The Benefits of Rejection | Magna Gopal | TEDxJerseyCity

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  • Опубликовано: 3 окт 2017
  • When we think of Salsa dancing, we think of big smiles, fancy moves, and people having fun. Rejection rarely comes to mind, though it is a very common aspect of a social partner dance. Using her own experience with rejection in dance, Magna will take us through her journey of personal growth and improved relationships.
    Magna Gopal is a leading instructor and performer in the international Salsa dance industry and is renowned for her pedagogy, her creativity, and her philosophy. Magna Gopal is a leading instructor and performer in the international Salsa dance industry and is renowned for her pedagogy, her creativity, and her philosophy. She uses the richness of partner dance to provide a deeper understanding into ourselves, our relationships with others, and the dynamics of communication.
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

Комментарии • 266

  • Marc Ten Low
    Marc Ten Low 3 дня назад

    Weeellllllll....when people regard you as a monster time and time again it starts to wear into your self-perception. In some cases I'd rather live in ignorance rather than make the next request.

  • Keegan K.
    Keegan K. 14 дней назад

    I love everything about her analogies and examples because they force you to recognize the root of why people say yes = because we don’t want to hurt others. It’s a natural human response to something because we do not ever intend to hurt someone, despite our genuine lack of interest. However this speech helped me understand my problem, once I rejected myself. I genuinely like being liked. My whole life I went about my day with most people liking me, my energy, my effort, the way I spoke. It was a serious wake up call to me when I was rejected by someone who ONCE liked me, I dismissed and he KEPT chasing me. I ended up dating him out of pity, I had IRRATIONAL anger around him, I was never amused by what he said to me but he was SUCH a nice, genuine guy that I couldn’t say no. The worst of it all, I knew he wasn’t for me but I couldn’t bring myself to understand I wasn’t good for HIM. He lifted my ego, praised me, showed me undivided attention but I, being the selfish egotistical girl I was back then, just rolled my eyes and bathed in his affection. Until one day, he decided he deserved..better. I was appalled. Better? Than ME? Everybody likes ME though, how could YOU not? My serious, embarrassing issue was that I had never been rejected before. Never been shown that someone wasn’t interested. But that day my outlook changed. Suddenly I liked him more, couldn’t move on from him when he found someone who GENUINELY loved him. After all the time we spent together - I no longer meant anything to him.
    That’s what brought me here. The reflection of being rejected. Because it helped me realize that understanding someone can most certainly CHOOSE not to say yes to you/dance with you/anything you wanna compare it to, they have the RIGHT to say no. And for whatever reason they want to - NOT taking it personal is key. They are telling you that they’d rather not waste their time and although they don’t wanna hurt your feelings, they aren’t obliged to participate if they themselves wouldn’t be enjoying their time.
    I said yes to second dates with men I barely remembered the names of and I felt entitled to their attention. But this video (and some therapy) helped me understand that this is..toxic. I thought I was being nice but the opposite of nice isn’t pity. It’s fairness. Respect yourself enough to learn that rejection for both parties isn’t personal, it just means they/you don’t wanna waste their time when their entire heart/head isn’t into it.

  • rean seou
    rean seou 19 дней назад

    I'd dance with u

  • Rukia akerman
    Rukia akerman 23 дня назад

    I really need it ...thank you so mich it cheers me up 😊 and remember me about what is important

  • Lauren Keyes
    Lauren Keyes 23 дня назад

    This is a VERY good jewel.
    Thank you 💖

  • Tree Tree
    Tree Tree 24 дня назад

    were the people in the club blind? What kind of clubs was this beautiful woman going to?

  • Tree Tree
    Tree Tree 24 дня назад

    NO = NEXT OPPORTUNITY.

  • Lee H
    Lee H Месяц назад

    Beautifully said

  • Michel 10
    Michel 10 Месяц назад

    The reason behind saying "NO" to when asked for the dance can be like..that man didn't know how to dance..or That man could be having partner.

  • AMRITA Mishra
    AMRITA Mishra Месяц назад

    I like it

  • curragh 42
    curragh 42 Месяц назад

    Im sorry man. I just dont believe her. A good looking girl like that dont get rejected that often

  • ws279 xL7
    ws279 xL7 Месяц назад

    👏👏👏👏 I love this! Makes a lot of sense. Now I will never feel bad about being rejected.

  • Ahmed
    Ahmed Месяц назад

    The only rejection that bothers me is romantic. I have been rejected from hundreds of jobs and many colleges but that doesn't bother me. I still feel extremely disturbed by the rejections from girls I've wanted. It's why I'm terrified to approach women.

  • Patrick Arthur Atangana Ngono
    Patrick Arthur Atangana Ngono Месяц назад

    She’s not talking about dancing obviously.

  • Syne111
    Syne111 Месяц назад

    that diamond tho

  • Indian Mentor
    Indian Mentor 2 месяца назад +1

    thankyou

    • Magna Gopal
      Magna Gopal 2 месяца назад

      Thank you for taking the time to listen. 😊

  • Roy Godson
    Roy Godson 2 месяца назад +1

    Very important and helpful speech.

    • Magna Gopal
      Magna Gopal 2 месяца назад

      Thank you! I'm glad you enjoyed it. 😊

  • adr ian
    adr ian 2 месяца назад

    After few rejections you dont feel nothing...

    • Magna Gopal
      Magna Gopal 2 месяца назад

      The pain of rejection still exists but it becomes easier to deal with when I stopped making it personal. :)

  • Tia Turnbull
    Tia Turnbull 2 месяца назад +1

    I have recently been thinking about how people attach their identity to situations. If someone puts a rock in the middle of the sidewalk and you keep moving it because you are stubbing your toe. They keep moving it back because they see everything as a win/lose personal battle. They are unwilling to talk about it and see kindness as weakness, don't listen and keep moving the rock back. What do you do?

    • Tia Turnbull
      Tia Turnbull Месяц назад +1

      Thank you. Happy Holidays to you too.

    • Magna Gopal
      Magna Gopal 2 месяца назад

      +Tia Turnbull Thanks for the explanation and the chat. 😊 Happy holidays!

    • Tia Turnbull
      Tia Turnbull 2 месяца назад +1

      BTW, the rock story has to do with how people attach their identity to a thing, situation or other thought. Then now that they have made the conversation about the thing about themselves, they defensively fight to win instead of separating their identity from the thing in order to look at the issue. Look at the " It is what it is" The subject is what works best regardless of who's idea it is. Many people don't realize that they are automatically reacting with intensity in their own winning favor instead of looking at the situation from a let's resolve it in the best way possible no matter who's idea it is. There is no win-lose, only solutions that work best for all involved once we understand each others ideas about it.

    • Tia Turnbull
      Tia Turnbull 2 месяца назад +1

      Thank you Magna. Actually it was helpful to me to understand from H.H. that people are regurgitating scenes from childhood where they didn't get there needs met. That way my main focus is not to take on for myself what they are accusing me of. They are not even talking to me, they are saying what they felt when they were 4, 5, 6 etc.. years old but could not articulate it then. So there is nothing for me to explain or defend. All I need to do is reflect, validate and empathize. It makes alot of sense, it reminds me of Byron Katie when she says " I can see how you would feel, see or say that when you are thinking that thought." Brilliant.

    • Magna Gopal
      Magna Gopal 2 месяца назад

      +Tia Turnbull I understand now. Most of us weave a story that benefits our narrative. Depending on how ingrained our beliefs are, it's quite possible that we can't see the other side. Or we just keep talking and pushing until we hear our version regurgitated back to us. In dealing with people like this (which includes myself sometimes) the best approach is to stay true to your own intention. Speak honestly and with compassion. If you're lucky, the person you're speaking to will pause and reflect. Change isn't guaranteed but neither should it be sought. The pause and the reflection are quite a feat in themselves. If our approach to the interactions that don't result in a change is to be frustrated then perhaps we are just as tied to our own way of doing /seeing things as the people we are trying to change. At the end of the day, self reflection and personal growth are the things actually within our control. Just focus on that and let the world come around...or not. 😉 Hope that helps! 😊

  • MubarakStayBless Mohammed
    MubarakStayBless Mohammed 2 месяца назад +5

    Be honest to yourself be unapologetically. Yes yes No no

  • VerdisQuo999
    VerdisQuo999 3 месяца назад +1

    It gets very interesting around 10:30. Very good advice.

  • daphney kokui klu
    daphney kokui klu 3 месяца назад +17

    If GOD rejects you it's a terrifying situation, but if its man... not exactly a problem!

    • daphney kokui klu
      daphney kokui klu 4 дня назад

      +electric soul my lips are zipped🤐. I guess you still haven't gotten over your rejection😂😂

    • electric soul
      electric soul 4 дня назад +1

      Oh shut up

    • daphney kokui klu
      daphney kokui klu 2 месяца назад +1

      +Magna Gopal and the very best of the New Year. GOD bless you!!!

    • Magna Gopal
      Magna Gopal 2 месяца назад

      +daphney kokui klu Thank you! Same to you! 🎄🎉

    • daphney kokui klu
      daphney kokui klu 2 месяца назад +1

      +Magna Gopal Merry Christmas 🌲

  • newtoninspired
    newtoninspired 3 месяца назад +1

    Magna Gopal, this is really like a next level of feeling rejection from a different professional life that stands so resonating with any general rejection faced in life. Thanks to TEDx to bring you on the global platform of sharing. Your talk makes me see the purpose of TEDx justified. Really, great talk. Nice to know a little bit of living in the dance industry too.

    • Magna Gopal
      Magna Gopal 2 месяца назад

      Thank you for taking the time to listen and I'm glad to hear the content of this talk resonated with you. I'm trying to post more content related to these issues that we all deal with. Have a look at my channel. You might enjoy some of the videos. 😊

  • These Truths
    These Truths 3 месяца назад +1

    Only salsa dancers can wear and walk a pair of high heels like this gal clearly demonstrated! I think any guys that denied her a dance were probably a waste of oxygen consumption! Lol

    • These Truths
      These Truths Месяц назад +1

      +Magna Gopal Merry Christmas! I agree with you. I was being goofy. I was rejected quite a bit from the apples of my eyes when I was younger, and I know they weren't being personal...I should not have had a mullet!!! All my good intentions could not be seen because of that goofy mullet! Lol. 😂
      Thank you though. It was nice to hear back from you. That's rarely the case. Stay kind and keep smiling...kind ladies like you make up for a thousand meanies. 🙃

    • Magna Gopal
      Magna Gopal 2 месяца назад +1

      I appreciate that compliment. I'll tell you, my first steps walking out on stage made me think heels were a bad idea but I got comfortable quite quickly. As for the guys that rejected me, they all have their worth. What I've learned is that their rejection doesn't have to affect mine. 😊

  • Kishalay Sinha
    Kishalay Sinha 4 месяца назад

    Although I feel zero interest in western dances such as ballet etc. which seem odd to Me, I have reached 10:28 of this talk and will listen to the end of the talk at 27:50, I think, because this is a very practical talk full of helpful advice on how to deal with rejection, which is universal. I would like to add that it is just not possible to say yes to everyone and say yes to everything asked for. This should not be regarded as rejection but as a realistic response. Of course, in all such cases of "rejection", an effort should be made as a matter of courtesy to make the "rejection" as soft and gentle as possible. In some cases, however, it might be wise to make the "rejection" seem blunt for the good of an applicant when it seems that he or she will not listen to reason. - G

  • Aleksandra Krysińska
    Aleksandra Krysińska 4 месяца назад

    It's super cool, that such a intelligent, neat woman share that she was turned down, even if it comes to dating

  • skyejacques
    skyejacques 4 месяца назад +1

    Wow. So much wisdom in this. I've said yes when my entire gut was saying no, and I wasted my time and the other person's. So true. The inner definition of rejection needs to be neutralised instead of demonized! Thank you so much, Magna for this one... Perfect timing for me to listen and absorb this universal truth x

  • Zoltan Papp
    Zoltan Papp 5 месяцев назад +2

    It’s hard to belive that anyone would reject her. She is the most talented salsa dancer in the world!!!

  • Ricardo Murillo
    Ricardo Murillo 5 месяцев назад

    She lies. Women that are fine looking like her never got rejected in my salsa classes. Men like me did all the time. Terrible. I haven't danced salsa in years. I dont need it. I finally realized that my last rejection was a blessing. I can live without women in my life. I have my books my job my sport my friends my theater club my sleep my peace.

  • R. Habibullahi
    R. Habibullahi 5 месяцев назад

    She is beautiful and intelligent. She inspires me to do a Ted Talk one day.

  • Kakashi Hatake
    Kakashi Hatake 5 месяцев назад

    After I graduated (honor graduate) from the university as a chemical engineer, I applied to around 1000 jobs, mostly chemistry and chemical engineering related within two years. Yep, I got rejected that many times. Now, I'm pursuing my masters. Plus, I don't know how many times I've gotten rejected by girls. I'm handsome, intelligent and all, but it is what it is. Their loss.

  • Ana Maria
    Ana Maria 5 месяцев назад +1

    nice legs

  • GoldbergandPartners
    GoldbergandPartners 5 месяцев назад +3

    Strong woman. Appreciate her honesty.

  • ShuCora Walker
    ShuCora Walker 5 месяцев назад

    Great points in this speech about learning from rejection and learning to say “No” from an honest place.

  • Ryan Dulaney
    Ryan Dulaney 6 месяцев назад

    What a liar.

  • Ganesh Kumar
    Ganesh Kumar 6 месяцев назад +1

    The speech is so beautiful & speaker too

  • Ganesh Kumar
    Ganesh Kumar 6 месяцев назад

    I don't know how to do

  • Ganesh Kumar
    Ganesh Kumar 6 месяцев назад

    How I learn english

  • Ana Cruz
    Ana Cruz 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you. I needed to hear this.

  • Stan Jackson
    Stan Jackson 6 месяцев назад

    You may never see this...But Magna Gopal!! Thank you for stepping up to share this...AWESOME AND easy on the eyes... :)

  • Maximus Prime
    Maximus Prime 6 месяцев назад

    I am so going to use this in my book :)

  • Eileen MacDougall
    Eileen MacDougall 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you Magna. I've been avoiding the acceptance of rejection. I read a comment on a different video and that person said go through it. It's the only way out. You've built upon those words for me to start to see the wisdom in facing the crippling fear I've been living with. Right from my heart I thank you.

  • Eileen MacDougall
    Eileen MacDougall 6 месяцев назад

    Oh my gosh, I'd love to salsa dance. Since I've been rejection, I know what to do.

  • khany2k
    khany2k 6 месяцев назад

    Magna, YOU''RE THE REASON I STATED DANCING. To hear your talk today I understand how to accept rejection on the dance floor and also on life choices. Greetings from Canada.

  • Michal Janovský
    Michal Janovský 6 месяцев назад

    well when the only think you know only rejection .... RIP me

  • TheMrmoc7
    TheMrmoc7 6 месяцев назад +1

    I've been rejected by well over 1000 women and I'm still standing!! (alone). Now tell me about rejection.

    • VerdisQuo999
      VerdisQuo999 3 месяца назад

      Years ago, my friends and I would go out to see who could get rejected the most. Sometimes, it backfired when that one person said yes. It ruined the whole game and left you not knowing what to do.

  • deepika rajput
    deepika rajput 6 месяцев назад

    A must watch for people who find it hard to say no.....

  • Andre Cameron
    Andre Cameron 6 месяцев назад

    I am to here that from a woman

  • Steve Chavez
    Steve Chavez 6 месяцев назад

    What if you mom rejected you ?

  • Anmol Gupta
    Anmol Gupta 6 месяцев назад +1

    The rejection is make a personality to more powerful.

  • Fox
    Fox 6 месяцев назад +2

    She got rejected by people who didn't want to dance? Geez, try beind a man for once day.

  • priyanka Khetawat
    priyanka Khetawat 7 месяцев назад +1

    Even I got several rejection applying for a job, may be 60-70

  • L Ha ha
    L Ha ha 7 месяцев назад +1

    The rule in salsa dancing it is you never say no to a dance. NO matter. I was ballroom train.

  • diana tea
    diana tea 7 месяцев назад +2

    i asked my crush out to my school's ball and he said he'd think about it but my horoscope said to prepare for rejection so here I am

  • Arria
    Arria 7 месяцев назад +1

    This was so well written!! And she did a great job speaking. I agree with everything

  • Yolanda Hatcher
    Yolanda Hatcher 7 месяцев назад +2

    EXCELLENT!! Thx...👏👏

  • Neha Agarwala
    Neha Agarwala 7 месяцев назад

    Not upto the ted standard.

  • Daniele De Blu
    Daniele De Blu 7 месяцев назад +1

    Said by a woman this sounds like a funny joke.

  • Reda Haddad
    Reda Haddad 7 месяцев назад

    Do you see that women has really less to talk about then men? Beatiful woman speaking about rejection. Haha I am so moved. Cmon....

  • Jefferson C.
    Jefferson C. 7 месяцев назад +1

    I'm not too sure if I should believe she was ever rejected. She looks and sounds near perfect.

  • Alexander Matthews
    Alexander Matthews 7 месяцев назад +1

    I've been on Tinder before...(single for about 20 years) and tried it again....I've never had a match.....once I got one and she must of swiped by mistake and deleted it.....well that's a lot of 2 hour dinners they saved me from....:) true story.....

  • Keenan Thomas
    Keenan Thomas 7 месяцев назад

    Try being a man! And you will get rejected from job interviews bc male bosses want women $ female bosses want women. To being rejected in court for domestic violence, women can hit men.

    • Goku Godly
      Goku Godly 16 дней назад

      Men can get rejected by woman it's worse well.

  • raleighman3000
    raleighman3000 7 месяцев назад +1

    Who rejects a beautiful face like that?

  • Mia D. Grant
    Mia D. Grant 7 месяцев назад +3

    Rejection is redirection! Thank God I learned to look deeper into rejection and not be hurt..

    • Chris harris
      Chris harris 7 месяцев назад

      if thats how you deal to cope with it.

  • Rob Mitchell
    Rob Mitchell 8 месяцев назад +1

    something doesn't add up. She gets rejected?

  • K B
    K B 8 месяцев назад +1

    Hahahah..a pretty girl crying about rejection on the dance floor. How many men has she rejected who were trying to get a date with her? ..lol. Has she ever thought how much of a hit they took from her rejection?..lol...Its a fact of life lady...cope with it like everyone else...hahahahaha

  • 46foryounger
    46foryounger 8 месяцев назад +4

    For the people saying they can’t believe someone so gorgeous and talented could be rejected you have to understand that the arts is a very competitive field. Artists as in dancers, actors musicians are a dime a dozen and in the salsa scene in particular beautiful talented female dancers are a dime a dozen. The dance is intense sensual and fast paced and people who even dance at an intermediate level are in great shape with beautiful bodies as well. Entertainment and the arts is one of the hardest professions to make it because the competition is so fierce. Hard to believe someone like this could be rejected but in that field it happens all the time. People that dance salsa are there to dance not to pick up women at least not upfront.

  • #WalkAway
    #WalkAway 8 месяцев назад +2

    Beautiful woman, wonderful speaker.

  • Barak300
    Barak300 8 месяцев назад +5

    You're getting men to say no to you not because they reject you, because they're too intimidated to dance with you. Point is, sometimes it's not you that is the problem, it's the other person actually. Thanks for the talk you have a golden voice respect 👍🏾

  • laus 99
    laus 99 8 месяцев назад

    I had to stop watching after one minute, although the presenter +subject seemed fantastic - however one thing I can't bear: just a tiny part of the body cut off by the camera aim, in this case the toes missing from view. most unprofessional failure of the camera operator. ruins EVERYTHING for me. I refuse to watch.

  • j man
    j man 8 месяцев назад +3

    she is rejected because she is hot(jealous partners)

  • Mirna N Rodriguez
    Mirna N Rodriguez 8 месяцев назад +2

    She is a great speaker!

  • Davmesco Origho
    Davmesco Origho 8 месяцев назад +8

    Whether we are receiving or delivery a rejection, we are dealing with human being

    -don’t take it personal
    -learn from it
    -how to say NO

  • Dragoness Nat
    Dragoness Nat 8 месяцев назад +3

    Omg you can tell she's a dancer from those legs and her posture as she paces back and forth. She's so beautiful 😍

  • Sunethra
    Sunethra 8 месяцев назад +3

    Totally can relate to this. This was a really good talk.

  • Haley Andreotti
    Haley Andreotti 8 месяцев назад +12

    Ok she is gorgeous. Sorry I know u shouldn't assume by ones appearance how their life is but that's what people do so it's hard to believe she has experience in rejection.

    • Magna Gopal
      Magna Gopal 2 месяца назад +3

      I appreciate the compliment, Haley. 😊But the adage, dont judge à book by its cover, is quite relevant here. I've often found that those who smile the most at life have endured much more than the eye can see. Best approach is to heed the message instead of focusing on the messenger. Happy holidays! 😊🎉

  • susan jones
    susan jones 8 месяцев назад +1

    Very deep topic;rejection...rejection very helpful video for a lifetime.brilliant personality.

  • Mark N.
    Mark N. 8 месяцев назад

    Now this i need to listen to.

  • algarined
    algarined 8 месяцев назад

    She said she was rejected as a social dancer on the dance floor. Not as a person, not as a date. Replay the video to get a clearer understanding of her message.

  • Rostin van H
    Rostin van H 8 месяцев назад

    She strongly reminds me of the equally beautiful Gugu Mbatha-Raw. Good talk.

  • marsha k
    marsha k 8 месяцев назад +2

    TALK TO ME WHEN YOU ARE ALL ALONE NO SUPPORT FROM FAMILY FRIENDS AND NO DATE IN 6 YEARS

  • Joanne Rivera Lopez
    Joanne Rivera Lopez 8 месяцев назад

    tremendo

  • Eduardo Rojas
    Eduardo Rojas 9 месяцев назад

    I Love this woman. I'm so happy you made this, it helps our community of Salsa Dance Lovers. I have to say no a lot more often. I'm in Miami now, we have lots of dancers with different styles. I am afraid of getting hurt or Cross Body Leading someone into danger. Love You Magna.

  • Bryce Carter
    Bryce Carter 9 месяцев назад

    Rejection doesn‘t benefit you, no

  • SunshineCloudyMusic
    SunshineCloudyMusic 9 месяцев назад +1

    I think the lesson here is.. if you want to do something take beginner classes not Advance classes, if you are new.. it's like going to a jam session everybody's playing good with their instruments but you come with an instrument and can't play any notes and you end up ruining the song or they kick you out cuz they may think it's a prank but it's not...
    Anyways.. I've been rejected so many times... I don't care what people think, but it's kind of a curse cuz your empathy level is very low.. like the other day I was invited to a wedding.. my cousins wedding.. and I showed up with a beat-up hat and sandals.. they were taking pictures, professional pictures with suits and stuff.. I made sure I was in every single picture... boy.. I stood out.. I kept my ground and said !@#$ it. And your food sucks, you should have let me cook..

  • Fabulous Chick
    Fabulous Chick 9 месяцев назад +49

    I was rejected from college twice I felt bad and depressed but I didn’t stop trying and I took it as an advantage to learn a new language now I speak 3 languages...rejection is actually a redirection from god ✨

    • kakieu sandrine
      kakieu sandrine Месяц назад

      Fabulous Chick that is very true.

    • The Baddest
      The Baddest 4 месяца назад

      So what do you do with 3 languaged and no qualification now?

  • Devin Zaliah
    Devin Zaliah 9 месяцев назад

    Perhaps you would like to lose fighting a winning war on piece with me. Or you could win a surrender in a loosing treaty for peace without me.

  • BEN. W. K.
    BEN. W. K. 9 месяцев назад

    Who in the world turns down a woman like you if you really just aren't trying to tell a juicy story!!!!???? Magna I don't believe you in terms of being rejected for a date. Hopefully you aren't just using other people's examples to justify your presence on the podium.

  • YouTubex
    YouTubex 9 месяцев назад +9

    Rejection is the very first step towards acceptance.
    How can you truly enjoy acceptance if you have never experienced rejection?
    They are two sides of the same experience coin.

  • Jordan Day
    Jordan Day 9 месяцев назад +3

    So powerful. Thank you from New York

  • Soi D
    Soi D 9 месяцев назад +2

    first time I ever comment a Ted talk. two words: amazing speech !

  • MilesAndHeights
    MilesAndHeights 9 месяцев назад

    That’s y u need to learn to dance alone. Dance like no one is watching. I guess easier said than done yeah?

  • Célia Gonçalves
    Célia Gonçalves 9 месяцев назад

    How much I can relate to that on the dance floor as a beginner :P

  • Steven Zhang
    Steven Zhang 9 месяцев назад +117

    Summary:
    1. Don't take rejection personally. Everyone has a different reason to reject, it could have nothing to do with you.
    2. Learn from rejections. Ex: modify own body language to be more open, ask people with more open body language
    3. When giving rejection, use the mindset: "I'm just being honest with what I want and what I can give" (better to say no than say yes and not be 100% present)
    4. The key when giving rejection is empathy.

    • Krupal Mehta
      Krupal Mehta 8 дней назад

      Thank you for summary

    • ws279 xL7
      ws279 xL7 Месяц назад +2

      You're absolutely right. Now I will not feel some type of ways about being rejected. I appreciate that.

    • Magna Gopal
      Magna Gopal 2 месяца назад +2

      Good cliff notes for those not interested in the story. 😉🙏Thanks!

    • Nasima K
      Nasima K 2 месяца назад

      Steven Zhang Thank you for the summation

  • I am Lita Wi
    I am Lita Wi 9 месяцев назад +15

    Had no idea you were so well spoken and self-aware, Magna! I've seen videos of you dancing your very fun, light hearted, personal style and I've always said "one day I'll learn to be my authentic self on the dance floor like her!" After this talk, (I'm also a self help junkie) I'm inspired by you even more! Keep up the good work!

  • Ksyusha Kostyuk
    Ksyusha Kostyuk 9 месяцев назад

    Thank you!

  • Tat Tvam Asi.
    Tat Tvam Asi. 9 месяцев назад +2

    I've never nown anything but rejection.

  • Dawn Jacobs
    Dawn Jacobs 9 месяцев назад +9

    Great talk! About much more than "dancing!" When to say yes and no...and accepting responsibility for how we show up☺

  • Az R
    Az R 10 месяцев назад

    I agree it's totally about tone of delivery

  • Ashley Jones
    Ashley Jones 10 месяцев назад

    I can’t take this that seriously, she is too gorgeous to truly know rejection. Ima a female and I’d dance with her off top. Beautiful!