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The People Currency: Practicing Emotional Intelligence | Jason Bridges | TEDxWabashCollege

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  • Published on Feb 21, 2017
  • After undergoing a major brain injury as a teen, Jason Bridges was challenged by a diminished IQ. However, he discovered the value of emotional intelligence and how this “EQ” could be used to excel in the world around him. Jason teaches how you too can grow your EQ and how it can improve your life!
    Jason Bridges is a 1998 alumnus of Wabash College and previously gave a Chapel Talk titled, "Please, Please Lower Your GPA." He is currently the CEO of both Nantucket Bike Tours, and Handlebar Cafe located on the Nantucket Island, MA, and offers Bike Tour internships to Wabash students focused on improving Emotional Intelligence skills. Jason also is the Public Outreach Manager responsible for improving community engagement and digital resources for the Town of Nantucket.
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

Comments • 96

  • Jess Hines
    Jess Hines 4 years ago +41

    This was not just great content, but I love the delivery. The tone, pacing, honestness, the relevant true stories. Excellent speech!

  • Aimee Coleman
    Aimee Coleman 5 years ago +122

    Forcing closeness and friendliness on people can be just as uncomfortable as ignoring them entirely. An emotionally intelligent person isn't brazen enough to shake the hand of everyone they meet or ask for the name of the stranger that looks uncomfortable to give it or in a hurry, because there's no catch-all way to deal with every person. You need to evaluate each person differently and not try to just push intimacy on everyone by trying to forcefully make them open up to you because it can be uncomfortable to them. Being willing to listen but not being forceful is important. It's a case by case balance.

    • M C
      M C Year ago +1

      Yeah to me it sounds more like it's based fundamentally on business point of view than actual empathy

    • Vipermad
      Vipermad Year ago +1

      I hate people.

    • Dua1512
      Dua1512 3 years ago +2

      Agree. Freak in anything is ..well freakish.
      May be more important advice and daily challenge would be to make people you know (starting with family) smile and help make them feel good about themselves....

    • Trevor Morris
      Trevor Morris 3 years ago +2

      but do you use it as an excuse to not talk to other people.

    • NantucketBikeTours
      NantucketBikeTours 5 years ago +16

      I can't agree more, awareness of those around you (social awareness) is very important...knowing when to back off or not engage at all proves to be just as challenging as the opposite. Thank you for your comments! -Jason

  • Pat Smythe
    Pat Smythe 25 days ago

    I loved this inspiring talk. I would love to visit for two weeks learning EQ, meeting people….

  • bjulia33
    bjulia33 5 years ago +27

    I love how his approach to business is both practical and ... not ethical, but I want to say philanthropic? Almost more the second one, where he cares just as much if not more about passing on spiritual benefits/character development to those around him. Listen at 9:50, he almost dismisses "sales" as an end goal. If only every business leader offered this kind of value, then we'd be truly rich. Very impressive/inspiring. Takeaway, lol, bini, got it.

    • Jason Bridges
      Jason Bridges 5 years ago +5

      Much appreciation for your thoughts! You figured me out, haha. Sales + profit are def important no doubt, gotta keep the lights on and the investors happy (if you have investors). I spend more time thinking about how my staff connects with each other and our customers. The logistics of how to make coffee, advertising, and paying your bills is the easy part if you are disciplined and dedicated. Making the world or your community a better place should be the lens we look through when running a business. Thx again for your comment!

  • charles benedetti
    charles benedetti 5 years ago +9

    Thank you, Jason, very enlightening. Your ending parable was touching; I'll use it in my classes.

  • Barry Smith
    Barry Smith 15 days ago

    I’m a Vietnam combat veteran. 3 combat tours under my belt. No matter how tough the mission we knew that success would be ours as our commander was an expert at creating psychological safety in our minds. We approached the mission with full force in every way…… physically and psychologically.

  • walter hardin
    walter hardin 2 years ago +4

    I needed this in the moment..
    Working on my EQ as I was listening ..
    Timing is everything..
    Thank You.

  • Thomas Felty
    Thomas Felty Year ago

    Life changing talk...thank you.

  • lnesland
    lnesland 2 years ago +3

    One of the best I have seen on youtube on this subject! Coming from a man who not really smile that much. Not smiling to strangers, or when I am outside the house. Need to practice.

  • Steve Tornovish
    Steve Tornovish 5 years ago +4

    This is so great. Thanks for this!

  • Mr. Terrific
    Mr. Terrific 4 years ago +19

    Street sense and common sense is part of emotional intelligence

  • Mr. Terrific
    Mr. Terrific 4 years ago +1

    What i have learned in life the hard way i hate to admit is people are the way to success the better you know, understand, how, what and why about people every single relationship you have in life will be better your family, your spouse, your children, every thing in life will be better if you understand people and the most important person to understand is you and the rest of the world will become opened to you it will be different like an epiphany

    • i A M
      i A M 3 years ago

      Real Talk

  • Unknown Quantity
    Unknown Quantity 2 years ago

    Should emotional intelligence be used as a way to make money? It seems like everything in the United States is aimed towards money and making a living. I'm not a super empathetic person or anything, but I've learned not to hurt others. I've also seen that people's lives have actually increased in terms of being busy since concepts like emotional intelligence and mindfulness have been incorporated into the business culture. This makes peoples lives more difficult with increased competition. I wonder if these types of things are used for the wrong reasons sometimes. Then again I'm not the most knowledgeable of people. I spend a lot of time alone. Most of what I learn is through watching videos and reading articles.

  • Be Outstanding
    Be Outstanding 2 years ago +1

    Great
    Content
    Thank
    You
    Tedx
    Regulate emo, manag
    Teach emo
    Be open
    Feel safe
    Smile chall
    Ppl is the currency

  • Andrea Jay
    Andrea Jay 5 years ago +6

    Love this

  • Abby Rachel
    Abby Rachel 2 years ago +1

    Gives me hope

  • The first of the four horsemen; Rev. 6:2

    The problem with emotional intelligence: Please, use your emotional intelligence to make this person who's had nothing, never going to have nothing, and been told his/her feelings don't matter to make them feel better. Please, give them a little fake pep talk and go on with your business and back to letting them not matter so more. At least they don't want to harm us right, and maybe they'll vote for us.
    Short-sighted, selfish nonsense. This is not a happy place, and there's no happy ending. Call to God. Taking Him out of the picture didn't solve anything, it just made the problem worse.

  • Chelle Smart
    Chelle Smart 3 years ago

    Thank you 😊

  • Amrita Sharma
    Amrita Sharma 3 years ago +4

    Some people are just perpetually needy, they only waste your time cause they never have any real emotional problem that you can handle with your emotional intelligence. They just like talking

  • Tricky_player
    Tricky_player Year ago

    Thank you is all I can say

  • Vipermad
    Vipermad Year ago +2

    Coffee shops are not “community”. They are a businesses. Stop conflating the two.

  • Diana Rivera
    Diana Rivera Year ago

    Now we need to smile with our eyes ❤️

  • Lowtom Membrane
    Lowtom Membrane 5 years ago +1

    The Quotiënt theory is very limited, incomplete. And they depend greatly on the ones that write these tests.

  • Denise Valerio
    Denise Valerio 4 years ago +1

    Priceless

  • carefulcarpenter
    carefulcarpenter 5 years ago +15

    My father was a genius in Emotional Intelligence. He failed in business. Men NOT high in emotional intelligence stole his brilliant ideas when he was seeking investors. I became a carpenter.
    "Great women and great men give great and eloquent speeches; the wildflower has greater power to render the soul speechless"
    ~~cc

    • Icing Cake
      Icing Cake Year ago

      Two different skills :(

    • Mr. Terrific
      Mr. Terrific 4 years ago +7

      He was not highly emotionally intelligent because if he was he would known that the men that had stolen his idea were crooks street sense is part of emotional intelligence

    • ADerpyReality
      ADerpyReality 5 years ago

      Well give it your own flair.

    • Gabrielle Angel Lilly
      Gabrielle Angel Lilly 5 years ago

      Great quote. Thanks!

  • Jane Norton
    Jane Norton 5 years ago +5

    Greetings from your sister island of MV! Great talk!

    • Jason Bridges
      Jason Bridges 5 years ago

      Thank you Jane, great time of year to be on these two islands!

  • Salma Mahmoud
    Salma Mahmoud 5 years ago +4

    Thank you ^_^

  • shreya bubna
    shreya bubna 5 years ago +2

    amazing

  • Isania Reis
    Isania Reis 2 years ago

    👏👏👏👏👏👏

  • i A M
    i A M 3 years ago

    Very calm

  • Kathy Woolfolk
    Kathy Woolfolk 2 years ago +2

    I love the parable...may I share it?

    • NantucketBikeTours
      NantucketBikeTours 2 years ago +1

      Of course, I first heard it during a West Wing episode! One of my favorite parables.

  • Holoceneheart
    Holoceneheart 4 years ago

    "People are more important than the coffe we brew and bikes we ride@"

    • Vipermad
      Vipermad Year ago

      I’ll take coffee and my bike over people any day.

  • 101nka
    101nka 5 years ago +4

    penny for your thoughts

  • sale nikola
    sale nikola 2 years ago

    can i come to ted and talk how i invented mc donalds_ starbucks is taken , lol

  • Jesús Parrado Alameda

    🕳🙌🏼

  • SL
    SL 3 years ago +2

    I have low EQ
    But I realized it after 40. It’s to late.

    • julie may
      julie may 8 months ago

      I don't think so. (: xoxo - j.may

    • Peach Luck
      Peach Luck Year ago

      After 40, and as you get older, EQ is all you have. Practice now or become invisible and irrelevant.

    • Arthur Grisha Rivera
      Arthur Grisha Rivera 2 years ago

      fight! there is still a chance, everybody has their own peace, you are never late or too early
      never compare yourself to others, you are unique and you can improve

    • Zach Rachedi
      Zach Rachedi 3 years ago +2

      It's never too late to develop good social skills, it's scientifically proven that the parts of our brains responsible for emotional intelligence are flexible and can grow. I'm on the same path as you although much younger, I believe we can do it and being aware of it is the first step to change. Now keep reading and learning about EQ and emotional maturity, but most of all practice it with everyone around you. Best of luck!

  • Kathleen Mockler
    Kathleen Mockler 3 years ago +3

    Did Strabucks steal your idea for the names on the cups?

  • Daniel Wilson
    Daniel Wilson 11 months ago

    😁👀

  • Linette Tasma
    Linette Tasma Year ago

    What is Rotogenflux Methods and how does it work? I hear many people increase their IQ of 20 points with this iq course.

  • OurUnit
    OurUnit 4 years ago +5

    that was actually so weak.... dont reccomend watching this if your are trying to develop your skills

    • JiJi 254
      JiJi 254 2 months ago

      At least he is sharing whatever he has, whatever has worked for him and it can help at least one or two people.

    • Handlebar Café
      Handlebar Café 4 years ago +6

      Thanks for the feedback, always looking for criticism on this subject matter. What do you feel was was weak about it? I see that you don't think it could develop any skills, but why?

  • Make The Journey
    Make The Journey 2 years ago +2

    Code 46

  • Kennedi Silva
    Kennedi Silva 2 years ago

    What exactly is Rotogenflux Methods? How does this thing really work? I see many people keep on talking about this iq course.

  • Cam Flint
    Cam Flint Year ago

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  • Mrinal Mondol
    Mrinal Mondol 4 years ago

    What exactly is Rotogenflux Methods? How does this thing really work? I notice a lot of people keep on talking about this intelligence boost program