The Science of Love | John Gottman | TEDxVeniceBeach

  • Опубликовано: 2 окт 2018
  • World-renowned relationship expert John Gottman set forth to understand why relationships don’t work, but for that he needed to first understand relationships scientifically. Gottman then measured the behavior, perception and physiology of couples over time to understand how love works. With that he was able to create equations for love and discern the mathematical dynamics of love. His science was able to predict with a 90% accuracy whether relationships would last or not. Finally, his studies conclude that the magic of love requires calm and commitment, which in the end makes the magic of great love a bit less of a mystery.
    John Gottman speaks about how his scientific research has now created a new understanding of all love relationships (heterosexual and same-sex), across the entire life span. He describes the new LOVE EQUATIONS, and the magic trio of calm, trust, and commitment. For more, visit The Gottman Institute at World-renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, Dr. John Gottman has conducted 40 years of breakthrough research with thousands of couples. He is the author of over 200 published academic articles and author or co-author of more than 40 books, including The New York Times bestseller The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.
    Dr. Gottman’s media appearances include Good Morning America, Today, CBS Morning News, and Oprah, as well articles in The New York Times, Redbook, Glamour, Woman’s Day, People, Self, and Psychology Today. Co-founder of The Gottman Institute with his wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, John is a Professor Emeritus of Psychology at the University of Washington where he founded ”The Love Lab" at which much of his research on couples interactions was conducted. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at

Комментарии • 29

  • Milady Amalia
    Milady Amalia 2 месяца назад

    Thank you!!!

  • Milady Amalia
    Milady Amalia 2 месяца назад


  • Imani Eunique
    Imani Eunique 2 месяца назад

    His research is AWESOME

    • Anne Coates
      Anne Coates Месяц назад

      Imani Eunique where can I read it? Or is it all here on RU-clip?

  • Bootstrapper Wilson
    Bootstrapper Wilson 2 месяца назад +1

    Except that the female will decide in 0.5x0.75= 37.5% of marriages to file for divorce. That basically means the guy is screwed. So screw marriage.

  • Futures
    Futures 2 месяца назад +2

    relationship expert - hilarious idea

    • Jason Wilson
      Jason Wilson 18 дней назад

      Professor Relationship expert...

  • Lomash Dubey
    Lomash Dubey 2 месяца назад +1

    Left amazed what sir did 😶

  • Sagewings
    Sagewings 2 месяца назад +3

    I love the guy shaking his head in agreement in the audience at 2:00

  • shivam pandey
    shivam pandey 2 месяца назад +6

    Awesome research! Life long learning...Thank you!

  • Mr geligan
    Mr geligan 2 месяца назад

    briallantissimo as usual
    insightful accessible humorius speech
    but surely enough it s all coming down to behaving like one did in the early stages of being togerher and being head over heel in ... etc
    the love maps expanding on thd other one s casual oberservarions ... the passing boat

  • Patti
    Patti 2 месяца назад +1

    I feel so lost

  • TP Licorice
    TP Licorice 2 месяца назад +9

    So basically...if an argument/disagreement/conflict happens, remember why you stuck around with this person in the first place and realise it's just a hurdle to get over?

  • junjulyman
    junjulyman 3 месяца назад +2

    Hmmm. Hmmm. Hmmm, did you see the graph? It kind of strange. Looks likes H doing S to W(happy couple). W +S or F to H(divorce or unhappy couples) I wonder if he is saying about genesis? Lol. Summit to H. You w. Just over thinking. Using to much my midnight oil of useless imagination.

  • Martin Legris
    Martin Legris 3 месяца назад +2

    love and marriage isn't the same thing. duh

    • michael michael
      michael michael 2 месяца назад

      +Martin Legris and this is correct, if you have no love to offer to me, then what love do you really have, it is clear by your words you no love not, because I love you, you are the dearest thing to my heart.

    • Martin Legris
      Martin Legris 2 месяца назад

      +michael michael i couldn't care less about your judgements and I never pretended to have love to offer to you. As for arrogance and condescension I find you are full of them, but they are dressed as love. I carry no dresses.

    • michael michael
      michael michael 2 месяца назад +1

      +Martin Legris I gave you time to answer my question, yet you ignore me, is this what love is, that it ignores someone when they ask of you, not only that, your reply to my comment comes from arrogance and condescension, this is not love, how can you tell me that you know what love is when you produce it's fruit not.

    • michael michael
      michael michael 2 месяца назад +1

      +Martin Legris oh please do

  • Kayli Gordon
    Kayli Gordon 3 месяца назад +4

    Though diagrams totally look like a couple doing it. Just saying 😂

    • Tatea
      Tatea 2 месяца назад

      Kayli Gordon now I cant unsee 😂

  • Patrick Hohenshilt
    Patrick Hohenshilt 3 месяца назад +2

    You pick a couple's data up and move them into the two bunnies on a beach quadrant. What? You've explained nothing, you literally just drew another picture and said your theory equals "this picture."

    • Mechele Henderson
      Mechele Henderson Месяц назад

      He breaks down how to affect the change in behaviors (through the intervention of counseling) at 25:00 plus.

    • Nicole Dawson
      Nicole Dawson 3 месяца назад +7

      He literally explained it, perhaps a second watch would help solidify the concepts for you?

  • Eris D
    Eris D 4 месяца назад +1

    What happened to John's voice..... did he have oral surgery?

  • opinionatorX
    opinionatorX 4 месяца назад +27

    John Gottman is the mafia boss of love. Respect!

  • Nathan Luciow
    Nathan Luciow 4 месяца назад +5