire Kiya tha is Randi Ko
    Time waste karwa diya bhadwi ne is video se

  • Shaswat Kumar
    Shaswat Kumar Month ago +2

    Wow! She speaks so nice. Perhaps the best radio jockey I have ever listened or seen. Loved the way she talks and I can hear her all night. Cheers!

    ANKITA SHARMA Month ago

    your talks are great.

  • ayra neha
    ayra neha Month ago

    really i loved this

  • himanshu rajput
    himanshu rajput Month ago

    I feel very nurves after starting conservation with anyone , what are the solution of this problem😥

  • Lovely kim
    Lovely kim Month ago

    Good voice.

  • Herr Denker
    Herr Denker Month ago +1

    She is so sweet 😍 I could listen for hours!

  • Ramesh Dhami
    Ramesh Dhami Month ago

    Ok that amazing

  • Wong Zhu Toby
    Wong Zhu Toby Month ago +1

    Hi from hongkong malavika is so pretty and she has a nice figure. I can never deny Indian women make the best supermodels in the world

  • Kuldeep Chaudhary
    Kuldeep Chaudhary Month ago

    great lecture

  • Sunil TG
    Sunil TG Month ago

    Say the first word and everything else just flows? No way, not always. It really depends on the person. May be it works for you.

  • Fenestrane Ladderane

    I prefer silence.

  • Malik Ahmad
    Malik Ahmad Month ago +1

    It really works..💕💞

  • Jay Horvath
    Jay Horvath Month ago +1

    This chick is hot.

  • Mayank Mishra
    Mayank Mishra Month ago

    Yrr ye video to ladki ne bhi dekha hoga likin koi friend request nhi bhej thi..😆😆😆😆

  • Ronnie B
    Ronnie B Month ago


  • B L
    B L Month ago +1

    She’s so pretty!

  • Joseph MacPherson
    Joseph MacPherson Month ago

    Is it just me, or is it always that an attractive young girl has such an easy time getting people to talk to her?....LOL....and this whole talk assumes everyone wants strangers to talk to them, which we don't....some of us are not going to give you our life story, no matter how cute and pert you are.....

  • Joseph MacPherson
    Joseph MacPherson Month ago +4

    I like when people don't talk to me....i like my privacy, i don't want people to learn how to talk to me....

  • Niranjan Kumar
    Niranjan Kumar Month ago +1

    Nice girl