Learning to Love Yourself | Amanda Jetté Knox | TEDxYouth@Nepean
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- Published on Aug 2, 2017
- In this TEDx Talk, Amanda shares her inspiring journey of self love and acceptance through personal stories which are sure to capture any audience.
Amanda Jetté Knox is an award-winning writer, human rights advocate and speaker.
The mother of three believes passionately in equality for all, and that acceptance and compassion for ourselves brings acceptance and compassion for others. Her writing has been featured on Upworthy, Buzzfeed, CBC, the Globe and Mail, and various other national and international outlets. Amanda lives in Ottawa, Canada, with her wife, daughter, two sons, and a coffee maker that never quits. She regularly blogs on her personal site, themavenofmayhem.com.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
I really wish I knew where to begin
I don't get it. I believe I can love and appreciate and care for others but I don't understand how to apply it on myself. There is nothing I like about myself.
Sorry about your psst but the bible says why gain the world and loose your soul. Draw close to Jesus
What if u don’t like your self because of what u did to yourself
I never knew my mother
WTF? This is the worst self help video of all time.
Should I love myself if I'm a horrible person?
Blackthorn yes if u try to change and be a good one
Moral of this video: have a kid if you want to love yourself
BTS brought me here
Babylon!
Idk how old this video is, but last year, I started to try and love myself and it's been hard, but at least I'm trying. This video helps, so thank you for uploading it. -I
This is so brave and amazing. Thank you!!
the camera guy sucks
Thanks Amanda :)
Thanks for sharing your story. I really enjoyed your presentation. But the amount of time spent on telling your story was way more than the part you learnt to love yourself. Thanks again
What a beautiful person to share such a difficult story! U r such an inspiration! Hugs to u And give your daughter the biggest hug! ❤️ Good luck to u both! I know u found the key is loving yourself because u just glow!!!!! U look fantastic!!!!! Hope I can learn from u! Thank u!!!
Amen to this. Trying to work on myself and love myself because no one will love me quite like me.
What a lovely lady she is
I think my self esteem was always messed up since a child my mother would always chose her boyfriend and as I got older men always chose other women... I’m glad I’m realizing this .. I’m sorry if I’m over sharing but we can definitely all face our shadows in life it’s all about confronting them
Thank you
I needed this. Thank you
Thank you very much for sharing this with us.
6 month old baby wouldn’t even no, would they?
Your dress looks beautiful on you x
Thank you Amanda for your empowering message.
What ever👎🏼
I started to think of myself as my own son and what I would push my son to do or learn if I were my own kid.
Oh you sad thing, i like that your fight is going for better, and check vipassana meditation if you really looking to get deeper involved in learning to love yourself, thats next level babe 😘
This was so great! Really touching. This is such a great example of how loving others uncoditionally and seeing their lack of self-love and self-acceptance can break us out of our preconceptions of our own unworthiness.
Who is doubting if she's related to Amanda Knox ( Netflix doc)
I'm so sorry kids treated u like that and those girls who put u on fire should be in jail!
I made a video on this nonsense..
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You are beautiful. Thanks for the advice. I'm learning to love the little monster in me.
I want a friend I can hold hands with down the street and still have a platonic relationship with her.
I hope she pressed criminal charges to those who set her on fire 😡
Such beautiful words. Thank you for sharing your precious experiences with us!
This was too short.
She broke my heart
Well good luck with that :/
Honestly! Some people don't have any redeemable qualities. Namingly all the people who did this to you....and yet they probably love themselves......sad
Thank you to everyone who is willing to love them selves no matter what, because if you love yourself love follows you everywhere you go
Listening to this in valentines
What a fantastic Tedx Talk! Amanda, I think that you have hit the nail on the head with so many issues we all tend to have with ourselves and some stage in our lives. I hope you beautiful daughter is doing well and loving her life. Thank you.
Is someone playing ping pong in the background? 🤦🏻♀️ The sound is super distracting.
No, they're washing dishes. 😁😁😁
I love this video. It made me cry. Your story is very similar to mine. Thank you for sharing it.
Who's in the background making all that ruckus? RUDE!
Sounds like they’re playing table tennis lol, I had to tune it out
My God what a brave strong incredible woman!! I'm on the journey of loving myself. Thanks for this!!
i didn't see HOW you became to love yourself. you just talk like "this happened to me, this happened to me, i did this, i did this"
OMG, this is like "Carrie."
Its beautiful that you realized you needed to see your own worth in order to show your daughter how to love herself. Growing confidence is harder than it seems and it is pure love to share that with someone else. Thanks for your story. All the love in the world to you and your family. xo
McKenzie West I love you
Really needed to hear this. Thank you so much for sharing your story.
One of the best TED talks I've ever seen!
Thank you Amanda. God bless u
TED, why would I take advice from a child abuser? She says to love yourself, yet proceeds to tell her child to change themselves against their true biology....? Her whole message is confused. So is it change your self until you love yourself or love yourself even with your flaws?
@Sheila May How is trans different? Its a body dysphoria, just like thinking that you're the wrong body shape, or skin colour. Just because its about gender, doesnt mean its different.
To love yourself and accept. However trans is completely different then getting a nose job.
To have a mother lovingly accept her daughter as she feels inside is love. It is not a superficial, '" I just want to look like this" type of mentality.
It makes me smile to see that people are actually trying to love themselves because when you set a goal to do something and try to do it than you can surely achieve it. Sitting their and complaining that you already tried to love yourself isnt gonna do you any better. Hard work pays off and if you want to love yourself than you have to try and dont give up.
I went through the same I really hated myself. I slowly but surely started to love myself and to this day, im still learning but I can tell you that I am much better than before. If I learned how to love myself than I am 100% sure you can too.
You are beautiful the way you are and you shouldnt change yourself for anything, love yourself.
You know why you're obsesses about loving yourself? Because you know your lifestyle is intrinsically screwed up and need to apply some kind of balm to justify it. LMAO.
Thomas McGill If you had self-confidence, nothing that anyone does with their life would bother you.
All the sounds ughhh!!! Stop moving ffs its so distracting whoever u are. Rusty school desk whatever that is!
I'm ok with myself but I'm disappointed that I'm lazy and don't care to interact with people because they might want to go somewhere and do something and I enjoy doing nothing, in fact I very much love doing nothing and being by myself.
See here, you just interacted with a person & I didn't ask you go anywhere. Older people enjoy sitting & talking & do tend to resist going out. Maybe you have an old soul. Or things you need to talk about & work out before you feel more comfortable out.
I am a trans boi, and I just hate myself. Before realizing I was trans and even more so after. I got a haircut but, I still look like a girl. I hate myself so much and I just want to die. I’m not going to do anything with my life and I will never have a happy life. I hate everyone and everything. I just want to die.
Are you okay? I know it's tough right now but don't give up
TED, why would I take advice from a child abuser? She says to love yourself, yet proceeds to tell her child to change themselves against their true biology....? Her whole message is confused. So is it change your self until you love yourself or love yourself even with your flaws?
You should be proud of yourself Amanda, and you’ve inspired me to do the same. Thanks!
What is that noise in the back? It's there someone building something?
What a tragic story of life until she was 37. I wish l could have been a friend to her. What a beautiful, confident woman she is. 💗💕🌸
Bet she loves herself - those should lose weight heading for heart attack
Setting someone on fire? Really?
I love every single moment of this speech I love her a lot.
I’m so proud of you I’m in tears
The ultimate NEVER HAPPENED story!
I feel like this all the time. I don't buy stuff to myself, or i feel guilty if i do, because i feel like i don't deserve it. I feel that i'm being selfish and i should stop. I have few friends at school but they are all transferring to another school next year. I don't know what i'll do. I'll be all alone. I get anxiety attacks and regret everything i say. I came here searching help, and stumbled across to this. It was helpful, very important message. But even after this if i try to think differently, i feel like lying and it feels worse. I'm really lost.
You have to practice self love... reprogramm your mind. Write down some positive affirmations and read them daily few times a day. In 21-30 days you ll be another person! You can do this!
I love myself. Even if I look like a *burnt chicken nugget* I still love myself
Lol
I love this!
yo i'm balling my eyes out watching this
I feel like it would be better if we were all the same. Why do some people want to be different ? There aren't any pros of being different than everybody
Believe me when I say I used to think like that. But i realized that if we were all the same life would be boring. Everyone would have the same interests, same thoughts, same lifestyle. Imagine living in a neighborhood where everyone looked and acted the same. We need difference to make life intresting, that's why opposites attract. Having someone who acted just like you would easily become predictable and boring.
Thank you for posting this talk. I hear ones like this often but have a hard time relating to someone's story. However, I relate to yours in many ways. If you can do it, then there is a lot of hope for me. I am 25 and finally realizing that everything that I have gone through, is not my fault...which is really hard to accept but I know that when I fully accept that, it will set me free. I have a lot of work to do. Thanks for helping me along the way. This is the first thing I woke up to this morning.
8:25 it gets better!
This video came to my life the moment i really needed it ❤️ thank you!
Emily Gasparova I’m in your life at a good time too
She used the word " I " many times in her talk. Sounded depressed.
Exactly!
TED, why would I take advice from a child abuser? She says to love yourself, yet proceeds to tell her child to change themselves against their true biology....? Her whole message is confused. So is it change your self until you love yourself or love yourself even with your flaws?
Thank you for sharing, Amanda.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’ve been feeling insecure and have forgotten to love myself in all ways that I am. Beautiful message. Thank you so much.
Disappointed. I thought they were gonna learn the lyrics to "Love Yourself" from Justin Bieber. 0/10
You know you hate yourself as much as I do.
What’s with the pots n pans smacking around. Nice lady and speech
I too have experienced many of the same things (other than being set on fire, that's horrible. I'm sorry you had to go thru that) I trying to learn how to live myself at 37. Unfortunately I really have no idea what love feels like. So i'm guessing.
It can be simple kind gestures too your self if you have ig follow @mentalemotionalwellness
Everyone should hear about this
Beautiful message. God bless you
love yourself
love myself
peace
_BTS
11:00 we dont meet it, but we dont need it ;)))))))) (it rhymes hehe)
You are a huge inspiration! Thanks :)
I feel like I'm bullshiting myself when I try to tell myself something positive about me.
Apple Goblin so trueeee omg
OMG SAME
@orange70383 it's just rewiring the way you think people who love themselves talk to themselves in that way we've just developed an unhealthy relationship with ourselves. it feels foreign to start with but it's just rewiring the way we think about ourselves
I feel like a narcissistic when i even 'like' myself
If you love yourself, do you have to be happy all the time?
Rin Shizuka no
I dont think so, I think loving yourself would be giving your feelings validation and showing some compassion as you would for somone else. I think its unrealistic to be happy all the time
Thank you for sharing your story with me today..
Really nice message. But can that someone please sit still
so sad let me know tell you so sad
I really relate to her experience. Unfortunately I still haven't figured out how to love myself even though lord knows I've tried.
Michael Collier why is anyone else more lovable than you? We start out the same, born as human babies so why can’t we achieve the same? We deserve just as much as anyone else LOVE, RESPECT, and HOPE
The bullying sounds similar to my story
Go listen to “love myself” by BTS, you’ll love yourself after that I swear to god
wow I really needed this
What a terrible beginning to life you had, but I’m so glad you have managed to turn things around for you and your daughter. God bless
So how is loving yourself different then narcissism?
Narcissists look down upon others
J O-T well a quick google search came up with the opposite definition here is my copy and paste “a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves.”
Narcissists hate themselves and make their immediate comfort their no.1 issue
Maryana Nava that’s the dream, but in reality this goal is never reached. Self absorption is directly related to depression, selflessness leads to happiness, and anyone can start living selflessly right away and feel the happiness, anytime you do something for someone else you immediately feel happy, it’s not so complicated
Narcissism is beyond self love. Self love is knowing your worth and knowing what you deserve. Narcissism is being self absorbed and only caring about yourself and not others feeling cause you’re the “best”
im telling you kids and teens can be cruel to each other too
skip to 7:10
you are welcome
Why is this comment so far down the comment section, I had to scroll back to like
but it's actually 10:40
Thanks
Wow. I’m speechless. This was nothing less than amazing.
loving yourself is giving yourself the best treatment ever and achieving our own goal what we want with all of our might.