How to find the right partner | Tony Verheij | TEDxTwenteU

  • Опубликовано: 5 ноя 2013
  • This man can tell you anything about making big money with less effort, but he also has a very interesting story about true love. And it is this love-story that will inspire you in this talk. Listen to his talk and learn the secrets of how to find the right partner, right now!
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Комментарии • 782

  • besiana mani
    besiana mani 2 дня назад

    So refreshing to hear his talk. Great topic and message with such raw authenticity, rare to find.

    GERMAN ORDOÑEZ 18 дней назад

    With big p...p...p...potential, jajajajajaja !

  • Rosemary Benitez
    Rosemary Benitez 22 дня назад

    💛 amazing

  • Sara S.
    Sara S. 25 дней назад

    To be honest, this is the most interesting presentation i've seen. It was so wrong but it seemed to flow so well, that got me thinking that he maybe wanted it to be like this, ending with "if you open your true self, people will love you" and he opened himself and his stage fright and now our emotions have intensified towards him! Brilliant ! Takes regular presentations to a different level.

  • aina may
    aina may 29 дней назад

    That is ulfo

  • Batool
    Batool Месяц назад

    is this ted talk or fart talk?

  • ade. WA
    ade. WA Месяц назад

    Waste of 4 minutes

  • hossein abdolmotalebi
    hossein abdolmotalebi Месяц назад

    It is not so hard to have a note with you , you know

  • Dylan De Loe
    Dylan De Loe Месяц назад

    This was a bad presentation. Not for his skills as a speaker, but for how vague and misleading the conclusion is. "If you want to touch a woman, you have to touch her heart. If you want to touch a man's heart, you must touch him," is a massive overgeneralization. Some people don't want to touch or be touched, sometimes they want to be heard, or be helped, or to spend quality time with someone. The conclusion also betrays what came before it, about taking off our masks and showing who you really are. That point is also mostly vague, but not helpful as well. If you're messy by nature(like me), maybe you DO need to clean before your lover gets home. Build habits of personal growth, go beyond your limits, change bad behaviors into good ones. Be honest that you struggle with something, but don't stop working at it.

  • Troja Sin
    Troja Sin 2 месяца назад

    grt msge frm his gesture

  • Sanjay Dabholkar
    Sanjay Dabholkar 2 месяца назад

    This was really funny 😅
    I loved his presentation.. felt real

  • Bas •
    Bas • 2 месяца назад

    This reflex very much of myself especially my personality and my presentation that I recall. And I'll tell you now that the thing is I, or we, may not do very well to memorise the whole thing and perform on that basis, but I do much better in expressing myself though, indeed, I'm nervous as much whether if I'd be able to communicate or not. Anyway I agreed on this short and remarkable speech. I now sending my love. God bless.

  • Mansi patel
    Mansi patel 3 месяца назад

    Stop sending hate to him he's trying his best to talk it's his 2nd one chill and he has a good messages

  • chonita bonita
    chonita bonita 3 месяца назад

    A very sincere and touching talk. I enjoyed it.

  • Omansh Kumar
    Omansh Kumar 3 месяца назад

    Bakwaas hai

  • Judit Dirda
    Judit Dirda 3 месяца назад


  • nouran samy
    nouran samy 4 месяца назад

    I got impressed by this man ,his authentic speech deliverd all what he asked for, to be yourself to have enough courage to show your flaws and confess your faults as if this is the last time to talk about yourself, so you need to be wholeheartedly honest about who you are ..the biggest life challenge ever foe all of us to be ourselves .

  • Kostas stv
    Kostas stv 4 месяца назад

    One of the most boring speeches in TEDx.

  • Lana Schott
    Lana Schott 4 месяца назад

    He was sincere and genuine I don’t think American men know how to be like this.. it could be a European thing... I opened my heart to someone I fell in love with too quickly I couldn’t contain my emotions and it scared me because I have never been like that But he ran away afraid of his emotions so I guess on the end it wasn’t meant to be. Being a Sagittarius I am emotional but at my age I’ve learned to tamper it but not in this situation which ended in heart break 💜😔

  • Jon Aedyn King
    Jon Aedyn King 5 месяцев назад

    might be the most heteronormative tedtalk I've ever come across

  • Kris S
    Kris S 5 месяцев назад

    I like the message but I hate that it’s very hetero-focused

  • Crystal Marie
    Crystal Marie 6 месяцев назад +2

    7 minutes of my life I'll never get back.

  • Jupiter Astronaut
    Jupiter Astronaut 6 месяцев назад

    I wish he could get a second chance to make his message clearer

  • Marwa Radee
    Marwa Radee 6 месяцев назад

    so sweet

  • varq j
    varq j 6 месяцев назад

    I salute ur courage .I do also have stage aint easy to stand in front of people and share what u want to share....thank u for sharin ur wisdom about this talk...

  • Amira Akmal
    Amira Akmal 7 месяцев назад

    Thank you so much for the efforts I enjoyed your talk

  • Mr. Perfact.
    Mr. Perfact. 7 месяцев назад

    Looking partner PM please.!

  • Gidda Eliasel
    Gidda Eliasel 7 месяцев назад


    THE HIGHLY SENSITIVE NURSE 7 месяцев назад

    I see both sides, the title is misleading. Yes the man is nervous and trying his best, however there were times my mind blanked out while watching this because, I didn’t know where he was going with his speech. People who probably clicked on the video, maybe are looking for more direct advice. That might be why, there are not so many kind comments. At the end of the day, it’s not his daughter. It’s whoever decided to title this video and post it for all to see.

  • Niva Ruvio
    Niva Ruvio 7 месяцев назад

    Thank you

  • Yeon-Sil Yi
    Yeon-Sil Yi 8 месяцев назад

    Thank you Tony for sharing wonderful insight! Your message is so simple and no-brainer but we do get along with our daily lives not aware of that powerful message. Thank you for reminding me and presenting me in a clear and concise manner. I really appreciate it!

  • Céu Lopes
    Céu Lopes 8 месяцев назад

    Verheij is a Dutch name. He is our Dutch Pride....! Tony's performance is very good! Hugs from Holland!

  • Ali ŞEN
    Ali ŞEN 8 месяцев назад

    worst talk ever

  • Amanda Jane
    Amanda Jane 8 месяцев назад

    Thank you Mr. Verheij. I suffer from stage frights but you taught me something other than what you're delivering. You've taught me that being myself is the only confidence that i need. Plus, you nailed it! :)

  • Binta Bajaha
    Binta Bajaha 8 месяцев назад

    Mufti menu

  • Choppers Hair Studio
    Choppers Hair Studio 8 месяцев назад

    Bless his heart! It will get easier for him.

  • tiaraalexus
    tiaraalexus 8 месяцев назад

    loved his message

  • Sissi Panastash
    Sissi Panastash 9 месяцев назад

    When l was nine years old, my parents divorced.I was afraid of all the people.I know now, l don’t afraid to laugh 😂 bad or good things will come.

  • Riccardo Moretti
    Riccardo Moretti 9 месяцев назад

    I'm single and have a good heart,

  • Geoffrey Lee
    Geoffrey Lee 9 месяцев назад

    Patience has worked for us.

  • Tatiana Medeiros
    Tatiana Medeiros 9 месяцев назад

    That was good. About the real self, it suits very well. People tend to use masks when they want to attract someone, but when it comes to relationships it is no good, because you are lying to them, and the real you will appear sooner or later.

  • Amanpreet Gill
    Amanpreet Gill 9 месяцев назад

    My opinion, which doesn't matter, but whatever: I think the reason why there are negative comments, is because the set up. The viewers expect certain standard when it comes to videos from TedxTalks. Clearly, Mr. Verheij's presentation has plenty of room for improvement and perhaps a more appropriate video would be after Mr. Verheij's has presented a number of times.

  • Jesus Loves You
    Jesus Loves You 10 месяцев назад

    I am from India n arranged marriage is common here.
    My family force me to merry a guy with whom I don't even met in my life. I wanna to do Job. Plz anyone suggest me what should I do?

  • Swapnil Jadhav
    Swapnil Jadhav 10 месяцев назад

    The presentation was built up very well
    Dude had pretty solid points on all grounds

  • Dahlia Hawthorne
    Dahlia Hawthorne 10 месяцев назад

    I feel so bad for him, I want to go up there and comfort him aaaahhhhhhh

  • Marina Udovcic
    Marina Udovcic 10 месяцев назад

    WHY didn't he use prompts? Lack of good preparation?....He didn't show a lot...and he had good intentions...and, most likely, a lots more to offer.....Sounds cruel, but it was waste of my time.....

  • asha2569
    asha2569 10 месяцев назад

    You people who didn't get anything from this needs to step back and listen with your heart, not with your ears and then you'll connect with it better...

  • macolga100
    macolga100 11 месяцев назад

    It's been scientifically proven that we perceive better halting speech

  • Rollastoney
    Rollastoney Год назад

    Props, Probably tons of people im that room

  • sun shine
    sun shine Год назад

    It was pretty cool

  • m
    m Год назад

    Shittiest presentation I've ever seen. I could have got this info from a hallmark card!! Lmaooo

  • Nov W
    Nov W Год назад

    This is his second presentation?

  • Magdalena Baltokaitė
    Magdalena Baltokaitė Год назад +1

    How did u found someone to marry u

  • Magdalena Baltokaitė
    Magdalena Baltokaitė Год назад

    Formula to love- be yourself? Wtf dude even my sister who is inlove with guy from 1direction has better understanding of love

  • Magdalena Baltokaitė
    Magdalena Baltokaitė Год назад +1

    This speak sucks. He said no true information. Completely helpless. Just keeps saying bulshit and nothing real. Im not single by the way and i this i know better than him how to find a true love. Atleast i can explain it better.

  • Jessica Herbert
    Jessica Herbert Год назад

    Good on him for getting out of his comfort zone! I appreciated his talk and his core message. I understand his nerves, I am the most confident person one on one or small groups but put me on stage and I begin to get flustered and the nerves come thtough. Not bad for only his second presentation ever.
    Peace, Positivity & Good Vibes!X

  • Patrizia Fallini
    Patrizia Fallini Год назад

    magnifique grazie bedankt

  • Krystal
    Krystal Год назад

    this guy isnt even married

  • S. Edwards
    S. Edwards Год назад

    That's for sure keeping it real

  • Heather Johnson
    Heather Johnson Год назад

    It starts to make you wonder if anyone has any actual, real genuine answers?

  • Tawana Martin
    Tawana Martin Год назад

    I like how he have a potential love connection at the end..... lol....

  • Tawana Martin
    Tawana Martin Год назад

    Lol.... great points.... so true....

  • Nefelibata
    Nefelibata Год назад +1

    This is why I will remain single in this lifetime, according to this person anyway.

  • Maverick kanaV
    Maverick kanaV Год назад

    Still no one loves me for what I am

  • white hanzo
    white hanzo Год назад

    the problem is.....i never wear one mask when I met people (or girl/woman), as I always try to be nice to others..
    how could I take off one? please advice, it seems to me that the girl/woman I like just like a man with mask...
    in other word, alpha male :D

  • Özlemim Özlem
    Özlemim Özlem Год назад

    sen anlattin abi yaa?

  • Laura Fragoso
    Laura Fragoso Год назад

    Ah why so much hate ! If anything I was like awwe is so good so wise I would just love to hear him speak more :D


    Real authentic delivery---time and experience can help but courage is probably the biggest part of speaking in front of groups. This man has that courage. :) Bravo.

  • Razvan Rogoz
    Razvan Rogoz Год назад

    I can empathize with his lack of fluidity. I’ve been there. Before criticizing him, give a speech in front of 100 people.

  • Tanyss Buchanan
    Tanyss Buchanan Год назад

    What a sweet, brave, authentic and genuine soul. His wife is very lucky

  • Joel Wallenius
    Joel Wallenius Год назад

    I like this guy a lot.

  • larry wilson
    larry wilson Год назад

    He believes in love at first sight. That's refreshing.

  • Mark M
    Mark M Год назад

    Poor guy

  • r leaf
    r leaf Год назад


  • 李玙
    李玙 Год назад

    This is the worst TED talk I've even seen!

  • Leo Jakobsen
    Leo Jakobsen Год назад

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  • LoveMe,com
    LoveMe,com Год назад +2

    In a relationship if you really love her/him you have to accept her/his flaws and love her/him with no limits

    • LoveMe,com
      LoveMe,com Год назад

      That's love because if you just like him\her base on his appearance that's not love it's attraction.

    • Ron Losacker
      Ron Losacker Год назад +1

      why should have no limits?

  • Elena Kusevska
    Elena Kusevska Год назад

    I think that Love at first sight is not the same as lust at first sight. Lust is the instinctive thing. But, I think that, sometimes people just have an immediate, intuitive connection, and that's different.

  • Mandeep Kaur
    Mandeep Kaur Год назад

    I am not getting his point

  • Shree Reshe
    Shree Reshe Год назад

    Omg omg! The most wasted ted x speech I have ever heard! Sorry no offence but I had nothing to take from this.

  • Jessie Hillberg
    Jessie Hillberg Год назад

    To be honest, I feel like I listened to a tree. I came here because of details. Not for common sense.

  • Martin G
    Martin G Год назад

    A load of drivel.

  • Malu Maldonado
    Malu Maldonado Год назад

    Tony I loved your presentation, I wish you had more time so I would learn more. Thank you, keep the good work!!

  • Sarah Lucescu
    Sarah Lucescu Год назад

    "thank you for sending me your future wedding cards" lol perfect

  • Juilee Baride
    Juilee Baride Год назад

    Tony, you did a great job! I wish I could know more of what you had skipped so I could learn more about how to find the topic!It takes courage to stand up on stage and talk.

  • Iniobong Usoro
    Iniobong Usoro Год назад

    lovely TEDx Talk, Tony is a real person with real fears, I respect his courage to attempt to speak publicly even if he is nervous.

  • Iniobong Usoro
    Iniobong Usoro Год назад

    lovely TEDx Talk, Tony is a real person with real fears, I respect his courage to attempt to speak publicly even if he is nervous.

  • Patricia Gonzalez
    Patricia Gonzalez Год назад

    Beautiful and pure message!

  • Jean-Philippe Millard
    Jean-Philippe Millard Год назад

    He didn't answer the question. How to find the right partner?

  • Lemmings
    Lemmings Год назад

    its so cool that he delivers a presentation in a langugae that is not even his native language in front of such a crowd! :)

  • Dr Sareeka Physiotherapist
    Dr Sareeka Physiotherapist Год назад

    That was sweet

  • MightyZocalo
    MightyZocalo Год назад

    Hey Tony have you heard of DSM-IV Cluster B?

  • Santokh Singh Saggu
    Santokh Singh Saggu Год назад

    Money and wealth are required to choose the life partner.Unless and I expose hypocrisy of the world I won't keep quite.

  • propa gandhi
    propa gandhi Год назад

    I only have very small... potential

  • AmG TT
    AmG TT Год назад

    They should have given him more time. It was actually an honest presentation. I enjoy it.

  • Magnus W
    Magnus W Год назад

    His message is (as I understood it at least) that if you wear a mask when trying to find a partner, you're setting yourself up for a bad relationship because you're giving your partner false expectations. The funny part is that his talk is exactly like that as well - he's not delivering it polished to perfection like most TED Talks, and so the comment section reveals who truly liked the talk even without a mask, and who would have been fooling themselves that they liked it only because it was delivered in a perfect way. I almost wonder if he did that intentionally, to prove his point...

  • Dg Dg
    Dg Dg Год назад

    He gave this presentation in a true Spirit without faking an attitude or trying to be impressive.

  • tellingitlikeitis
    tellingitlikeitis Год назад

    utter crap

  • itrarti
    itrarti Год назад

    I honestly liked this guy. Simple, sincere, genuine. I also think his message is kind of right in its simplicity. But the level of this talk, in terms of both contents and presentation, is way too low for TED's standards. Before giving a presentation, you prepare yourself. And if you repeat the presentation 5, 10 or 20 times if necessary, you will remember it, nervousism or not. I know, because I do it and in front of an audience my brain liquefies every single time.

  • Memo Herdez
    Memo Herdez Год назад

    Basically: you've got to like each other physically, you've got to be honest and real, and you've got to care for each other in different way (yes we're different by design). This require for work in BOTH sides. Long explanation: We're human, we are sexual, but we also want something else. So, know your self, grow, evolve, be aware of who you are every moment and get to really know and be aware of who your partner really is as well. Don't fake yourself, don't look for a fake person neither. If you feel happy also make sure you're not ignoring important stuff. Don't rush. Happiness feeling is just a chemical substance invading your body. And finally, when you're together with that right partner: man, touch your woman's heart every day; and woman, please touch your man every day and you both will be touching each other's hearts for the rest of your life.