Getting stuck in the negatives (and how to get unstuck) | Alison Ledgerwood | TEDxUCDavis

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  • Опубликовано: 22 июн 2013
  • Alison Ledgerwood joined the Department of Psychology at UC Davis in 2008 after completing her PhD in social psychology at New York University. She is interested in understanding how people think, and how they can think better. Her research, which is funded by the National Science Foundation, investigates how certain ways of thinking about an issue tend to stick in people's heads. Her classes on social psychology focus on understanding the way people think and behave in social situations, and how to harness that knowledge to potentially improve the social world in which we all live.
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  • Muhhammad Monir
    Muhhammad Monir 15 часов назад

    at 7 minutes i was about to comment " you are cute,i love you"
    and then at 8:18 you said "my husband !!!""""

  • Emily Torres
    Emily Torres 21 час назад

    Help me because I don't like being negative to get stucked

  • Big Daddy
    Big Daddy 2 дня назад

    Let's all give each other a good pat in the back. We are all badass and we are all going to have an amazing week!

  • Kat Rivers
    Kat Rivers 3 дня назад

    I'd bet you $20. these statistics match the neg to pos TV output.

  • The Truth
    The Truth 4 дня назад

    Someone snaps at me and I wonder what's wrong with them aha

  • Chi Man Chiu
    Chi Man Chiu 5 дней назад

    thx i will try to be more positive

  • Blue Knight castle crasher
    Blue Knight castle crasher 6 дней назад

    Thank you soooooooooooooooo much

  • alyssa hinderscheid
    alyssa hinderscheid 7 дней назад

    WHAT AN inspiring talk!!!!

  • The _ AsTROLLmech
    The _ AsTROLLmech 8 дней назад

    So basically, "just stop being negative"

  • Safiya
    Safiya 8 дней назад

    Thank you for this.

  • lila 123456789
    lila 123456789 9 дней назад

    Dont overthink. Dont think negatively. Im very very serious about looking for you when the time is right. Even if im really unsure about how i will do that, I wont be able to take it knowing that i wont be able to find you (when the right time comes). So please dont let negative thoughts.
    I mean them.
    cyber hugs for you.

  • Anna Maledon Children's Author
    Anna Maledon Children's Author 11 дней назад +1

    Can I send my husband to your husband for training?

  • MadJack
    MadJack 15 дней назад +1

    “Work to see the upside”

  • stap0290
    stap0290 18 дней назад

    Me to my mom: is the Glass of water half full, or half empty?
    My Indian mom: These glasses are for guests, use the stainless steel one for yourself.

  • Rae K
    Rae K 18 дней назад

    THANK YOU!

  • Jimmy The Human
    Jimmy The Human 20 дней назад

    I wouldn't mind leaving you an extra large tip

  • sky 1187
    sky 1187 21 день назад

    I hope scientist will fine a cure for this negative feeling

  • DHANANJAY SHUKLA 15BCM0077
    DHANANJAY SHUKLA 15BCM0077 23 дня назад

    Getting stuck in negatives by Alison Ledgerwood preaches about how negative things tends to affect us longer, both emotionally and mentally than positive things and why negative things tend to stick in our heads longer than they should. Alison through a few case studies, outlines about how the perception of people changes from positive to negative and how some people stick to negative even after being told of positive benefits. She also imparts us with the knowledge of how our brains our wired to store negative thoughts and how important it is to change our approach for better outlook and productivity.

  • Vileena Vinayan
    Vileena Vinayan 23 дня назад

    Great talk....Awesome job...

  • I Ko
    I Ko 25 дней назад

    this is very timely.. i am always pessimistic. somehow whatever i feed my mind manifests. i dont want it to happen but i cant stop thinking about it. i am really scared about failing my class. the odds are high but this thought me that i still have a chance to pass. i needed to hear this

  • Daniel Marsh
    Daniel Marsh 25 дней назад

    just to throw an additional perspective on it, thinking from a logical perspective. People may consider half full and half empty by way of a goal. If you are filling the glass up, it is half full (as you're half way to filling the glass), if you're emptying the glass, it is half empty (as the goal is to empty it and you're only half way there). When running a race, what do you say, I'm half way from the finish, or half way from the start? It isn't always a negative perception, just a reversal of the goal

  • Never Beaten
    Never Beaten Месяц назад

    The coughing tho... 😶😫

  • Rob Ot
    Rob Ot Месяц назад

    Failure is "celebrated", success far less. Technically the glass is always full, half water, half air. 👅

  • Scooters World
    Scooters World Месяц назад

    This was extremely helpful. I try my best to be positive but never knew how to really be “positive” I’m not the most happy person and am extremely negative, thank you so much.

  • Steven Rayburn
    Steven Rayburn Месяц назад

    this intense lady droned on and on.... is she finished yet?

  • Kim Wilson TV
    Kim Wilson TV Месяц назад

    Cluster B's stay stuck in negatives, healthy people are able to move on much quicker.

  • ls Adrian\ B*
    ls Adrian\ B* Месяц назад

    Perhaps this is because people restrict celebration of success. If a child is the best in the class, he would feel pressure from others, and the teacher to not be arrogant. An awful ecosystem for achievers. And conversely, if you are doing really badly, you can 'help' from others, and emotional support so you can pity yourself even more.

  • Zahid H Khan
    Zahid H Khan Месяц назад

    great.

  • ThunderousGlare
    ThunderousGlare Месяц назад

    Good thoughts conjure up other good thoughts.

  • Abi
    Abi Месяц назад

    Thankyou.. I needed this..Really Thankyou so much

  • indra prastha
    indra prastha Месяц назад

    Is this the reason why Trump won the election?

  • Aaron Signor
    Aaron Signor Месяц назад

    For someone like myself who deals with anxiety and negativity this was very helpful!

  • gene schulp
    gene schulp Месяц назад

    Good stuff

  • Bernd Schneider
    Bernd Schneider Месяц назад

    Sure, not new. But this fact can also be "used". For instance, this is a method where managers try to honey employees into liking the fact that 60% have been fired (ooh, good: 40% jobs "saved") while all the managers keep their jobs and their additional payments.
    Therefore I think it is good to think twice if you try to get "unstuck" from a situation and understand what people want to charm you in with honeyed facts.
    By the way, there is a good book about experiencing losses and how our psyche deals with it: "Thinking, Fast and Slow" by Daniel Kahneman. Very recommendable!

  • diana der maro
    diana der maro Месяц назад

    the glass half full or half empty is an typical English idiomatic expression. the English language is a negative language in the beginning. I would like to see this experiment done in othet settings, languages and cultures to see if we get tge same results. The fact that we talk about negative thinking is negative within itself. Why not say it is REALISTIC thinking instead?

  • Ryan Cox
    Ryan Cox 2 месяца назад +2

    I suspect that finding silver linings takes work because, in order to find them, our brains have to warp reality, creating optimism where none should actually exist. It takes effort to kid yourself.

  • stanzin` norboo
    stanzin` norboo 2 месяца назад

    Most easy way to think positive and stay focused can be achieved just by meditating for atleast 15 to 30 minutes . While mediating just concentrate your mind towards the inhale and exhale of air. Surely you will find difference , because it really does.

  • Racheal Friedrich
    Racheal Friedrich 2 месяца назад +1

    Glass half full or half empty doesn't matter. What matters is how much you want to pour in the glass.

  • FOREVERQUIETFUNCTION MULTITALENTSILENT*FUNCTION

    UNSTUCK NOW FOR MORE TIME ... SH@ LISTEN MORE ...

  • Nunayo Bisnez
    Nunayo Bisnez 2 месяца назад

    Thoughts lead to feelings, which lead to behavior. Be aware of, challenge/question, and manage your thoughts so that they don't lead to negative feelings and behaviors. If you don't know how to do this, seek professional help, and there is also lots of info from reputable websites that can provide techniques for managing our thoughts.

  • Kinjal Kurani
    Kinjal Kurani 2 месяца назад

    Just needed it. I am really grateful today to be listening to this video. Listening to it gave me a little strength to rethink on my situation. Thank you.

  • Kindness
    Kindness 2 месяца назад

    I am grateful for this video and Alison.

  • Halar Ali
    Halar Ali 2 месяца назад

    Good One👍

  • Eva Torguet
    Eva Torguet 2 месяца назад

    please lovely people can you answer this survey? its about anxiety, for a school project. it would mean so much to me. thank you

  • Farfalla La Tunisienne
    Farfalla La Tunisienne 2 месяца назад

    So sophisticated to understand this 😞

  • DAOQI ZHONG
    DAOQI ZHONG 2 месяца назад

    Loss frames can easily stick, but you can train your brain to reverse it. Very significant and mind-changing idea. Thank you!

  • ć h i m m y
    ć h i m m y 2 месяца назад

    you don’t even know how much this helps me. thank you.

  • Positive Chick
    Positive Chick 2 месяца назад

    It is possible to train our mind to look at the positives. I was curious about this since I was young yet I didn’t have the tools. Thank God I kept my positive outlook and now helping others to look at the brighter side of life through the power of gratitude. Awesome talk! 😘

  • Ryan Johnson
    Ryan Johnson 2 месяца назад

    We focus on the negative so that we can problem-solve in the backs of our minds. We are looking for answers to problems, not just arbitrarily choosing to view things negatively.

  • Alfonso Medina
    Alfonso Medina 2 месяца назад

    I'd like to get stuck in her she's hot

  • ana parcetic
    ana parcetic 2 месяца назад

    It's quite normal out minds and brains are working focusing on bad things because bad things are the one we need to fix. So by thinking and speaking about them, you have a feeling that you are looking for the solution. Because we are thought that be worried means we care about something/someone. And by those small things that we see as good actually won't change our super strong negatively thinking programs in the head. I tried it! So there must be some different technics to help us get rid of the negative programmed set.
    If some of you have some advice for techniques please let me know :).
    Have a great full day! Ana :)

  • norton wayne
    norton wayne 3 месяца назад

    thanks to all social systems and employment opportunities for never failing to criticise us for the one time we got it wrong and not congratulating us for the 99 times we got it right. Somewhere along the line, expectation rules out the latter and manipulation comes to mind in the former.

  • Dan The Movie Man
    Dan The Movie Man 3 месяца назад

    This really helped me today. I needed this.

  • кαηєкι
    кαηєкι 3 месяца назад

    bad

  • Monique Dunn
    Monique Dunn 3 месяца назад

    You know I started choosing to be happy no matter how bad my situation is and I started feeling like I was overcoming a test

  • Margarette Fischer
    Margarette Fischer 3 месяца назад

    Fabulous My goodness, how impressive!

  • leptoid
    leptoid 3 месяца назад

    It would appear that once you poison the information well, there is little chance of resetting.

  • Charlie-Flower-Child
    Charlie-Flower-Child 3 месяца назад

    It takes work to see the UPSIDE! Amen!

  • john noe
    john noe 3 месяца назад

    Glass half full or half empty. First of all who the F cares and it depends on what is in the glass, is it poison, is it something delicious.Since I'm not directly involved with this fictitious glass it's not affecting my life at all.Also, people who gamble a lot only tell about when they win and hey do this over and over and over. For some people they choose to only remember the good.

  • Maadili Centre
    Maadili Centre 3 месяца назад

    Browsing youtube I came to this video.... THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!

  • Engineer Asghar
    Engineer Asghar 3 месяца назад

    You are so beautiful. Love you

  • Girish
    Girish 3 месяца назад

    Great way to start my day, first video of the day. :)

  • Rizwan Aboobacker Sideeque
    Rizwan Aboobacker Sideeque 3 месяца назад

    An amazing talk. Thank you! 🙌

  • Shahnawaz rafiya
    Shahnawaz rafiya 3 месяца назад

    Superb!

  • Manisha Yonjan
    Manisha Yonjan 3 месяца назад

    Just amazing. No other words to describe. 👏👏👏👏

  • BlackwatchCrazySix
    BlackwatchCrazySix 3 месяца назад

    Now I know why Yoda said "fear is the path to the Dark Side" and "it is not powerful but more tempting". Negativity is really hardwired in our brains and feelings of revenge, resentment immediately hold on to our minds. If we can retrain ourselves to look for the upside, we can redeem ourselves. Fear is really path to the Dark Side even if you will not be susceptible to it. Let's train our heads to see the positives.

  • umesh bansal
    umesh bansal 4 месяца назад

    Wow superb video ever

  • Rod Clayton
    Rod Clayton 4 месяца назад

    I think this is probably a servival skill. The person who is prepared an anticipating bad things may be more likly to servive then the one who focuses on the good things which can’t hurt them.

  • Seth Rowley
    Seth Rowley 4 месяца назад

    She reminds me of my ex girlfriend Carrie RIP

  • Mia Lavier
    Mia Lavier 4 месяца назад

    If you think positive and believe and visualize and then you get desappointed it hurts even more. Cause you believed more.

  • Julia Sirk
    Julia Sirk 4 месяца назад

    Thank you Alison, this was very inspirational!

  • Orla Grace
    Orla Grace 4 месяца назад

    I wish there was a love button!

  • Pure Metro
    Pure Metro 4 месяца назад

    In short just think about the positive situations. There saved you ten minutes.

  • renz abuhan
    renz abuhan 4 месяца назад

    Amazing talk, but I felt like its to short. I want to hear more about "how".

  • jo M
    jo M 4 месяца назад

    Needed something positive, got it and gonna stick to it.

  • Jonathan Stewardson
    Jonathan Stewardson 4 месяца назад

    Nice. Is negative dwelling an instinctive defence thing? Not long ago people were more vulnerable to predators. Even after a few good days, they would still be worrying about that day they were nearly eaten by a lion.

  • j9rd11
    j9rd11 4 месяца назад

    Fear leads to constant negativity. So to be positive is not to be afraid

  • frogprincessss
    frogprincessss 4 месяца назад

    Thank you. Great insight and take-away from your experience and research. I hope that educators, mentors, and people of authority listen to this talk. What they say to others can cause others to get stuck in negativity. Life in itself is a challenge, and for me, there is no need to keep on challenging people just to help them grow.

  • Alex Finn
    Alex Finn 4 месяца назад

    If you are filling the glass, it is half full. If you are drinking out of the glass, it is half empty.

  • Dry Ice
    Dry Ice 4 месяца назад

    thats me when my paper gets rejected..stuck in that place.. so shame

  • Zulfi'anni' Husnar
    Zulfi'anni' Husnar 4 месяца назад

    Thanks God, I found this video in the right time. What a mind-blowing speech. Thank you! :)

  • nikita jain
    nikita jain 4 месяца назад

    Refreshing and relaxing.. Made my day 😃

  • MC
    MC 5 месяцев назад

    Our "reptilian" vs "conscient brain".Animal life it's based on "reptilian brain".We mesure our "conscient brain" in IQ.Lower IQ, balance tilted to "reptilian brain".It's not about good or bad way of thinking.

  • Yoga with Christina Joy
    Yoga with Christina Joy 5 месяцев назад

    Such an important lesson!

  • kramer26
    kramer26 5 месяцев назад

    I can totally relate to this... I have had more negative experiences in my life than positive but still try to see the glass as half full, even though it is incredibly difficult.

  • Quentin Laster
    Quentin Laster 5 месяцев назад

    I recently found out I have OCD, mental illness and a drug addition problem. I sought help and ended up at Lakeridge Village. They messed me up worse and instilled negative thinking in me so bad I started feeling ashamed of myself and adapted their training of negative thinking. Further the instilled into me FEAR, robbed me repeatedly and violated my recipient and constitutional rights repeatedly and then kicked me out into the streets homeless for complaining. Today I'm stuck in the negatives emotionally and in thinking. This video has reminded me that approaching life with a strong positive spirit leading the way I pray and believe I'll get back to "the glass is full" with enough room to learn positiveness again.

  • Mgtow Boo Boo
    Mgtow Boo Boo 5 месяцев назад

    mgtow is freedom

  • Mgtow Boo Boo
    Mgtow Boo Boo 5 месяцев назад

    mgtow

  • The Jurassic Builder
    The Jurassic Builder 5 месяцев назад

    Please I do not know what to do because I moved to a new school and I had a friend last year that went to the same school in my elementary school but now I'm new in middle school and she has no friends and she does not know how to make new friends so I feel bad and stay with her when I get so many opportunities to go sit and talk with NEW people and I really want to but I just can not without leaving her and if I go with other people and have more friends then she will leave me and then and be alone again and I dont what that go happen and in her eyes I will be a fake friend and I am not a fake friend. People ask if I want to sit with them at lunch but I always say sorry I am busy. But I want to sit with new people once and a while, you know.

    • The Jurassic Builder
      The Jurassic Builder 5 месяцев назад

      Do I have to leave her. Just to make new and more friends. Or should I stay with her.

  • Tamara Djordjevic
    Tamara Djordjevic 5 месяцев назад

    Take a shot of vodka every time she stays 'participants'.

  • ASH YOYOE
    ASH YOYOE 5 месяцев назад

    eli and nozomi yuri

  • Andrew Buckland
    Andrew Buckland 5 месяцев назад

    Great stuff and engaging delivery

  • Chirag Patel
    Chirag Patel 5 месяцев назад

    Very informative and motivating.. Thank you..

  • Joy
    Joy 5 месяцев назад

    While people were arguing about half glass full or empty.. I drank the water..😂😂😂

  • bhuwan shah
    bhuwan shah 5 месяцев назад

    Really amazing way of explaining.

  • Youtuber10234
    Youtuber10234 5 месяцев назад

    I dont want to reinforce bad behavior by rewarding her with a bigger tip

  • Lorena
    Lorena 6 месяцев назад

    its not the governer's fault that jobs were lost its the crooks at the top

  • Amy Winehouse
    Amy Winehouse 6 месяцев назад

    I found this upload very interesting - so called psychics{all charlatans} work by throwing out loads of this and that and eventually they'll get a hit and people soon forget how many miss's they had and just take the hits,they might not even relate straight to that hit but will somehow in their minds twist what they've been told and make it fit to something in their life or someone they know but clearly forget most if not all of the miss's almost instantly.

  • revolution
    revolution 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you so much

  • BTS World
    BTS World 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you for this. I've always tried to keep a positive mindset but lately its been really hard for me to stay positive because I'm surrounded by all this negativity. I'm told I laugh too much and I need to be less happy and be more serious😐 little do they know I'm going through alot in the inside and I try to appear happy on the outside inhopes to gain happiness.