How To End A Conversation Without Seeming Rude

  • Published on Nov 19, 2018
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    Picture this.
    You're having a conversation, maybe with a friend, maybe with someone you just met.
    It might be the case that you actually like the person you're talking to but the conversation is numbingly boring.
    You might have something to do or you're just no longer interested in talking anymore.
    You know it's time to exit.
    But you don't want to be harsh or rude nor do you want to lie and come up with a fake excuse.
    What are you supposed to do?
    How can you leave the conversation without feeling like a bully or a liar?
    Let's talk about it!

    0:38 - Part 1: Interrupt And Interject
    0:58 - Part 2: Say What You're Going To Do
    1:10 - Part 3: Say A Kind And Truthful Comment
    1:31 - Scenario 1: Someone That You Like
    2:22 - Scenario 2 - You Want To Move Along
    3:17 - Scenario 3 - You're Not Enjoying It
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Comments • 712

  • Sylveon Ribbon Gacha
    Sylveon Ribbon Gacha 22 days ago

    I’m watching this so I can figure out how to stop my dad from talking to me forever ;-;
    I’m gonna try it next time he does it

  • Sumaira T.
    Sumaira T. Month ago

    4:00 is incredibly rude😂😂😂 nah I'd never

  • Kristin Woods
    Kristin Woods Month ago

    Your videos are invaluable.

  • Chenelle Travis
    Chenelle Travis Month ago +1

    I ride the bus and a common theme is some talkative manipulating guy sexually harasses me. What should I do?

  • Xtro l
    Xtro l Month ago

    *I stop talking*
    Well I have to go
    Your breath smells good btw

  • Zack Young
    Zack Young Month ago

    Women aren't concerned about the 99% of interactions discussed. They're concerned about the 1% outliers who could become aggressive or violent and threaten their safety at being declined. It's why women lie and travel in groups. For their literal safety. Telling them to stand up for themselves isn't inherently wrong, but still vastly unhelpful and does nothing to acknowledge that they face predators because of what's between their legs. It's not some wonderful moment, it's a terrifying moment of considerable and reasonable concern.

  • Endrank luvs da 4 loko

    "I'm pooping."

  • Living In Christ
    Living In Christ Month ago

    I find it easy to just be genuine..that alone works out all things. You don't need to be tricky or clever or have a secret formula..just be real.

  • Kelvin Nguyen
    Kelvin Nguyen 2 months ago

    Ty Charlie

  • Biswajyoti Das
    Biswajyoti Das 3 months ago

    Thanks I am literally having a conversation closing problem here sorry lmao I am autistic

  • Tranquilbutterfly28
    Tranquilbutterfly28 3 months ago

    Look at us all trying to be nice people. We have to admit there are some people who demand our attention that aren't kind themselves. Just that stranger that wants to whoever needs to see this. "DON'T LET ANYONE ROB YOUR PEACE. Stay strong" :)

  • Rhania506
    Rhania506 3 months ago

    I think this is great advice. However I am interested in your take on how this would work or need to change in a situation where you can't walk away. For example: I work customer service and some people don't know when to leave my window. Or they are men being creepy and trying to hit on me or my coworkers. How do I politely hint that they need to leave without losing my job?

  • chatterbox11
    chatterbox11 3 months ago

    “It was good to talk with you. Have a good day [night].” It is that simple. It is a polite and friendly way to end a conversation. If you are talking with a friend, etc, you can add an additional warm goodbye, but that is about it. I am not sure why people find this to be such a difficult issue.

  • Michael B Whiteside
    Michael B Whiteside 3 months ago

    My go to will forever be the Irish exit

  • Sagi 11
    Sagi 11 3 months ago

    I'm so good at this naturally. To the point I do this with people I actually want to hang out with longer. 😬

  • シCryzmic
    シCryzmic 3 months ago

    How do I end a conversation with my math teacher, I want to just study in peace :/

  • シCryzmic
    シCryzmic 3 months ago

    How do I end a conversation with my math teacher, I want to just study in peace :/

  • Jacky Lawrence
    Jacky Lawrence 4 months ago +1

    Yeah... in the cases where it's a complete stranger I have no problem just being rude. I'll just walk away from someone without a word. If I'm unlikely to ever encounter someone again then I can't be bothered to be gracious or diplomatic. I just don't care.

  • Kelsey Skowron
    Kelsey Skowron 4 months ago

    As an introvert, this channel is a godsend.

  • aelskliiing
    aelskliiing 4 months ago +1

    I once talked to someone at an event that kept on talking forever and I wanted to end the talk, so when I saw a colleague of mine passing by, I kindly invited her into the conversation with asking about her opinion on our topic. After expressing her opinion, the other one continued her 'monologue' - now focusing on my colleague - so I grabbed my chance and sneaked out of the talk. I'll never forget the pissed off face of my colleague. :D

  • e3ko
    e3ko 4 months ago +2

    "Bye felisha"

  • Ebby C
    Ebby C 4 months ago

    I actually find it annoying when people are overly nice with their getaway shot. Like "hey I gotta go but I hope you have a nice time". I will have a nice time, just go! Lol. Or when they say it was great to see you, no it wasn't great to see me, we barely know each other. Better to say something like, I'll see you later! It implies that you wouldn't mind continuing the conversation, but later. Whether or not it actually happens doesn't matter. You've at least left the person feeling like the investment in the conversation isn't wasted.

  • kstreet
    kstreet 5 months ago

    "I have to return some videotapes."

  • Sherrice Lewis
    Sherrice Lewis 5 months ago

    Yay its a video made for me! 😂
    One problem I have similar to this is when I'm in a situation like work, on the bus, etc. And the person doesn't necessarily engage me in a full conversation, but they make a comment/ask a question etc. I respond. And I think it's the end of that. 10 mins later. They say something again. I respond. Silence. 5 mins later, they say something again. And it goes back and forth like that. Sometimes i dont respond if they say something thats kind of rhetorical, but that doesnt stop them from speaking again later. Do these techniques still apply? Most of the time that this happens I even have earphones in and people still make an effort to interrupt me. I take out my earphones or pause whatever I'm listening to to be courteous but even when I try and play dumb like I'm not hearing them they will repeat or try to get my attention. On the other hand i have a coworker who has a habit of explaining shit and once he's started he doesn't stop even if you're interrupting him or telling him to stop. I just think some people are persistently chatty lol.

  • smartamusic
    smartamusic 5 months ago +1

    Just start crying and run off.
    Works for me.

  • Corey Mills
    Corey Mills 6 months ago

    Thanks CoC. Great content and you've provided helpful insight on how to effectively navigate these situations.

  • zounoa a
    zounoa a 6 months ago

    Hey okay well unfortunately, umm... i was definitely going somewhere with this....

  • Selena Hernandez
    Selena Hernandez 7 months ago

    Gosh he's so hot

  • Chad Schmaltz
    Chad Schmaltz 7 months ago +1

    As someone who lives in an RPG, random encounters are the worst. Thanks for these helpful tips, hopefully I can accomplish my quest in less than 100 hours this time.

    But seriously, thank you CoC. This is something I struggle with so I really appreciate you creating a strategy for dealing with situations like this.

  • ncjuppiter
    ncjuppiter 7 months ago

    This is a great channel.

  • Brain Pains!
    Brain Pains! 7 months ago

    That moment when you dispatch from a long conversation and try to get away but then they have to coincidentally walk the same way to get where they're going. Absolutely annoying.

  • Alifa Alvita
    Alifa Alvita 7 months ago


  • TexanGamer
    TexanGamer 8 months ago

    What If you know the person and he/she Is emotional and they are talking to you about something they are really Interested In but you are very bored of the subject and aren't Interested at all?

  • Brandon Arizmendi
    Brandon Arizmendi 8 months ago

    *girlfriend telling me about her day*
    Hey babe listen, I gotta go hook up with other girls but it was nice listening to you! Let’s do this another day yeah? See ya!! 👋

    • Brain Pains!
      Brain Pains! 7 months ago

      *How to end a relationship within one sentence* Or two rather... Oh well!

  • Adriana Perezz
    Adriana Perezz 8 months ago


  • me me
    me me 8 months ago

    But actual Butt appear

  • 21HeartSong
    21HeartSong 8 months ago

    I love how you keep knocking out great content Charlie. Thanks, I needed this one.

  • Endrank luvs da 4 loko
    Endrank luvs da 4 loko 8 months ago

    "Well, I'd love to stay and chat but I've got really bad diarrhea and I'm about to blow so I guess I should go."
    They'll never call your bluff on this one.

  • DalaiLamaNYF
    DalaiLamaNYF 8 months ago

    The thing you said at the end is something I value a lot. Doing nothing when the other person is being toxic to you, don't hate them, just sit through whatever they spouting at you does build self-esteem. Tremendously.
    When I was dealing with some hateful racism, I would normally just exit the room, but later I decided Not to run away and just stand there and take it. Normally they will leave on their own, but at the end of everything, I felt this overwhelming confidence and respect for myself. It was a very empowering feeling.

  • Evan Dugas
    Evan Dugas 8 months ago +1

    There are two times when I need to end a conversation. when I hate it, and when I like it way to much and it has been a hour and I need to do things with my life XD

  • Jon Yeung
    Jon Yeung 8 months ago

    One piece of advice to end a conversation that's been going on too long is to find a way to interrupt yourself. "Bla bla bla, I could go on but I just remembered I need to go..." Supposed to make it seem that any rudeness in ending the convo is towards yourself instead of the other person. Any truth to this?

  • Buddy Leroy Boerkoel
    Buddy Leroy Boerkoel 8 months ago

    I'll remember this. Thanks!

  • Gary Williams UK
    Gary Williams UK 8 months ago

    Bro well done for being such a lovely human being

  • Terje Skuggen
    Terje Skuggen 8 months ago

    This video should be called: "How to end a conversation in... 8 minutes" PS! Good video and my bad joke!

  • LonnieB
    LonnieB 8 months ago

    I just do steps 1 and 2. And maybe add a smile. I only do 3 if I absolutely feel up for it. Most of the time 3 comes off as fake.

  • Calvin Spencer
    Calvin Spencer 9 months ago

    My girlfriend is Socially Awkward and so i'm I... it works out i guess

    • Brain Pains!
      Brain Pains! 7 months ago

      I know the feeling, ha. Typically looks and feels weird but me and my gf usually just laugh about it when things like that happen.

  • Orson Rodgers
    Orson Rodgers 9 months ago

    an introverts antidote

  • Free Thinker
    Free Thinker 9 months ago

    Truth ??? More like Avoidance and sending mixed signals. The truth maybe that responding with Avoidance tactics and being "kind" is due to a fear response and lack of how to deal with reactions you don't like/you can't handle. So, if you're on the receiving end of someone sending mixed signals, know that they have immature communication skills/lack of confidence.

  • GO _
    GO _ 9 months ago

    Did anyone notice a "but" at the corner of 0:08? xD

  • Grimm Liberty
    Grimm Liberty 9 months ago

    When someone brings you a gift that you don't want, it ends belonging to them. When they bring attitude you don't accept, especially when you've been kind, they are stuck with it.

  • shook vkook
    shook vkook 9 months ago +2

    **PRO TIP!!!**
    *_"I wanna touch myself so I'm gonna go..."_*

  • pooper pants
    pooper pants 9 months ago +1

    Yo whys his mouth so big

  • O Tohora
    O Tohora 9 months ago

    Advice for people who never leave their house.

  • Minnesota Guy
    Minnesota Guy 9 months ago +1

    I just say, minnesota guy has left the chat.

  • demigodstatus
    demigodstatus 9 months ago

    I've been doing this subconsciously for some time but I've always switched steps two and three and they work well like a sandwich especially in customer service.

  • Voodoo Magic 101
    Voodoo Magic 101 9 months ago +1


  • William Marty Bristow
    William Marty Bristow 9 months ago

    Hey, I’m not sure if you’ve put a video up on this, but what are some places where I can meet people specifically girls that arent stuff like a bar scene

    • Brain Pains!
      Brain Pains! 7 months ago

      At the gym, parks, skating rinks, stores, libraries, anywhere! Naturally you have to be careful, seeing as how they might already be taken. Just get out a bit and meet new people everywhere you go, from random people in line to people who often run in the park. They'll remember you as much as you remember them and it's always delightful to see them again.

  • sophie
    sophie 9 months ago

    Okay, but what do you do if your grandmas hospice social worker asks you and your sisters if “all three of you have the same mom”?

  • Mat Cimbo
    Mat Cimbo 9 months ago

    He's right. When you've bent over backwards to be nice to someone and they he/she treats you like garbage, it's a great feeling to know you're in the right, just standing there smugly.

  • RJ Rahul
    RJ Rahul 9 months ago

    What is charimsa mean??(can anybody tell me plzz)

    • RJ Rahul
      RJ Rahul 7 months ago

      @Brain Pains! thank you so much bro
      So.nice of you.

    • Brain Pains!
      Brain Pains! 7 months ago +1

      Being a likeable person, essentially. A charismatic man/woman can easily get friends through just talking to them, with the way they speak or what they say, for example. I hope that explains it well enough. Do also remember that Google holds all the answers to many questions, so I would recommend searching there if you don't get them quickly (like your 1 month old comment, sorry to see no one helped out) But anyways, have a nice day!