Getting comfortable with the uncomfortable | Harlan Cohen | TEDxUrsulineCollege

  • Опубликовано: 17 ноя 2014
  • This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. In his witty and powerful talk, Harlan Cohen shares his own experience of dealing with difficult moments in college and discusses why we must all get comfortable with the uncomfortable in life.
    Harlan Cohen is a New York Times bestselling author, nationally syndicated advice columnist, and speaker who has visited over 400 college campuses. He is the author of six books including, The Naked Roommate: And 107 Other Issues You Might Run Into In College. The Naked Roommate: For Parents Only, Dad’s Expecting Too!, and Getting Naked: Five Steps to Finding the Love of Your Life While Fully Clothed and Totally Sober. Harlan is a frequent guest on television and radio programs and has appeared on the Today Show. You can follow him on Twitter @HarlanCohen and read his advice at He is based in Chicago, Illinois.In his witty and powerful talk, Harlan Cohen shares his own experience of dealing with difficult moments in college and discusses why we must all get comfortable with the uncomfortable in life.
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Комментарии • 45

  • Gechen 7
    Gechen 7 10 дней назад

    He is to exclusively judging of others. Those who xxx are always yyy. There is no 'always' in human condition. Realities are however full of individual cases. Don't be so certain of your own progress that you cut of the head of others before they have had a second chanse!

  • Noor noor
    Noor noor Месяц назад

    WoW powerful 👍

  • tatestudios510
    tatestudios510 Год назад


  • sirbenzo9
    sirbenzo9 Год назад +1

    Well, mary jane is a good one. Best friend ever!!! lol. Actually, it's not bad--but I noticed it haltered my social skills and angst. I quit a month ago to grow in social aspects.

  • Pansa Rakesh
    Pansa Rakesh Год назад

    It was Great

  • itsybitsy999
    itsybitsy999 Год назад +10

    No, not everyone has people who will always be there for them and no, not everyone has a place they can be comfortable and safe in. This talk is far too simple.

    • Esme of the Sea
      Esme of the Sea 3 дня назад

      +Anton Czerny hard to find those people who care

    • Anton Czerny
      Anton Czerny Год назад +2

      If you don't have them, go out there and find them. You can move and do something about it. You're not a tree!

  • Odis Redding
    Odis Redding Год назад +1

    too much sjw going on in 15 minutes

    • century197
      century197 10 месяцев назад +1

      Odis Redding L

  • contrafax
    contrafax Год назад

    I thought the two types are people are: Those who try to pigeon hole people and those that do not.

  • Melissa Marie
    Melissa Marie Год назад

    Thank you .

  • Ash Coronado
    Ash Coronado Год назад +8

    I really needed to listen to this so badly!!!

    • Will Varley
      Will Varley 10 месяцев назад

      Ashley Coronado ask to borrow his ears then

  • Leiz Dutra
    Leiz Dutra Год назад +2

    Great talk

  • Ryan T.A
    Ryan T.A Год назад +2

    0:00 X..videos

  • Lou o
    Lou o Год назад +2

    brave talk!

  • TheBreemad
    TheBreemad Год назад +5

    He's an amazing speaker. Clear and concise.

  • Dan Surman
    Dan Surman 2 года назад +3

    Face the uncomfortable. Yes that is key.

  • Joanna J
    Joanna J 2 года назад +29

    If you're doing mental math of everything that goes wrong, your life will always be negative

  • Ella Angel
    Ella Angel 2 года назад +4

    why do you tell people you recognize them when in fact you do not?

    • Nikt Szczególny
      Nikt Szczególny 6 месяцев назад

      so, he run for them from the uncomfortable

    • fernandez
      fernandez Год назад

      it's called being nice

    • BeyondAstral
      BeyondAstral Год назад

      It makes people feel good. He wants others to feel important. He meant so much to them so he doesn't want to make them feel bad.

    • Adi Bhutani
      Adi Bhutani 2 года назад +1

      Hahaha That's what you get from this video. 😃

  • Ikem Krueger
    Ikem Krueger 2 года назад +3

    I have trouble getting the concept.

    • HarlanCohen
      HarlanCohen 2 года назад +4

      Which part is hard to understand? Would be happy to clear it up. Thanks

  • Gabriel Masseur
    Gabriel Masseur 2 года назад +11

    Very nice ears

    • Kostantinos Kanelopoulos
      Kostantinos Kanelopoulos 5 месяцев назад

      My long lost brother, he's a good listener. :-P

    • atom
      atom Год назад +8

      shhh... he can hear you

  • guloguloguy
    guloguloguy 2 года назад +7


  • Reddit Reddit
    Reddit Reddit 3 года назад +2

    What do you mean by places?

    • Miss. Love
      Miss. Love Год назад

      +HarlanCohen thank you.

    • Miss. Love
      Miss. Love Год назад

      +HarlanCohen you are awesome.

    • Nick Barbov
      Nick Barbov Год назад

      Davis Nottingham Very good extensive explanation of places by Harlan.

    • HarlanCohen
      HarlanCohen 3 года назад +10

      +Davis Nottingham Places are locations (virtual included) where you can find connection, community, answers and support. Think about places where you can live, learn, lead, love, sweat, play, and pray. There are places with open access (all inclusive, spiritual and community based), places you have to be invited to get access (exclusive clubs, organizations, activities), and places where you pay (can be open access or exclusive). There are always places where we can find connection, community, and answers, but we need to put ourselves in these places. Another way to find places is to identify people who reflect your core values, interests and passions. Identify the places they have found their connection and community and let this lead you. Hope this helps.

  • HarlanCohen
    HarlanCohen 4 года назад +24

    Who are your FIVE people? Where are your THREE places? How patient are you?

    • Caro H
      Caro H Год назад

      Thank you👍

    • Safa Baderr
      Safa Baderr 2 года назад


    • Safa Baderr
      Safa Baderr 2 года назад

      HarlanCohen i'm lebanese and i'm comfortable, lonely, and broken..i have some acne that low my self-esteem..

    • Anayran Pinheiro de Azevedo
      Anayran Pinheiro de Azevedo 3 года назад +3

      +HarlanCohen Thank you for these words. I'm passing through some rough situations in my life, and remember that we need to have people, places and be patient to face these difficulties and get better. I hope this will end, soon or not.