Own Your Behaviours, Master Your Communication, Determine Your Success | Louise Evans | TEDxGenova

  • Опубликовано: 11 янв 2017
  • This speech is a call to action. We spend about eighty percent of our day at work, the rest is at home. If we have a bad day at work we are likely to take that negativity home with us and vice versa. It is of paramount importance that we create healthy environments in the spaces that most affect our lives by giving of our best and receiving the like in return. The 5 Chairs is a powerful and systematic method which helps us master our own behaviours and manage the behaviours of others. To be a good leader is to contribute to the success and happiness of everyone, at work and at home, on a conscious level. The 5 Chairs offer 5 Choices. Which will you choose?
    Behavioral Coach, Corporate Trainer, Author of ‘5 Chairs 5 Choices’. Louise Evans heads up her own organization in Florence, Italy from which she offers international leadership development, cross-cultural transitional coaching and personal development programmes for individuals and teams working in international contexts. She is English but has lived and worked in Germany, France and for the last 30 years in Italy.
    Three things have always been important in her life - people, travel and the performing arts - all three of which she combines in her daily work. Having travelled to seven-five countries and experienced culture shock three times, Louise brings multiple perspectives to the present moment to help people connect across their differences. Louise believes deeply in people’s ability to grow and transform. What she values most is helping people strengthen their self-awareness and their understanding of others so that they bring their best selves into the world in every situation.
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

Комментарии • 787

  • Mind Body Spirit By SJ
    Mind Body Spirit By SJ 2 дня назад

    Ive been on this earth for 31 years. I have always been a hedgehog , without even knowing this. I am glad that these Ted Talks exist, it makes me feel so much better knowing that this speaker has also learned alot along the way. Moral of my comment: never stop growing and learning about yourself. I know I still have a ton of work to do in that aspect!

  • Yolanda Vega
    Yolanda Vega 3 дня назад


  • smileygrl07
    smileygrl07 3 дня назад

    Fantastic!!! Thank you for sharing! ❤️❤️❤️

  • Anne Anne
    Anne Anne 4 дня назад

    Very nice and interesting talk. Well done Louise 👏👏👏

  • business0412
    business0412 6 дней назад

    I wonder who are those 722 people who disliked the video. This is the most incredible and meaningful lesson I’ve ever heard. Keep spreading the knowledge. It can help many.

  • Bahar Aran
    Bahar Aran 6 дней назад

    I love this! Keep watching it over and over.

  • Manjiri Bangali
    Manjiri Bangali 6 дней назад

    Nice theory

  • Khinthu Zarsoe
    Khinthu Zarsoe 8 дней назад

    I have been watching a lot of TED talks today and this is my favorite presentation. Thank you Louise. You are also my first english teacher on youtube.

  • Cindy Scribner
    Cindy Scribner 11 дней назад

    This is one of the Best Louise Evans - I return almost monthly for a review because I get something out of each time. Love!!! You are my idol Louise Evans ))))

  • surinder kumar
    surinder kumar 11 дней назад

    Could you give me relevant information about the non verbal communication course. I want to improve my skills

  • kiziah dato
    kiziah dato 12 дней назад

    This is nice

  • Sanghamitra Purkayastha
    Sanghamitra Purkayastha 13 дней назад

    What a wonderful way to reflect ...thank you so much for this insight...

  • Jen Jen
    Jen Jen 14 дней назад

    Wow so good to help with difficult relationship I'm having right now

  • Davida Ginter
    Davida Ginter 14 дней назад

    Wonderful TED talk. As a non-violent communication trainer, I can identify so much value in that tool of the 5 chairs. It really is a powerful and practical way to help one make an active behavioral choice.

    • Louise Evans
      Louise Evans 5 дней назад

      Thank you Davida. Long live the legacy of Marshall Rosenberg

  • Hool zuich Agi
    Hool zuich Agi 15 дней назад

    Wow. It was a very thoughtful speech. Useful method for everyday life. Just think about 5 chairs... I just recently finished reading the book named "5 second rule". 5 second rule with 5 chairs will help us to reach happiness. Thank you for these powerful women.

  • Maureen Russakoff
    Maureen Russakoff 15 дней назад

    WOW! You talk---cogent, accessable, purely poised.
    Obviously your performing arts background served you well in this presentation.
    You must have worked very hard to make it all look so easy. :)

    • Louise Evans
      Louise Evans 5 дней назад

      Thank you so much Maureen. I'm so looking forward to meeting you in Italy

  • Darrylyn Swift
    Darrylyn Swift 16 дней назад

    I LOVE this concept. I was introduced to it today in reference to developing a course on emotional intelligence. However, I see implications in many other topic areas also. I will connect with you separately to see how this information and your book can be woven into some of my courses. Great information, great delivery, great connection to real life thinking AND when we are honest and reflective of our attack, self-doubt, and wait thinking process - we can unpack the impact it has on our connection to others.

    • Louise Evans
      Louise Evans 12 дней назад

      Thank you so much for your feedbackDarrylyn. If you're interested in integrating THE 5 CHAIRS into your own work I'm holding a RETREAT IN TUSCANY on popular demand this April 2019 which would give you the training to do so. For more info go to the 5 chairs website - under Academy - Events. Come and join us :-)

  • Marilyn Greaves
    Marilyn Greaves 16 дней назад

    It's Feb 2019 and I am looking at your video for the first time. I want to thank you for this video. I am teaching my students about Emotional Intelligence and I am going to show them this video for the introduction to emotional intelligence. I totally enjoyed listening to you.

  • syed mahmood
    syed mahmood 16 дней назад

    I have seen this over 100 times... Still don't get bored because the message it is giving is so vast.. It needs some time to soak in... It's a miracle of sorts... That you were able to fit in so much into this.. It's an honour... thank you

  • Shondell Pearson
    Shondell Pearson 17 дней назад

    Wonderful speech....Thank you!!!☺👌

  • Jamal Amin
    Jamal Amin 19 дней назад

    This is amazing!!!!! I,d love to know more. Do you run any open courses.?

    • Louise Evans
      Louise Evans 19 дней назад

      Thank you so much for your wonderful feedback. If you want to come and practice THE 5 CHAIRS with me we are holding a RETREAT IN TUSCANY in April 2019 - Come and join us!! For more info go the5chairs - under Academy - Events. Come and join us :-)

  • Pink Future
    Pink Future 20 дней назад

    She makes me remember Stewie from Family Guy . Love this show so much .

  • Lindsay Horsman
    Lindsay Horsman 21 день назад

    I really enjoyed this! This will be a great video to show to my employment class I facilitate.

  • Tamíris Denkiu Hartmann
    Tamíris Denkiu Hartmann 22 дня назад

    This helped me so much today.

  • Hittary Mangsatabam
    Hittary Mangsatabam 23 дня назад

    A very meaningful talk...has the power to change lives if we not only listen but also implement it in our lives..

  • Colin Huang
    Colin Huang 24 дня назад

    What a great TEDx Talk! The quality of the content and the presentation is that of TED Talks, not a frequent sight among TEDx Talks. It's so good that I want to share it with my parents. They are Taiwanese and don't understand English, however. The "Chinese (China)" translation option is not an ideal option for them, because the Simplified Chinese characters would take them longer time to comprehend as Traditional Chinese is what they learned and use on daily basis. More importantly, a lot of the word/phrase choices used in the "Chinese (China)" option are not ones that would be used by Taiwanese people, and thus, I am afraid that is likely to create understanding gap for Taiwanese audience. I'd like to volunteer myself to contribute a "Traditional Chinese (Taiwan)" translation to this video. Community contribution feature of RU-clip, however, is not enabled for this video. I wonder if anyone could tell me how to add another translation to this video. Thanks!

  • Khairunnisa Ramli
    Khairunnisa Ramli 26 дней назад

    Big claps as well for you Louis. What a great talk and I can feel how the audience feel - Wonderful!

  • IsaDesOsiers
    IsaDesOsiers 26 дней назад

    This is an adapted presentation of NonViolent Communication, which was invented by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, an American psychologist who lived most of his life in Switzerland. He wrote, lectured, and trained about his modality, NonViolent Communication, all over the world. He was one of the early mediation specialist, who was one of the pioneers. Louise Evans, perhaps his student, gives a very excellent presentation, but she should acknowledge that this is his material, as she interprets it, just as she gives credit to Victor Frankl when she quotes him. There are many very good videos of Marshall Rosenberg on RU-clip if you want to got to the source which she is kind of plagiarizing.

    • Louise Evans
      Louise Evans 25 дней назад

      Hi Isa. I'd like to invite you to watch my talk again and make note of the direct reference I made to the influence Marshall Rosenberg had on me, my work and my life and the 9-day course I followed with him in USA. My book '5 Chairs 5 Choices' is also dedicated to him. I invite you to be a little more attentive before making certain comments. Thank you

  • Jaguar Brave
    Jaguar Brave 29 дней назад +1

    This is really wonderful

  • Hamda Garbo
    Hamda Garbo Месяц назад

    Is she a ESL teacher? She is amazing👏 I think I saw her teaching English language on RU-clip couple years ago.

  • MJ Laurico
    MJ Laurico Месяц назад +1

    Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and time. This is one of the best I have seen. I am literally inspired how you deliver this topic.

  • Amanda Clark
    Amanda Clark Месяц назад +1

    Amazing talk! I throughly enjoyed every last moment. Engaging and well thought out.

  • Benzinio
    Benzinio Месяц назад

    I like the green chair quite often I sit in it for a while... wait to see and then go directly to the red chair because people usually give a reasons for that! it is pity to be in the yellow! And basically in the blue one is more likely to show weakness and allow people to use you as being tolerant soon or later kills you!

  • Nageen Y.Chaudhry
    Nageen Y.Chaudhry Месяц назад +1


  • Akriti Sharma
    Akriti Sharma Месяц назад

    Where is this music played in the beginning from ?

  • Kuldeep Singh Kushwah
    Kuldeep Singh Kushwah Месяц назад

    Their is a movie for that "inside out"

  • Vinai Uthipratuma
    Vinai Uthipratuma Месяц назад +1

    Louise, many thanks from Austin, Texas for sharing such a wonderful message. The analogies are so strong in your presentation. Videos like this should be viral.

  • Csenge Béé
    Csenge Béé Месяц назад

    Every people should see this video !!!!

  • Alanna Owens
    Alanna Owens Месяц назад

    This is profoundly moving. Increadible.

  • Kay Kayak
    Kay Kayak Месяц назад +1

    Excellent! For someone who's been self-doubting for many years, this presentation gives me hope. I've studied how to connect and communicate better. Only After watching you, did the light bulb come on. I got this. Thank you.
    1. Judge: attack, blame
    2 self-doubt: judgement turned inward
    3. Observant, curiosity, patience, breath
    4. Detective: self observant, self aware, mindful
    5. Empathy: observant of others, feet in another's shoes

  • Gaurav Rajak
    Gaurav Rajak Месяц назад

    We need all the chair...always showing empathy will lead to exploit, self doubt is also necessary after failure it lead to recognise the errors which lead to correction and improvement.

  • Tararyze 11
    Tararyze 11 Месяц назад

    Have you ever seen the comedian Mark Lundholm ...first thought wrong....he's in recovery ...performs in rehabs,prisons,ect ...to give back...he has no filter...but his message is awesome ...real deal! Inspiration x1000

  • Tararyze 11
    Tararyze 11 Месяц назад

    This should be taught in every school ....every year ...each semester !!

  • vô ưu cẩn tắc
    vô ưu cẩn tắc Месяц назад

    I love Mrs Louise Evans. She is a teacher of English Today, and now she look old. I wish to see her.

    AMARINDER SINGH Месяц назад

    Very impressive

  • Gabriela Sodré
    Gabriela Sodré Месяц назад +1


  • wvica
    wvica Месяц назад

    Thank you. Great lecture and great lecturer. Thank you.

  • Austyn Negrete
    Austyn Negrete Месяц назад

    Can we ban the intro song from youtube please

  • Krystal Mckenna
    Krystal Mckenna Месяц назад

    This video changed my life. I will continue to share this video with anyone that is sharing any sort of relationship problems with me. Wow just wow!!

  • Izabela Pancerz
    Izabela Pancerz Месяц назад

    Thank you, Louise.I am very impressed of your presentation. You are my star !!!!

  • netsanet zeru
    netsanet zeru Месяц назад +1

    This is the best lecture on TED touched my soul thank you 🙏🏾

    COMMS BARRIER Месяц назад

    this is the best presentation I will see. literally brilliant!!! Break Barriers!!!

  • vaporosoez
    vaporosoez Месяц назад

    Wow what a good teacher and concise.

  • Claudia Henzler HENZLERWORKS
    Claudia Henzler HENZLERWORKS Месяц назад

    Dear Louise, thank you so much! This is a very practical lesson on how to communicate. I love the idea of having these chairs as a reminder in the meeting room.

  • Kin Za
    Kin Za Месяц назад

    Nobody understands ..

  • Manek Premchand
    Manek Premchand Месяц назад

    This is as good as it can get, I'm lost for more words. Just fabulous!

  • Sheerab Ali MAz
    Sheerab Ali MAz Месяц назад

    Unbelievable voice quality

  • Tifa Tii
    Tifa Tii Месяц назад

    I loooooove this woman she is amaaaazing

  • gorhamcj1
    gorhamcj1 Месяц назад

    Excellent. Very true.

  • Claudia Gorosave
    Claudia Gorosave Месяц назад

    This is the most inspiring TED Talk that I have listen. I save it to hear it as many times as a need it. Thank you.

  • ersel değil
    ersel değil Месяц назад

    Olgun biri hep lazım olan

    GURMEL SINGH Месяц назад +1


  • Laura Carpenter
    Laura Carpenter Месяц назад

    This is AMAZING!! LIFE CHANGING!!! Thank you Louise for an amazing talk. I just showed this to a group at work struggling with backbiting and poor attitude with one another. This video had me thinking about which chair I was sitting in all afternoon. I am hopeful that it will remind me to not be a jackal but a giraffe in all areas of my life. So again, THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!! I am thinking about getting little stuffed animals for my desk to remind me which animal I want to choose when I am talking with someone, writing an email, etc. Again, LIFE CHANGING! I want a poster of all the chairs and their animals to post on my wall!

  • philippa papatheoharous
    philippa papatheoharous Месяц назад

    I feel like I wanna hug her☮️✌️❤️

  • Obar Gamor
    Obar Gamor Месяц назад


  • 85missTJ
    85missTJ Месяц назад

    Wow, the concept is common but the visual aids of the chairs was great. Taking these home with me. Thank you


    Masha Allah

  • Yasmeen Ghanem
    Yasmeen Ghanem Месяц назад +1

    have to say one of the best talks that really touched me in a time of need. thank you for this

  • Pedro Gabriel
    Pedro Gabriel Месяц назад

    Worked harder on the presentation than on the content. Resuming the whole thing, you can take a look at the 7 levels of consciouness and the color energies theory by C. G. Jung.

  • Arash Hmi
    Arash Hmi Месяц назад


  • Cynthia Adzatey
    Cynthia Adzatey Месяц назад

    very educative

  • Giedre M
    Giedre M Месяц назад

    I really liked this presentation, very informative.

  • Marion Morgan
    Marion Morgan Месяц назад

    A step in a g direction, when one is in a bad place mentally or physically.

    LIVING GOD Месяц назад

    Proverbs 4:5-10 KJV
    [5] Get wisdom, get understanding: forget it not; neither decline from the words of my mouth.
    [6] Forsake her not, and she shall preserve thee: love her, and she shall keep thee. [
    7] Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding. [
    8] Exalt her, and she shall promote thee: she shall bring thee to honour, when thou dost embrace her. [
    9] She shall give to thine head an ornament of grace: a crown of glory shall she deliver to thee. [
    10] Hear, O my son, and receive my sayings; and the years of thy life shall be many.

  • Susan K
    Susan K Месяц назад +4

    Automatically fully engaged in your words, took a break at six minutes in to write this, but gotta get back to your talk, its changing my life.

  • Nia Anais
    Nia Anais Месяц назад

    Its a good talk but still useless. One person knowing these skills cannot make a relationship work. No one knows this stuff. I've known this since a child and I've tried EVERY chair for communication and if you're in Purple or Blue you get walked on. If you're in Green you get nowhere with anything. If you're in Yellow you'll be depressed and in red you may have a backbone and even respect yourself for standing up for yourself or others but the one's you stand against will come down on you harder. You cannot be in Purple with average beings. If they have not undergone training - weeks, months or even years, they will still be vicious people and toxic to be around. They just cannot get it. There needs to be another chair, the one where you just close off and walk away from toxic people - if you can't walk away, then you block them and ignore them from the Green chair attitude of hoping you wont have to endure their horrid energy for much longer, that you can escape their evilness at some point. And that hope is what gets you through. People don't change, not even when you do. They will always have their own agenda and try to control you or the situation. Being in the Purple chair and giving these people empathy is the worst thing to for yourself, you'll turn into the pitiful Yellow chair person in no time.

  • Kellie Swink
    Kellie Swink Месяц назад

    Louise, thank you for sharing! I can totally relate to your story and I love your delivery. This is something I can truly take with me ❤️

  • Neville King
    Neville King Месяц назад

    Top stuff from the heart. Thx Louise.

  • Judi Remigio
    Judi Remigio Месяц назад

    I feel grateful to have listened to Louise's words and to consider them in my own responses.

  • Doug Robinson
    Doug Robinson Месяц назад

    *Thank you all so much for your appreciative comments.* Glad *_so many_* of you enjoyed my presentation!

  • Adrian Furga
    Adrian Furga Месяц назад

    I've never commented any of TED's speeches though there are many beautiful ideas.
    But this one is absolutely amazing, Thank you, Louise! I'll send it to my colleagues :D

  • Nina R. Franko
    Nina R. Franko Месяц назад +2

    “Louise, the best!”✅

  • Epi nephrine
    Epi nephrine Месяц назад

    I loved the book Non Violent Communication and this was a great talk. Very behind the ideas!

  • Lawlabi
    Lawlabi Месяц назад


  • Melissa Marsted
    Melissa Marsted Месяц назад +1

    I loved this TED Talk! I have had a few challenging days with my first Christmas in 23 years without my two sons. I am embracing their time to travel together which is what I wanted for them! But then some additional family dynamics appeared in my life. So tonight - feeling alone - I googled Ted Talks "chaos" which is how I found this one. I don't consider the life I live and lead to be chaotic but I allow a certain personality into my life that causes undue chaos (because I think I can "help" that person) and this talk was exactly what I needed. I retreat into nature when I feel "attacked" or "sad" but I also go on runs for joy and happiness! I love the chairs. The colors. The association with the animals. As a visual person, it will help me to remember! All of the quotes are from my people I like to quote! This is one of my all time favorite Ted Talks! I will share this talk often! And I will watch it over and over again! Thank you so very much!

  • Thomas Campbell
    Thomas Campbell Месяц назад

    This is a controlling video. This is exactly what we don't want. People controlling us. She mentions blue pill or red pill.. that's from a movie!! Its not reality. There are an infinite amount of out comes. She only focuses on just a few.

    • Louise Evans
      Louise Evans Месяц назад

      I feel the urge to reply to your comment Thomas and to clarify that my intention with the 5 chairs is to intentionally expose the negative impact of 'controlling' from the red chair and invite people to make other choices which are more productive. Nobody can control anyone else. That's an illusion. The only thing we can truly control is our personal reaction to life as it happens to us. That is our choice and our power in every moment of which, of course there are infinite outcomes. The chairs represent represent 5 fundamental choices which can be elaborated into thousands.......

  • Aidan John Walsh
    Aidan John Walsh Месяц назад

    As an 'abundant' person I really appreciate the acceptance. By way of explanation, 13 may feel like 30 to some people.

  • Luciana R Rodriguez
    Luciana R Rodriguez Месяц назад


  • Yani Djane
    Yani Djane Месяц назад

    Very Powerfull speech, thank you! :)

  • Mario Borg
    Mario Borg Месяц назад

    Wow! What a great lesson about quick judgement (and judgement in general). Thank you!

  • Aglaé Zebrowski
    Aglaé Zebrowski Месяц назад

    That is so interesting and useful.

  • Jonathan Mwachongo
    Jonathan Mwachongo 2 месяца назад

    This talk shows how human being can make a great change to our mother planet Earth

  • DAVE
    DAVE 2 месяца назад

    Beautiful talk. So timely and well done. Thank you so much.

  • Jeferson Seben
    Jeferson Seben 2 месяца назад +1

    Edward De Bono

  • Jorge Bustamante
    Jorge Bustamante 2 месяца назад

    This is one of the best, if not the best TED talk I have seen. Very simple , but profound ...Direct to the Heart !!! Thanks wise lady :0)

  • Vartan Nechanian
    Vartan Nechanian 2 месяца назад

    Amazing speech

  • Azirah's Awakening
    Azirah's Awakening 2 месяца назад

    I love all these people!

  • Kaustubh jumle
    Kaustubh jumle 2 месяца назад

    beautiful 😊👍

  • Katie Hmwe
    Katie Hmwe 2 месяца назад +1

    I wish I could have listened this talk earlier as I am a kind of person who is quick to get angry first sitting on the red chair to attk and on yellow turning judgment to myself. Ok now I am gonna sit on 3rd Chair to observe myself, 4th being assertive, standing my ground and last putting myself in there shoes to communicate effectively. Hope nothing is too late than never. Thanks so much Louise, u shed the light on my darkness. Merry Christmas and God bless u.

  • Abhilash Velayudhan
    Abhilash Velayudhan 2 месяца назад