Learning to Love Yourself | Amanda Jetté Knox | TEDxYouth@Nepean

  • Опубликовано: 2 авг 2017
  • In this TEDx Talk, Amanda shares her inspiring journey of self love and acceptance through personal stories which are sure to capture any audience.
    Amanda Jetté Knox is an award-winning writer, human rights advocate and speaker.
    The mother of three believes passionately in equality for all, and that acceptance and compassion for ourselves brings acceptance and compassion for others. Her writing has been featured on Upworthy, Buzzfeed, CBC, the Globe and Mail, and various other national and international outlets. Amanda lives in Ottawa, Canada, with her wife, daughter, two sons, and a coffee maker that never quits. She regularly blogs on her personal site, themavenofmayhem.com.
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

Комментарии • 131

  • Sandy M
    Sandy M 4 дня назад +1

    Listening to this in valentines

  • Carly Erasmus
    Carly Erasmus 5 дней назад

    What a fantastic Tedx Talk! Amanda, I think that you have hit the nail on the head with so many issues we all tend to have with ourselves and some stage in our lives. I hope you beautiful daughter is doing well and loving her life. Thank you.

  • Laney Sweet
    Laney Sweet 6 дней назад

    Is someone playing ping pong in the background? 🤦🏻‍♀️ The sound is super distracting.

  • Christy Cavacos
    Christy Cavacos 7 дней назад

    I love this video. It made me cry. Your story is very similar to mine. Thank you for sharing it.

  • Nikki Knak
    Nikki Knak 10 дней назад

    Who's in the background making all that ruckus? RUDE!

  • cyndi2379
    cyndi2379 12 дней назад

    My God what a brave strong incredible woman!! I'm on the journey of loving myself. Thanks for this!!

  • Winona Daphne
    Winona Daphne 13 дней назад

    i didn't see HOW you became to love yourself. you just talk like "this happened to me, this happened to me, i did this, i did this"

  • Warren Moore
    Warren Moore 14 дней назад

    OMG, this is like "Carrie."

  • McKenzie West
    McKenzie West 14 дней назад

    Its beautiful that you realized you needed to see your own worth in order to show your daughter how to love herself. Growing confidence is harder than it seems and it is pure love to share that with someone else. Thanks for your story. All the love in the world to you and your family. xo

  • Joshua Kim
    Joshua Kim 15 дней назад

    Really needed to hear this. Thank you so much for sharing your story.

  • Kate Mokhovikova
    Kate Mokhovikova 15 дней назад

    One of the best TED talks I've ever seen!

  • Shaun Naruto
    Shaun Naruto 24 дня назад

    Thank you Amanda. God bless u

  • Chiz KNows dA biz yeet
    Chiz KNows dA biz yeet 27 дней назад +1

    TED, why would I take advice from a child abuser? She says to love yourself, yet proceeds to tell her child to change themselves against their true biology....? Her whole message is confused. So is it change your self until you love yourself or love yourself even with your flaws?

    • Chiz KNows dA biz yeet
      Chiz KNows dA biz yeet 26 дней назад

      +Sheila May How is trans different? Its a body dysphoria, just like thinking that you're the wrong body shape, or skin colour. Just because its about gender, doesnt mean its different.

    • Sheila May
      Sheila May 27 дней назад

      To love yourself and accept. However trans is completely different then getting a nose job.
      To have a mother lovingly accept her daughter as she feels inside is love. It is not a superficial, '" I just want to look like this" type of mentality.

  • J - Hoseok
    J - Hoseok 29 дней назад

    It makes me smile to see that people are actually trying to love themselves because when you set a goal to do something and try to do it than you can surely achieve it. Sitting their and complaining that you already tried to love yourself isnt gonna do you any better. Hard work pays off and if you want to love yourself than you have to try and dont give up.
    I went through the same I really hated myself. I slowly but surely started to love myself and to this day, im still learning but I can tell you that I am much better than before. If I learned how to love myself than I am 100% sure you can too.

    You are beautiful the way you are and you shouldnt change yourself for anything, love yourself.

  • Thomas McGill
    Thomas McGill Месяц назад

    You know why you're obsesses about loving yourself? Because you know your lifestyle is intrinsically screwed up and need to apply some kind of balm to justify it. LMAO.

  • Never Beaten
    Never Beaten Месяц назад

    All the sounds ughhh!!! Stop moving ffs its so distracting whoever u are. Rusty school desk whatever that is!

  • orange70383
    orange70383 Месяц назад +1

    I'm ok with myself but I'm disappointed that I'm lazy and don't care to interact with people because they might want to go somewhere and do something and I enjoy doing nothing, in fact I very much love doing nothing and being by myself.

  • Evilkitty
    Evilkitty Месяц назад

    I am a trans boi, and I just hate myself. Before realizing I was trans and even more so after. I got a haircut but, I still look like a girl. I hate myself so much and I just want to die. I’m not going to do anything with my life and I will never have a happy life. I hate everyone and everything. I just want to die.

    • Jennifer Lee
      Jennifer Lee 13 дней назад

      Are you okay? I know it's tough right now but don't give up

    • Chiz KNows dA biz yeet
      Chiz KNows dA biz yeet 27 дней назад

      TED, why would I take advice from a child abuser? She says to love yourself, yet proceeds to tell her child to change themselves against their true biology....? Her whole message is confused. So is it change your self until you love yourself or love yourself even with your flaws?

  • J
    J Месяц назад

    You should be proud of yourself Amanda, and you’ve inspired me to do the same. Thanks!

  • Lourdes Medina
    Lourdes Medina Месяц назад +3

    What is that noise in the back? It's there someone building something?

  • The Freedom Project
    The Freedom Project Месяц назад +13

    What a tragic story of life until she was 37. I wish l could have been a friend to her. What a beautiful, confident woman she is. 💗💕🌸

  • Steve Simkins
    Steve Simkins Месяц назад

    Bet she loves herself - those should lose weight heading for heart attack

  • Rayanna Johnson
    Rayanna Johnson 2 месяца назад

    Setting someone on fire? Really?

  • Big Kin
    Big Kin 2 месяца назад +3

    I love every single moment of this speech I love her a lot.

  • Endera Stern
    Endera Stern 2 месяца назад +1

    I’m so proud of you I’m in tears

  • KeithoW
    KeithoW 2 месяца назад

    The ultimate NEVER HAPPENED story!

  • raincoat •
    raincoat • 2 месяца назад +6

    I feel like this all the time. I don't buy stuff to myself, or i feel guilty if i do, because i feel like i don't deserve it. I feel that i'm being selfish and i should stop. I have few friends at school but they are all transferring to another school next year. I don't know what i'll do. I'll be all alone. I get anxiety attacks and regret everything i say. I came here searching help, and stumbled across to this. It was helpful, very important message. But even after this if i try to think differently, i feel like lying and it feels worse. I'm really lost.

  • Alex's Animals
    Alex's Animals 2 месяца назад +108

    I love myself. Even if I look like a *burnt chicken nugget* I still love myself

  • misshellokittynerd
    misshellokittynerd 2 месяца назад +1

    I love this!

  • Olive Carrick
    Olive Carrick 3 месяца назад +1

    yo i'm balling my eyes out watching this

  • Iris's Subiminals Resuts
    Iris's Subiminals Resuts 3 месяца назад

    I feel like it would be better if we were all the same. Why do some people want to be different ? There aren't any pros of being different than everybody

    • Sketch Love
      Sketch Love 2 месяца назад

      Believe me when I say I used to think like that. But i realized that if we were all the same life would be boring. Everyone would have the same interests, same thoughts, same lifestyle. Imagine living in a neighborhood where everyone looked and acted the same. We need difference to make life intresting, that's why opposites attract. Having someone who acted just like you would easily become predictable and boring.

  • Felicity Jones
    Felicity Jones 3 месяца назад +1

    Thank you for posting this talk. I hear ones like this often but have a hard time relating to someone's story. However, I relate to yours in many ways. If you can do it, then there is a lot of hope for me. I am 25 and finally realizing that everything that I have gone through, is not my fault...which is really hard to accept but I know that when I fully accept that, it will set me free. I have a lot of work to do. Thanks for helping me along the way. This is the first thing I woke up to this morning.

  • Raven I
    Raven I 3 месяца назад

    8:25 it gets better!

  • Emily Gasparova
    Emily Gasparova 3 месяца назад +2

    This video came to my life the moment i really needed it ❤️ thank you!

  • benny tam
    benny tam 4 месяца назад +1

    She used the word " I " many times in her talk. Sounded depressed.

    • Chiz KNows dA biz yeet
      Chiz KNows dA biz yeet 27 дней назад

      TED, why would I take advice from a child abuser? She says to love yourself, yet proceeds to tell her child to change themselves against their true biology....? Her whole message is confused. So is it change your self until you love yourself or love yourself even with your flaws?

  • Matt M
    Matt M 4 месяца назад

    Thank you for sharing, Amanda.

  • Germaine Ir
    Germaine Ir 4 месяца назад +1

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’ve been feeling insecure and have forgotten to love myself in all ways that I am. Beautiful message. Thank you so much.

  • Atomics
    Atomics 4 месяца назад +2

    Disappointed. I thought they were gonna learn the lyrics to "Love Yourself" from Justin Bieber. 0/10

    • Sourclout
      Sourclout 3 месяца назад +3

      You know you hate yourself as much as I do.

  • shizzle1975
    shizzle1975 4 месяца назад +2

    What’s with the pots n pans smacking around. Nice lady and speech

  • candice griffith
    candice griffith 4 месяца назад +2

    I too have experienced many of the same things (other than being set on fire, that's horrible. I'm sorry you had to go thru that) I trying to learn how to live myself at 37. Unfortunately I really have no idea what love feels like. So i'm guessing.

    • Lilly Grier
      Lilly Grier Месяц назад

      It can be simple kind gestures too your self if you have ig follow @mentalemotionalwellness

  • The Park
    The Park 4 месяца назад

    Everyone should hear about this

  • Rachael Rios
    Rachael Rios 5 месяцев назад

    Beautiful message. God bless you

  • Raha Rahgozar
    Raha Rahgozar 5 месяцев назад +1

    love yourself
    love myself

  • keroppi
    keroppi 5 месяцев назад

    11:00 we dont meet it, but we dont need it ;)))))))) (it rhymes hehe)

  • Ole K Engeland Sjursen
    Ole K Engeland Sjursen 5 месяцев назад

    You are a huge inspiration! Thanks :)

  • Wubba Lubba Dub Dub Pickle Rick
    Wubba Lubba Dub Dub Pickle Rick 5 месяцев назад +198

    I feel like I'm bullshiting myself when I try to tell myself something positive about me.

    • Apple Goblin
      Apple Goblin Месяц назад +1

      +orange70383 true...but it's beneficial brainwashing. Besides, someone or something brainwashed you to despise yourself in the first place if you cant tell yourself one positive thing and believe it...

    • orange70383
      orange70383 Месяц назад

      +RandomTran That's brainwashing yourself.

    • Shurry Ma
      Shurry Ma 2 месяца назад

      Fake it till you make it.

    • Xxqueen o f starbucksxX
      Xxqueen o f starbucksxX 2 месяца назад


  • Rin Shizuka
    Rin Shizuka 5 месяцев назад +4

    If you love yourself, do you have to be happy all the time?

    • Sheila May
      Sheila May 27 дней назад +3

      I dont think so, I think loving yourself would be giving your feelings validation and showing some compassion as you would for somone else. I think its unrealistic to be happy all the time

  • MsDee2 you
    MsDee2 you 5 месяцев назад

    Thank you for sharing your story with me today..

  • Justifyed Mattitude
    Justifyed Mattitude 5 месяцев назад +1

    I have been arguing with this woman on Twitter for several days. My conclusion: she is human and is respectful. Just like most people.

  • Ilse
    Ilse 5 месяцев назад +8

    Really nice message. But can that someone please sit still

  • The Rich Finaldi Paradigm Life Perspective
    The Rich Finaldi Paradigm Life Perspective 5 месяцев назад

    so sad let me know tell you so sad

  • Michael Collier
    Michael Collier 5 месяцев назад +3

    I really relate to her experience. Unfortunately I still haven't figured out how to love myself even though lord knows I've tried.

  • ANGEL Moore
    ANGEL Moore 5 месяцев назад +3

    The bullying sounds similar to my story

  • Kuc Duc
    Kuc Duc 5 месяцев назад +1

    Go listen to “love myself” by BTS, you’ll love yourself after that I swear to god

  • Itzamet Rodriguez
    Itzamet Rodriguez 6 месяцев назад

    wow I really needed this

  • thephilosopherslegacy
    thephilosopherslegacy 6 месяцев назад +17

    What a terrible beginning to life you had, but I’m so glad you have managed to turn things around for you and your daughter. God bless

  • Yoga Philosophy Club
    Yoga Philosophy Club 6 месяцев назад +4

    So how is loving yourself different then narcissism?

    • ravenfirepheonix
      ravenfirepheonix 2 месяца назад

      Narcissists look down upon others

    • Yoga Philosophy Club
      Yoga Philosophy Club 3 месяца назад

      J O-T well a quick google search came up with the opposite definition here is my copy and paste “a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves.”

    • J O-T
      J O-T 3 месяца назад

      Narcissists hate themselves and make their immediate comfort their no.1 issue

    • Yoga Philosophy Club
      Yoga Philosophy Club 3 месяца назад

      Maryana Nava that’s the dream, but in reality this goal is never reached. Self absorption is directly related to depression, selflessness leads to happiness, and anyone can start living selflessly right away and feel the happiness, anytime you do something for someone else you immediately feel happy, it’s not so complicated

    • Sameera Williams
      Sameera Williams 4 месяца назад +6

      Narcissism is beyond self love. Self love is knowing your worth and knowing what you deserve. Narcissism is being self absorbed and only caring about yourself and not others feeling cause you’re the “best”

  • Desmora Aromsed
    Desmora Aromsed 6 месяцев назад +1

    im telling you kids and teens can be cruel to each other too

  • ZFofficeonly
    ZFofficeonly 6 месяцев назад +34

    skip to 7:10
    you are welcome

  • Gifty Kargbo
    Gifty Kargbo 6 месяцев назад +3

    Wow. I’m speechless. This was nothing less than amazing.

  • That LuckyGuy
    That LuckyGuy 6 месяцев назад +7

    loving yourself is giving yourself the best treatment ever and achieving our own goal what we want with all of our might.

  • Twerking Penguins
    Twerking Penguins 6 месяцев назад +6

    I was breaking down earlier. And i found this video. Thank you so much.

  • Esther Volina
    Esther Volina 6 месяцев назад +1

    Thanks for hanging in there and surviving.

  • Andre King
    Andre King 7 месяцев назад +6

    Maybe your son believes he is a girl because he was raised by two women

    • Teigan Noble
      Teigan Noble 14 дней назад

      Your argument is incredibly flawed. Would you still argue this if it was a single mother raising both a daughter and a son and the son came out as trans?

  • troy sigurd
    troy sigurd 7 месяцев назад +4

    People are weak

    • Hunter Nix
      Hunter Nix 2 месяца назад +3

      Please don't leave comments like this. Why would you say something like that when someone here could be struggling or suffering? It is not nice.

    • ANGEL Moore
      ANGEL Moore 5 месяцев назад +4

      You're talking about yourself right?

  • Tibet Eristi
    Tibet Eristi 7 месяцев назад +1

    That.... Was beautiful

  • Gabriel Saenz
    Gabriel Saenz 7 месяцев назад +3

    This is wonderful. Thank you so much. This helped me out sooo much.

  • NoémiNumszky
    NoémiNumszky 7 месяцев назад +5

    Thank you Amanda 💚💗💚
    ( Also don't listen to this while doing your makeup, your tears will ruin it. )

  • Julia Lee
    Julia Lee 7 месяцев назад +4

    Thanks for the message, this is exactly what I need right now x

  • John Hoffmann
    John Hoffmann 8 месяцев назад +1

    Your story was inspirational. Thank you for sharing!!!

  • enz librad
    enz librad 9 месяцев назад +27

    I am like that too. I avoid mirrors and after my heart got broken. I started going to gym

    • Emma HunTN
      Emma HunTN 7 месяцев назад +4

      enz librad You're unique and beautiful just the way you are. I know this sounds cheesy but it's true, the person who cares how you look isn't worth your time. Your personality is what makes you awesome.

  • Chr Tatti
    Chr Tatti 9 месяцев назад +13

    Everybody's journey is unique and their own 🙏

  • sam obsessed
    sam obsessed 9 месяцев назад


  • sonu singh
    sonu singh 10 месяцев назад +81

    This is very important Ted talk. I recommend it to everyone. If you don't love yourself consciously, then you subconsciously start taking decision to self harm yourself even without knowing it. I have been there and can totally understand.

  • Aussie Picker No BS
    Aussie Picker No BS 10 месяцев назад +12

    you are such a beautiful person..

  • Cheri Allen
    Cheri Allen 11 месяцев назад +85

    wish someone would have taught me this.... for so many years. better late then never, ever!

  • TB
    TB 11 месяцев назад

    Thank you for your story

  • Marcel Godfrey
    Marcel Godfrey 11 месяцев назад +3

    Wow thank you for sharing your story with us. I can relate nice to know I was never along. xx

  • bm9599
    bm9599 11 месяцев назад +32

    You're the most strong woman I've ever met!
    You've overcome many bad experiences I could not even imagine...
    This is a real beautiful speech! Love you!

  • Rachel Hearne
    Rachel Hearne Год назад +68

    Amazing story, you've overcome so much. Finding self love is a real struggle, thanks for sharing your story

  • Phillip Galloway
    Phillip Galloway Год назад +22

    It breaks my heart to see so many people supporting transition of those with gender identity disorder. GID exists only in the mind. Stop treating the body for a problem that is not related to the body. Treat the mind. i myself have struggled with GID. It is something that can be beaten. With meditation, visualization, and self hypnosis a person can rewire their brain and change the way they live.
    Stop abusing the mentally ill!!

    • Chiz KNows dA biz yeet
      Chiz KNows dA biz yeet 27 дней назад

      TED, why would I take advice from a child abuser? She says to love yourself, yet proceeds to tell her child to change themselves against their true biology....? Her whole message is confused. So is it change your self until you love yourself or love yourself even with your flaws?

    • Tamia Jackson
      Tamia Jackson 5 месяцев назад

      VeenaShnitzle seriously..................? If you have kids I wonder how you would feel if someone takes them away from you just like you suggested here, on whatever basis, that they don't agree on, steups as if you are the most perfect person or parent IF you are one...be careful with your words....

    • VeenaShnitzle
      VeenaShnitzle 6 месяцев назад +4

      I can't imagine being so hellbent on virtue signalling to mutilate your own mentally ill child. I keep hearing these stories of "morally righteous" parents doing this to their teenage (and even younger) children. Kids don't know who they are yet, they're KIDS. Their favorite color changes week to week.
      These people ought to be separated from their kids on grounds of child abuse.

  • Bass Rid3r
    Bass Rid3r Год назад +5

    Waddup mom

  • Zxios
    Zxios Год назад +202

    Oh hey, Mom.

    • food is life
      food is life 4 дня назад

      Is she really ur mom

    • Mayank Sharma
      Mayank Sharma 7 дней назад

      Your mom .... She is very strong. Keep loving her

    • Hunter Nix
      Hunter Nix 2 месяца назад

      I just got diagnosed with bi-polar disorder and always disliked myself and who I am. Your mom's speech is very true to heart and uplifting.

    • Flavia Gutierrez
      Flavia Gutierrez 5 месяцев назад

      Zxios you rock lady!

    • Jason Hurley
      Jason Hurley 10 месяцев назад

      Zxios and Amanda.

  • Emma Bergelv
    Emma Bergelv Год назад +20

    Sending all my love to you and your daughter, you truly inspire:)

  • Western Goddess
    Western Goddess Год назад +179

    100% agree - Loving ourselves is the foundation to EVERYTHING that we achieve.

  • Musfica Murshid Opshori
    Musfica Murshid Opshori Год назад

    I am eagerly waiting to see a video on Artificial Intelligence. As it's my research interest so now waiting to know more about the recent occurrence. A news is spreading that FB shut down AI !

  • Wild Tribe
    Wild Tribe Год назад +6

    Beautiful speech. Much love.

  • maisara alokbe
    maisara alokbe Год назад +11

    Wow , u have to be so courageous to talk about such stuff , hopefully it will help me too

  • The Hustlers
    The Hustlers Год назад +42

    One of the purest form of love is to always Love yourself❤️

    • Crypto Pirate
      Crypto Pirate 21 день назад

      But how does one love oneself?

    • Wild Tribe
      Wild Tribe Год назад +1

      I couldn't agree more. (: